Divorcing Strong

Becky Sampson
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Divorcing Strong™ is the essential playbook for anyone navigating the legal chaos and emotional trauma of ending a marriage. Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, this podcast bridges the gap between high-conflict courtroom battles and the deep inner work of healing after divorce. If you are dealing with a high conflict divorce, facing narcissistic abuse, or trying to co-parent with a covert narcissist, you are not alone. We go beyond generic advice to tackle the tough realities of emotional abuse, gaslighting, and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Each week, Becky brings you honest, unfiltered conversations with top divorce attorneys, family law experts, and mental health professionals. We cover critical topics including child custody battles, financial independence, and rebuilding your identity. Whether you are just starting the process or are years post-separation, join us to transform your pain into power. Learn how to set ironclad boundaries, protect your peace from narcissistic tactics, and move forward with confidence.

  1. 3d ago

    Healing After Divorce: The Conscious Uncoupling Roadmap with Divorce Coach Greg Wheeler

    Healing after divorce, divorce recovery, and conscious uncoupling — divorce coach Greg Wheeler breaks down the roadmap that has helped over 400 people transform one of life's most painful experiences into their greatest period of personal growth. What if divorce wasn't a failure — but a wake-up call? What if you could end your marriage and still show up as a grounded, connected, peaceful co-parent? What if the patterns that broke your last relationship don't have to follow you into your next one? That's not fantasy. That's conscious uncoupling — and today, you're getting the full roadmap. Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coach and Calling in the One coach Greg Wheeler joins host Becky Sampson on the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast to share the framework that changed his own life after a devastating "War of the Worlds" divorce 28 years ago — and the five-step inner work process that stops the cycle of repeating the same relationship patterns, again and again. In This Episode: 🔄 Why 70% of second marriages fail — and the single most important thing you can do before you ever date again to break the cycle for good 🧠 The "False Identity" Trap — how a coping mechanism you built as a child is quietly running your adult relationships (and how to finally unhook from it) 🔍 The 5-Step Process: See It, Name It, Face It, Embrace It, Replace It — a practical framework for confronting your deepest patterns without shame or fear 💔 Greg's personal story: from a high-conflict, high-damage divorce to a life of healing, self-discovery, and helping 400+ families navigate conscious uncoupling 👶 Co-parenting without the war: why how you do your inner work directly impacts the stability your children feel — even when your ex won't cooperate 💡 What conscious uncoupling actually is (hint: it's not just a Gwyneth Paltrow headline) — and whether it can work even when one person isn't "on board" 🧬 Source fracture wounds explained: the moment in childhood you decided you "weren't enough" — and why that belief keeps attracting the same relationship, with a different face 🌱 The 8-session Conscious Uncoupling program: what it covers, what transformation looks like, and who it's truly designed for 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️About Greg Wheeler:  Greg Wheeler is a Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coach and Calling in the One Coach trained directly under bestselling author Katherine Woodward Thomas. A single dad of four, Greg navigated his own high-conflict divorce over 28 years ago — long before tools like conscious uncoupling existed — and spent years doing the deep inner work that changed everything. Today he has guided more than 400 people through the journey from couple to co-parents, with a focus on reducing conflict, healing unconscious relationship patterns, and building a foundation for healthier love moving forward. 🔗 Connect with GREG WHEELER Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/GregWheelerCoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rgregw/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@gregwheelercoaching3953 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rgregwheeler/ Website: https://gregwheelercoaching.com/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. healing after divorce, divorce recovery, conscious uncoupling, divorce coach, peaceful divorce, co-parenting tips, divorce healing, divorce empowerment, divorce recovery for women, healing unconscious patterns, false identity, source fracture wound, Katherine Woodward Thomas, calling in the one, second marriage failure, inner child healing, relationship patterns, co-parenting after divorce, Divorcing Strong, Becky Sampson, Greg Wheeler Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

    51 min

  2. 5d ago

    Your Reality Is Real: Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting & Divorcing a Narcissist | Tracy A. Malone

    Narcissistic abuse, divorcing a narcissist, and trauma bonding — expert Tracy A. Malone exposes the cycle no one warned you about, and exactly how to protect yourself legally and emotionally when your reality is being erased. Have you ever walked out of a courtroom, a mediation, or even a dinner with friends, completely shaking — because everyone else sees your ex as charming and reasonable. At the same time, you know you're fighting for your life against a monster they can't see? That isolation, that self-doubt, that bone-deep exhaustion of not being believed? That ends today. Narcissistic abuse recovery expert and bestselling author Tracy A. Malone joins host Becky Sampson on the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast to expose the narcissistic abuse cycle from the inside out — and give you the tools to stop the lies from defining your future. In This Episode: 🔴 The 3-Stage Narcissistic Abuse Cycle — idealize, devalue, discard — and why it keeps you emotionally trapped long after you recognize it 💣 Love bombing decoded: why it works on the best people — empaths, people-pleasers, and those who believe in forgiveness ⚖️ Why the family court system keeps getting fooled by narcissists — and the exact language to use with your attorney so you don't look like the "crazy one" 🚨 Coercive control is finally becoming law — what the latest legal developments mean for your case 💥 The narcissistic injury: why divorce triggers a full-scale shock-and-awe attack — false CPS reports, fabricated accusations, financial abuse, and scorched-earth litigation 💰 Hidden assets and financial manipulation: what you need to know to protect yourself before the ink dries 🌱 Tracy's personal story: two high-conflict divorces, no one ever used the word "narcissist" — and how she went from surviving to building a global recovery network reaching millions across 100 countries 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Tracy A. Malone:  Tracy A. Malone is a narcissistic abuse recovery expert, speaker, and the founder of a global support network helping survivors in over 100 countries reclaim their reality after narcissistic relationships. She is the bestselling author of Divorcing a Narcissist: You Can't Make This Up and her groundbreaking new book, Estranged by Lies. Tracy's work fills the critical gap between the courtroom and the healing room — because lawyers won't say it, but she will. 🔗 Connect with TRACY A. MALONE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tracyamalone/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/188681268196044/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tracyamalone X: https://x.com/tracyamalone YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TracyAMalone Pinterest: https://ph.pinterest.com/tracyamalone/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracyamalone/ Website: https://narcissistabusesupport.com/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. healing after divorce, narcissistic abuse, divorcing a narcissist, high conflict divorce, trauma bonding, love bombing, narcissistic abuse recovery, coercive control, gaslighting, emotional abuse, toxic marriage, narcissistic injury, financial abuse in divorce, hidden assets divorce, family court narcissist, divorce support, Tracy A. Malone, Estranged by Lies, Divorcing Strong, Becky Sampson Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

    44 min

  3. Jun 4

    Parental Alienation & Family Court: Family Law Attorney Kevin Hickey on How to Win Custody, Divorcing a Narcissist & Healing After Divorce

    There is no pain in divorce quite like the slow, deliberate erasure of a parent from a child's life. It has a name — parental alienation — and it is not just bad co-parenting. It is a strategy. And the most dangerous thing you can do when it is being used against you is wait, hope, and trust that the legal system will notice on its own. It won't. Not unless you know exactly what to document, when to act, and how to make a judge understand — fast — what is being systematically done to your family. Becky Sampson sits down with Kevin Hickey — divorce and child custody attorney based in Fort Smith, Arkansas, with 26 years in the trenches and 15 years of specialized parental alienation practice — for one of the most strategically critical conversations in the Divorcing Strong series. Over the course of his career, Kevin has handled high-conflict custody cases involving parental alienation across 13 different states, representing the targeted parent in some of the most emotionally taxing and legally complex family court battles imaginable. What sets Kevin apart is not just his case history — it is his philosophy. He does not wait for the damage to become undeniable. He believes in early intervention: identifying the patterns early, responding in a way that protects the child immediately, and building a case that gives a judge something specific and objective to act on before the alienation has time to take root. Because in parental alienation cases, Kevin will tell you plainly — patience is not a virtue. It is a liability. If your child is pulling away, repeating phrases that sound exactly like your ex, or if you are being kept off school forms, hidden from appointments, and lied to about extracurricular activities — this episode is the strategy session you did not know you needed. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: How an area of law chose Kevin — and why parental alienation became personal — Kevin's candid account of coming out of law school with no intention of becoming a divorce attorney, taking a couple of high-profile divorces early in his career, and suddenly being one — then, 15 years into his practice, starting to encounter cases where one parent was systematically driving a wedge between the other and their children, feeling "lost as to how to fight these cases" especially when the alienating parent had narcissistic tendencies, and making the decision that this could not keep happening — that there had to be a way to fight back and stop it What parental alienation actually is — the full definition — the complete behavioral pattern that constitutes parental alienation: not a single incident, not a bad mood, but a consistent, pattern-based campaign by one parent (the alienating parent) to drive a wedge between the other (the target parent) and their children — and why the distinction between "bad co-parenting" and "parental alienation" matters legally, emotionally, and strategically The gatekeeping playbook — what it looks like in practice — the specific, documented tactics Kevin sees most frequently: being kept off school enrollment forms and medical records, not being told when appointments are scheduled or who the doctor is, being given the wrong time for extracurricular activities ("they told you 3:00 , it was at 1:00 , you show up and it's already over"), negative comments about you to the children, and a litany of smaller, individually deniable actions that, taken together, form an unmistakable pattern The early warning signs in your children — how to recognize when alienation has already begun: behavioral changes in your child, a sudden emotional distance that wasn't there before, and — the most chilling signal — your child spontaneously using phrasing, wording, or talking points that could only have come from your ex; why recognizing these signs early is not paranoia but pattern recognition, and why acting on them immediately is your most powerful protective move Why early intervention is everything — and what it looks like — Kevin's clearest strategic directive: the moment you suspect alienation, you cannot wait; what an attorney can do in the earliest stages (making sure you have maximum time with your children, alerting opposing counsel explicitly about what their client is doing, filing for a temporary or emergency hearing so the judge gets up to speed immediately) and why every week of delay is a week the other parent's narrative is solidifying unopposed The "Kevin calendar" — your single most powerful legal weapon — the documentation method Kevin gives every client from day one: get a physical calendar, call it your case calendar, and on the day something happens, write it down — screenshot of a text, a note from the parenting app, a missed appointment, a wrong time given for a baseball game; why the resistance to documentation ("I don't want to have to do that") is exactly the resistance the alienating parent is counting on, and why the parent who documents wins The single biggest misperception about family court — the assumption Kevin corrects with nearly every client: the judge does not know anything about your case; the judge has not read every text, every email, every deposition, every interrogatory; the judge has read what has been filed — and will hear only what you can prove at the hearing; why "the judge already knows" is the most dangerous assumption you can bring into a courtroom, and why your entire legal strategy must be built around telling your story clearly, concisely, and with evidence that gives a judge something specific to act on Objective vs. emotional — the presentation skill that decides cases — the specific reframe Kevin teaches: the moment you walk into a hearing, a custody evaluation, or a meeting with the attorney ad litem, you do not get to be the parent who is in pain — you get to be the parent who is organized, calm, and specific; what objective documentation sounds like in practice ("Five times in the last four months, she scheduled an appointment without informing me first — here are the dates") vs. what emotional testimony costs you ("she's a terrible person and she did this"); why being the reasonable one in the room is not just a personality preference but your most effective legal posture Working with your attorney — the timeline method that saves money and wins cases — Kevin's direct instruction to every new client: put together a running narrative timeline and send it to me; do not edit it, do not decide what's relevant, do not leave things out because you think they might not matter — send it all, because the detail you think is insignificant might be the exact thing your attorney can build a case around; why confidentiality rules exist specifically to make this honesty possible and safe Narcissistic personalities in parental alienation cases — what makes them different — Kevin's frank assessment of the specific challenge posed by alienating parents with narcissistic tendencies: they are master manipulators, they are evasive under direct questioning, and they are very good at appearing reasonable to people who do not know them; why standard family court processes — designed for parents who are acting in good faith — are systematically ill-equipped to catch what a high-functioning narcissist is doing; and why an attorney who understands this dynamic from the start is not a luxury but a requirement The vetting challenge — how to know which parent is actually the target — Kevin's honest disclosure that even experienced attorneys sometimes enter a case representing who they believe is the target parent, only to realize partway through that the picture is more complicated; how Kevin has refined his intake vetting over the years to identify this earlier; and why this disclosure is actually the most important signal of an attorney whose allegiance is to the truth rather than to the client's preferred narrative The pattern documentation principle — why specific beats emotional every time — the closing strategic frame of the entire episode: the attorney ad litem, the custody evaluator, and the judge are all looking for the same thing — something concrete to hang their decision on; the parent who arrives with dates, patterns, and documented incidents gives them that; the parent who arrives with emotion, frustration, and generalizations gives them nothing; and why the parent who understands this distinction soonest has already taken the first step toward winning 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Kevin Hickey: Kevin Hickey is a divorce and child custody attorney based in Fort Smith, Arkansas, with 26 years of family law experience and a 15-year specialization in high-conflict custody cases involving parental alienation. Over the course of his career, he has handled parental alienation cases across 13 different states, consistently representing the targeted parent — the one being systematically erased — against alienating parents who are often master manipulators with narcissistic tendencies and the skills to appear reasonable to everyone except the people who know them. Kevin's signature contribution to the field is his emphasis on early intervention: identifying the behavioral patterns of alienation before they solidify, responding immediately with the legal tools available (emergency hearings, time maximization, opposing counsel notification), and building a documentation-first strategy that gives a judge something specific and objective to act on. He developed his practice in this area after encountering cases early in his career where parents were getting away with systematic child alienation — and deciding that was not acceptable. 🔗 Connect with KEVIN HICKEY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kevinthelawyer/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HickeyHullLawPartners Tik

    42 min

  4. Jun 2

    Parental Alienation & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Co-Parenting Coach Maria Natapov on High Conflict Co-Parenting, Blended Family & Healing After Divorce

    They say the hardest part of divorce is the divorce. But what if the paperwork was the easy part? What if the conflict waiting for you on the other side — bedtimes, birthdays, and boundaries with a co-parent who refuses to cooperate — is the battle nobody prepared you for? And what if the way you have been fighting it is the very thing keeping your children caught in the middle? Becky Sampson sits down with Maria Natapov — BH2O certified co-parenting and stepparenting coach, founder of Synergetic Stepparenting, and vice chair of the Sparrow Collective — for one of the most emotionally honest and practically grounded conversations in the Divorcing Strong series about what happens to families when the papers are signed, and the real work begins. A trusted adviser to divorce professionals, financial advisers, and parenting coaches across the country, Maria has spent years developing the rapid resolution sessions and communication tools that help caregivers shift from emotional reactivity to grounded leadership — transforming high-conflict co-parenting situations into homes where children can finally breathe. But what makes Maria's perspective uniquely credible for this audience is not her certifications. It is the fact that every single layer of her methodology was forged in lived experience. She is a child of a contentious divorce. An immigrant from Moscow who grew up in a cultural framework where obedience — not autonomy — was the expectation for girls. A survivor of a 16-year emotionally and physically abusive marriage who didn't have the language to describe what she had lived through until years after she left. A stepparent who actively tried to dissuade her now-husband from pursuing her — convinced she didn't have what it took — and who then spent five years fighting to protect the stepdaughter she came to love from abuse and neglect in her biological home. Everything Maria teaches, she has lived first. If you are exhausted by the conflict, overwhelmed by the blended family tension, and searching for a way to lead your family through this without losing yourself — this conversation is specifically for you. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Becky opens with a heavy heart — a call from a woman in tears, voice trembling, in the absolute thick of a divorce she can barely hold; Becky's message to her — and to every listener who has felt that specific, isolating overwhelm — that you are not alone, that connecting the dots takes time, that feeling confused or ashamed of not seeing it sooner is not stupidity but the signature of a relationship designed to keep you from seeing clearly Maria's story — from Moscow to a 16-year abusive marriage — how growing up in a culturally rigid framework that prioritized obedience over autonomy set Maria up for a first relationship that began when she was a young teenager and became emotionally and physically abusive over 16 years; the gradual erosion of boundaries she never saw coming, the web of control and gaslighting that made the situation invisible from the inside, and the counselor who assigned her homework — "look for signs of this and report back next week" — before Maria could even recognize what she was living in "I said it was mutual" — the most raw disclosure in the episode: when Maria finally left, she didn't have the language to explain why, and felt such profound shame and self-blame that when anyone asked, she said only "it was mutual" — the years it took, including finding another survivor who gave her the vocabulary for what she had lived, before she could name it for herself; and the message she sends to anyone who is still waiting for that language: trust the instinct, it is your wisdom, not your weakness Becoming a stepparent against her own advice — how Maria actively tried to dissuade her now-husband from dating her, making a very strong case that she was not "mom material" and that his daughter deserved someone better; how his response — that the very things Maria identified as her deficits were precisely the empathy and attentiveness the role required — unlocked something in her healing; and the make-or-break first meeting with his daughter that changed the entire direction of her life The stepdaughter revelation — the episode's most emotionally searing moment: eighteen months of sensing something deeply wrong in the academic realm, theories Maria ran through obsessively while "driving her husband absolutely crazy" — and then the worst nightmare and the biggest relief arriving simultaneously when her then-stepdaughter revealed she had been physically abused, emotionally abused, and sexually groomed in her biological home; how having answers finally meant knowing what kind of help to get, and why awareness is always the first step Gaps in the legal system when children are at risk — what Maria hears constantly from the attorneys she advises: it is always about what you can prove, judges are working with severe limitations in time and information, and even strong evidence does not guarantee the outcome families need; why settling out of court — starting with mediation wherever possible — gives families both a voice and a chance to build the agreement they will actually live with rather than one imposed by a third party who doesn't know them The children-first de-escalation strategy — Maria's most practical tool for breaking the temperature in even the most volatile co-parenting conversations: beginning with what the children need — not the money, not the assets, not the blame — because even the most combative co-parents can find common ground around their children's wellbeing, and those early agreements create the psychological momentum that makes the harder conversations possible From emotional reactivity to grounded leadership — the central promise of the BH2O methodology: teaching caregivers to recognize the moments when they are reacting from a place of threat, fear, or exhaustion — and to choose, instead, a grounded leadership posture that models stability for their children even when stability is the last thing they feel inside; why this shift is not about suppressing emotion but about refusing to let the high-conflict co-parent dictate the emotional temperature of your home Parallel parenting vs. co-parenting — and when to choose which — Maria's honest, experience-backed guidance on when traditional co-parenting (collaborative, communicative, flexible) is simply not viable with a high-conflict or narcissistic ex — and when parallel parenting (structured, low-contact, business-like) is not a failure but a protection: for you, and most importantly, for your children who need at least one stable, predictable home base What parental alienation actually looks like — the specific behavioral patterns that distinguish a high-conflict personality from deliberate, systematic alienation; how to recognize when your co-parent is actively or passively working to damage your child's relationship with you; and why responding from a place of grounded leadership — rather than reactive counter-attack — is both your most effective legal posture and your most powerful parenting move The "I hear it all the time from attorneys" reality check — the candid consensus Maria has collected from the legal professionals she advises: if you can avoid the courtroom, you must; if you can start with mediation, you should; and if you do end up having to escalate, every agreement you reached in mediation first is time, energy, and money the court process does not have to spend — you arrive with a head start The empathy qualification — the reframe that defines Maria's entire practice: the trauma she tried to disqualify herself with — the abusive marriage, the immigrant isolation, the years of not having language — was not a liability for the stepparent role she tried to avoid. It was the training. And it is the same reframe she brings to every caregiver who comes to her convinced that what they have survived has made them less equipped to lead their family forward — when in fact, it has made them more 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Maria Natapov: Maria Natapov is a BH2O certified co-parenting and stepparenting coach, founder of Synergetic Stepparenting, and vice chair of the Sparrow Collective. A trusted adviser to divorce professionals, financial advisers, and parenting coaches, Maria works with caregivers navigating high-conflict co-parenting, blended family dynamics, parental alienation, and the long aftermath of narcissistic and emotionally abusive relationships. Her approach — built on rapid resolution sessions, proprietary communication tools, and the BH2O methodology — helps caregivers shift from emotional reactivity to grounded leadership so their homes become places of safety for their children. Maria's credentials are matched only by the depth of her personal experience: a child of a contentious divorce, an immigrant from Moscow raised in a framework that had no name for what she would later survive, a 16-year survivor of emotional and physical abuse who spent years without the language to describe it, and a stepparent who tried to talk herself out of the role she turned out to be uniquely qualified for. Everything she teaches, she has lived — and that is why the caregivers and professionals who find her keep coming back. 🔗 Connect with MARIA NATAPOV Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maria.natapov/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/synergisticstepparenting/ Website: https://synergisticstepparenting.com/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys,

    46 min

  5. May 28

    Co-Parenting & Divorce Process: Family Law Attorney David Fein on Peaceful Divorce, Divorce Tips & Healing After Divorce

    What if the courtroom isn't protecting your family — it's punishing it? What if the most powerful thing you can do for your children in a divorce isn't fighting harder, but choosing a process that lets both of you actually hear each other? And what if the mediator sitting across from you has personally survived the exact same fog you're in right now? Becky Sampson sits down with David Fein — attorney, mediator, and founder of David Fein Legal Solutions — for a deeply practical conversation on why mediation is not just a cheaper alternative to litigation, but a fundamentally different philosophy of what divorce can be. Based in Highland Park, Illinois, and trained in divorce mediation at Northwestern University, David brings more than three decades of high-stakes legal advocacy to a practice now built entirely around helping families move through divorce with their dignity, cooperation, and co-parenting relationship intact. But what makes David's perspective uniquely credible for this audience is not his training — it's the fact that he is a lawyer who went through his own divorce, sat in the mediation room as a participant, felt the fog and the anxiety and the relief of being guided through it, and walked out believing so deeply in what he had experienced that he observed a live mediation on a Saturday and reported for duty on Monday morning. In three years, he has participated in nearly 200 mediations — and never once had to walk into a courtroom to get there. If you're wondering whether there is a version of this divorce that doesn't cost your family everything — this is the episode that shows you what that actually looks like. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The Saturday observation, Monday start story — how David watched his first live mediation session as a guest observer on a Saturday, recognized immediately that this was work he could do and that the world needed more of, and started as a practitioner the following Monday — one of the most decisive pivot moments in this entire podcast series Why "divorce mediation" has zero search volume — but changes everything — the gap between what the internet tells divorcing couples to search for and what family law actually looks like when it works; and why the peace-first path is both less expensive and more sustainable than the courtroom alternative The children-first framework — David's signature technique for bringing temperature down in even the most volatile mediations: starting with the children's issues before money, assets, or property — because even the most combative spouses can find common ground when the conversation is about what their children need, and those early agreements create the psychological momentum that carries the rest of the mediation "Family 1.0 to Family 2.0" — David's framework for what mediation actually produces: not a legal outcome, but a functional co-parenting architecture that allows the family to reorganize rather than collapse — the same journey Becky calls "YOU 2.0," applied to the family as a whole unit Can you mediate with a difficult personality? — David's honest and experience-backed answer: yes, it's possible — and the specific tools a skilled mediator uses to keep a high-conflict session productive, including reminding both parties that they control the outcome, no judge can order them, and the only authority in the room is the agreement they choose to reach together The "limited scope attorney" concept most divorce lawyers won't tell you about — why you don't have to choose between "full representation" and "no attorney at all"; how to hire a lawyer as a consultant to review your mediation agreement rather than as your advocate, and why this option saves thousands of dollars without leaving you legally unprotected The "first call" problem in divorce — why the first call a divorcing person makes is almost always the call that decides their entire process; why a full-time litigating attorney will rarely, if ever, lead with mediation as their first recommendation; and what David believes needs to change in how the public is educated about their options before they pick up the phone Why the fog of divorce hits lawyers too — David's candid admission that even with three-plus decades of legal experience, going through his own divorce felt like a fog — and why helping clients recognize that the confusion they feel is normal, not a weakness, is one of the most important things a mediator can do before the first session even begins In-person vs. online mediation — and why it matters — David's preference for in-person sessions for the first meeting whenever possible; the dynamics that shift when all parties are physically in the same room versus squares on a screen; and the practical reality of a world where geography, schedules, and convenience mean remote mediation is often the right call anyway Active listening as a legal superpower — what David witnessed in his very first observed mediation session that convinced him: a skilled mediator's most powerful tool is not legal knowledge or authority — it is the ability to listen deeply enough to hear what each party actually needs underneath what they're saying, and use that to lower the temperature before anyone even knows it's happening Mediation beyond divorce — the surprising moment in this conversation where Becky and David discuss whether mediation can save marriages before they end — and David's answer: the same tools that resolve divorce conflict can address family estrangement, communication breakdown, and the kind of disputes that, if left unresolved, eventually force the harder conversation The empowerment principle — why giving both parties explicit ownership of the outcome ("I cannot order you to do anything — only you two can decide this") is not just a procedural disclosure, but the single most healing reframe in the entire mediation process: the moment a divorcing person realizes they are not at the mercy of a system, but in charge of writing the agreement they will actually live with 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About David Fein: David Fein is an attorney, mediator, and founder of David Fein Legal Solutions, based in Highland Park, Illinois. After more than three decades of high-stakes legal advocacy across legal, logistical, and regulatory arenas, David made a deliberate and permanent pivot — choosing to focus entirely on divorce and family law mediation after experiencing mediation firsthand during his own divorce and recognizing its transformative power. Trained in divorce mediation at Northwestern University, David observed his first live mediation session as a guest on a Saturday, started as a practitioner on Monday, and has not looked back since. In approximately three years, he has participated in nearly 200 mediations — on his own and with co-mediators — bringing to each session a rare combination of legal depth, personal experience as a mediation participant, and an active-listening philosophy rooted in the belief that divorce does not have to define a family's future. His co-parenting-first approach and his commitment to helping couples move from Family 1.0 to Family 2.0 distinguish his practice from conventional family law in both method and outcome. 🔗 Connect with DAVID FEIN Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feindavid312/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585389850358 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-fein/ Website: https://www.feinlegalsolutions.com/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceAdvice co-parenting, co parenting after divorce, co-parenting tips, divorce process, family law attorney, peaceful divorce, divorce tips, healing after divorce, divorce mediation, divorce mediator, collaborative divorce, divorce advice, high conflict divorce, divorce settlement, how to divorce, cost of divorce, divorce and children, divorce tips for women, how to save money in divorce, divorce without lawyer, limited scope attorney, divorce support for women, divorce over 40, midlife reinvention, narcissistic abuse recovery, family mediation, divorce attorney, co-parenting after high conflict divorce, David Fein, David Fein Legal Solutions, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

    38 min

  6. May 26

    Dating After Divorce: Dating Coach Kimmy Selzer on How to Flirt, Confidence After Divorce & Healing After Divorce

    They say you have to be perfectly healed before you can start dating again. What if that's wrong? What if waiting until you feel ready is actually the fear talking — and what if one small, outside-in action could unlock more confidence than years of therapy ever did? Becky Sampson sits down with Kimmy Selzer — confidence therapist, authentic dating strategist, image expert, and creator of the Charisma Quotient — for one of the most practical and emotionally honest conversations about re-entering the dating world after divorce you will ever hear. A licensed therapist, certified style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, Kimmy has spent 15+ years helping women and men rebuild attraction, connection, and self-trust from the outside in. She's a TEDx speaker, host of the Charisma Quotient Podcast, and a nationally recognized media expert seen on Tamron Hall, ABC News, NBC News, and Inside Edition. But what makes Kimmy's work uniquely credible for this audience is not her credentials — it's her story. She's a woman who packed up her Chicago life, moved to Los Angeles, watched her marriage end, and found herself alone in a new city with two young children, a therapist's training she couldn't use on herself, and a closet full of black clothes she was hiding inside. What brought her back wasn't another year of inner work — it was a red dress. If you're telling yourself you're not ready to date again, this conversation is specifically for you. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why "I'm not ready" is almost always fear — not truth — Kimmy's honest account of spending years in analysis paralysis disguised as "doing the work": going to therapy, listening to podcasts, processing endlessly, but never actually taking a single step toward dating again — and the moment she realized the readiness she was waiting for was never going to come from the inside alone The red dress moment — the story that launched Kimmy's entire methodology: a department store guardian angel, a bright red dress that looked three sizes too small, a Cinderella twirl in a fitting room, and the first time in years Kimmy looked in the mirror and saw herself — and what happened when she wore it everywhere and men started noticing again Why your black wardrobe might be a fear cloak — the specific way post-divorce women make themselves physically invisible: oversized clothes, muted colors, no makeup, no effort — not because they don't care, but because being seen feels terrifying when your identity has just been dismantled The outside-in approach that flips everything — why Kimmy abandoned the conventional "heal on the inside first, then present yourself to the world" model, what her TEDx talk revealed about the direct link between how you present yourself and how confident you feel inside, and why this reframe is the single most practical gift you can give yourself right now The Charisma Quotient — Kimmy's signature framework for rebuilding magnetic confidence through the symbiotic relationship between outer presentation, body language, energy, and inner self-trust — and why "marketing yourself" is not superficial, it's the fastest path back to feeling like yourself again How to flirt again after divorce — practical, specific, non-cringe guidance on re-learning the art of flirting as a woman over 40 who hasn't dated since college sorority parties, and why the pressure to "just get back out there" from well-meaning friends is one of the most counterproductive forces in your recovery Masculine vs. feminine energy in attraction — what these energies actually mean in practice, which dynamic creates the attraction most women want, how high-conflict divorce rewires women into a masculine energy default (hypervigilance, control, self-protection), and how to consciously shift back into feminine receptivity without feeling fake or vulnerable The "divorce diet" and body image after divorce — the physical symptoms nobody warns you about: weight loss from stress, dissociation from your own body, not recognizing yourself in the mirror — and how Kimmy's outside-in approach addresses the body as part of the confidence rebuild, not separately from it Dating as a later dater — what's genuinely different about re-entering the dating world in your 40s and 50s vs. your 20s, why the old rules of dating (find your next life partner as fast as possible) actively harm women who are still figuring out who they are now, and what a healthier, curiosity-first approach actually looks like How to avoid attracting the same unhealthy dynamic again — the specific internal shifts and external awareness tools Kimmy teaches to help women recognize old patterns before they repeat them, and how confidence — not caution — is actually your best protection against choosing wrong again Becky's own "red dress moment" — losing 130 lbs after her first marriage, the identical experience of suddenly not knowing how to receive attention, and why both women agree that the moment you stop hiding is the moment everything changes 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Kimmy Selzer: Kimmy Selzer is a confidence therapist, authentic dating strategist, image expert, and the creator of the Charisma Quotient — a methodology that helps women and men rebuild confidence, attraction, and self-trust from the outside in after life-changing transitions like divorce. A licensed therapist with additional certifications as a style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, Kimmy developed her outside-in approach after her own divorce left her alone in Los Angeles with two young children, a therapist's training she couldn't use on herself, and years of "I'm doing the work" that turned out to be fear in disguise. One department store fitting room and one red dress later, she built a practice and a philosophy around the idea that how you present yourself to the world is not superficial — it is the fastest, most direct gateway to inner confidence. Kimmy is a TEDx speaker, host of the Charisma Quotient Podcast, and a nationally recognized media expert who has appeared on Tamron Hall, ABC News, NBC News, Inside Edition, and more. She has been coaching women through dating after divorce for over 15 years and brings both the clinical framework and the lived experience to every conversation. 🔗 Connect with KIMMY SELTZER Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimmyseltzer/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimmyseltzer YouTube: https://youtube.com/KimmySeltzer LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimmyseltzer/ Website: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #DivorceAdvice #DatingAfterDivorce dating after divorce, dating after 40, dating coach, how to flirt, confidence after divorce, healing after divorce, dating advice for women, dating tips for women, dating tips, midlife dating, self confidence, feminine energy dating, masculine feminine energy, how to attract men, rebuilding confidence, dating later in life, divorce advice, divorce tips for women, dating over 40, love after divorce, charisma, charisma quotient, confidence makeover, dating advice after divorce, how to date after divorce, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorce support for women, midlife reinvention, Kimmy Selzer, Charisma Quotient Podcast, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

    43 min

  7. May 21

    Cost of Divorce: Family Law Attorney Scott Levin on Peaceful Divorce, Divorcing a Narcissist & Healing After Divorce

    What if fighting harder in your divorce isn't protecting you — it's bankrupting you? What if the legal system designed to resolve your conflict is actually engineered to escalate it? And what if choosing peace isn't weakness — it's the most powerful financial move you can make? Becky Sampson sits down with Scott Levin, widely known as the Chief Peacekeeper — a family law attorney, mediator, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) who has spent 16 years watching couples hand over six figures to a court system that gives them outcomes their families can barely survive. In 2013, after one final case that broke what was left of his belief in litigation, Scott switched overnight — walking away from a full litigation practice to commit entirely to mediation. He hasn't been attorney of record in a courtroom since. His wife joined the practice as a certified co-parenting specialist and co-mediator, making theirs one of the few husband-and-wife teams in family law that brings both the numbers and the heart to every session. Today, Scott's practice is built on a single conviction: divorce is fundamentally a math problem — assets, debts, division — and it's not nearly as complicated as the court system needs you to believe it is. If you're staring at a legal bill and wondering whether there's another way — this is the episode that changes how you see every decision ahead of you. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The $100K mistake most divorcing couples make — why choosing the courtroom over the conference room is the most expensive financial decision of your entire divorce, and the specific cost dynamics that Scott walks every new client through before they hire anyone Why "divorce mediation" has zero search volume — but costs you everything — the gap between what the internet tells you to search for and what family law actually looks like when it works, and why the peaceful path is both cheaper and more sustainable The litigator-who-mediates trap — why hiring a family law attorney who litigates cases AND mediates on the side is one of the most common and expensive mistakes divorcing couples make; what happens to your 2 pm mediation appointment when opposing counsel files an emergency hearing How divorce is really just a math problem — Scott's finance-first approach to asset division: cataloging the full pie, assigning values, identifying hidden transfers, and finding the five to seven creative ways to divide everything — without unnecessary taxes, penalties, or fees Creative solutions the court system will never offer you — the settlement Scott achieves almost every week that makes his litigating colleagues say "that's insane" — and why 16 years of zero disasters says they're wrong Can you mediate with a narcissist? — Scott's direct answer, why it's not the automatic "no" most people expect, and the critical distinction between a narcissist who wants the case resolved and one who doesn't — and how your strategy changes completely depending on which one you're dealing with Why antagonizing a narcissist in court is the single worst move you can make — what Scott has watched happen case after case when attorneys take an adversarial posture with a high-conflict spouse, and why the narcissist will "fight to the death" the moment they feel cornered The "problem perpetuator" attorney — Scott's honest taxonomy of family law attorneys: those who are genuinely passionate, those who have no other options, and those who have zero intention of resolving anything — and the red flags that tell you which one you're sitting across from in the consultation Don't marry the first divorce attorney you meet — why Becky's signature phrase and Scott's 16 years of watching families get derailed by the wrong advisor are two sides of the same warning, and the specific questions to ask before you sign anything Why 90% of Scott's mediations have no attorneys in the room — and what that says about how much you can actually accomplish when two adults and two skilled mediators are working toward the same goal without outside counsel taking all the oxygen His wife as co-mediator and certified co-parenting specialist — how the husband-and-wife dynamic in Scott's practice covers both the financial architecture of the divorce AND the emotional scaffolding of what comes after, particularly for families with children Scott's personal story — a child of a bitter court fight who went into family law as his therapy, and the one final case that convinced him, overnight, that litigation was never the answer he thought it was 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Scott Levin: Scott Levin is a family law attorney, mediator, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) known professionally as the Chief Peacekeeper. After spending years in family law litigation and watching families pay exorbitant legal fees for outcomes they could barely live with, Scott made a deliberate and permanent pivot — switching entirely to mediation in 2013 after one case he could not shake. He has not been attorney of record in a courtroom since. His practice operates on a foundational belief: divorce is a solvable math problem, and the adversarial court system is not only unnecessary for most families — it actively makes the math worse. Scott's wife co-mediates alongside him as a certified co-parenting specialist, giving their practice a rare dual capability: the financial architecture of the settlement and the emotional intelligence of the co-parenting relationship are handled together, in the same room, by the same team. Scott works with divorcing couples across the country — including high-conflict cases and situations involving narcissistic spouses — helping them find the creative, durable outcomes that courtrooms almost never deliver. 🔗Connect with SCOTT LEVIN Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandiegodivorcemediation Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChiefPeaceKeeper LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/levinscott/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sandiegodivorcemediation Website: https://sandiegofamilylawyer.net/ 🎧About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceAdvice cost of divorce, family law attorney, divorce mediation, divorce mediator, peaceful divorce, divorcing a narcissist, high conflict divorce, divorce financial planning, divorce settlement, divorce advice, healing after divorce, divorce tips for women, how to get divorced, divorce lawyer vs mediator, mediation vs litigation, how to save money in divorce, co parenting, co-parenting after divorce, property division divorce, divorce attorney fees, hidden assets in divorce, asset division in divorce, CDFA, certified divorce financial analyst, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorce support for women, midlife reinvention, Scott Levin, Chief Peacekeeper, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

    47 min

  8. May 19

    Sell Your Home in Divorce: Amy Slate "The Breakup Broker" on Marital Home Mistakes, Divorce Advice & Healing After Divorce

    The house isn't just brick and mortar. It's 20 years of Christmases, your kids' height marks on the door frame, and the biggest financial asset you own. And in a divorce, it's also the decision that can quietly define the next two decades of your financial life — if you let fear, urgency, or the wrong realtor rush you into the wrong choice. Becky Sampson sits down with Amy Slate, realtor and creator of The Breakup Broker, to deliver the divorce real estate playbook every woman needs before she touches anything. A former educator with nearly two decades in the classroom who pivoted to a thriving nine-year real estate career — and then navigated her own divorce involving multiple properties across the country and internationally — Amy brings something no ordinary realtor can: she has lived the confusion, the pressure, and the emotional weight of this exact decision from the inside. Her specialty is helping women slow down when everything around them is screaming "decide now," and walk away from the process feeling informed, empowered, and in control of one of the biggest turning points of their lives. If you're staring at your house wondering whether to keep it, sell it, or fight for it — this is the conversation to have before you decide anything. 🎯 In This Episode, You'll Learn: The 3-bucket framework that changes everything — Amy's signature approach to every divorce real estate conversation: Logistics (is this house near your kids' school, your work, your support system?), Finances (do the numbers actually work?), and Emotions (do you even want to stay here?) — and why skipping even one bucket leads women into decisions they regret Why "I know I have to sell" is almost never true — the most common assumption Amy hears from women who've been stay-at-home moms, and the conversation that changes their minds before they give up something they could have kept The emotional home trap — the difference between a woman who says "we've had every Christmas here for 20 years, I can't imagine leaving" and the woman who says "I want to burn it to the ground" — and why both deserve the same careful, numbers-first conversation before they commit The ambulance-chasing realtor problem — why "oh, you're getting divorced? Someone must need to sell a house" is not a divorce real estate strategy, and the very specific questions to ask any realtor before you trust them with this transaction What happens when your spouse refuses to cooperate on the sale — how court orders, motions, and judicial timelines can force an uncooperative spouse into the transaction, and why most women don't know this tool exists until it's too late The cookie-cutting approach to agent selection — why Amy always insists both spouses pick the realtor together (I'll cut it in half — but you pick which half), and how this single step removes one of the biggest sources of conflict in the entire sale process Whose name is on the deed — and why it matters more than you think — Amy's direct advice to every woman who is contributing to a home but hasn't secured her name on the legal paperwork Moving out of the marital home — does it cost you your share? — what the deed actually says versus what fear tells most women, and Amy's practical answer to one of the most anxiety-producing questions in divorce International and multi-property divorce — the added layer of complexity when the marital estate includes rental properties, investment properties, or real estate held across state lines or internationally, and how Amy navigated this in her own case Panic selling vs. strategic timing — why the impulse to "just get it done" during the emotional chaos of divorce is one of the most expensive instincts a woman can follow, and how Amy helps clients find the window between rushing and waiting too long The shoulder-drop moment — what Amy says happens on almost every consultation call when a woman who has been drowning in lingo, numbers, and pressure finally gets someone to calmly walk her through it — and why that exhale is the beginning of every good decision 🎁 Download your FREE "100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know": https://onlysubpoenas.com/free 🎙️ About Amy Slate: Amy Slate is a realtor and the creator of The Breakup Broker, a platform and practice dedicated to helping women navigate buying or selling a home during or after divorce — when emotions are high, the stakes are deeply personal, and the decisions being made will echo for decades. A former educator with nearly 20 years in the classroom and at the university level, Amy brought her core belief in education and empowerment into a nine-year real estate career built on listening first and selling second. When her own unexpected divorce forced her to navigate multiple properties across the country and internationally while simultaneously helping her clients through the same process, she recognized the gap: women going through divorce desperately needed a neutral, knowledgeable resource who could walk them through the real estate piece without rushing them toward a transaction. The Breakup Broker was built to be that resource. Amy is also pursuing a real estate mediation designation to deepen her ability to serve as a neutral communicator between divorcing spouses — because the house doesn't just need to be sold; both parties need to feel heard in the process. 🔗Connect with AMY SLATE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamyslate Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theamyslate LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyslate/ Website: https://thebreakupbroker.com/ 🎧 About Divorcing Strong™ Podcast:  Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, the Divorcing Strong™ Podcast is where real stories meet real strategies for surviving and thriving through divorce. Each episode brings expert insights from top divorce attorneys, family law specialists, financial planners, and healing coaches to help you protect your rights and step into YOU 2.0. 👉 Subscribe for more empowering divorce stories and strategies 👉 Learn more about working with Becky: https://beckysampson.com/ 👉 Follow Becky on social media: BECKY SAMPSON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/ TikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@divorcingstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorcingStrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/ 🌺For information on working with Only Subpoenas™, visit our website at https://onlysubpoenas.com/ or contact us at this number: 650-910-6659 🌺 ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute legal, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult a licensed attorney, financial advisor, or mental health professional for guidance specific to your situation. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. #DivorcingStrong #FamilyLaw #DivorceAdvice sell your home, selling a house, selling your home, marital home divorce, divorce real estate, divorce financial planning, keeping house in divorce, sell house in divorce, home equity divorce, property division divorce, home selling tips, divorce advice, healing after divorce, high conflict divorce, divorce tips, first time home buyer, first time home buyer after divorce, real estate tips, divorce settlement, financial planning for women, divorce support for women, divorce over 50, midlife reinvention, divorcing a narcissist, narcissistic abuse recovery, divorce attorney, family law, Amy Slate, The Breakup Broker, divorce podcast Support Divorcing Strong by contributing to their tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/divorcing-strong

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Divorcing Strong™ is the essential playbook for anyone navigating the legal chaos and emotional trauma of ending a marriage. Hosted by Becky Sampson, CEO of Only Subpoenas™, this podcast bridges the gap between high-conflict courtroom battles and the deep inner work of healing after divorce. If you are dealing with a high conflict divorce, facing narcissistic abuse, or trying to co-parent with a covert narcissist, you are not alone. We go beyond generic advice to tackle the tough realities of emotional abuse, gaslighting, and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Each week, Becky brings you honest, unfiltered conversations with top divorce attorneys, family law experts, and mental health professionals. We cover critical topics including child custody battles, financial independence, and rebuilding your identity. Whether you are just starting the process or are years post-separation, join us to transform your pain into power. Learn how to set ironclad boundaries, protect your peace from narcissistic tactics, and move forward with confidence.

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