Chats with Charlie and Ash

Charlie and Ash
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Sharing vulnerably and authentically on all things personal development, mindset, building businesses, parenting and life in general.

  1. Sep 22

    29: Life isn't only meant to look good on paper.

    You built the life that looks successful, hit the top, and quietly realised it was never actually yours. That's borrowed desire, and this episode is where you stop pretending you didn't notice. I came home from my big trip still riding the high, then a few days later I was in the car, inconsolable, sobbing, asking what the f**k I'm even doing here. Charlie and I sit right in the snapback: that gnarly stretch where every area of your life lights up like a neon sign and you can't unsee it. We talk about the gap between success and fulfilment, why the money was never enough, burnout, and what shifts when you stop leading from logic. If you're a high-achieving woman or a female founder in NZ asking how do I stop feeling overwhelmed as a working mum, this is for you. It's not a quick fix. It's the somatic, aliveness-led work we're in every single day. Press play if you're done tolerating a life that looks great on paper and quietly doesn't feel like yours.

  2. Sep 16

    28: 40 hours on a plane to learn this one thing.

    Here's why the women who go furthest aren't trying harder, they're finally giving themselves permission to know who they are and want what they want. Ash comes back from attending Living Brave Live in Denver having danced in her underwear with a crowd of two thousand strangers, and we unpick what that freedom actually is. Not confidence, not another strategy. It's putting down the internal baggage, the masks, the noise in your head, and being clean in your own energy. We talk about why being slightly off from what you truly want is exactly where burnout lives, why competition is a story, and why you can f**k it up without being a f**k up. This is for the exhausted high-achieving woman who has an inkling there's more. Press play if you're done shrinking back, and come join Made for More here... https://hello.holisticskincoach.co.nz/made-for-more-4429

  3. Sep 7

    The Power Within You - Guest Fliss Gray

    This one is a little different. Ash is away, so Charlie sits down with Fliss Gray, the coach and breathwork facilitator behind Finding Focus, before the session the two of them run together on Sunday 13 September. They talk about what breathwork actually is once you get past the noise around it. Not a big cathartic performance, but the simple act of following your breath until the analysing, planning part of your mind steps back and the rest of you gets a word in. Fliss is open about having been a full sceptic before she trained, and about what shifted that, which was her own experience rather than the theory. They get into self-awareness that never turns into change, and the years you can spend naming your patterns without ever learning to settle them. Attention and energy as things you spend well or leak. Why discernment matters when there is a framework for everything and now AI on top. And why something this simple, and this free, has never quite gone mainstream. Free resources at www.charlieandash.co.nz. You can find Fliss on Instagram @findingfocus_nz

  4. Aug 26

    26: Overnight success doesn't come from failing less, it comes from failing more.

    The overnight success doesn't come from failing less. It comes from failing more. That's the thread running through this episode, but it's really a story about redefining what success even means. Charlie once reached the version of success she'd been chasing since she was 19: her own consultancy, real money, the fancy car, the husband and the picket fence. From the outside, she'd made it. On the inside, there was a hollow ache no amount of achievement ever touched, one she spent years trying to numb, until it forced her into rehab and a long, honest look in the mirror. What came out the other side wasn't a bigger goal. It was a completely different measure of success: presence over performance, joy over grinding, being fully herself instead of leaving herself at the door. We talk about what it actually took to unlearn thirty years of "success requires sacrifice," why every fall along the way was never failure, only feedback, and why the most magnetic thing you can be in business is simply, joyfully, yourself. Check out our FREE resources here..... www.charlieandash.co.nz

  5. Aug 19

    24: Is this the end of our partnership.

    Is this the end of our prtnership? That's the question that ran through Charlie's mind during one of the most vulnerable conversations we've had on this show yet. Ash had been sitting with a sudden question mark: how does this all fit and work? Was it time to do her own thing? Rather than swallow it to keep the peace, she brought it straight to Charlie, uncertain what it would mean for either of them. What followed was two days of real discomfort, the kind neither of us could talk our way around. But instead of ending anything, it cleared out what had been quietly stagnating between us and reignited something we hadn't realised had gone dim. This episode is us living the exact thing we teach: that hiding an uncomfortable truth to protect someone else doesn't actually protect the relationship, it just creates distance. Speaking it does the opposite.If you've ever sat on something because you were scared of what saying it out loud might break, this one's for you. Check out our FREE resources here..... www.charlieandash.co.nz

  6. Aug 19

    Ep23: Meeting the part of you still afraid to cry - LIVE COACHING

    This one's different. Instead of our usual back and forth, you're sitting in on an actual coaching session between the two of us, unscripted and unfiltered. Charlie had just said goodbye to family after a visit, and found herself doing the thing she's done since she was 14: holding it together, staying strong, keeping the sadness where no one else has to see it. In this episode, Ash guides her through what's underneath that: years of learning that her emotions made other people uncomfortable, and a nervous system that would rather shut down entirely than risk letting something out. We go all the way through it together, including a live guided exercise to meet and comfort the part of Charlie that's still carrying that lesson. It's raw, it's real, and it's exactly the kind of work we do with our own clients, just with the curtain pulled back. If you've ever been told you're "too much" for feeling something, or "strong" for not feeling it at all, this one's for you. Check out our FREE resources here..... www.charlieandash.co.nz

  7. Aug 5

    Ep 22 - The money was never going to be enough

    This week we're talking about something neither of us wanted to admit out loud for a long time: choosing money over ourselves. We've both built things that looked successful on paper. Steady income, a stable-looking marriage, the version of success everyone around us was quick to applaud. And underneath it, a quiet not-enoughness that no amount of money ever touched. For Charlie, it meant a cost to her marriage and her relationship with her daughters that became too expensive to keep paying. For Ash, it meant stripping her income right back rather than letting the business keep running the show. We talk about what it actually feels like to let go of money as your safety net, why that feels like standing there naked, and how we've found we don't have to choose between purpose and making a living after all. If there's something you've never let yourself fully want, this one's for you. Check out our FREE resources here..... www.charlieandash.co.nz

  8. Jul 23

    21: There Are No Good or Bad Decisions

    This week's a bit different: new space, new format, and soon you'll be able to watch us as well as listen. The conversation lands in the same place it always does though: what's actually alive for us right now. We start with a school visit for Ash's son Harry, and the realisation that where he goes matters far less than whether he believes in himself. That leads into the invisible rules we all carry around, the quiet, made-up limits we never stop to question, and why the only way through them is to just do the uncomfortable thing. Then we get honest about the gap between knowing and doing. Why doesn't just thinking about the run, the class, the phone call ever seem to be enough? We talk through compassionate self-awareness versus willpower, why forcing yourself only works for so long, and how giving ourselves permission to feel the "bad" emotions changes everything, including how we parent. There are no good or bad decisions. Just what feels right, and the courage to trust it. In this episode: - Choosing self-belief over the "right" environment - The invisible rules we live by without ever questioning them - Why knowing what to do is never the same as doing it - Compassionate self-awareness versus willpower and hustle - Permission to feel the "bad" emotions, and what it teaches us about parenting Follow the show so you don't miss the next one, and grab our free resources at www.charlieandash.co.nz

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  • Creator
    Charlie and Ash
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    28
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Charlie and Ash
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