Drs J & J Podcast: Wear 2 Crowns

Drs Jake & Jennifer Dean-Hill

Married therapists Jennifer and Jake Dean-Hill help couples build healthier, happier relationships by learning to “wear two crowns”—leading as equals, supporting each other’s strengths, and growing together. Featuring expert interviews, practical tools, and real conversations about love and marriage. Whether you’re navigating marriage, long-term partnership, or committed relationships, this podcast helps you handle the ups and downs with respect, teamwork, and mutual empowerment. If you’re ready to stop fighting for control and start building connection, it’s time to learn how to Wear 2 Crowns.

  1. 6d ago

    Tips for Reconnecting After Disconnecting | #35

    Last week we talked about how to know when you have disconnected from your partner, this week we are giving you tips on how to reconnect. In this episode, Drs. Jake and Jenn explore practical tools for couples to reconnect after disconnection, emphasizing empathy, communication, and humor. They share personal experiences and actionable strategies to foster love and understanding in relationships. They also emphasize that disconnection is a common experience in relationships, but it doesn't have to be permanent. With the right strategies, you can mend and strengthen your bond. Keywords couples, reconnection, communication, empathy, marriage tools, conflict resolution, humor in relationships, relationship growth, marriage advice Key  Topics Tools for reconnection: VEC (Validation, Empathy, Comfort) The importance of humility and do-overs in relationships Using humor to diffuse tension and foster connection The role of marriage staff meetings in maintaining intimacy Understanding and meeting each other's needs Takeaways Reconnection tools like VEC can be used immediately after a disagreement. Humility and do-overs help repair hurt feelings and rebuild trust. Humor is a powerful tool to lower tension and promote bonding. Marriage staff meetings foster positive communication and address unmet needs.  Recognizing that fighting to be loved is at the core of all conflicts. Sound Bites "You really blindsided me the other day" "Gosh, that must have been really hard" "Choose humor to lower the intensity" Chapters Introduction to Tools for Reconnection The Role of Humility and Do-Overs Understanding Flooded States and F Words Using VEC: Validation, Empathy, Comfort The Power of Do-Overs and Repairs Writing as a Tool for Communication Workarounds for Neurodiversity and Overstimulation Humor and Lightheartedness in Conflict The Crown Jewel: Fighting to Be Loved Encouragement and Final Thoughts

  2. Oct 13

    Connection vs Disconnection: Do You Know The Difference? | #34

    It's easy to feel connected in the blissful moments, like celebrating our grandson's birthday or enjoying a relaxing beach getaway. But what happens when that connection falters? In this episode, Drs. Jenn and Jake dive into the intricacies of couple dynamics, sharing personal insights from their recent experiences. Keywords relationship connection, disconnection, emotional intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, couples therapy, emotional health Key  Topics The feeling of being connected and its impact on energy and mood Common reasons for disconnection in relationships The importance of recognizing and addressing disconnection early Strategies for effective communication and reconnection The role of emotional validation, empathy, and strategy in healing Understanding different needs for connection and space The impact of fatigue and life stressors on relationship health The importance of making a conscious decision to reconnect  Sound Bites "When I am clicking with you, I can do anything." "Disconnection often happens when needs are unmet." "Soft responses can transform conflict into connection." Chapters Introduction to Connection and Disconnection What Does Being Connected Feel Like? Common Causes of Disconnection Recognizing When You're Disconnected Strategies for Reconnection The Role of Validation and Empathy Handling Conflict and Disconnection The Power of Soft Startups Creating a Reconnection Plan The Importance of Self-Check and Self-Care Building a Culture of Connection Practical Tips for Daily Connection When Disconnection Becomes a Pattern The Role of Professional Help Summary and Final Thoughts

  3. Oct 6

    Insights From Another Husband and Wife Counseling Team: Tim & Deb Bartlett | #33

    Join Drs. Jake and Jenn as they chat with Tim and Deb Bartlett from Redemption Counseling about their journey as a husband and wife therapy team, their insights on relationships, and practical tips for strengthening marriage bonds. It’s not everyday you get to hear from 2 married counseling duos, this is an episode you’ll not want to miss! Keywords Marriage, Couples Therapy, Relationship Tips, Husband and Wife Team, Emotional Connection, Conflict Resolution, Non-Sexual Physical Contact, Enneagram, Gottman Method Key  Topics The journey of Tim and Deb Bartlett as a husband and wife therapy team The importance of understanding and appreciating differences in marriage Practical strategies for reconnecting and repairing relationships The role of non-sexual physical contact in intimacy and bonding Insights from the Enneagram and Gottman Method in relationships Guest  Name Tim and Deb Bartlett Sound Bites "Physical contact speaks volumes about connection" "Appreciate your partner, don't try to change them" "Don't let the sun go down on your anger" Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Bartletts 03:00 The Journey of Working Together as a Couple 05:46 Navigating Strengths and Weaknesses in Marriage 08:37 The Importance of Non-Sexual Physical Contact 11:42 Transforming Trauma Bonds into Joy Bonds 14:37 Modeling Healthy Relationships for Children 17:24 The Value of Prioritizing Your Partner 20:17 Conclusion and Reflections on Marriage 20:47 The Power of Connection in Marriage 23:28 Communication: The Key to Bonding 26:21 Conflict Resolution and Repair Time 29:20 The Dangers of Texting in Conflict 32:11 Understanding Differences in Relationships 35:03 The Importance of Mutual Respect 38:09 Crown Jewels: Takeaways for a Stronger Marriage  Resources The Gottman Institute - https://www.gottman.com/ Enneagram Institute - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ Redemption Counseling - https://www.redemptioncounseling.com/ Guest Links Website - https://www.redemptioncounseling.com/

  4. Sep 29

    Exploring Longings and Core Wounds - Part 2 | #32

    We’re picking up right where we left off from last week with the last four longings! In this episode, Drs. Jake and Jenn explore the concept of longings in relationships, focusing on how to interpret the results of a primary longing quiz. They discuss the importance of understanding both primary and secondary longings, the role of attachment, and how to effectively communicate needs to partners. The conversation emphasizes the significance of healthy communication and vulnerability in meeting each other's emotional needs, ultimately fostering deeper connections and understanding between partners. We hope your new discovery of you and your partner's primary longing can help deepen your amazing relationship! Keywords longings, relationships, attachment, primary longing, secondary longing, emotional needs, communication, appreciation, connection, marriage appreciation, protection, relationships, emotional needs, communication, understanding, respect, gratitude, love, connection resilience, honor, relationships, love, inspiration, communication, personal growth, emotional needs, core longings, vulnerability Takeaways Healthy communication can prevent misunderstandings and emotional distance. Recognizing your partner's longings can enhance empathy and connection. We are hardwired for connection and need to embrace our emotional needs. Taking each other for granted can lead to misunderstandings. Expressing appreciation through notes can strengthen relationships. Verbal appreciation for daily tasks is essential. A spirit of gratitude fosters a love-centered relationship. Protection is a significant longing in relationships. Women often seek physical protection, while men seek emotional protection. Miscommunication can arise from unmet longings for protection. Feeling unknown can lead to feelings of rejection. Understanding different personality types is crucial for connection. Honor and respect are fundamental needs in relationships. Resilience can be developed from personal challenges. Honor is crucial in relationships and should be communicated. Everyone has a longing to be loved and appreciated. Healthy communication is key to meeting emotional needs. Being vulnerable about needs is important in relationships. Inspiration plays a significant role in personal fulfillment. Understanding core longings can improve relationship dynamics. It's okay to express needs and desires in a relationship. Miscommunication can lead to misunderstandings and resentment. Recognizing and honoring each other's longings fosters connection. You can take our quiz HERE for free!!!

  5. Sep 22

    Exploring Longings and Core Wounds - Part 1 | #31

    Do you even know what your primary longing is?! In this conversation, Drs. Jake and Jenn explore the themes of connection and emotional longings, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's core wounds and the role of vulnerability in fostering meaningful relationships. They discuss the significance of proper communication cues and encourage listeners to engage with their longings through a test available on their website. This is part one where they go through the first three longings, tune in next week to part two where they go with the last four. These are some episodes you will not want to miss! Keywords connection, longings, vulnerability, communication, relationships, emotional intelligence Takeaways Understanding how to attach and connect is crucial. Identifying our longings helps us understand our core wounds. Proper cues for connection can enhance relationships. Vulnerability is key to effective communication. Avoid overwhelming listeners with too much information. Encouragement to take the longings test for self-discovery. Sharing insights with friends and partners is beneficial. Living, loving, and leading better together is a goal. The conversation will continue in the next episode. Many blessings to listeners as they explore their identities. You can take the quiz HERE for free!!

  6. Sep 15

    The Hidden Needs: Understanding Longings | #30

    In this episode, Drs. Jenn and Jake delve into the concept of longings within relationships, emphasizing their significance in understanding emotional needs. They discuss the common misconceptions surrounding longings, the importance of identifying them, and how unmet longings can lead to relational issues. This conversation highlights seven primary longings: the need to be chosen, appreciated, protected, known, honored, loved, and inspired. They provide insights into how these longings manifest in relationships and the necessity of open communication to address them. They also emphasize the significance of understanding and meeting these longings to foster deeper connections and healthier relationships. Keywords longings, relationships, couples therapy, emotional needs, appreciation, protection, communication, intimacy, marriage, family dynamics relationships, emotional needs, boundaries, being known, honor, love, inspiration, communication, couples therapy, personal growth Takeaways Longings are often unspoken and misunderstood in relationships. Identifying personal longings is crucial for emotional health. The longing to be chosen is fundamental in relationships. Appreciation is a vital need that often goes unexpressed. Protection is not just physical; it includes emotional safety. Unmet longings can lead to destructive behaviors in relationships. Communication about longings can strengthen connections. Couples often assume their partners know their longings without asking. Longings can stem from unmet needs in childhood. The longing to be known is universal and profound. Being known includes acceptance of one's uniqueness. Sound Bites 00:00 "I just want to be chosen." 09:35 "We all want to be appreciated." 21:20 "This is your person of choice." 21:49 "We want to be known." 29:08 "Honor breeds honor." 31:47 "Love is patient, love is kind." 32:54 "Love is spelled T I M E." 35:39 "Inspire me is your top longing." Chapters 00:00 Understanding Longings in Relationships 02:23 The Importance of Identifying Longings 04:46 The First Longing: Choose Me 09:32 The Second Longing: Appreciate Me 15:12 The Third Longing: Protect Me 21:20 Setting Healthy Boundaries 22:32 The Longing to Be Known 25:47 Feeling Seen and Valued 28:40 The Importance of Honor 31:55 The Fundamental Need for Love 36:04 Inspiration as a Key Longing

  7. Sep 8

    Two Crowns, One Kingdom Curriculum Overview | #29

    Ever wondered how to build your kingdom with your spouse, while still keeping your crown on? In this episode, Drs. Jake and Jenn explore their reimagined Two Crowns, One Kingdom curriculum, revealing how fairy tale themes can teach profound psychological concepts about marriage and relationships. They share insights on destinations in marriage, the importance of mutual influence, and practical ways to build a thriving, unified partnership. Keywords marriage, relationship, curriculum, fairy tales, longings, love languages, conflict resolution, partnership, personal growth, family life Key Topics The reimagined Two Crowns, One Kingdom curriculum Using fairy tales to teach psychological concepts The seven destinations in marriage and their longings The importance of mutual influence and blending in marriage Conflict resolution and fighting fairly The significance of appreciation and honor The role of vulnerability and transparency The concept of making purple and blending kingdoms The dark forest as a metaphor for challenges in marriage The final destination: the royal castle and protecting your relationship  Sound Bites "The first longing is to be chosen." "Pay attention to truly get her." "Rule as one, even though you're two."

  8. Sep 1

    Myths and Truths About Grief and Loss | #28

    How many times have you heard “the stages of grief”, but not understood what that really meant?? In this episode, Drs. Jake and Jenn explore the complex process of grief, including its stages, myths, and healthy ways to cope. They share personal stories, practical tips, and spiritual insights to help listeners navigate loss and find hope. Keywords grief, loss, stages of grief, coping, healing, emotional health, resilience, mental health, spiritual support Key Topics Stages of grief (denial, anger, depression, bargaining, acceptance) Myths about grief (never-ending pain, crying is a weakness) The importance of community and support in grieving The role of faith and spiritual beliefs in healing Practical ways to honor and memorialize loved ones The emotional and physical aspects of grief and healing  Takeaways Allow yourself to grieve fully without shame or guilt. Recognize that grief can disguise itself as anger, anxiety, or depression. Support from community and loved ones is vital for healing. It's normal for grief to come in bursts or waves, often triggered unexpectedly. Creating memorials or rituals can help process grief and honor loved ones.  Sound Bites "Jesus wept — even Jesus cried for us" "Take your time — grief needs space" "The antidote to pain is comfort" Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Grief and Its Impact 32:44:14 The Three Steps of Relationship Remodel: Clean, Create, Complete 658:17:40 The Stages of Grief According to Kubler-Ross 11499:57:52 Common Myths About Grief and Emotional Suppression 16611:04:41 The Role of Tears and Emotional Release in Healing 23333:18:14 The Valley of the Shadow of Death: Walking Through Grief 30138:51:48 Cultural Differences in Grief Practices 36555:32:07 The Power of Support, Community, and Faith in Grief 499444:25:56 Practical Tips for Coping and Memorializing Loved Ones 667499:59:38 The Antidote to Pain: Comfort and Connection 753611:06:40 Closing Remarks and Hope for the Grieving Heart Resources GriefShare Support Groups - https://www.griefshare.org/ The Five Stages of Grief by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross - https://www.amazon.com/Five-Stages-Grief-Death-Dying/dp/068483240X The Lord is My Shepherd - Psalm 23 - https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm+23&version=NIV

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Married therapists Jennifer and Jake Dean-Hill help couples build healthier, happier relationships by learning to “wear two crowns”—leading as equals, supporting each other’s strengths, and growing together. Featuring expert interviews, practical tools, and real conversations about love and marriage. Whether you’re navigating marriage, long-term partnership, or committed relationships, this podcast helps you handle the ups and downs with respect, teamwork, and mutual empowerment. If you’re ready to stop fighting for control and start building connection, it’s time to learn how to Wear 2 Crowns.

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  • Creator
    Drs Jake & Jennifer Dean-Hill
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    35
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Drs Jake & Jennifer Dean-Hill

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