The Self-ish Me Podcast

Kamila Turek
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Self-ish Me is for women who spent years ticking all the right boxes in life, only to realise it never quite felt like theirs. Whether it is burnout, a life transition, or a quiet sense that something is missing — Self-ish Me is a resource and community that empowers women to put themselves first. Because starting with yourself is not selfish, it’s powerful. Our host Kamila Turek is a business psychologist, coach, and self-confessed late bloomer. This podcast is built on 8 years of personal experimentation, after burnout forced Kamila to rebuild her life from scratch. You will find science-backed research on psychology and behaviour change, and tested frameworks that Kamila used to build a life aligned with her own values, instead of someone else’s expectations. Join Kamila every Thursday for honest conversations and practical tools, plus one monthly expert conversation with psychologists, coaches, and women leaders to discuss how you can stop living by default and start living by choice — across careers, relationships, health, and sexuality. New here? Start with Episode 9: Rebuilding Self-Trust in World That Taught Women to Please, or Episode 20: Burnout Recovery for Women — The Five Stages, the Red Flags and What Actually Helped Me Rebuild.

  1. 3d ago

    Your Work Doesn't Speak for Itself (Part 2): How to Get Noticed, Promoted and Paid More

    You have done everything right at work and somehow still feel invisible. You deliver results, you stay late, you go above and beyond — and yet when promotion conversations happen, your name isn't the one in the room. That gap between the work you do and how it lands with the people who matter? That's not a performance problem. It's a visibility problem. And career growth for women often stalls right there. This episode is all about what actually drives career progression, and it is not just hard work. It is how intentionally you are building your personal brand at work, whether you are remote, hybrid, or in the office every day. You will walk away with: A clear understanding of why performance alone accounts for only 10% of career success (and what the other 90% is)A practical framework for building visibility beyond your manager and immediate teamThe difference between a mentor and a sponsor, and why women need both for real career growthA way to map the relationships that actually influence your career progressionConcrete language to communicate your impact in a way that resonates with senior leaders, peers, and stakeholders Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach with over a decade in Learning and Development, draws on her own promotions, mistakes, and research to make this one genuinely useful. If career growth for women is something you think about but never quite act on, this is the episode to start with. Press play. Connect with Kam Insta (@self_is_me) • Instagram photos and videos LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

    22 min

  2. Jun 10

    When Your Body Changes but Nothing Is Wrong

    Lately, I've found myself thinking about my body more than I used to. Not because anything is wrong, but because my body is changing, and I seem to have a lot more thoughts about those changes than I did a decade ago. In this episode, I explore why body changes can feel so emotionally loaded, especially as we move through our thirties, forties and beyond. Through stories about smart scales, yoga mirrors, Instagram videos, tight trousers and old travel photos, we unpack body image, ageing, body neutrality, self-worth and the difference between experiencing our bodies and evaluating them. This isn't an episode about weight loss or learning to love your body every day. It's a conversation about building a more honest relationship with your body, one rooted in curiosity, compassion, and the question: how do I want to feel in my body, rather than how do I want it to look? Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

    21 min

  3. Jun 3

    Imposter Syndrome in Women: Why Self-Doubt at Work Is Not the Problem You Think It Is

    You have achieved something real, something you worked hard for, and somehow your brain is already looking for the flaw. That feeling that you got lucky, that you don't quite belong, that one mistake is about to expose everything? That is imposter syndrome. And if you have ever felt it, you are not broken. You might just be responding to an environment that was never fully designed with you in mind. This episode goes deeper than the usual "believe in yourself" advice. It explores where imposter syndrome actually comes from and why women experience it more frequently and more persistently throughout their careers. You will walk away with: An understanding of why imposter syndrome is not just a confidence problem, it is often a systemic response to environments that taught you to doubt yourselfA clear explanation of attribution theory and why women are more likely to credit luck instead of their own capabilityThe concept of the "third shift" and why cognitive overload is connected to self-doubt in ways we rarely talk aboutSix practical tools you can use right now, including the ta-da list, feelings vs facts columns, and borrowing confidence before you feel itA new question to ask yourself the next time self-doubt shows up: is this really about me, or is this about what I am responding to? Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, draws on academic research, attribution theory, and her own honest experience of imposter syndrome to make this one feel like a conversation you actually needed to have. Press play. This is the episode that might finally change the question you ask yourself. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

    25 min

  4. May 27

    No One Told You Your Cycle Affects Your Career: Women, Stress and Work

    We have been taught to push through, show up the same way every single day, and treat our biology as an inconvenience. But what if ignoring our bodies is exactly what is holding us back? In this episode I sit down with Dr. Hanne, clinical psychologist and founder of Thea Psychology, a practice built entirely for women, and we get into something that most advice around women's careers completely skips over. Where are you in your cycle? What is happening in your nervous system? What do your hormonal changes actually mean for how you lead, decide, and show up under stress? These are the questions that changed everything for me. We also get honest about the double bind so many women are navigating at work. Be warm and you are not taken seriously. Be direct and you are difficult. Be emotional and you lose the project. Women's careers are still being judged on personality rather than performance, and that bias lives in all of us, not just in the people above us. Dr. Hanne and I talk about why that happens, what organisations can actually do about it, and how understanding your menstrual cycle and nervous system might be the most underrated tool for your wellbeing and career growth. Your body was never the obstacle. It has always been the map. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn Connect with Dr Hanne Insta @theapsychology LinkedIn Dr Hanne Warren | LinkedIn Website www.theapsychology.co.uk Lead True - women's leadership programme: https://theapsychology.co.uk/lead-true/

    48 min

  5. May 20

    Being Single in Your Thirties: The Truth About Singlehood, Self-Worth and Choosing Yourself

    Single women are still being pitied, questioned, and quietly judged for a choice that has nothing wrong with it. If you've ever been asked "but why are you single?" or felt the pressure of timelines you never agreed to, this episode will feel like a conversation you've needed for a long time. Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, explores what it really means to choose singlehood as a woman, drawing on research into singlism, voluntary singleness, and the societal conditioning that teaches women their worth is tied to partnership. This is not a self-help pep talk. It is an honest, research-grounded look at the stereotypes single women navigate every day and why so many women are pushing back. If you are single and at peace with it but still feel the weight of other people's opinions, this episode will validate what you already know. And if you are a woman in your thirties who has chosen to be single for the last few years and is tired of explaining that choice to everyone around her, this one is especially for you. We also explore female sexuality outside relationships, the myth that being single means being lonely, and why choosing a comfortable, peaceful life is not selfishness. It is self-respect. Because you were never meant to shrink your life to fit a timeline someone else created for you. Connect with Kam Insta (@self_is_me) • Instagram photos and videos LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

    25 min

  6. May 13

    Burnout Recovery for Women: The Five Stages, the Red Flags and What Actually Helped Me Rebuild

    You have been powering through for so long that you stopped noticing the warning signs. The exhaustion you keep calling a rough patch. The anxiety you keep promising yourself will ease once things calm down. The moment your body finally said enough. That is not weakness. That is burnout. And if any of that sounds familiar, this episode on burnout recovery is for you. Seven years ago, Kamila had her first panic attack on a packed train to work. She was later diagnosed with burnout, secondary depression, and anxiety. This episode is the conversation she wishes she could have had before that morning. You will walk away with: A guided visualisation using the PERMA model to show you exactly which parts of your wellbeing are running on empty right nowThe five stages of burnout and how to identify honestly where you currently areWhy women carry a disproportionate invisible load, and how that compounds exhaustion in ways that are rarely acknowledgedThe internal patterns that drive burnout, including perfectionism, people-pleasing, and avoiding negative emotionsPractical tools that actually helped Kamila recover, including grounding techniques, values alignment, self-compassion practices. Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, brings both the research and the lived experience to this one. No toxic positivity. No quick fixes. Just honesty, clarity, and a reminder that recovery is possible. If burnout recovery feels far away right now, start here. Press play. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

    22 min

  7. May 6

    Motherhood and Choice: Do You Actually Want Children or Were You Raised to Want Them

    Motherhood and choice are two words that rarely get to sit together without someone having an opinion about the outcome. If you have ever been asked when you are having children, felt the weight of that question land somewhere deep, or found yourself genuinely unsure whether you want motherhood or whether you were simply raised to want it, this episode is for you. Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, shares one of the most personal stories she has told on this podcast. From growing up in Catholic Poland where motherhood was never a question but an expectation, to donating her eggs at 31, freezing her own, and ultimately arriving at a decision that brought her relief rather than loss. This is not an episode telling you what to choose. It is an honest, research-grounded exploration of how women actually make this decision when they strip away the pressure, the timelines, and everyone else's expectations. If you are a woman in your thirties navigating this question, this episode gives you space to sit with it honestly. We explore why so many women cannot tell the difference between what they want and what they were raised to want, what the research says about parental regret, why university-educated women do not even register motherhood as a pressing question until they are 33, and how to set boundaries with the people who love you but keep crossing a line on this topic. Because there is no wrong answer here. There is only yours. Connect with Kam Insta (@self_is_me) • Instagram photos and videos LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

    20 min

  8. Apr 29

    Stop Talking Yourself Out of It: Self-Doubt, Neurodiversity, and Going After What You Want

    Seeing a job and deciding not to apply, because you do not tick 100% of the criteria. That moment is not a lack of ambition. It is something far more ingrained, and it is exactly what this episode is about when it comes to women's careers. I am joined by Liss Owen, CEO of Open Door Scotland, supporting young people experiencing homelessness, and a political candidate standing for Scottish Parliament. Liss made a significant leap from middle manager to CEO in less than a year, and she brings a refreshingly honest lens to women at work, neurodiversity, imposter syndrome, and what it takes to back yourself when the system was not designed with you in mind. Together, we explore how masking and fawning show up in high-stakes moments like interviews and debates, and what it means to find a role that works for how your brain is wired. Drawing on my background as a Business Psychologist and coach, I weave in research on career confidence and the ways societal conditioning holds women back from going after the opportunities they are more than ready for. This episode is personal development for women who are done talking themselves out of the roles they actually want. Women's careers do not have to be linear to be powerful. Because your next role might be the one you almost talked yourself out of. Connect with Kam Insta (@self_is_me) • Instagram photos and videos LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn Connect with Liss Insta @libdemliss Liss Owen | LinkedIn

    40 min
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Self-ish Me is for women who spent years ticking all the right boxes in life, only to realise it never quite felt like theirs. Whether it is burnout, a life transition, or a quiet sense that something is missing — Self-ish Me is a resource and community that empowers women to put themselves first. Because starting with yourself is not selfish, it’s powerful. Our host Kamila Turek is a business psychologist, coach, and self-confessed late bloomer. This podcast is built on 8 years of personal experimentation, after burnout forced Kamila to rebuild her life from scratch. You will find science-backed research on psychology and behaviour change, and tested frameworks that Kamila used to build a life aligned with her own values, instead of someone else’s expectations. Join Kamila every Thursday for honest conversations and practical tools, plus one monthly expert conversation with psychologists, coaches, and women leaders to discuss how you can stop living by default and start living by choice — across careers, relationships, health, and sexuality. New here? Start with Episode 9: Rebuilding Self-Trust in World That Taught Women to Please, or Episode 20: Burnout Recovery for Women — The Five Stages, the Red Flags and What Actually Helped Me Rebuild.

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    Kamila Turek
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