The Lovers Society

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If intimacy feels complicated, distant, or far from effortless, The Lovers Society is for you.Hosted by Marissa Nelson, award-winning relationship and sex therapist, this podcast explores intimacy as it shapes every part of our lives—from how we relate to money and nourish ourselves to how environment, hormones, and daily stress influence desire and connection.Each episode invites you into real, grounded conversations that help you step out of performance and back into connection, at your own pace. This is intimacy rooted in emotional safety, self-trust, and choice, with the reminder that you are deserving of pleasure, even if you’ve felt disconnected from it for a long time.If talking about sex feels hardIf intimacy and desire feels completely goneIf you love your partner and still feel the gap…You’re not broken. And you’re not alone.You’ll hear honest, thought-provoking conversations with leading experts, paired with practical tools and exercises you can use immediately to create meaningful change. Each week brings real stories and therapist-backed guidance to help you stop going through the motions and start feeling seen, supported, and genuinely turned on by your life again.This is where intimacy moves from meh to meaningful, igniting a full-life reset through your most intimate relationships and reshaping how you connect, lead, and live, one episode at a time.Welcome to The Lovers Society.

Episodes

  1. Why Intimacy Feels So Hard: Attachment, Childhood Trauma & The Power of Community

    APR 27

    Why Intimacy Feels So Hard: Attachment, Childhood Trauma & The Power of Community

    In this episode of The Lover's Society, we delve into how childhood attachment, trauma, and healing influence our adult relationships, intimacy, and sense of safety. Join us as Dr. Will shares his unique approach to trauma, healing, and how creativity plays a vital role in the process of reclaiming agency and connection. Main Topics: The impact of childhood trauma on adult intimacy and relationship patternsThe neurobiology of trauma, surrender, and healingThe role of community, identity, and agency in the healing journeyHow kink and pleasure practices can facilitate trauma reclamationTools for cultivating safety, presence, and internal integration In this episode: The significance of understanding biological, emotional, and mental ages in trauma workPractical exercises for reconnecting with desire and internal experienceThe importance of storytelling and transcription in internalizing healingThe collective nature of healing and boundaries in community spacesHow internalized rules and legacy burdens shape adult behaviors and choices Learn more about Dr. Will's work: Heal All Ways InstituteEmail: william.washington.wellness@gmail.comConnect with the community and start reclaiming your inner healing power. Chapters 00:00 Exploring Childhood Attachment and Trauma 01:40 Introducing Dr. Will and His Journey 04:59 Understanding Trauma in Intimacy 08:09 The Complexity of Surrender in Healing 10:53 Reparative Experiences and Neuroplasticity 14:02 The Role of Pleasure in Healing 17:01 Agency and Identity in Kink 20:03 Connection: The Key to Healing 22:56 Children, Play, and Adult Pleasure 25:32 The Loss of Agency in Success 28:36 Kink as a Tool for Reclamation 31:25 Lessons for Vanilla Couples from Kink 33:18 Witnessing Your Body's Responses 35:51 Reconnecting with Pleasure 36:34 Understanding Identity and Self-Concept 37:45 Exploring Self-Pleasure and Trust 39:39 Navigating Boundaries and Attachment Trauma 40:53 The Internal Experience of Sexuality 43:20 Agency in Choosing Partners 47:30 The Role of Community in Healing 51:06 Recognizing Harmful vs. Healthy Communities 55:10 Lightning Round: Insights on Healing

    1h 10m
  2. Intimacy Begins in the Body

    APR 13

    Intimacy Begins in the Body

    In this episode, Marissa Nelson hosts Charlie Glickman, a renowned somatic sexuality educator and author, to explore the importance of reconnecting with the body to enhance intimacy, pleasure, and emotional safety. They discuss strategies for overcoming disconnection, understanding somatic cues, and fostering safe touch and communication in relationships. Key  topics Body trust and safety Somatic awareness exercises Disconnection and trauma in intimacy Reclaiming pleasure from the inside out Communication and consent in relationships Sound  Bites "Focus on sensations, not labels." "Start with breath to be present." "Breathwork can co-regulate couples." Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Somatic Awareness and Intimacy 02:58 Understanding Safety in Touch and Body Awareness 05:35 Exploring Sensations and Emotional Connections 08:16 The Impact of Suppression on Emotional and Physical Well-being 11:05 The Role of Relationships in Healing and Safety 14:00 Navigating Consent and Communication in Intimacy 16:43 The Journey Towards Pleasure and Self-Discovery 29:13 Understanding Partner Responsiveness 31:51 Navigating Grief and Healing in Relationships 34:31 The Essence of Happiness in Relationships 36:19 The Role of AI in Emotional Connection 41:16 Breathwork as a Tool for Connection 45:11 Overcoming Shame and Fear in Pleasure 48:36 Practicing Pleasure in Everyday Life

    1h 1m
  3. Hot Flashes, Dry Spells: Intimacy During Menopause

    MAR 28

    Hot Flashes, Dry Spells: Intimacy During Menopause

    This exciting episode features a deep and honest conversation about women's health, aging, and intimacy during perimenopause and menopause. Marissa Nelson talks to Jenna Perkins, RN, WHNP-BC, GYN, Sexual Health Specialist and Founder of DiscovHer Health, who shares insights on hormonal changes, symptoms, treatment options, and how women can reclaim pleasure and connection in their lives. You don't want to miss this! Key Topics Hormonal changes during perimenopause and menopause Overlapping symptoms with other health conditions Physical and emotional impacts on intimacy Treatment options including hormonal and non-hormonal therapies The importance of self-advocacy and partner involvement Sound Bites "Address pain before pleasure" "Your body is not betraying you" "Keep trying, resilience is key" Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Intimacy and Connection 04:35 Understanding Perimenopause and Menopause 12:10 Navigating Hormonal Changes and Their Impact 17:51 The Emotional Landscape of Sexual Desire 23:36 Addressing Pain and Intimacy Challenges 26:21 Understanding Pain and Sensitivity in Intimacy 27:47 The Impact of Trauma on Sexual Health 31:46 Navigating Pain and Pleasure in Intimacy 33:03 Emerging Treatments for Pain-Free Intimacy 36:55 The Importance of Partner Involvement 38:39 Advocating for Yourself and Your Needs 41:35 Navigating Partner Dynamics During Change 45:22 The Ripple Effect of Hormonal Changes 47:39 Wellness Products for Enhanced Intimacy 50:42 Closing Thoughts and Resources

    1h 2m
  4. Holy Shame: When Faith Impacts Your Sexuality

    MAR 21

    Holy Shame: When Faith Impacts Your Sexuality

    In this inspiring episode, Award Winning Therapist Marissa Nelson interviews Lyvonne Briggs, a renowned spiritualist and author, about reimagining sexuality and faith. They explore how to unlearn shame, embrace pleasure as a divine gift, and integrate spirituality with sensuality, especially within faith communities.  Key  topics Unlearning shame around sexuality The sacredness of pleasure and the body The impact of religious conditioning on sexuality Healing from sexual trauma and shame Integrating spirituality and sensuality Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Intimacy and Shame 03:36 The Intersection of Faith and Sexuality 11:05 Reclaiming Pleasure as a Birthright 16:38 Overcoming Shame and Trauma 23:09 Decolonizing Religion and Embracing Sensuality 30:35 Navigating Faith and Intimacy 33:09 Redefining Gender Roles in Relationships 36:59 Understanding Love and Submission 39:17 The Impact of Purity Culture 44:52 Embracing Pleasure and Self-Care 50:36 The Power of the Erotic 55:32 Living a Life of Pleasure and Joy

    1h 6m
  5. Nourish Your Sex Life: The Hidden Link Between Food, Allergies & Intimacy

    MAR 7

    Nourish Your Sex Life: The Hidden Link Between Food, Allergies & Intimacy

    In this episode, Marissa Nelson LMFT and Allergy Nutritionist, Ilana Dubrovski MS, RDN, LDN, CDN explores the profound impact of imbalance on mental health, emphasizing the interconnectedness of physical and mental well-being. It highlights how factors like allergies, hormones, stress, and communication play crucial roles in our overall health. Takeaways Imbalance can lead to anxiety and depression. Listening to communication channels is essential for well-being. All aspects of health are interconnected. Eating habits significantly affect body image and mental health. Stress and anxiety are influenced by our physical state. Body image impacts how we feel about ourselves. Maintaining balance is crucial for mental health. Communication is key to understanding our health needs. Energy levels are tied to our mental state. Understanding the connection between body and mind is vital.  sound  bites "if we're out of balance, that can lead impacts like anxiety" "it's all connected, it is all connected" "this ties into our body image, how we feel" Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Intimacy and Food 03:54 The Impact of Food Allergies on Relationships 06:55 Understanding Inflammation and Desire 09:27 The Connection Between Stress and Intimacy 12:13 Navigating Food Intolerances and Mental Health 14:47 Gut Health and Its Role in Intimacy 17:25 Self-Care and Nourishment 20:28 The Role of GLP-1s in Nutrition and Intimacy 23:02 Allergies and Intimacy: What You Need to Know 25:50 Advice for Younger Selves 28:42 Conclusion and Resources

    52 min
  6. Financial Foreplay: What Your Money Patterns Say About Your Sex Life

    FEB 28

    Financial Foreplay: What Your Money Patterns Say About Your Sex Life

    In this episode of Lovers Society, Marissa Nelson LMFT and Dr. LaTanya White delve into the intricate relationship between money and intimacy. They explore how financial dynamics can mirror emotional connections in relationships, the impact of early memories on financial beliefs, and the importance of open communication about money. The conversation also addresses financial infidelity, the role of identity in wealth creation, and practical tips for couples to enhance their financial intimacy. Ultimately, the episode emphasizes the need to de-shame discussions around money and intimacy to foster deeper connections. Takeaways Everyone has a relationship with money that reflects their intimacy. Money dynamics can mirror relationship dynamics, affecting intimacy. Early memories shape our beliefs about money and intimacy. Financial infidelity often stems from unresolved emotional pain. Identity plays a crucial role in wealth creation and financial wellness. Entitlement in spending can arise from unmet emotional needs. Open communication about money is essential for relationship health. Transparency in financial matters fosters intimacy and trust. Couples should establish house money rules to avoid conflict. Healing from financial trauma can lead to healthier relationships.  sound  bites "Transparency is super sexy." "Healed people can help heal people." "We want to de-shame your money." Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Money and Relationships 03:21 Understanding Financial Dynamics and Shame 05:59 Navigating Financial Stress in Relationships 55:56 The Lovers Society Video Podcast Intro Video - Navy.mp4

    1h 4m
  7. Beyond Vanilla: What Every Couple Can Learn from Kink

    FEB 21

    Beyond Vanilla: What Every Couple Can Learn from Kink

    In this episode of The Lovers Society, Marissa Nelson and Dr. Neil Cannon delve into the complexities of intimacy, kink, and the importance of communication in relationships. They explore the misconceptions surrounding kink, emphasizing that it is not solely about pain but rather about play and connection. The conversation highlights the significance of consent, aftercare, and understanding power dynamics in relationships. They also address the challenges of discussing desires and boundaries, the impact of shame on sexuality, and the importance of creating a safe space for exploration. The episode concludes with resources for those looking to expand their sexual lives and heal from trauma. Takeaways Kink encompasses a wide range of experiences beyond pain. Playfulness is essential for maintaining intimacy in long-term relationships. Sarcasm can be damaging in intimate conversations. Listening to a partner's desires does not mean agreeing to everything. Shame is a significant barrier to open communication about sex. Aftercare is crucial for emotional connection post-intimacy. Not all sexual experiences need to end in orgasm to be fulfilling. Self-exploration is key to understanding one's own desires. The mind is the most powerful sexual organ. Healing from trauma requires patience and understanding from both partners.  sound  bites "Kink is about play, not just pain." "Not all sex ends in orgasms." Chapters 00:00 Exploring Kink and BDSM: A New Perspective 02:58 Understanding Kink: Beyond Pain and Dominance 05:32 The Importance of Play in Intimacy 08:28 Navigating Consent and Boundaries 11:06 Communicating Desires: The Key to Connection 13:40 Building Trust Through Vulnerability 16:23 Overcoming Shame in Sexual Conversations 19:26 Power Dynamics in Relationships 22:13 Creating a Safe Scene for Exploration 24:48 Aftercare: The Unsung Hero of Intimacy 27:39 Starting Your Journey into Kink 30:07 Addressing Trauma in Intimacy 33:03 Listener Letter: Balancing Desire and Safety

    55 min
  8. Designed for Intimacy: How Your Home Shapes Connection Sessions (1)

    FEB 21

    Designed for Intimacy: How Your Home Shapes Connection Sessions (1)

    In this conversation, Marissa Nelson and Jamila St. Julien explore the intricate relationship between home design and intimacy. They discuss how creating cozy, inviting spaces can enhance connection and emotional well-being. The conversation covers various aspects of design, including the importance of decluttering, the role of lighting, and the impact of personal and cultural identity on home aesthetics. They emphasize the need for homes to reflect the individuals living in them and to serve as sanctuaries for relaxation and intimacy. The episode concludes with practical tips for couples to create spaces that nurture their relationship and foster deeper connections. Takeaways Your environment is the third participant in your relationship. Design is emotional care and should reflect who you are. Creating a cozy space enhances intimacy and connection. Decluttering can reclaim your space for intimacy. Lighting plays a crucial role in setting the mood. Use your home as a form of self-care. Creating rituals for connection is essential for couples. Design should support how you naturally move through your space. Home is an emotional place that can reflect love or disconnection. We deserve spaces that inspire us and make us feel good.  sound  bites "Design is emotional care." "Create a sanctuary for intimacy." "Lighting creates a whole mood." Chapters 00:00 Teaser Intro 01:00 Creating Intimacy Through Environment 03:36 The Role of Design in Relationships 46:57 Lightning Round 53:13 Jamila's Final Thoughts 55:15 Creating a Cozy Bedroom Atmosphere

    1h 3m
  9. When Sex Stops: Rebuilding Intimacy You’re Tired of Trying

    FEB 14

    When Sex Stops: Rebuilding Intimacy You’re Tired of Trying

    Summary   In this episode of the Lover Society, Marissa Nelson and Dr. Pia delve into the complexities of intimacy and sexual connection. They discuss the common issues of sexual disconnection, the importance of communication, and the impact of sexual trauma on relationships. The conversation emphasizes the need for both partners to take ownership of their sexual health and the significance of creating a safe space for open discussions about intimacy. Through their insights, they provide valuable guidance for couples seeking to reconnect and navigate the challenges of their sexual lives. In this conversation, Dr. Pia and Marissa Nelson delve into the complexities of intimacy and trauma recovery. They discuss the importance of understanding trauma's impact on relationships, the role of touch in healing, and the necessity of creating a safe space for connection. The conversation also explores attachment styles, the empowerment that comes from education, and the significance of addressing medical concerns in sexual health. They provide practical tips for rebuilding intimacy after infidelity and emphasize the journey of rediscovering pleasure in relationships.   Takeaways   Sexual disconnection is more common than we think. Understanding the reasons behind sexual avoidance is crucial. Communication is key to rebuilding intimacy. Sexual trauma can significantly impact relationships. Both partners must take ownership of their sexual health. Creating a safe space for conversations about sex is essential. Intimacy involves more than just physical connection. Therapy can help navigate complex sexual issues. Understanding personal desires is important for intimacy. Healing from trauma requires patience and understanding. Naming and normalizing trauma is essential for healing. Intimacy requires a personal journey of self-exploration. Touch is foundational for intimacy and connection. Creating a safe space is crucial for vulnerability. Understanding attachment styles can improve relationships. Education empowers couples to navigate intimacy issues. Medical concerns can impact sexual health and intimacy. Rebuilding trust after infidelity takes time and communication. Rediscovering pleasure is a gradual process. Regular check-ins can enhance relationship intimacy. Sound bites   "Communication is lubrication." "Sex doesn't happen in a vacuum."     Chapters   00:00 Introduction to the Lover Society and the Importance of Connection 02:20 Understanding Disconnection in Intimacy 09:18 Exploring the Reasons Behind Sexual Avoidance 14:13 The Role of Communication in Intimacy 20:26 The Complexity of Sexual Relationships 25:45 Navigating Conversations About Intimacy 28:36 Addressing Sexual Trauma and Its Impact 29:06 Understanding Trauma and Intimacy 32:42 The Role of Touch in Healing 36:53 Creating a Safe Space for Connection 39:40 Navigating Attachment Styles 42:07 Empowerment Through Education 46:53 Addressing Medical Concerns 48:19 Rebuilding After Infidelity 52:44 Finding Pleasure Again 54:10 Practical Tips for Connection

    1h 6m
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If intimacy feels complicated, distant, or far from effortless, The Lovers Society is for you.Hosted by Marissa Nelson, award-winning relationship and sex therapist, this podcast explores intimacy as it shapes every part of our lives—from how we relate to money and nourish ourselves to how environment, hormones, and daily stress influence desire and connection.Each episode invites you into real, grounded conversations that help you step out of performance and back into connection, at your own pace. This is intimacy rooted in emotional safety, self-trust, and choice, with the reminder that you are deserving of pleasure, even if you’ve felt disconnected from it for a long time.If talking about sex feels hardIf intimacy and desire feels completely goneIf you love your partner and still feel the gap…You’re not broken. And you’re not alone.You’ll hear honest, thought-provoking conversations with leading experts, paired with practical tools and exercises you can use immediately to create meaningful change. Each week brings real stories and therapist-backed guidance to help you stop going through the motions and start feeling seen, supported, and genuinely turned on by your life again.This is where intimacy moves from meh to meaningful, igniting a full-life reset through your most intimate relationships and reshaping how you connect, lead, and live, one episode at a time.Welcome to The Lovers Society.

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