I Have Sh_t to Say

Megan Campbell
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Therapist turned leader sharing real shit. Mental health, access and real life. No fluff. No gatekeeping.

  1. Oct 20

    IHSTS - Ep. 19 - The F*ckery That Is Women's Health

    Becky Routson, LCSW, a social worker, mom, and Megan's friend of 12 years, joins the show to talk about the f*****y that is women's health. Her second pregnancy turned into months of limbo: an ultrasound with no fetus, weekly blood draws from November to February, two D&Cs, and a molar pregnancy that meant months of cancer monitoring. Megan shares her own loss, a stillbirth at 41 weeks, and the two get into disenfranchised grief, the dumb shit people say, what providers could do differently tomorrow, choosing to be a one-child family, and why joy and grief can live in the same room. They close on borrowed hope: the idea that hope is contagious, even when you're not ready to hold your own. Heads up: covers miscarriage, stillbirth, pregnancy loss, and medical trauma. Frequent strong language. KEY TIMESTAMPS [00:00] Intro & Trigger Warning [00:51] Meet Becky [01:45] Check-In: Perfect Saturday Morning, Pre- and Post-Motherhood [04:36] The F*****y That Is Women's Health [05:41] An Ultrasound With No Fetus [08:08] Three Months of Weekly Blood Draws [09:10] Two D&Cs and a Molar Pregnancy [11:07] A System Not Built Around Patients [12:40] Megan's Loss at 41 Weeks [15:58] Why "Try Again" Erases a Life [16:34] Disenfranchised Grief, Explained [18:52] Shit You Should Never Say [20:01] The Heartbeat Through the Wall [21:28] Women's Health Is Invasive From Day One [23:56] Burnout on the Provider Side [25:44] Needing Someone to Blame [29:30] Acceptance Isn't Approval [30:19] The Anniversary That Reopened Everything [32:03] People Show Up, Then Forget [34:44] A Stranger at the Gym Who Knew [37:13] Joy and Pain Can Coexist [38:20] Dark Humor at the Bar [40:23] Re-Envisioning a Family of Three [41:54] Borrowed Hope [43:36] Biggest Takeaway: Share Your Story STANDOUT QUOTES "Acceptance doesn't mean I like that this thing has happened... it means I am able to accept it as reality." - Becky "I'm not changing my mind. This is grief." - Becky "I have two, and I have one that I get to raise." - Megan "If somebody is in their joy, that doesn't negate my pain. And my pain is not shitting on their rainbow either." - Megan "There are good people. There is joy and there is hope." - Becky THE TOOLKIT: SHOWING UP AFTER PREGNANCY LOSS For friends, family, and providers: 1. Skip the platitudes. "You're still young," "try again," "one is enough," and "they're in heaven now" make you feel better, not them. 2. Don't ask. Not when the next baby is coming, not whether she's pregnant. Make space for whatever part of the journey she wants to share. 3. Remember the dates. Grief shows up years later. Anniversaries matter. 4. Hold hope without forcing it. Hope is contagious. You can carry it for someone without shoving it down their throat. 5. Providers: ask what accommodations a patient needs, and don't schedule loss follow-ups next to prenatal visits. RESOURCES - Postpartum Support International: provider directory for perinatal mental health certified (PMH-C) therapists, plus support for loss. HelpLine: 1-800-944-4773. https://www.postpartum.net/ - Book: Medical Apartheid by Harriet A. Washington - Look for a provider who specializes in disenfranchised grief, miscarriage, stillbirth, and infertility - Episode 11 with Lindsay Matthews covers perinatal and postpartum mental health - Episode 17 (Parts 1 and 2) covers trauma CRISIS SUPPORT 988 - Suicide Prevention Lifeline Text HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text Line Find a Therapist: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Rise & Thrive Wellness: https://riseandthrivewellness.net/ CONNECT Email: ihavesh1t2say@gmail.com @ihavesh_ttosay (Instagram) | IHaveSh_tToSay (TikTok) - Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BC - Producer: Brian T Prairie - Operations Manager: MacKenzie Cloy - Guest: Becky Routson, LCSW New episode every two weeks on Tuesdays.

  2. Oct 6

    IHSTS - Ep. 18 - Live in Your Now

    Denise Smith left home at 17 with a baby and no roadmap, built a chosen family out of her community, and went on to open Essential Smoothies in downtown Kankakee. Then the business she built to keep other people healthy cost her her own routine, her sleep, and time with her kids. Denise and Megan get into the mind-body connection, perimenopause and being told to "ride the wave," food access and education, mothering without a model for it, parenting adult kids who blame you, and the 21-day mental cleanse that stripped away every distraction and sent her back to have a hard conversation with her father. Heads up: covers depression, childhood abuse and neglect, addiction, and child loss. Frequent strong language. KEY TIMESTAMPS [00:00] Intro [00:23] Meet Denise Smith [01:05] Why She Started Essential Smoothies [03:15] Check-In: Your Perfect Day [07:31] Mind, Body & What We Eat [08:45] Losing Herself While Building the Business [09:52] Book Clubs, Boundaries & Counseling [11:18] When Health and Fitness Is the Mask [12:05] Perimenopause on Top of Everything [14:35] "Ride the Wave" [16:31] If It Doesn't Grow From the Earth [17:41] Food, Culture & What We're Taught [19:21] Access vs. Education [20:44] Leaving Home at 17 [22:04] Building a Chosen Family [23:35] ACEs, PCEs & Why Community Matters [25:42] Still Yearning for a Mother [28:42] When Your Adult Kids Blame You [31:11] Accountability Has an Expiration Date [32:00] Three Daughters, Three Versions of Her [33:47] Mothering Looks Different Now [35:40] Equal vs. Equitable [37:04] The 21-Day Mental Cleanse [40:10] The Conversation With Her Father [42:10] Relationships & Filling the Void [43:10] Too Much of a Good Thing [45:40] Missing Coworkers and a Paycheck [47:15] Learning to Be the Boss [48:10] Letting Go of Control [49:30] Biggest Takeaway: Live in Your Now [50:30] Wrap-Up STANDOUT QUOTES "If you want positive, you got to go out and find it. If you want negative, you will find it." - Denise "I realized if I give up on myself, none of that will work." - Denise "We can't judge our past self with future knowledge." - Megan "I didn't do that for him. I did it for me." - Denise "Live in your now." - Denise DENISE'S TOOLKIT: GETTING BACK TO YOU Denise says she's about 25% of the way back. Here's what's getting her there: 1. Set boundaries, even with the people you love. She told her partner and her kids she had to step away to figure herself out. 2. Find your people on purpose. Book clubs, chosen strategically, plus weekly counseling. 3. Take away the noise. No phone, no TV, no music to drown it out. What's underneath comes up when there's nothing left to lean on. 4. Close the circle for you, not for them. Asking for the answer can be about your own peace. 5. One day at a time. You don't have to control what comes next. RESOURCES - Essential Smoothies Cafe, downtown Kankakee: https://essentialsmoothiescafeil.com/ - Essential Smoothies on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LivingHealthy815/ - HOPE (Healthy Outcomes from Positive Experiences), home of the Positive Childhood Experiences research: https://positiveexperience.org/ - Good Hang with Amy Poehler, the source of this episode's check-in question Denise's 21-day cleanse was her own experience, done with guidance. Talk to your doctor before any fast. CRISIS SUPPORT 988 - Suicide Prevention Lifeline Text HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text Line Find a Therapist: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Rise & Thrive Wellness: https://riseandthrivewellness.net/ CONNECT Email: ihavesh1t2say@gmail.com @ihavesh_ttosay (Instagram) | IHaveSh_tToSay (TikTok) - Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BC - Producer: Brian T Prairie - Operations Manager: MacKenzie Cloy - Guest: Denise Smith, Owner of Essential Smoothies New episode every two weeks on Tuesdays.

  3. Sep 22

    IHSTS - Ep. 17 - WTF Is Trauma, Anyway? (Part 2)

    Part two of Megan and Brian's Trauma 101. Megan opens by taking a swing at the most famous trauma book on the shelf, then gets into what she's learned from 15 years of complex trauma work: why there often aren't words for it, how PTSD differs from complex PTSD, what dissociation really looks like, and how you treat trauma that happened before a kid could talk. Then the hopeful half: Positive Childhood Experiences, teaching kids the difference between a surprise and a secret, and why energy that never gets released has to come out somewhere. The takeaway is one word, said three times: community. Heads up: covers trauma, child abuse, suicide, and substance use. Frequent strong language. KEY TIMESTAMPS [00:00] Intro [00:26] The Problem With "The Body Keeps the Score" [02:18] Why There Aren't Words for Trauma [03:04] Mental Health Care: As Much Art as Science [04:21] Medication Side Effects Nobody Mentions [05:47] PTSD vs. Complex PTSD [07:21] When Trauma Is Just "Normal" [08:04] Living on Cortisol: Stress, Health & Addiction [09:42] Knowing It Logically Doesn't Stop the Body [10:08] Dissociation Is a Spectrum [11:37] Megan's 15 Years in Complex Trauma Work [13:09] Preverbal Trauma & Art Therapy [14:51] PCEs: Positive Childhood Experiences [16:41] The Film "Resilience" & Who Has the Highest ACEs [17:42] Why Your Therapist Needs a Therapist [19:02] Surprises vs. Secrets [20:00] How Do You Teach Kids About Trauma? [25:43] Online Predators: Not If, but When [26:22] Two Safe Adults & Getting Involved [28:08] Community Is What Heals (and Energy Vampires) [29:36] Mutual Aid After the Tornado [31:42] Trauma 101 Recap [33:21] Why Perception Matters [34:17] Megan's Car Accident [36:50] Why Talking About It Isn't Enough [38:13] What to Do in the First 3-6 Months [39:21] Match Your Energy to Release It [40:22] Suppression, Autoimmune Disease & Panic Attacks [42:00] Big Feelings: Better Out Than In [43:55] Wrap-Up & Trauma 201 Teaser STANDOUT QUOTES "I can logically know something, and that didn't keep me from physically experiencing all the shit that I logically knew." "Shame and trauma grow in secret, and they're repeated in secret." "A surprise has an outcome that's a benefit. A secret is malicious and f****d up, and the only person that benefits is the abuser." "Big feelings are like diarrhea and vomit. They are better out than in." MEGAN'S TOOLKIT: AFTER SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS What you do in the months after matters. Three things to check: 1. Are you talking about it with safe, secure, healthy people? Not constantly, just when it comes up. A partner, a therapist, a coach, your mom. 2. Are you doing things that match your energy? High-energy, unpleasant feelings (rage, stress) don't leave through meditation. Box, run, lift, sing at the top of your lungs, scream at a train. 3. Do you have community? Two people count. If you're isolated, seek out a professional. If someone you love is isolated, you can't save them, but you can bring community to them. RESOURCES - HOPE (Healthy Outcomes from Positive Experiences), the Tufts-based home of the Positive Childhood Experiences research: https://positiveexperience.org/ - Film: Resilience: The Biology of Stress & the Science of Hope: https://kpjrfilms.co/resilience/ - Book: The Body Does Not Keep the Score by Michael Scheeringa - Book: Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine - Marc Brackett's work on emotional intelligence (Permission to Feel) - Part 1 of this episode covers ACEs and fight, flight, freeze, and fawn CRISIS SUPPORT 988 - Suicide Prevention Lifeline Text HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text Line Find a Therapist: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Rise & Thrive Wellness: https://riseandthrivewellness.net/ CONNECT Email: ihavesh1t2say@gmail.com @ihavesh_ttosay (Instagram) | IHaveSh_tToSay (TikTok) - Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BC - Producer: Brian T Prairie - Operations Manager: MacKenzie Cloy New episode every two weeks on Tuesdays.

  4. Sep 15

    IHSTS - Ep. 17 - WTF Is Trauma, Anyway? (Part 1)

    No guest this time — just Megan and Brian tackling a topic Megan's wanted to cover for a while: trauma. What is it, really? After the usual check-in chaos (a stolen DoorDash order, a car-seat food disaster), they dig into the Adverse Childhood Experiences study, the doctor who took it from research to clinic, why an ACE score isn't a life sentence, and the four nervous-system responses to danger — fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. It ran long, so it's split in two. This is part one. Heads up: covers trauma, frequent strong language. Producer's apology: Brian forgot to post last week, so we're back two weeks in a row to make up for it. Key Timestamps [00:00] Intro: Duo Episode & F-Bomb Warning   [02:12] Check-In: Weirdest Fast-Food/Delivery Story   [04:44] Brian's DoorDash Order Gets Stolen   [08:07] Megan's Sub-in-a-Bowl Car Disaster   [14:10] Why Brian Wanted to Talk Trauma Today   [14:44] The Tornado & the Day Trauma Snuck Up on Brian   [16:17] Heart Attack Turns Out to Be Anxiety — and Trauma   [16:51] The ACEs Study: Where Trauma Research Began   [17:18] The Doctor Who Took the Research to Her Clinic   [19:37] Her TEDx Talk & the Shift to Positive Childhood Experiences   [20:26] The Problem With Treating an ACE Score as Fate   [20:52] Trauma Without PTSD   [21:13] Retiring Big T and Little T Trauma   [22:00] Resilience: Why Some People Bounce Back   [24:25] What Is PTSD, Officially? (The DSM, Explained)   [25:06] PTSD's Origin: Vietnam Veterans   [26:09] Neuroplasticity: The Brain Can Heal   [26:35] Least-Trained Clinicians, Most Traumatized Clients   [28:41] Vicarious Trauma & We're All Connected   [29:30] What Trauma Actually Is, in the Body   [30:03] Fight, Flight, Freeze... and Fawn   [31:15] Fawning: The Trauma Response Nobody Talks About   [32:54] Adrenaline, Cortisol & the Body's Overreaction   [33:15] Hypervigilance, Defined   [34:21] The Tornado's Ripple Effect on the Whole Community   [35:54] Producer's Note: Why This One's Split in Two Standout Quotes "It's going to include curse words, because you cannot talk about trauma without using F-bombs." "Everyone experiences trauma, but not everyone gets PTSD." "[Fawning is] the way that you're getting out of the abuse... it's their only choice. The safest option is to make the abuser feel like you are on their side." "We are all connected to each other. When one person isn't good, it impacts everybody — and it ripples out." Megan's Toolkit: The Four Trauma Responses When your nervous system detects danger, it picks one of four automatic responses: 1. Fight — confront the threat. 2. Flight — run from it. 3. Freeze — shut down, unable to act. 4. Fawn — appease the threat to stay safe; looks like agreement from the outside, but it's the nervous system's survival strategy. Bonus term: Hypervigilance — an ongoing, heightened scan for threat, and a hallmark PTSD symptom (see: a whole school district closing over any hint of bad weather the week after the tornado). Resources - Dr. Nadine Burke Harris's TED Talk: [How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across a Lifetime](https://www.ted.com/talks/nadine_burke_harris_how_childhood_trauma_affects_health_across_a_lifetime) - The ACE Study researchers: Dr. Vincent Felitti and Dr. Robert Anda. Their CDC-Kaiser Permanente study was published in 1998 (corrected from the on-air guess). [About the CDC-Kaiser ACE Study](https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/about.html) Crisis Support 988 - Suicide Prevention Lifeline   Text HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text Line Find a Therapist:   [Psychology Today](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us) | [Rise & Thrive Wellness](https://riseandthrivewellness.net/) Connect 📧 ihavesh1t2say@gmail.com   📱 @ihavesh_ttosay (Instagram) | IHaveSh_tToSay (TikTok) - Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BC - Producer: Brian T Prairie - Format: Duo episode (no guest) — Part 1 of 2 - Length: ~36:20 (Part 1) New episode every two weeks on Tuesdays — except this time, we're back next week too.

  5. Aug 25

    IHSTS - Ep. 16 - Be the Caterpillar

    At 19, Travis Collins was sentenced to 65 years in prison for a gang-related murder. This episode is his story — from a stuttering kid the other kids called "Chia Travis," to a gang member at 11, to the man who taught himself to read behind bars, represented himself in court, and walked out a free man with $17 in his pocket.Now an author and speaker, Travis breaks down the framework he built to survive and rebuild — an 8 C's model of resilience — and makes the case that resilience isn't something you're born with. It's developed. Join Megan and producer Brian for one of the rawest, funniest conversations yet, covering everything from clusterfuck-Friday mornings to a caterpillar metaphor that will stick with you.Timestamps- [00:00] Intro & Meet Travis Collins, Author and Speaker- [01:32] Morning Check-In: Clusterfuck Friday- [06:10] Travis's Story Begins: Bullied as "Chia Travis"- [08:42] Joining the Gang at 11- [09:54] Arrested for Murder at 19, Sentenced to 65 Years- [11:56] The Gang Chief Who Couldn't Read- [14:12] Hitting Bottom & Deciding to Change- [15:24] Teaching Himself to Read, Starting a Food Pantry- [16:37] Naming the Book: Resilience Is Developed, Not Given- [21:48] Representing Himself in Court — and Winning- [22:29] Coming Home with $17 in His Pocket- [25:58] The Broken System Facing Returning Citizens- [28:15] Bringing the Resilience Program Inside the Jail- [35:11] Changing vs. Transformation: The Ice & Caterpillar Analogies- [41:11] The 8 C's of Resilience, Explained- [52:47] Biggest Takeaway: Shit Happens, Bounce Back- [53:30] Be the CaterpillarStandout Quotes"There's a big difference between changing and transformation. Ice can go back to being liquid. A caterpillar can't go back to being a caterpillar.""I gave my way out of prison. I was helping so many people, even though I wasn't going home.""Be the caterpillar. The world might not know what they're looking at — but what's on the inside of that cocoon is something beautiful.""Shit happens in life. Bounce back from it. The longer you dwell on it, the longer it stays in your life."Travis's Toolkit: The C's of ResilienceTravis built his own framework on top of psychologist Dr. Kenneth Ginsberg's resilience model, adding an eighth element of his own.1. Competence — What can you do on your own, without leaning on anyone else?2. Connection — Who and what are you connected to? Good connections are worth leaning on.3. Confidence — The belief you can show up and advocate for yourself, even against long odds.4. Character — The principles you won't compromise, even when no one's watching.5. Coping — Healthy ways to process hard days, instead of destructive ones.6. Contribution — Giving to something bigger than yourself creates purpose.7. Completion — Finishing what you start, even small things, builds momentum. (Travis's own addition to the model.)Resources- Travis Collins's book: [Resilience: It's Developed, Not Given](https://amzn.eu/d/0fSXcOhz)- Dr. Kenneth Ginsberg's model of resilience (the "7 Cs")Crisis Support988 - Suicide Prevention LifelineText HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text LineFind a Therapist:[Psychology Today](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us) | [Rise & Thrive Wellness](https://riseandthrivewellness.net/)Connect📧 ihavesh1t2say@gmail.com📱 @ihavesh_ttosay (Instagram) | IHaveSh_tToSay (TikTok)- Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BC- Producer: Brian T Prairie- Operations Manager: Mackenzie Cloy- Guest: Travis Collins, Author & SpeakerNew episode every two weeks on Tuesdays.

  6. Aug 11

    IHSTS - Ep. 15 - Ship or Sh*t? Business Partnerships, Betrayal & Burnout

    Quick programming note before we dive in: our producer Brian is clearing his throat a little more than usual this episode — he was just getting over a cold, not staging a coup. Please excuse the frog. This week our usual producer steps out from behind the camera and onto the couch. Brian Prairie (Raven Spring Media) sits down with Megan to tell the story he's only ever alluded to before: the toxic 50/50 business partnership that ended in locked bank accounts, middle-of-the-night accusations, lawyers, and an actual FBI visit. From there, Megan and Brian dig into the murky difference between a trauma bond and a shared value, why "begin with the end in mind" is advice everyone gets and nobody follows, and why money isn't the problem — misaligned values about money are. Guest producer Jake LaMore of the "This One Time in Kankakee" podcast sits in for check-in, and yes, we do eventually explain what "poop on the Prada" means. Key Timestamps [00:00] Intro & Meet Guest Producer Jake LaMore [04:51] Check-In Question: What Would Your Autobiography Be Titled? [10:10] Brian Introduces Himself: Raven Spring Media & Working With Megan [14:47] The Toxic Business Partnership: Fraud, the FBI, and Burnout [21:28] Trauma Bond, Shared Goal, or Shared Value? How to Tell the Difference [32:05] The Business Divorce: Lawyers, Lockouts & Betrayal [39:25] When Money Becomes the Value (And Why That's Not the Problem) [47:32] Why Do We Expect Jobs — and Relationships — to Always Feel Good? [49:16] The "Poop on the Prada" Test: Wash It or Toss It? [55:01] Hernan's Dog Poop Metaphor for Toxic Relationships [56:40] Ship vs. Sh*t: One Letter Makes All the Difference [1:00:27] Final Takeaway: Begin With the End in Mind Standout Quotes "Toxic leaders create an entire culture that supports toxic leadership." — Megan "If there was a mistake to be made, I made it — and then I learned not to do it." — Brian "Is the blowout bad enough that you throw it away, or do you wash it? That's the sh*t metaphor for every relationship in your life." — Megan "A ship can definitely turn into sh*t. The only difference is one letter." — Megan Therapist's Toolkit 3 Partnership Questions: 1. Do I actually know the difference between a goal I share with this person and a value I share with them? 2. Have we talked about "the end" before we began — what happens if this doesn't work out? 3. Is this a fixable blowout, or is it time to throw the onesie away? Resources This One Time in Kankakee — https://thisonetimeinkankakee.buzzsprout.com/ — Jake LaMore's storytelling podcast on the WVLI Podcast Network The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker — https://www.priya-parker.com/the-art-of-gathering — source of the "check-in question" format Megan references Crisis Support 988 - Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Text HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text Line Find a Therapist: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Rise & Thrive Wellness: https://riseandthrivewellness.net/ Connect With Us Email: ihavesh1t2say@gmail.com Instagram: @ihavesh_ttosay TikTok: IHaveSh_tToSay Credits Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BC Guest: Brian T Prairie, Raven Spring Media Guest Producer: Jake LaMore, This One Time in Kankakee Producer: Brian T Prairie Operations Manager: MacKenzie Cloy New episodes every two weeks on Tuesdays Disclaimer This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact 988 or text HOME to 741741.

  7. Jul 28

    IHSTS - Ep. 14 - He Ordained Himself In His Bathtub

    Content note: religious trauma and coercive control, with a brief, non-graphic mention of a real criminal case involving child sexual abuse material. Jay from the Pinkpill Rx podcast joins Megan solo to finally tell the full story: walking into a "church" at 18 and not walking out for almost a decade. They break down how it happened — isolation from family and friends, a schedule built to consume every free hour, tithing and labor that drained him dry, and a leader who literally ordained himself an elder in his own bathtub. Plus: what actually separates religion from a cult, what happened when the group collapsed, Adlerian psychology, who really holds power, Megan's own deconstruction story, and why rage letters and screaming into a lake are underrated coping tools. KEY TIMESTAMPS 0:00 Welcome Back, Jay 2:25 The Unread Email Game 9:07 The Doom Basket Hack 10:53 Age 18: Walking Into a High-Control Church 14:59 Chasing Something That Felt Real 17:09 First Red Flags: Dress Codes and Targeted Sermons 19:29 Cut Off From Family and Friends 21:14 A Schedule Built to Own You 22:31 Tithing, Labor, and Financial Abuse 23:21 Where Religion Ends and a Cult Begins 33:12 What His Parents Got Wrong 37:33 How the Group Fell Apart 40:10 The Arrest 44:41 Self-Ordained in His Bathtub 48:44 Purpose, Power, and Adlerian Psychology 1:03:20 Who Actually Has the Power 1:11:03 Rage Letters and Screaming It Out 1:19:38 The Big Takeaway: Someone to Leave To STANDOUT QUOTES "The only difference between organized religion and a cult is the ability to ask questions." "He was never ordained an elder anywhere — he ordained himself in his bathtub at home." "Love someone so fiercely when they're leaning into toxic stuff that they always have someone to leave to." THERAPIST'S TOOLKIT 1. When I ask hard questions in my relationships, groups, or workplace, am I met with real answers — or with guilt, silence, or punishment? 2. Do the people closest to me have their own longstanding relationships outside of me, or have those slowly disappeared? 3. If someone I love needs to leave a person, group, or situation, have I stayed close enough that they have somewhere to go? RESOURCES International Cultic Studies Association: internationalculticstudies.org Spiritual Abuse Resources: spiritualabuseresources.com Pinkpill Rx with Katie & Jay Fillmore: open.spotify.com/show/17IElgp7KjoyjS1mXvUq9w CRISIS SUPPORT 988 – Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call, text, or chat) Text HOME to 741741 – Crisis Text Line Find a Therapist: Psychology Today – psychologytoday.com/us CONNECT WITH US Email: ihavesh1t2say@gmail.com Instagram: @ihavesh_ttosay TikTok: IHaveSh_tToSay CREDITS Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BC Guest: Jay Fillmore (Pinkpill Rx) Producer: Brian T Prairie Operations Manager: MacKenzie Cloy DISCLAIMER This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you are in crisis, call or text 988, or text HOME to 741741. New episodes every two weeks on Tuesdays.

  8. Jul 14

    IHSTS - Ep. 13 - Stop Telling Me You're F*cking Fine

    What happens when the therapist becomes the client? Megan sits down with Katie and Jay Fillmore — married almost eight years and co-hosts of the podcast Pinkpill Rx — for a couple's-eye view of what it's actually like to sit on the other side of the couch. They get into somatic therapy and Internal Family Systems, how Jay went from "what is this witchcraft" to a full IFS convert, how chronic pain sometimes lives in the body and not just the diagnosis, and how patriarchy screws over men's emotional lives too. Plus: AOL Instant Messenger usernames, teased episodes on cults and divorce, and why "fine" might be the most disconnected word in the English language. Key Timestamps [00:00] Cold Open [00:45] Meet Katie & Jay Fillmore (Pinkpill Rx) [04:14] Fun Question: Your First IM Username [08:10] Setting the Stage: Life on the Other Side of the Couch [09:02] Katie's Origin Story: Divorce, Deconstruction & Finding Therapy [11:21] The Confrontation That Changed Everything [12:49] Discovering Somatic Therapy & IFS [13:54] Getting Diagnosed: ADHD and Autism [15:02] How Do You Know When Therapy Is "Enough"? [19:15] Jay's Conversion: "What Is This Witchcraft?" [21:15] Why Men Get Disconnected From Their Bodies [24:58] Patriarchy Hurts Men Too [28:39] Making Room for Men on the Couch [32:11] Richard Schwartz, IFS & the Local Connection [34:14] Jay's Story: Chronic Pain and the Body Keeping Score [36:23] Pain vs. Suffering: The Story We Tell [44:17] Therapy Is Art, Not Just Science [45:09] Psychiatrist vs. Psychologist vs. Counselor, Explained [52:25] What to Look for in a Therapist Standout Quotes "Fine is the quickest way to disconnect your head from your body." "Suffering is the story. Pain is the physical sensation." "Patriarchy isn't a gender. It's harmful to both men and women, and we both perpetuate it and don't even realize it." "Any therapist that doesn't think they're changed by their clients is delusional." Therapist's Toolkit 3 Questions for Where You're At in Therapy: Have I hit a wall with my therapist — and is that my wall or theirs? When something hurts, am I responding to the physical sensation, or to the story I've attached to it? Have I actually told my therapist what I need (silence, being called out, someone who gets how my brain works) instead of hoping they'll guess? Resources Pinkpill Rx on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/lk/podcast/pinkpill-rx/id1777720717 | @pinkpill_podcast (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/pinkpill_podcast/ IFS Institute: https://ifs-institute.com/ — Richard Schwartz & Internal Family Systems Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat-Zinn: https://jonkabat-zinn.com/book/full-catastrophe-livingusing-the-wisdom-of-your-body-and-mind-to-face-stress-pain-and-illness-second-edition-revised-and-updated/ Brené Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ — on shame and vulnerability Crisis Support 988 - Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Text HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text Line Find a Therapist: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us | Rise & Thrive Wellness: https://riseandthrivewellness.net/ Connect 📧 ihavesh1t2say@gmail.com 📱 @ihavesh_ttosay (Instagram) | IHaveSh_tToSay (TikTok) Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BC Guests: Katie & Jay Fillmore (Pinkpill Rx) Producer: Brian T Prairie Operations Manager: MacKenzie Cloy   New episodes every two weeks on Tuesdays

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Therapist turned leader sharing real shit. Mental health, access and real life. No fluff. No gatekeeping.

Information

  • Creator
    Megan Campbell
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    21
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Megan Campbell
  • Show Website
    I Have Sh_t to Say

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