Becoming Burnham

Kat Burnham
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A blended family, big feelings, mental health days, and grief that shows up uninvited. Becoming Burnham is messy, honest, healing, and very us.

  1. 4d ago

    40 - High Fives Are For Strangers

    Send us Fan Mail Kat flies solo this week (sending all the healing vibes to Kristina!) to address the 15-second video that completely took over the internet—and her comment section. When Sam (Kyle’s ex-wife, Kat’s best friend, and their next-door neighbor) showed up broken on their doorstep, Kyle offered her a comforting shoulder to cry on. Kat filmed the raw moment, posted it, and the internet had a lot of thoughts. In this incredibly vulnerable solo episode of Becoming Burnham, Kat unpacks the massive debate the video sparked and dives deep into why society’s view of boundaries and human connection is fundamentally broken. In this episode, Kat covers:  * The Viral Reaction: Breaking down the TikTok analytics, from "co-parenting done right" to accusations of "crossing the line."  * Lack of Boundaries vs. Expanded Boundaries: Why Kat and Kyle's ironclad marriage is exactly what allows them to be a safe harbor for Sam without jealousy.  * The Unseen History: Kyle and Sam’s military bond, and why surviving war together makes them battle buddies, not just "exes."  * The Catalyst: How the devastating loss of Arlan burned away their egos, territorial lines, and pride, forcing them to become a true village for Archer.  * The Critical Caveat: A validating reality check that this level of fluidity is only possible with a safe co-parent (and why parallel parenting is completely okay if your ex is toxic).  * The Science of Touch: Unpacking "coregulation," how physical touch lowers cortisol, and how to use it in your own home to ground your kids and partner. We treat love and affection like it’s a finite resource, but it doesn't divide—it multiplies. Tune in for a raw, challenging conversation about showing up on the hard days, and stick around for Kat's challenge to listeners at the end. (Don't forget to slide into our DMs or leave a comment to let us know where you draw the line in your own blended family!)

  2. Oct 13

    39 - Barefoot, Pregnant and Playing By His Rules

    Send us Fan Mail Content warning: This episode discusses domestic violence, emotional and psychological abuse, and trauma. Please take care of yourself while you watch. Pause, skip ahead, or come back later if you need to. If you or someone you know needs support (U.S.): National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233) Text START to 88788 Chat or learn more at thehotline.org (the site has a quick-exit button if you need to leave the page fast) If you’re worried about someone else, the hotline helps friends and family too. People usually say it as a joke. But what if it was never really a joke? In this episode, we talk about the expectations that kept women dependent and quiet, and why “why doesn’t she just leave?” has a much longer answer than most people realize. We get into what we were taught a good wife is supposed to be, where a traditional dynamic crosses into control, and what leaving actually takes. We also talk about why the kind moments after the harm make everything more confusing, and why the better question is what happened to you, not what’s wrong with you. New episodes every Tuesday at 9:00 PM. Subscribe so you don’t miss one, and share this with someone who might need it.

  3. Oct 6

    38 - I'm Not Scared, You're Scared

    Send us Fan Mail Everybody's afraid of something. Some fears make perfect sense. Some are completely ridiculous. And some only become funny once you realize you're actually standing there screaming at a spider the size of a Cheerio. This week, in preparation of National Face Your Fears Day, we’re talking about irrational fears, embarrassing moments, things we’ve done scared, and the everyday situations that somehow make grown adults panic. We're bringing a little 90s Fear Factor energy into the conversation, putting each other to the test, and finding out who would actually survive if we were handed a disgusting challenge and a camera. There will be embarrassing stories, questionable bravery, and at least a few moments of, "Wait...you're actually afraid of THAT?"

  4. Sep 29

    37 - The Night Shift

    Send us Fan Mail It’s National Coffee Day, and we’re talking about what happens when your body is exhausted but your brain won’t shut down. In this episode, we explore the 2 AM thoughts that show up when the day finally gets quiet. We talk about why nighttime can make things feel bigger, why letting go of what we can’t control is so difficult, and why saying “I need help” can be harder than saying “I’m tired.” A real conversation about exhaustion, overthinking, and everything our brains save for the middle of the night.

  5. Sep 22

    36 - From AIM to Tiktok - Being 15 Then VS. Now

    Send us Fan Mail What happens when you take real questions from frustrated parents and let an actual 15-year-old answer them? In this episode, Kat sits down with her daughter Ella for an honest, funny conversation about growing up in the early 2000s versus being a teenager today. From AIM, Napster, and low-rise jeans to TikTok, Snapchat, and social media drama, they compare generations while tackling common parent questions about locked bedroom doors, one-word answers, and teen stress. Ella shares her unfiltered perspective on what teenagers really need from parents and offers three simple rules for building trust and connection.

  6. Sep 15

    35 - When Grief Walks Into Work With You

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, hear a story about a week where personal grief and professional betrayal collided in a way that felt almost cruelly timed. Through real examples of workplace confusion, disrespect, and emotional whiplash, she explores the impossible expectation that grieving parents should “keep personal separate from business.” This episode asks the question: How do you separate the person who once held you in your darkest moment from the person who later chooses to hurt you? And what happens when life tests you at the exact moment you’re already breaking?

  7. Sep 8

    34 - I'm Not Lady Tremaine

    Send us Fan Mail Everyone knows the fairy tale version of the stepmom story: rivalry, resentment, and a battle for a place in the family. But what happens when real life doesn't follow the script? In this episode, Kristina sits down with Kat to talk about a relationship that often surprises people: her friendship with her husband's ex-wife. Together, they discuss what it looks like to co-parent with respect, build trust over time, and create a family dynamic rooted in love rather than competition. From awkward assumptions and unexpected friendships to the lessons their children are learning by watching the adults in their lives show up for one another, this conversation challenges the stereotypes we've all been taught about stepfamilies. Because sometimes the most beautiful family stories are the ones that don't fit the fairy tale.

  8. Sep 1

    33 - Marriage is Just One Long Inside Joke

    Send us Fan Mail Marriage isn't just romance and commitment. It's also years of shared memories, weird traditions, unfinished stories, and jokes nobody else understands. In this episode, we explore how inside jokes become a secret language that keeps couples connected through life's ordinary and extraordinary moments.

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A blended family, big feelings, mental health days, and grief that shows up uninvited. Becoming Burnham is messy, honest, healing, and very us.

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  • Creator
    Kat Burnham
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    40
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Becoming Burnham
  • Show Website
    Becoming Burnham