Chats with Charlie and Ash

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  1. 1D AGO

    17: Why you keep paying for advice you'll never take

    Hands up if you've ever paid good money for a course, coach, or expert and then quietly rejected every piece of advice they gave you. In this episode, Charlie and Ash get honest about the very human habit of seeking answers outside ourselves and then poking holes in every solution we're handed. ("That worked for them, but my situation is different…" sound familiar?) They unpack why we do it, the comfort of certainty, the secret relief of having someone else to blame, the protection mechanism of staying confused and why it leaves us more powerless, not less. They also share their own messy journey of throwing money at other people's blueprints, billboard stunts and all, before realising the real gold wasn't in the strategy. It was in what they learned about themselves along the way. This one is a love letter to self-trust, feminine creativity, and the quiet knowing you've been pushing away for months (or years). It's about the difference between learning from others and outsourcing your authority to them and why the answer you're searching for is probably already there, you've just been too scared to commit to it. In this episode: Why we chase advice we have zero intention of applyingThe hidden payoff of staying "confused"Hustle culture, masculine energy, and why it shuts down women's creativityHow self-abandonment dressed up as "going all in" almost cost them everythingThe questions to ask when something feels "ick" instead of throwing the whole thing outWhy grounded in your own truth beats any three-step processIf you've been waiting for someone to hand you the map — this is your sign to put it down and listen to the voice that's been whispering for the last five years. Get access to Identity Revolution here https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/form/vkGVlGc9vxxGLvalXRmG

    23 min

  2. MAY 11

    16: When intimacy starts to feel like obligation

    In this episode we discuss a common relationship dynamic where affection and intimacy start to feel like an obligation rather than a desire, often because life becomes overloaded with responsibilities (work, parenting, household admin, finances) and the nervous system feels “tapped out.”    We talk about how busyness, overwhelm, and unspoken resentment can smother the spark, leading to cycles of rejection and withdrawal, plus shame and blame directed at either the partner or oneself.    Instead of accepting disconnection as “just how it is,” we encourage listeners to build awareness of what’s really driving the pattern, clarify what they truly want in their relationship, and take ownership of their part.    The core message is to create space (by slowing down and removing or delegating nonessential tasks) so connection can return, then communicate and co-create a more caring, playful partnership, one based on mutual support rather than “invoicing” or tit-for-tat keeping score.   ✨ In this episode, we cover:   Overwhelm reduces desire: When your capacity is maxed out, intimacy can feel like another task on the to-do list.Shame and blame worsen disconnection: “Something’s wrong with me” or “it’s all his fault” keeps the real causes hidden.Watch for “invoicing”: Keeping silent score of who owes what undermines genuine care and closeness.Create space before adding fixes: Don’t pile on more routines, remove, delegate, or simplify to free time and nervous-system capacity.Start with what you want: Define your version of a connected partnership and notice whether current choices support it.Own your contribution and communicate: Change begins with self-responsibility, then building the relationship together as a team.Small moments count: A quiet walk, a few conscious breaths, or brief journaling can be a first step toward clarity and reconnection.

    29 min

  3. APR 28

    15: Your inner knowing is the only authority you need to lead.

    In this episode we explore what it means to tune back into your inner knowing as a source of guidabce. In a world that sells outsourcing your authority by needing to be an expert or needing other peoples approval for permission. We beleive that when you truly lead from who you are authentically and are tuned into your own desires, that is all you need to lead a happy and fulfilling life. We end the episode with some reflective questions if you resonate with what we speak about.

    21 min

  4. APR 21

    14: The ONE THING id tell myself if I could go back.

    In this episode we share the one thing that will help you actuallytake action and create the change you want in your life. Whether it's in your career, parenting, health and fitness or in your relationships. If you can start with this, the rest will unfold just as it should. Join us for our FREE coaching programme Identity Revolution. A four phase transformational experience where we guide you to create a life that feels as good as it look son your vision board. Sign up here for instant access…https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/form/vkGVlGc9vxxGLvalXRmG

    32 min

  5. APR 2

    13: Be a fly on the wall while we chat.

    Ever wondered what it's like to sit in our conversation? We were mid chat and I knew I needed to get the mics out! Come sit with us while we go deep in our personal conversation about the wild ride that is life and making the decision to go all in.

    25 min

  6. MAR 24

    12: Is indecision draining you?

    In this episode we chat about the energetic drain of never being able to confidently make decisions. Big or small, spending time worrying, thinking about, going over scenarios, however you tackle it can be really exhausting and often leads you to the outcome you were trying to avoid. Here we help you to make confident, empowered decisions, fast so you can get going on the things that really matter. Want more from us? Check out our upcoming events and free resources here... www.charlieandash.co.nz

    18 min

  7. MAR 17

    11: The Cost of Living in Overwhelm

    Today we look at what it looks like to live in a constant state of overwhelm . We unpack whats really driving us to be this way and give some practical tools to what you can about it. Check out our FREE resources here..... www.charlieandash.co.nz

    25 min

  8. FEB 24

    10: Suffering is Voluntary.

    Are you choosing to suffer… without even realising it? This episode explores a confronting but deeply liberating idea: while real trauma and hardship absolutely exist, much of our everyday suffering is voluntary. Charlie shares a personal story about the moment I first heard this concept and honestly, I was angry. Defensive. Triggered. Until I realised something that changed everything… I was creating so much of my own suffering through the stories, identities, and expectations I was holding onto. We dive into: The difference between real pain and the meaning we attach to it How unconscious narratives keep us stuck in cycles of frustration and control The courage it takes to “wake up” from the story you’ve been living in Moving from victim mindset to creator mindset Charlie also opens up about her 8-year struggle around her daughter’s eating habits and the powerful shift that happened when she stopped trying to control her and started focusing on connection instead. What Charlie discovered was that the issue was never really about food… it was about her expectations, fears, and what she believed it meant about her as a mother. This conversation is an invitation to take radical responsibility not from shame or blame, but from empowerment. Because when you realise you are choosing the story… you also realise you can choose differently. If you’re ready to loosen your grip, question your narratives, and experience more freedom in your relationships and your life this episode is for you.

    26 min
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