LET’S TALK WITH BEN, BRAD & COIT

LET'S TALK

This isn’t just another men’s podcast. It’s real conversations. Real laughter. Real growth. Hosted by Ben De Boef, Brad Dorethy, and Coit Willis, this show blends lighthearted humor with honest discussions about the issues men actually face — faith, leadership, marriage, fatherhood, struggles, purpose, and everything in between. Whether you’re saved, searching, skeptical, or somewhere in the middle, this podcast creates space for men to talk openly, grow intentionally, and pursue becoming fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ. We’ll make you laugh. We’ll challenge you. We’ll move you forward. Because men were never meant to do life alone. New episodes weekly. Pull up a chair and join the conversation.

  1. 15h ago ·  Video

    HOW TO DISCOVER YOUR GOD-GIVEN TALENTS (AND STOP COMPARING)

    How to Discover Your God-Given Talents (and Stop Comparing)What if the talents you’re looking for are already in your hands? In this episode of Let’s Talk, Ben, Brad and Coit discuss how to recognize the gifts, skills and strengths God has entrusted to you—and how comparing yourself with others can keep you from using them.The conversation moves from lighthearted talk about unexpected talents to a deeper look at natural strengths, spiritual gifts and learned skills. The hosts reflect on the Parable of the Talents in Matthew 25 and the responsibility to develop and steward what we’ve been given. In this episode:Why we can overlook the abilities that come naturallyHow comparison can distract us from our own strengths and purposeThe different things that can count as talents: gifts, skills and experienceWhy developing your abilities is part of stewarding them

    HOW TO DISCOVER YOUR GOD-GIVEN TALENTS (AND STOP COMPARING)

  2. Nov 3 ·  Video

    MARRIAGE Q&A - LIVE AT THOUSAND HILLS CHURCH

    In this live podcast episode, Ben, Brad, Coit, Janet, Selina & Natalie engage in a lively discussion about marriage, addressing various topics such as household annoyances, financial transparency, respect, and effective communication. They also emphasize the importance of premarital counseling and alignment in values for a successful marriage. The conversation delves into the complexities of marriage, focusing on communication, trust, and the importance of intentional time together. Participants share personal experiences and insights on navigating challenges and fostering a healthy relationship. Takeaways Communication is keyFinancial transparency fosters unity Communication is keyTrust must be rebuilt Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Introduction04:55 Household Annoyances09:17 Financial Transparency in Marriage20:24 Respect and Communication in Marriage23:24 Premarital Conversations and Alignment30:36 Conflict Resolution Strategies31:01 Navigating Relationship Challenges34:10 Communication Dynamics in Marriage38:02 Intentional Time for Connection43:50 Building Trust After Betrayal52:07 Understanding Submission in Marriage58:22 The Importance of Investing in Marriage

    MARRIAGE Q&A - LIVE AT THOUSAND HILLS CHURCH

  3. Oct 27 ·  Video

    THE TIME WAKE-UP CALL MEN NEED

    In this episode of Let's Talk, Ben, Brad & Coit discuss the significance of time management for men, emphasizing that time reflects one's priorities. They explore strategies for prioritizing important aspects of life and the necessity of learning to say no to maintain focus on what truly matters. Takeaways Time reveals prioritiesLearn to say no Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Time Management01:54 Prioritizing What Matters03:54 The Importance of Saying No

    THE TIME WAKE-UP CALL MEN NEED

  4. Oct 20 ·  Video

    THE DANGEROUS LIE OF SELF-MADE SUCCESS

    The conversation focuses on the intersection of faith, entrepreneurship, and marketplace leadership, emphasizing the importance of viewing work as a calling and a means to impact others positively. Ben, Brad & Coit discuss personal experiences in business, the significance of stewardship, and the need for a vision that transcends mere financial success. Takeaways Work as a callingStewardship in entrepreneurship Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Marketplace Leadership06:26 Faith and Work: A Calling10:45 The Role of Influence in Business17:00 Balancing Drive and Ambition24:05 Stewardship and Ownership30:07 Generosity and Financial Stewardship36:21 Finding Vision and Purpose

    THE DANGEROUS LIE OF SELF-MADE SUCCESS

  5. Oct 13 ·  Video

    THE REAL TEST OF INFLUENCE

    In this episode, Ben, Brad and Coit discuss the concept of influence, emphasizing that everyone has the ability to impact those around them. They explore various spheres of influence, the importance of recognizing one's own influence, and provide biblical examples of individuals who stewarded their influence effectively. The conversation explores the themes of stewardship, influence, and character in the context of faith and personal development. It emphasizes the importance of being intentional about one's convictions and the often mundane nature of impactful living. Takeaways Influence is available to everyoneStewardship of moments is crucial Stewardship leads to influenceCharacter is key to impact Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Influence07:46 Defining Influence and Its Spheres11:32 Recognizing Personal Influence16:14 Biblical Examples of Influence24:09 Stewardship and Moments of Influence25:07 The Power of Stewardship28:52 Influence Through Faithfulness30:46 Character Over Compromise36:10 Determining Convictions Before Challenges40:01 Ordinary Impact in Daily Life44:25 Maximizing Impact Through Proximity

    THE REAL TEST OF INFLUENCE

  6. Oct 6 ·  Video

    YOUR JOB CAN BE MINISTRY-IF YOU STEWARD IT RIGHT

    What does a real ministry calling look like, and how do you tell the difference between ambition and obedience? In this episode, the guys share funny church stories, personal calling moments, and hard-won wisdom about serving faithfully in ministry, business, and everyday life. Not every calling looks like a stage, a title, or a paycheck—sometimes the most important work is simply feeding the sheep right where you are.Key topicsThe guys open with funny church stories, including the longest sermon they endured and a scramble golf outing announcement gone wrong.They compare different paths into ministry and how those backgrounds shape their understanding of calling.Brad shares his conversion story in 1995 and the moment he felt God tell him to spend his life giving Jesus away.They discuss Jesus’ words to Peter, “Feed my sheep,” as a picture of ministry focused on serving others.They explore ministry roles beyond preaching, including teaching, administration, counseling, evangelism, missions, and men’s ministry.The conversation examines the difference between calling and ambition—and the temptation to chase titles, visibility, or a bigger platform.They reflect on contentment, faithful service in small assignments, and trusting God with growth.Coit shares how police work prepared him for the emotional and spiritual weight of pastoring.The guys discuss boundaries, accountability, mentorship, and protecting health, marriage, and family.They close with the idea that business can also be ministry when you steward what God has entrusted to you.Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome to Built for Influence and the shift from general calling to ministry calling 01:18 – Fun church stories, embarrassing announcements, and the longest sermon ever 03:00 – The scramble golf outing announcement that went very wrong 05:53 – What is a ministry calling, really? 07:02 – Jesus restoring Peter and the meaning of “Feed my sheep” 08:56 – Ministry roles beyond preaching on Sunday 10:23 – Golf small groups, humor, and influence as kingdom impact 11:34 – Brad’s salvation story and the call to give Jesus away 14:01 – Passing on encounters with God so others can experience Him too 16:31 – God works in you before He works through you 17:08 – Separating calling from personal ambition 18:36 – The tension between being gifted and being truly called 22:09 – Contentment as a sign of healthy ministry calling 23:25 – God promotes faithfulness, not self-elevation 25:52 – The weight of ministry and carrying other people’s burdens 26:49 – Comparing police work stress and pastoral stress 29:30 – Walking with people through failure, crisis, and hard conversations 31:38 – Business, entrepreneurship, and ministry calling together 33:33 – Using business influence to advance the kingdom 35:14 – How to walk out a ministry calling with health and humility 36:29 – Why boundaries matter in ministry and in life 39:18 – The value of mentors, small beginnings, and faithful stewardship 41:45 – Closing encouragement, conference invite, and prayer for fresh calling Practical takeawaysAsk yourself whether you’re pursuing a title or faithfully serving the assignment you already have.Look for ways to “feed the sheep” now, including through behind-the-scenes service.Build accountability and mentorship into your life.Set boundaries that protect your health, marriage, and family.Treat your work, business, or leadership role as a place of ministry—not just personal success.Stay faithful in small beginnings and trust God with what grows.

    YOUR JOB CAN BE MINISTRY-IF YOU STEWARD IT RIGHT

  7. Sep 29 ·  Video

    YOU HAVE NO SECOND-CLASS CALLING

    Built for Influence: Calling, Purpose, and Why There’s No Second-Class CallingThis episode of Let’s Talk brings together Ben, Brad and Coit for a practical conversation about calling, purpose, and identity for men. They open with some hilarious job stories, then move into a serious question many men wrestle with: how do you know what God is calling you to do, and how do you avoid confusing your job, title, or season with your real purpose?In this episode, Brad and Coit share a clear framework for thinking about calling, the pressures that keep men stuck, and how to discern whether a transition is God-led. It’s a grounded, faith-centered conversation for men who want more than a career. They want direction, influence, and purpose. Timestamps00:00 - Welcome to the series and the calling conversation begins 01:58 - Funny job stories: dairy farm mishaps and asbestos removal 05:05 - Why men spend so much of life trying to figure out who they are 06:03 - Defining calling as both general and specific 08:06 - Identity, purpose, and not letting career define you 09:02 - Fatherhood as a deeper form of calling 10:31 - Drawing identity from calling instead of titles or hobbies 12:11 - How confirmation and inner prompting help reveal calling 14:06 - The pressure of leaving security to follow a clear call 16:55 - Why career, finances, and family pressure make transitions hard 18:24 - Calling beyond ministry: police, fire, medicine, education, business 19:29 - “You don’t have a second class call” 20:10 - Salt and light in every place, not just church 21:52 - When grace lifts and transition may be ahead 23:07 - Identity, calling, and purpose all working together 24:17 - Don’t run someone else’s race 26:13 - What keeps men from calling: attack, comparison, fear 27:27 - Comfort, distraction, and why growth is uncomfortable 29:50 - Past success can keep you from the next assignment 31:50 - Discovering calling by moving instead of waiting 33:32 - What moves your heart and points toward purpose 34:35 - Surrounding yourself with men who speak truth and life 35:37 - Start with God, not opportunity 36:29 - Final encouragement: no second-class callings Action itemsPray specifically about your calling and purpose this week.Write down where you’ve been confusing identity with occupation.Ask two trusted men what gifts, burdens, or callings they see in you.Identify one step of movement you can take instead of waiting for perfect clarity.Recommit to being faithful in your current season.Call to actionIf this conversation challenged you, take time this week to seek God about your identity and purpose, then talk with a trusted man who can help confirm what you’re hearing. Keep walking, keep listening, and keep trusting that God has a specific race for you to run. Marriage conference - Thousand Hills Church - OCT 24

    YOU HAVE NO SECOND-CLASS CALLING

  8. Sep 23 ·  Video

    TRUTH BEATS POLICY EVERY TIME

    This episode features Marty Bryan of Marty B's Restaurant alongside Ben, Brad, and Coit on Let's Talk. Marty shares how personal pain shaped his leadership, why he sees his business as ministry, and how he builds a culture of hospitality through standards, truth, and accountability.If you lead people, hire people, or want to make your faith visible through your work, this conversation is packed with practical insight. It is especially useful for men trying to turn influence into real kingdom impact.Key topics Marty shares how his childhood shaped his drive, including his parents’ divorce, poverty, and his father’s long recovery after a devastating car accident.Marty explains why humility and dignity matter deeply to him, especially after experiencing food stamps, welfare, and public embarrassment as a kid.We discuss how he sees Marty B's as ministry, not just business, and why the business opens with prayer.Marty shares the hospitality framework he lives by: selection, truth, and accountability.He explains why hiring for heart matters more than just skill.The conversation explores why he prefers standards over policy and discretion over rigid corporate rules.Marty talks about confronting issues quickly and speaking truth in love.He reflects on culture as something modeled by example, not just written down.The episode closes with a call for men to use their gifts with purpose and make people feel valued.Marty shares why the long game matters in leadership and relationships.Timestamps00:00 — Mic check and opening banter 00:34 — Welcoming Marty Bryan and introducing Marty B's 01:34 — Gift hats and intentional branding 02:58 — Why the show centers on influence and ministry 03:43 — Marty’s story starts with pain and childhood upheaval 04:14 — Parents’ divorce and instability at home 05:29 — Father’s accident and six months of uncertainty 06:29 — Becoming a caregiver at age 12 09:45 — Food stamps, free lunch cards, and lost dignity 10:45 — Why poverty pushed him toward independence 11:49 — Fear of the Lord and living with purpose 13:15 — Hospitality as kingdom impact 14:46 — Jesus washing feet as the model for service 15:27 — Hiring people with heart first 16:57 — The business is about people, not just tasks 18:15 — Culture is built by example 19:42 — Why kindness came from lived experience 20:21 — Using giftedness to glorify God 21:23 — Selection, truth, and accountability 22:53 — Why bad fits need to be identified quickly 24:01 — Truth without accountability fails 25:51 — Why confrontation is necessary for growth 26:28 — Standards instead of policy and rules 27:51 — Manager discretion over corporate bureaucracy 28:53 — Why having fun is the last value 30:06 — How HR can miss the point of real leadership 32:31 — The four-day hiring test 33:30 — Parents thanking him for shaping their kids 34:04 — Personality profiles and the “gas tank” idea 36:08 — Advice to young men about finding passion 38:07 — Choosing the right career fit 39:04 — Leadership lesson: play the long game 40:36 — What leaders should stop doing: avoiding truth 42:07 — How to make people feel valued 44:36 — Living faith at work 45:58 — Faith expressions inside Marty B’s culture 47:21 — What a man built for influence is 48:12 — Learning to apologize and use the mouth wisely 49:29 — Influence is about impact and legacy 50:46 — Closing charge to go be an influencer today

    TRUTH BEATS POLICY EVERY TIME
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This isn’t just another men’s podcast. It’s real conversations. Real laughter. Real growth. Hosted by Ben De Boef, Brad Dorethy, and Coit Willis, this show blends lighthearted humor with honest discussions about the issues men actually face — faith, leadership, marriage, fatherhood, struggles, purpose, and everything in between. Whether you’re saved, searching, skeptical, or somewhere in the middle, this podcast creates space for men to talk openly, grow intentionally, and pursue becoming fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ. We’ll make you laugh. We’ll challenge you. We’ll move you forward. Because men were never meant to do life alone. New episodes weekly. Pull up a chair and join the conversation.

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