LET’S TALK WITH BEN, BRAD & COIT

LET'S TALK
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This isn’t just another men’s podcast. It’s real conversations. Real laughter. Real growth. Hosted by Ben De Boef, Brad Dorethy, and Coit Willis, this show blends lighthearted humor with honest discussions about the issues men actually face — faith, leadership, marriage, fatherhood, struggles, purpose, and everything in between. Whether you’re saved, searching, skeptical, or somewhere in the middle, this podcast creates space for men to talk openly, grow intentionally, and pursue becoming fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ. We’ll make you laugh. We’ll challenge you. We’ll move you forward. Because men were never meant to do life alone. New episodes weekly. Pull up a chair and join the conversation.

  1. BREAKING FREE FROM LUST PT.2 - How to fight back through Jesus

    3h ago

    BREAKING FREE FROM LUST PT.2 - How to fight back through Jesus

    Feeling trapped by the cycle of lust and sin? Wondering how to break free and build relationships that honor God? Join Ben, Brad, and Coit as they explore the spiritual battle of lust, how it affects us physically and emotionally, and the biblical way to fight for freedom through Jesus Christ. You’ll leave encouraged, hopeful, and equipped to walk in truth and purity, building relationships rooted in Christ’s love. In this episode:Understanding lust as a spiritual and physiological battle rooted in our flesh and the enemy’s schemesRecognizing the danger of managing sin versus defeating it through Christ’s powerThe importance of renewing your mind with God’s truth and setting healthy boundariesHow shame fuels lust and how biblical confession and accountability bring light and freedomPractical steps to flee temptation and fight the enemy’s lies with scripture and Holy Spirit guidanceThe role of heart transformation versus surface-level behavior managementPractical Takeaways:Identify and remove yourself from high-risk situations before temptation hitsUse accountability tools like Covenant Eyes and safe communications with trusted friends or spousesReplace worldly inputs with biblical and Christ-centered content to renew your mindConfess struggles openly with trustworthy believers to invite God’s healing and accountabilityPray daily for Holy Spirit’s empowerment to fight fleshly desires and renew your heartFocus on heart transformation, not just surface behavior, through repentance and dependence on JesusTimestamps:00:00 - Introduction: The spiritual and physical battle of lust and how it affects believers 02:04 - Recognizing the biological responses linked to lust and addiction 04:15 - The physiological effects of pornography and sexual addiction in young men 07:39 - The spiritual realm influence behind lust and the importance of boundaries 08:46 - The danger of sexting, social media traps, and image exploitation 11:15 - Why managing sin is a lie and real biblical freedom requires heart change 13:24 - Renewing your mind through Scripture and the role of the Holy Spirit 15:36 - The importance of guarding your inputs and replacing worldly thoughts 16:44 - The difference between fruit management and root removal in heart transformation 17:37 - The biblical metaphor of pulling out roots versus just trimming weeds 19:08 - God’s promise in 1 Corinthians 10:13 to escape temptation 20:07 - Recognize, repent, and replace—practical steps to overcome lust 22:14 - The power of fleeing temptation, like Joseph fleeing Potiphar’s wife 23:03 - Living a life of righteousness for God’s elevation and blessing 23:47 - The importance of accountability, accountability partners, and community 27:26 - Two biblical commands: Flee from sexual fornication and fight spiritually 29:02 - Practical tools: Technology and boundaries to fight the enemy 33:55 - The danger of neglecting your marriage and justification through lust 36:16 - The spiritual battle of flesh versus Spirit and how to call on Jesus in defeat 37:27 - Walking in boldness, shining light on sin, and trusting God’s truth over shame 38:13 - Closing encouragement: Choose life, pursue righteousness, and walk in freedom in Jesus Resources & LinksLet’s Talk the Podcast Linktree

    39 min
  2. BREAKING FREE FROM LUST PT.1 - Why Christian Men Keep Falling Into Lust

    May 27

    BREAKING FREE FROM LUST PT.1 - Why Christian Men Keep Falling Into Lust

    Are you tired of feeling trapped by lust and shame? What if there’s a way forward rooted in God's hope and His perfect plan for your life? Join Ben, Brad, and Coit as they dive deep into understanding lust—not just as a struggle, but as an opportunity to be transformed by Jesus. This episode offers encouragement to break free, restore your heart, and walk in the freedom Christ provides. In this episode:Exploring the true nature of lust and its rootsUnderstanding disordered desires and deceitful temptationsRecognizing the importance of confession and accountabilityHow God’s design for sex points us to genuine intimacy with HimThe dangers of today’s digital temptation machinePractical steps to fight lust and cultivate purityStandout Quotes:"Lusting, normalized by society, is not okay—because God’s standard is higher, and His grace is bigger.""God doesn’t want us to live in deceitful living, but in His righteousness and freedom.""Confession isn’t just about admitting failure; it’s about stepping into the light and walking toward healing.""Your cell phone can be a tool for God’s kingdom or a leash that pulls you into darkness—be intentional with what you feed your heart." Scripture References:James 5:16 – "Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed."Matthew 5:28 – "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."Ephesians 4:22-24 – "Put off your old self... and be renewed in the spirit of your mind."Practical Takeaways & Application:Start daily by confessing struggles and inviting Jesus into your fight for purity.Set healthy boundaries around your digital consumption; consider accountability partners.Reflect on the deeper needs behind lust—loneliness, boredom, stress—and find healthy ways to meet those needs with community and Christ.Be intentional about what you allow into your mind and heart, curating content that uplifts and encourages purity.Remember: Jesus helps us in our weakness—lean on Him and His Spirit for strength.Call to Action:Don’t let lust win—come boldly to Jesus today. Share your struggles with trusted brothers or sisters in Christ, and step into the freedom He offers. Visit Let’s Talk The Pod to connect, find resources, and join a community committed to building relationships God's way. Timestamps:00:00 - The reality and challenge of lust in today’s society 02:00 - Defining lust: desire, immediacy, and disordered wants 03:47 - How the enemy distorts good desires like sex 06:16 - Biblical view: "Lust of the eyes, lust of the flesh" (1 John 2:16) 09:02 - God’s better plan for sex and desires (Ephesians 4:22-24) 11:48 - Lust broadening beyond sex: materialism, attention, control 15:36 - Lust as a counterfeit for God’s designed intimacy 17:15 - Jesus’ standard in Matthew 5:28 and confession as a way forward 22:52 - The power of transparency and accountability in healing 29:00 - Navigating today’s digital temptation landscape 33:28 - Next steps: fighting lust with community, confession, and Christ’s truth Resources & Links:https://linktr.ee/letstalkthepod

    35 min
  3. FAILURE ISN'T FINAL

    May 20

    FAILURE ISN'T FINAL

    Ever felt like your setbacks define you? In this episode, Ben, Brad, and Coit explore how failure is not the end but an opportunity to trust Jesus more deeply. They remind us that as believers, walking in God's will means we can't truly fail—only learn and grow through Him. Be encouraged today to see failures as God's redemptive tools, guiding you closer to His plan for your life. In this episode:Discover how failure can be transformed into faith-building momentsLearn practical ways to navigate failure with hope and Christ-centered perspectiveHear stories of failure turned into testimonies of God's graceUnderstand why failure isn't the final word for those walking in God's willBe reminded that Jesus is the ultimate source of victory over disappointment and shameKey Talking Points:Recognizing that failure is a common experience for all men, but it doesn’t define our worth in ChristThe importance of viewing failure through a Jesus-centered lens—failure as a step towards grace, not rejectionHow failure can sometimes be rooted in our identity being tied to our achievementsThe enemy’s strategy to trap us in disappointment, causing spiritual stagnation and cycles of shameThe significance of grounding our expectations in faith rather than experience or circumstancesHow God invites us to be honest with ourselves, leading to genuine growth and freedomScripture References:Romans 8:28 – "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him."Jeremiah 29:11 – "For I know the plans I have for you... to give you a future and a hope."2 Corinthians 12:9 – "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."James 1:5 – "If any of you lacks wisdom, ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault."Practical Takeaways / Application:Reflect on your recent failures and ask Jesus to show you how He can use them for good.Choose to trust God's plan over your feelings of disappointment.Replace self-criticism with Scripture-based affirmations about your identity in Christ.Share your story of failure with a trusted brother in faith for accountability and encouragement.Commit to setting future expectations rooted in faith, not circumstances.Call To Action: Today, meditate on Romans 8:28. Trust that God is at work even in your failures—lean into Jesus for strength and renewal. Share your testimony of God's grace in overcoming failure with someone who needs hope today. Subscribe, comment, and join our community as we walk this journey of building God's way. Timestamps: 00:00 – How failure is part of God’s plan for growth 02:48 – Recognizing common areas where men feel they’ve failed 07:05 – The danger of tying our identity to success or failure 12:18 – Fear of failure and its impact on our faith and relationships 18:17 – The enemy’s tactic: disappointment and spiritual cycles 21:39 – Grounding your expectations in faith, not experience 30:02 – Walking in God's will ensures ultimate success, not failure 33:08 – Trusting God's plan when outcomes don’t match our hopes 36:15 – Encouragement to see failure as a pathway to God's greater purpose Resources & Links:https://linktr.ee/letstalkthepod

    38 min
  4. THE DANGEROUS GAME OF COMPROMISE

    May 13

    THE DANGEROUS GAME OF COMPROMISE

    Feeling torn between worldly pressures and biblical values? Wondering how to stand firm when compromise threatens your walk with Christ? Join Ben, Brad, and Coit as they explore the vital importance of integrity, courage, and biblical values in today’s culture. Discover practical ways to anchor your life in God's truth, build resilience against temptation, and lead with faith, hope, and love.In this episode, you'll learn: How compromise subtly impacts our daily decisions and spiritual healthThe difference between healthy give-and-take and destructive weaknessThe importance of establishing core biblical values as anchors in lifeHow small choices can lead to big spiritual consequencesBiblical examples of courage and standing firm in faithPractical steps to develop conviction and depend on God's strengthTimestamps: 00:00 - The battles men face: compromise and integrity 00:29 - The humorous but real struggles with decision-making 01:49 - The story of total loss and trusting God’s sovereignty 04:00 - Defining what compromise really means in relationships and faith 04:43 - Meet in the middle: the beauty and danger of compromise in marriage 05:53 - Understanding being compromised: openings for attack 06:52 - The spectrum of compromise: serving others vs. self-harm 07:32 - Practical examples of daily compromise and its spiritual impact 08:17 - The danger of selfishness and losing perspective 09:44 - The importance of guarding our hearts and setting biblical boundaries 10:21 - The role of biblical values as anchors during chaos 12:52 - The slow fade of spiritual compromise—building resilience 13:16 - Recognizing the small foxes that ruin the vineyard 14:00 - The connection between compromise and moral failure 15:08 - Calling to serve God with integrity amid societal pressure 16:28 - The challenge of navigating political and social conflicts faithfully 17:36 - The importance of having clear biblical values in decision-making 19:11 - Building unshakable character rooted in God's Word 20:14 - The significance of establishing and maintaining core values 22:07 - Guarding against society’s attempt to distort biblical concepts 23:35 - The danger of toxic empathy and cultural manipulation 26:29 - The call for courage to stand for the unborn and biblical truth 28:25 - Personal stories of compromise and God's grace 29:47 - The importance of accountability and community support 31:18 - How to stand courageous when facing societal pressures 32:29 - Trusting God's faithfulness in tight spots and fiery trials 34:48 - Living intentionally in spiritual warfare—putting on the armor 35:39 - The four foundational anchors: faith, trust, truth, love 36:14 - The call to live with conviction and confident leadership 37:04 - Building convictions rooted in the presence of God and His Word Resources & Links: The Slow Fade by Casting CrownsLinktr.ee Let's Talk The Pod

    38 min
  5. FROM REGRET TO REDEMPTION - WITH JOHN JAMES, BEN, BRAD & COIT

    May 6

    FROM REGRET TO REDEMPTION - WITH JOHN JAMES, BEN, BRAD & COIT

    Discover how John James, former lead singer of the Newsboys, transformed his life from the depths of regret to a powerful testimony of redemption through Jesus. Join us as we delve into the incredible journey of John James, who rose to fame with the Newsboys only to face a personal downfall. Through candid conversation, John shares how he overcame regret and found new purpose in Christ. His story is a testament to the transformative power of faith and the possibility of new beginnings. Key Talking Points:John's rise to fame and the pressures of successThe personal struggles and compromises that led to his downfallHow losing everything became a turning point for redemptionThe role of faith and community in rebuilding his lifeJohn's current mission to inspire others through his story and musicPractical insights on overcoming regret and embracing God's graceStandout Quotes:"God takes the mess in our lives and uses it to bring hope and transformation.""You are not disqualified by your past—Jesus already qualified you at the cross.""Hope is not just for the future—it’s alive in us today through His grace."Scripture References:Philippians 3:13-14 — Forgetting what is behind and pressing on toward the goal2 Corinthians 5:17 — Become a new creation in ChristRomans 8:1 — There is no condemnation for those in Christ JesusCall to Action (CTA): Are you ready to leave your regrets behind? Start today—confess, forgive yourself, and walk forward in Jesus’ grace. Join a community of men committed to building relationships God’s way, and share your story of hope. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to John James' story 05:10 - The rise and fall of a rockstar 12:15 - Finding redemption through faith 20:45 - John's mission today: inspiring others 30:50 - Overcoming regret and embracing new life 45:00 - Personal stories of redemption and hope Resources & Links:https://linktr.ee/letstalkthepod John James:HIS NEW BOOK HIS NEW MUSIC HIS WEBSITE Handles https://www.instagram.com/johnjosephjames_official/ John Joseph JamesFacebook · John Joseph James1.1K+ followers

    1h 6m
  6. WHAT COMPLACENCY IS REALLY COSTING YOU - WITH BEN, BRAD & COIT

    Apr 29

    WHAT COMPLACENCY IS REALLY COSTING YOU - WITH BEN, BRAD & COIT

    Are you feeling stuck in a rut or unaware of the subtle dangers of complacency creeping into your life? Join Ben, Brad, and Coit as they explore how complacency can secretly hold us back from living fully in Christ's purpose. This episode offers hope, practical steps, and a renewed focus on building strengths through faith and intentional living—because true strength is found in Him. In this episode:Understanding the danger of self-satisfaction and lack of awareness in spiritual and life journeysRecognizing how complacency manifests in reduced awareness, laziness, and ignoring risksThe roots of complacency: past success, comfort zones, and false confidencePractical ways to break free: accountability, goal setting, and spiritual disciplineThe importance of surrounding yourself with godly brothers in Christ for accountabilityBuilding resilience and adaptability through intentional spiritual habitsStandout Quotes 🔥"Complacency is the enemy of personal growth—it's stagnation that quietly quiets our walk of faith."“The most dangerous complacency is not laziness, but disconnect, where we’re detached from what truly matters.”"Discipline is doing what you hate to do, like you love it—this is the path to defeating complacency."Scripture References:Proverbs 4:23 – "Guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life."Hebrews 12:12-13 – "Strengthen your feeble arms and weak knees."Revelation 3:15-16 – "Lukewarm faith is a dangerous place."Practical Takeaways:Reflect daily on areas of complacency and invite the Holy Spirit to reveal blind spotsCreate accountability relationships with fellow believers who will speak truth in loveSet meaningful goals rooted in your purpose in Christ, not just routineCultivate disciplined habits that honor God—reading scripture, prayer, fellowshipRegularly evaluate your life’s priorities to ensure we’re building on a firm foundation in JesusCall To Action: This week, take time to assess where complacency might be hiding in your life. Reach out to a trusted brother in Christ and share your goals for growth. Commit daily to a spiritual discipline that keeps your heart aligned with God's purpose. Remember, with Jesus at the center, we can build resilient, purpose-filled lives that honor Him. Timestamps: 00:00 - Hope in Christ: Overcoming the silent danger of complacency 02:22 - Recognizing complacency in our lives 04:02 - The dangers of reduced awareness and laziness 06:51 - What the dictionary says about complacency 10:08 - How complacency manifests in our daily routines 13:00 - The roots of complacency: past success and overconfidence 17:24 - The importance of accountability and spiritual guardrails 20:32 - How complacency affects resilience and adaptability 23:46 - The role of discipline in defeating complacency 26:37 - Building community and accountability in faith 30:40 - Practical steps to break free and grow in purpose 34:44 - The significance of intentionality in life and faith 37:40 - Setting goals that combat complacency 41:33 - Embracing discipline and godly habits 43:05 - Final charge: pursue Jesus, build in community, live purposefully Resources & Links:https://linktr.ee/letstalkthepodRemember, brothers—Christ has called us to stand strong. Let’s walk in purpose, stay vigilant, and build lives that honor Him. Until next time, keep your eyes fixed on Jesus.

    42 min
  7. FROM FEAR TO FREEDOM: EMPOWERING MEN WITH FAITH - WITH BEN, BRAD & COIT

    Apr 22

    FROM FEAR TO FREEDOM: EMPOWERING MEN WITH FAITH - WITH BEN, BRAD & COIT

    Overcoming Fear with Hope and Christ: Men Building Their FaithFeeling overwhelmed by fears of failure, loss, or the unknown? You're not alone, and there is hope in Jesus. Join Ben, Brad, and Coit as they explore how men can conquer fear through God's promises, Scripture, and prayer, building lives centered on hope-filled faith.In this episode, we dive into the root of fear, its effects on our identity, and how to respond biblically with courage and assurance in Christ. We’ll share practical steps and biblical encouragement to help you walk through fear with unwavering hope. Be strengthened today—hope in Jesus because He is with us in every storm. Scripture References: Joshua 1:9 — "Be strong and courageous, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."Psalm 3:3-4 — “The Lord is my shield; my glory, the lifter of my head.”2 Timothy 1:7 — "God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind."Philippians 4:6-7 — “Be anxious for nothing…but in everything by prayer and supplication…”Practical Takeaways: Memorize and declare Scripture about God's promises and presence.Cultivate daily habits of hope—focusing on God's goodness and faithfulness.Create a safe space for prayer, counseling, and honest conversation.Recognize fear’s lies and replace them with biblical truth.Pray Scripture over your life, your family, and your future.Trust the Holy Spirit to reveal and heal the roots of your fears.Call to Action:Today, take one step to confront your fears—commit a Scripture to memory, pray over a specific worry, or reach out to a brother for prayer. Remember, with Christ, you can face anything because He is with you and has already secured victory. Timestamps:00:00 - Welcome and encouragement to share hope in men’s lives02:07 - Exploring common fears men face07:58 - The biblical view of fear and anxiety11:24 - The fear of losing and failing15:22 - God’s faithfulness through seasons of fear22:43 - How men typically respond to fear and its dangers24:06 - Scripture to combat fear—Philippians 4:6-725:36 - The healing power of counseling and the Holy Spirit29:30 - Joshua 1:9 as a call to courage36:23 - The importance of immersing in God's word daily39:52 - Practical steps to prevent fear from taking holdConnect with Us: Instagram: Let's Talk with Ben, Brad & CoitTikTok: @letstalkwithbenbradcoitThreads: @letstalkthewithbenbradcoitFacebook: Let's Talk Facebook Space

    44 min
  8. WHO DOES GOD SAY YOU ARE - WITH BEN, BRAD & COIT

    Apr 8

    WHO DOES GOD SAY YOU ARE - WITH BEN, BRAD & COIT

    Are Men Defined by What They Do or Who They Are in Christ?Ever feel lost in your identity as a man? Wondering how to stand firm in a shifting world? Join Ben, Brad & Coit as they explore the foundational truth of who we are in Christ, not what the world says we should be. Discover how to reclaim your identity through the lens of Jesus, so you can walk confidently in your calling as a man of God. In this episode:The importance of understanding true identity rooted in ChristHow external labels and accomplishments shape or distort our view of ourselvesThe dangers of living in past victories or failures instead of embracing Christ’s newnessHow Jesus models perfect sonship and sacrificial identityPractical ways to align your identity with God's unchanging characterEncouragement to stand on the Word and trust the Holy Spirit for clarity and purposeScripture References:2 Corinthians 5:17 — "If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation."Call to Action: Reflect today on who God says you are. Write down the promises and truths you find in Scripture. Share this episode with a brother—let’s build a community rooted in Christ’s identity. Commit to standing firm in who Jesus says you are and walk boldly in that truth! Timestamps: 00:00 - Why your identity in Christ is everything 02:00 - The foundation of true identity—rooted in Jesus 04:00 - How external labels can distort your view of yourself 06:00 - The significance of Jesus modeling sonship for us 08:00 - The importance of the Holy Spirit guiding your identity 10:00 - Challenges men face in reclaiming their God-given identity 12:00 - The example of David’s shifting identity and God's unchanging character 14:00 - How to plant your feet on the unshakable truths of God 16:00 - Overcoming the lies about who you are in Christ 18:00 - Embracing your new creation—moving past failures and past identities 20:00 - Practical steps to walk confidently in your identity as a man of God 22:00 - The impact of community and accountability in reinforcing your identity 24:00 - Closing encouragement to lay down your world’s labels in worship Resources & Links: The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren Join usin building God's way relationships that stand the test of time. Remember, your identity in Christ is the most hope-filled truth you can stand on—today and every day!

    41 min
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This isn’t just another men’s podcast. It’s real conversations. Real laughter. Real growth. Hosted by Ben De Boef, Brad Dorethy, and Coit Willis, this show blends lighthearted humor with honest discussions about the issues men actually face — faith, leadership, marriage, fatherhood, struggles, purpose, and everything in between. Whether you’re saved, searching, skeptical, or somewhere in the middle, this podcast creates space for men to talk openly, grow intentionally, and pursue becoming fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ. We’ll make you laugh. We’ll challenge you. We’ll move you forward. Because men were never meant to do life alone. New episodes weekly. Pull up a chair and join the conversation.

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