Marriage Hot Takes

Aaron & Kim
  • 5.0 (3)
  • Relationships

Marriage Hot Takes is a podcast where Aaron and Kim Degler have honest, practical conversations about what really makes marriage work — the good, the hard, and everything in between. With bold truth, real-life experience, and a foundation of faith, they challenge couples to grow, communicate better, and choose each other every day.

  1. 3d ago

    Ep 18: When A Season Becomes A Lifestyle

    Temporary sacrifice can be part of a healthy marriage. Permanent distance can sneak in so quietly that you don’t notice it until you feel like strangers living under the same roof. We’re Aaron and Kim Degler, and we’re talking about marriage seasons: the times when work ramps up, kids need everything, someone gets hurt, or life just demands more than usual. We share our own story of long hours building a business, the chaos of raising four kids, and how easy it is to tell yourself “this is just what we have to do” even after the hardest part is over. That’s where resentment grows: one spouse adapts by carrying the load, the other gets comfortable in the pattern, and the season becomes a lifestyle. We also get practical about what helps. We dig into self-awareness, teamwork, and calm communication that happens before things blow up. We talk about setting expectations going into a busy stretch, checking in during it, and making a real plan for what life should look like after it ends. And yes, we say it clearly: counseling isn’t a sign you failed, it can be a tool to strengthen an already good marriage. Our hot take says it straight: “Just because life asks for temporary sacrifice doesn’t mean marriage should accept permanent distance.” If you’re feeling stretched thin or stuck in a pattern you didn’t choose, hit play, then share this with your spouse and talk about what season you’re in. Subscribe, share, and leave a review so we can reach more couples.

    28 min

  2. Jun 4

    Ep 17: Stop Waiting For Big Moments And Start Building Them

    We stop chasing the next big moment and talk about how the strongest marriages are built in small, ordinary days. A story about John Wooden’s love letters challenges us to say what matters now and create everyday connection on purpose.  • John Wooden’s monthly love letters and the regret of unsaid words  • why we wait for vacations and events to feel “alive”  • reframing post-trip sadness with daily intention and gratitude  • making chores, errands, and kid schedules feel like together time  • small romantic gestures that cost nothing but attention  • using handwritten notes and tiny surprises to help your spouse feel seen  • choosing genuine effort without keeping score so marriage can grow  If this episode helps you, please share it with someone you care about.

    31 min

  3. May 28

    Ep 16: Wait are We Normal or Abnormal?

    We share a small convenience store moment that turns into a big lesson about emotional safety and why we don’t need to copy anyone else’s relationship rules. We land on a simple hot take: the healthiest marriage habits are the ones that work for the two of you, even if they look weird to everyone else. • choosing a meeting spot in public to feel safe and stay connected  • noticing how quickly comparison can make us question our marriage  • redefining “normal” as what supports both partners  • examples of couple routines that vary widely and still work  • turning curiosity into growth instead of judgment  • using a “normal or abnormal” game to learn about other couples  • why we go to appointments together and how it reduces stress  If this episode helped you, please share it with someone you care about. And don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. It really helps us reach more couples.

    25 min

  4. May 21

    Ep 15: Speaking Life Into Each Other

    We challenge ourselves with one question: if someone heard the way we talk at home, what would they believe about our marriage. We share how our words shifted over 22 years from survival and sharp tones to intentional encouragement that builds a fuller life together.  • the difference between public politeness and private tone at home  • what “speaking life” means in real marriage communication  • why praise is about calling out potential, not controlling change  • how self-awareness and personal growth make healthier conflict possible  • daily encouragement habits like texts, prayer, and sharing resources  • being careful with how we speak about our spouse to others  • the identity effect of repeated words, both negative and positive  If this episode helped you, please share it with someone you care about. And don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. It really helps us reach more couples.

    34 min

  5. May 14

    Ep 14: Lightning Bugs, Space Launches, And Big Dreams

    We trade the “lightning bugs in a jar” story for a clear marriage gut check: are we helping each other shine, or quietly tightening a lid. We unpack what it looks like to be a launcher through our tone, our support, and our willingness to believe before we fully understand.  • the lightning bug jar as a picture of control  • how a “lid” shows up through disinterest, silence, and sarcasm  • mission control as a model for steady support  • why we don’t need the same dreams to cheer each other on  • the fear of the unknown during major life and business change  • how shared work can shift a marriage from “me” to “we”  • believing in your spouse when you can’t see the vision  • creating success with words before results exist  • the hot take on making your spouse feel bigger  If this episode helped you, please share it with someone you care about.  And don't forget to subscribe and leave a review.

    30 min

  6. May 7

    Ep 13: Marriage Legacy

    We talk about the kind of legacy a marriage leaves behind and why it’s bigger than money or a last name. We share what we learned from our parents and how we try to model love, teamwork, and intention so our kids know what a steady marriage looks like.  • redefining legacy as what our kids watch and copy  • bringing habits from our parents into our marriage on purpose  • meeting each child’s needs instead of keeping everything equal  • expressing love out loud with daily affection and reassurance  • avoiding rigid “man jobs” and “woman jobs” at home  • showing love through service and shared effort  • treating conflict as something to work through, not escape  • breaking unhealthy cycles with intention and consistency  If this episode helped you, please share it with someone you care about. And don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. It really helps us reach more couples.

    31 min

  7. Apr 30

    Ep 12: 10x Your Marriage With Words

    We start with a hot take that puts real weight on everyday words: what we affirm grows, and what we criticize spreads. We share how small phrases, comparisons, and “jokes” can either build confidence or quietly create resentment, and we offer simple ways to be more intentional.  • why affirmation multiplies the good we already see  • how criticism metastasizes from small picks into big stories  • the hidden damage of comparing your spouse to other couples  • why cutting negative talk can matter more than adding praise  • spotting cues for what needs to be done and said  • using specific thanks and belief to help your spouse bloom  If this episode helped you please share it with someone you care about. And don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. It really helps us reach more couples.

    24 min

  8. Apr 23

    Ep 11: Marriage Blind Spots

    We connect a car’s blind spot warning to the blind spots we all carry in marriage, and we get honest about how feedback can feel annoying even when it is protecting us. We share real examples from our own relationship and break down how to signal a concern with care so it prevents damage instead of starting a fight.  • why we believe ongoing conversation keeps marriage healthy  • the car beep story that leads to the blind spot metaphor  • what a marriage blind spot looks like day to day  • Aaron’s tone with the kids as a real-life example  • Kim’s “let me check on that” pattern and what is underneath it  • how being talked out after work can read as distance  • receiving feedback with gratitude instead of defensiveness  • delivering feedback like a yellow warning not a red stop  If this episode helped you, please share it with someone you care about. And don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. It really helps us reach more couples.

    23 min
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Marriage Hot Takes is a podcast where Aaron and Kim Degler have honest, practical conversations about what really makes marriage work — the good, the hard, and everything in between. With bold truth, real-life experience, and a foundation of faith, they challenge couples to grow, communicate better, and choose each other every day.

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  • Creator
    Aaron & Kim
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  • Episodes
    19
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