The Self-ish Me Podcast

Kamila Turek
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Self-ish Me is for women who spent years ticking all the right boxes in life, only to realise it never quite felt like theirs. Whether it is burnout, a life transition, or a quiet sense that something is missing — Self-ish Me is a resource and community that empowers women to put themselves first. Because starting with yourself is not selfish, it’s powerful. Our host Kamila Turek is a business psychologist, coach, and self-confessed late bloomer. This podcast is built on 8 years of personal experimentation, after burnout forced Kamila to rebuild her life from scratch. You will find science-backed research on psychology and behaviour change, and tested frameworks that Kamila used to build a life aligned with her own values, instead of someone else’s expectations. Join Kamila every Thursday for honest conversations and practical tools, plus one monthly expert conversation with psychologists, coaches, and women leaders to discuss how you can stop living by default and start living by choice — across careers, relationships, health, and sexuality. New here? Start with Episode 9: Rebuilding Self-Trust in World That Taught Women to Please, or Episode 20: Burnout Recovery for Women — The Five Stages, the Red Flags and What Actually Helped Me Rebuild.

  1. 3d ago

    Anxiety Red Flags: Recovering After You Miss Them

    You can know every one of your own anxiety red flags and still miss the exact moment you needed to stop. Kamila unpacks the months that led to her taking sick leave, a relocation, family news, physical illness, and one stressful event after another, until catastrophic thoughts convinced her she was about to lose everything she had built. This episode looks at what happens when you miss your own warning signs, and what it actually takes to help an overwhelmed nervous system recover afterwards. She shares Cognitive Restructuring, the CBT technique she used to challenge her anxious brain and separate the story from the evidence, why burnout recovery means actively helping your nervous system out of fight or flight, and why noticing anxiety red flags early does not always mean you will act on them in time, especially when an old belief is quietly shaping when and how you respond to them. You will walk away with: A simple two question technique to interrupt catastrophic thinkingHow to recognise your own anxiety red flags before they escalateWhy an old belief can shape when and how you act on your own warning signsWhat it actually takes to help an overwhelmed nervous system recover Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach with a decade of experience in Learning and Development. At the end of the episode, she finally shares why she is moving to Kenya. Press play before your next red flag goes unnoticed. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. Connect with Kamila Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

  2. Jul 15

    Burnout Recovery: Who Are You Without the Milestones

    Most of us never agreed to the life milestones. We inherited them, through fairy tales, family comments, and the quiet pressure of 'when are you getting married?', and then spent years measuring our worth against a script we did not choose. In this episode, I am sharing how chasing a borrowed version of success, the career, the relationship status, the milestones that make a life look 'right' from the outside, led me to burnout. And how therapy, and eventually a move to Kenya at 38, helped me start writing my own story instead. You will walk away with: A name for the invisible script running underneath your choicesA new lens on burnout, as an identity crisis, not just overworkPermission to question the milestones you thought you wanted This episode is for anyone who has ever felt behind on a timeline they did not write. Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach with decade of experience in Learning and Development. If overcoming societal expectations and finally choosing your own life sounds like the conversation you need right now, press play. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam Email Hello@selfishme.co.uk LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

  3. Jul 8

    Breaking Free From Conditioning: The Story I Did Not Have Words For Until Now

    You have been doing everything 'right' and still felt like your life was not quite yours. That is not a personal failure. That is what happens when you spend years living by scripts you never chose. In this six-month anniversary episode, I am sharing the part of my story I did not have the words for until now. The layer underneath all the tools, the research, and the conversations we have been having. The invisible scripts that quietly run our lives, and what it actually takes to start questioning them. You will walk away with: An honest look at what underlying scripts are, where they come from, and why they stop feeling like opinions and start feeling like factsKamila's personal story of burnout, grief, and the moment she started asking "whose life am I actually living?"An understanding of why so many of our struggles are not personal failures but the result of conditioning, culture, and historyA new question to carry with you this week: not "what is wrong with me" but "where did this belief come from"Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach who rebuilt her life after burnout by unlearning the scripts she had inherited, and now helps women do the same. If something in your life has been feeling more like a performance than a choice, this episode is where we begin. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. If you want to hear about the experiments I have mentioned today check out: Do I Want Children: Or Was I Raised to Want Them?https://open.spotify.com/episode/5k0378TvRNkh3kKR06skZEsi=uhDwOnKTSZiiujJCQoVxIA Rewriting the Story of Female Pleasure https://open.spotify.com/episode/4l9nJ5muVOU0Mv4T2y3olH?si=Gu7siM4hTbSJqfIKpiZ32w Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

  4. Jul 1

    Not Good With Money: What Every Woman Inherits About Finances and How to Break Free

    "Not good with money" is something almost every woman has thought about herself. But it is not a personality trait and it is not the truth. It is what every woman inherits about finances through decades of conditioning, handed down so quietly most of us never think to question it. In this episode, Kamila traces exactly where that belief comes from, turning it into a genuine women's empowerment conversation that starts not with budgeting apps, but with the stories we were handed as girls. You will walk away with: A clear understanding of why feeling not good with money is a product of societal conditioning, not capabilityThe research showing how girls are socialised around finances differently from boys, from childhood through to adult lifeRecognition of how shame and silence around money quietly remove whole possibilities from your awareness, and what letting go of shame opens upKamila's own story of growing up in post-communist Poland and the inherited money beliefs she carried for decades without knowing itOne practical first step to start overcoming societal expectations around money and writing your own financial story Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach specialising in personal development for women. She draws on research into societal conditioning and her own lived experience to show that understanding how women are socialized is genuinely life-changing. If you have ever avoided looking at your bank account or felt like growing your money was for someone else, press play. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. The Money Script Toolkit https://tr.ee/ikA1fuHXuj If you preparing to negotiate your salary check this episode on Money, Confidence and Changing the Rules https://open.spotify.com/episode/6mKJNskI2fKZIBtoMzNuHK?si=vzJIOiIwStiiq3fbs5kzvw Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

  5. Jun 26

    Period Shame, Female Friendship and the Power of Being Believed

    Period pain has been dismissed, minimised, and silenced for so long that many of us started believing we were the problem. Passing out on bathroom floors. Being rushed to hospital on holiday and still being asked if you'd been drinking. I've been there, and I know how isolating it is when no one believes you. In this episode, I'm joined by my best friend Lottie, an advocate for young people from care experience backgrounds with over a decade in education, safeguarding and wellbeing, for an honest conversation about menstrual cycles and women's health, period shame, and what it truly means to be believed. You'll walk away with: Real stories of period pain so severe it meant ambulances, fainting, and medical dismissalWhy shame around menstruation is learned, not inevitable, and how to stop passing it onPractical ways to advocate for yourself in medical settings, including going prepared and bringing someone you trustHow normalising menstrual cycles with children can change the next generation's relationship with their bodiesA reminder that letting go of shame around your body starts with being witnessed and believedKamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, brings her own lived experience of endometriosis and expertise in women's wellbeing to this raw, empowering conversation. This is the episode to send to every woman who has ever second-guessed her period pain and been told it's just how it is. Want to go deeper? Listen to Kamila's episode, Breaking the Stigma: How Menstrual Cycles Empower Women's Emotional Well-Being and Career Growth, Press play https://open.spotify.com/episode/1M8N9ZCpCNBWbROxxxDTn1?si=gTpGFNPwROCQcp90LFRbkA Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn Connect with Lottie LinkedIn Lottie Ormerod | LinkedIn Period Poem https://youtu.be/4vu2BsePvoI?si=K43SWl6PuYATrUfu

  6. Jun 17

    Career Growth for Women: Hard Work Is Only 10% of Getting Promoted — Here's What's Missing

    You have done everything right at work and somehow still feel invisible. You deliver results, you stay late, you go above and beyond — and yet when promotion conversations happen, your name isn't the one in the room. That gap between the work you do and how it lands with the people who matter? That's not a performance problem. It's a visibility problem. And career growth for women often stalls right there. This episode is all about what actually drives career progression, and it is not just hard work. It is how intentionally you are building your personal brand at work, whether you are remote, hybrid, or in the office every day. You will walk away with: A clear understanding of why performance alone accounts for only 10% of career success (and what the other 90% is)A practical framework for building visibility beyond your manager and immediate teamThe difference between a mentor and a sponsor, and why women need both for real career growthA way to map the relationships that actually influence your career progressionConcrete language to communicate your impact in a way that resonates with senior leaders, peers, and stakeholders Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach with over a decade in Learning and Development, draws on her own promotions, mistakes, and research to make this one genuinely useful. If career growth for women is something you think about but never quite act on, this is the episode to start with. Press play. Connect with Kam Insta (@self_is_me) • Instagram photos and videos LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

  7. Jun 10

    When Your Body Changes but Nothing Is Wrong

    Lately, I've found myself thinking about my body more than I used to. Not because anything is wrong, but because my body is changing, and I seem to have a lot more thoughts about those changes than I did a decade ago. In this episode, I explore why body changes can feel so emotionally loaded, especially as we move through our thirties, forties and beyond. Through stories about smart scales, yoga mirrors, Instagram videos, tight trousers and old travel photos, we unpack body image, ageing, body neutrality, self-worth and the difference between experiencing our bodies and evaluating them. This isn't an episode about weight loss or learning to love your body every day. It's a conversation about building a more honest relationship with your body, one rooted in curiosity, compassion, and the question: how do I want to feel in my body, rather than how do I want it to look? Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

  8. Jun 3

    Imposter Syndrome in Women: Why Self-Doubt at Work Is Not the Problem You Think It Is

    You have achieved something real, something you worked hard for, and somehow your brain is already looking for the flaw. That feeling that you got lucky, that you don't quite belong, that one mistake is about to expose everything? That is imposter syndrome. And if you have ever felt it, you are not broken. You might just be responding to an environment that was never fully designed with you in mind. This episode goes deeper than the usual "believe in yourself" advice. It explores where imposter syndrome actually comes from and why women experience it more frequently and more persistently throughout their careers. You will walk away with: An understanding of why imposter syndrome is not just a confidence problem, it is often a systemic response to environments that taught you to doubt yourselfA clear explanation of attribution theory and why women are more likely to credit luck instead of their own capabilityThe concept of the "third shift" and why cognitive overload is connected to self-doubt in ways we rarely talk aboutSix practical tools you can use right now, including the ta-da list, feelings vs facts columns, and borrowing confidence before you feel itA new question to ask yourself the next time self-doubt shows up: is this really about me, or is this about what I am responding to? Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, draws on academic research, attribution theory, and her own honest experience of imposter syndrome to make this one feel like a conversation you actually needed to have. Press play. This is the episode that might finally change the question you ask yourself. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn

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Self-ish Me is for women who spent years ticking all the right boxes in life, only to realise it never quite felt like theirs. Whether it is burnout, a life transition, or a quiet sense that something is missing — Self-ish Me is a resource and community that empowers women to put themselves first. Because starting with yourself is not selfish, it’s powerful. Our host Kamila Turek is a business psychologist, coach, and self-confessed late bloomer. This podcast is built on 8 years of personal experimentation, after burnout forced Kamila to rebuild her life from scratch. You will find science-backed research on psychology and behaviour change, and tested frameworks that Kamila used to build a life aligned with her own values, instead of someone else’s expectations. Join Kamila every Thursday for honest conversations and practical tools, plus one monthly expert conversation with psychologists, coaches, and women leaders to discuss how you can stop living by default and start living by choice — across careers, relationships, health, and sexuality. New here? Start with Episode 9: Rebuilding Self-Trust in World That Taught Women to Please, or Episode 20: Burnout Recovery for Women — The Five Stages, the Red Flags and What Actually Helped Me Rebuild.

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  • Creator
    Kamila Turek
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    30
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Kamila Turek
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    The Self-ish Me Podcast