Dr. Jaime Madison Vasquez and Anne McClure, educator, consultant, and homeschooling mother of five, work through Capable, a new book by Sissy Goff and David Thomas, on raising resilient kids. They tackle the book’s major themes including helping parents move beyond naming and recognizing children’s emotions to helping them develop the strengths, skills, and strategies to navigate challenges, take appropriate risks, and learn from failure. They discuss how leaders and teachers can use these ideas to support parents in their efforts to raise capable, virtuous human beings. What You’ll Learn: * Why naming a child’s emotions is only the first step, and what has to follow so the naming doesn’t intensify the feeling * The three C’s the book is built on—coping, competence, challenge—and how they work as the spine of a year of parent formation * How to distinguish a challenge a child should be allowed to struggle through from an obstacle that is genuinely too big, and why that call needs outside eyes * The specific pitfalls the authors name for boys and for girls, and how mothers and fathers get drawn into each differently * A reframing sequence teachers can hand parents at conferences—catch the thought, check whether it’s true, kind, and necessary, then change it Resources: Capable: How to Teach Your Kids the Strengths, Skills, and Strategies to Build Resilience by Sissy Goff and David Thomas (Bethany House, Amazon, Bookshop) Raising Boys and Girls Podcast Hosted by Sissy Goff and David Thomas Join the conversation * Leave a comment and subscribe at familiaris.substack.com * Become a paid subscriber at familiaris.substack.com/subscribe Paid subscribers gain access to monthly collaborative office hours. Office hours are hosted on Zoom and are not recorded. Pop in to ask a question, get feedback on what you’re working on with families, hear what other leaders are doing in their schools. Visit familiaris-consulting.com to learn more about consulting, workshops, and speaking engagements Chapters: * 00:00: Introduction * 04:28: Why this book now, and the generational shift in what parents want * 09:22: Three legs of incapability, and how social media compounds them * 14:10: The three C’s: coping, competence, challenge * 17:54: Protecting and preventing, and what it costs a child’s resourcefulness * 26:09: Happiness that lasts versus happiness that feels good * 29:20: Pitfalls for boys and strategies for moms and dads * 41:30: Pitfalls for girls and strategies for moms and dads * 47:28: Capable strengths: competence, flexibility, perseverance, gratitude * 52:10: Dealing with disappointment and failure * 1:00:04: Capable strategies: reframing, scaling, and self-care * 1:07:08: The appendix- capability-building exercises God bless! Produced by Saint Kolbe Studios To receive new Familiaris posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Familiaris at familiaris.substack.com/subscribe
