Got Your SiX: Battle-Tested Leadership for Business and Life with Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn

Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn
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Are you leading from Strategic Altitude, or have you become the "designated shock absorber" for everyone else's chaos? Welcome to Got Your Six, the podcast for senior leaders and business owners who are tired of carrying the weight of the "cape" alone. Hosted by Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn, a retired Army Officer and high-level Leadership Consultant, this show provides a tactical intervention for those who have the title but are operating in survival mode. We move beyond "fluffy" leadership theory to deliver battle-tested strategies that work in the real world... from the commander’s table to the kitchen table. Whether you’re navigating high-stakes business pivots, managing organizational culture, or trying to reclaim your presence at home, Dr. Traci offers the "Operational Blueprint" you need to lead with sustainable clarity. Because leadership is not forged in comfort - it is forged in responsibility, awareness, and follow-through. Press play to stop "powering through" and start leading from a place of regulated, unshakeable confidence. And remember, we've got your six!

  1. 4d ago

    Command or Convene? How to Lead the Moment You Are In | Jeanine Becker

    Command and control leadership is the instinct to make every call yourself, and it is usually what got you promoted in the first place. Then one day it becomes the reason nothing moves without you. If you are a business owner, a senior manager, or a leader at any level, you know the trap. First sentence: "I am the bottleneck." Second sentence: "But if I don't make the call, it won't get made right." Both can be true. The question was never whether you are a good leader. The question is which leader this exact moment needs. ➡️ Bring one thing you took from this episode to a free 20 minute collaborative call with Dr. Traci, and her book Inside Out Leadership: Transforming Your Life from the Core, plus the companion workbook, are yours at no cost: https://drtraci.erbusinessconsulting.com/mission-check-in-call On this episode of Got Your SiX, Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn, Retired U.S. Army Officer, leadership consultant, and creator of the Battle-Tested Leadership Methodology™, sits down with Jeanine Becker, founder and CEO of On Purpose Together, former corporate attorney, and a negotiation and collaboration instructor at Stanford for a decade. They do not agree on everything, and that is the point. You walk away with Jeanine's three pillars of collaborative leadership, a decision-making matrix that tells you when to tell, test, consult, or co-create, and the story of a foundation leader who moved $3.5 million instead of $1 million by changing how she saw her role. Command when it matters. Convene when it counts. Know the difference before the moment decides for you. In this episode, you’ll discover: When command and control leadership works and when it fails: simple or complicated problems call for a decisive call, while complex problems with no single right answer demand input from others.The three pillars of collaborative leadership Jeanine Becker taught at Stanford: agency (knowing what you want and saying it), curiosity about what others bring, and the ability to sit in the unknown.How to stop being the bottleneck as a leader by choosing one lever, owning it up and out, and giving your team the freedom to experiment on how to move it.Why your meetings should be a series of questions instead of report-outs, and what a four-star general taught Dr. Traci about the cost of reading slides to a senior leader.Who owns the outcome when the team owns the decision: the leader owns the lever and the direction, while the team owns the experiments, the results, and the failures.Why leaders promoted for having the answers feel like imposters once they lead areas outside their expertise, and how inviting questions replaces the need to know everything.How autonomy, belonging, and competence build internal motivation that outlasts "because I said so," and why command and control leadership alone cannot create it. We talk about: 00:00 Are you the bottleneck in your business? 02:15 Leading without rank or title 06:47 When the board overruled her legal advice 09:00 The Disneyland lesson on command versus curiosity 15:10 Why a four-star general stopped a slide briefing 16:34 The identity shift from expert to leader 18:14 Three pillars of collaborative leadership 19:46 How a $1M grant plan became $3.5M 27:09 Choose one lever, then get out of the way 33:53 Who owns the outcome when the team decides? 38:05 Command and control leadership or convening 40:48 Tell, test, consult, or co-create decision matrix Connect with Jeanine Discover your style of engaging difference + the Decision Making Matrix: www.onpurposetogether.com/growCollective Counsel: www.onpurposetogether.com/collective-counselWebsite: www.onpurposetogether.comLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/beckerjeanine Connect with me Leadership Call: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/coaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-traci-55410868/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrTraciER/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtraci_battletested/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gotyoursixpodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@erbusinessconsulting Website: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/ Email: info@erbusinessconsulting.com #Leadership #CommandAndControl #CollaborativeLeadership #DecisionMaking #LeadershipDevelopment #BusinessOwner #ExecutiveLeadership #Delegation #TeamOwnership #Accountability #MilitaryLeadership #VeteranLeadership #LeadingTeams #LeadershipPodcast #ComposedOperator #BattleTestedLeadership #GotYourSiX

    Command or Convene? How to Lead the Moment You Are In | Jeanine Becker

  2. Sep 22

    Your Leadership Style Is Shaping Your Leadership Traits | Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn

    Leadership style vs leadership traits is the distinction most leaders skip, and it is the reason a strong trait can still produce the wrong result. Your traits never reach your team directly. They travel through your leadership style first, and that style decides how much of what you intended actually lands. If your decisiveness has started to feel like control, or your collaboration has quietly turned into paralysis, the trait is probably not the problem. The way it is being expressed is. Across autocratic, democratic, transactional, transformational, and laissez-faire leadership, the same strength shows up as either an asset or a liability depending entirely on the style carrying it. Retired U.S. Army officer and Got Your SiX host Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn walks through all five styles from her book, Inside Out Leadership: Transforming Your Life from the Core, using Patton, Eisenhower, Alfred Sloan, Nelson Mandela, Howard Schultz, and a pointed comparison between Warren Buffett and Ken Lay to show exactly where each style earns its keep and exactly where it collapses. You will leave with three questions to identify the leadership style you default to under pressure, the trait it is quietly costing you, and the style your team may need from you that you have been avoiding. Lead with clarity. Lead with courage. Dr. Traci has got your six. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why the same leadership trait, like confidence or accountability, changes meaning entirely depending on the leadership style carrying it, and why adding more traits never fixes a style problem.How autocratic leadership earns its place in a crisis the way General Patton used it, and the exact point where that same decisiveness turns into control.Why democratic leadership still needs a boundary, using General Eisenhower's D-Day decision as proof that real collaboration still ends in one clear call.What happened inside General Motors when Alfred Sloan's transactional leadership traded long-term commitment for measurable performance, and what that trade actually costs.Why transformational leaders like Nelson Mandela and Howard Schultz become the single point of failure the moment their vision never gets built into a lasting system.What Warren Buffett and Ken Lay's nearly identical hiring philosophy reveals about the real difference between healthy autonomy and abandonment, and why only one of those companies still exists.The three questions Dr. Traci wants every leader to ask under pressure to name their default leadership style, the trait it is overusing, and the style their team actually needs from them. We talk about: 00:00 Why the same leadership trait can create the wrong impact 01:29 Meet Dr. Traci and the Got Your SiX mission 02:49 Leadership traits are not the same as leadership styles 09:07 Autocratic leadership and the Patton decision that ended a career 12:52 What is your team's buy-in actually worth 15:22 Transactional leadership and the General Motors reputation problem 18:52 When inspiration turns into exhaustion 21:27 Mandela, Schultz, and what happens when vision has no system 25:47 Buffett, Ken Lay, and the leadership style everyone misreads 29:32 How does confidence change depending on your leadership style 35:38 Three questions to find your default leadership style 38:41 How to get the free Inside Out Leadership book and workbook Resources: Bring one thing you took from this episode to a free 20 minute collaborative call with Dr. Traci, and her book Inside Out Leadership: Transforming Your Life from the Core, plus the companion workbook, are yours at no cost: https://drtraci.erbusinessconsulting.com/mission-check-in-call Connect with me Leadership Call: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/coaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-traci-55410868/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrTraciER/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtraci_battletested/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gotyoursixpodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@erbusinessconsulting Website: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/ Email: info@erbusinessconsulting.com #LeadershipStyles #LeadershipTraits #BattleTestedLeadership #GotYourSiX #ComposedOperator #LeadershipDevelopment #MilitaryLeadership #SituationalLeadership #SelfAwareLeadership #AutocraticLeadership #DemocraticLeadership #TransformationalLeadership #TransactionalLeadership #LaissezFaireLeadership #InsideOutLeadership #LeadershipUnderPressure #ExecutiveLeadership #WomenInLeadership #VeteranLeadership #LeadershipPodcast

    Your Leadership Style Is Shaping Your Leadership Traits | Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn

  3. Sep 15

    Change Doesn't Wait for You to Be Ready with Dr. Douglas Lindsay | Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn

    Identity after change is the part nobody schedules for. The role gets restructured, the company sells, the career you gave twenty years to ends on somebody else's timeline, the house goes quiet. Every piece of advice you get after that is about the calendar, update the resume, find the next thing, fill the week. None of it touches the real question, which is who you are once the thing that used to answer that question for you is behind you. Dr. Douglas R. Lindsay, Lt Col (Ret), USAF, has crossed this gap more than once and spent a career studying what happens inside it. Twenty-two years in uniform, a PhD in the psychology of how leaders actually get built, editor of the peer-reviewed Journal of Character and Leadership Development, and now deputy editor at Military.com and founder of Next Mission Leadership, where he coaches leaders at organizations including Walmart and ExxonMobil. He and Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn get into why looking backward feels so much easier than looking forward, which of your patterns are worth carrying into whatever comes next, and what retrospective versus prospective identity actually means for a leader standing in the middle of change. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why change is an identity question dressed as a logistics problem, and why filling the calendar is real work that still is not the work.Why the patterns that made you effective never came from your title, and why they are the most portable asset you carry into whatever comes next.The difference between retrospective identity, which is finished and knowable, and prospective identity, which is neither, and why looking backward always feels easier.What Dr. Douglas Lindsay's peer-reviewed research on courage, stress, and resilience says the leadership industry gets wrong.Why Next Mission Leadership is built on the idea that leadership is defined by how you perform next, not by what you have already done.Doug's argument that organizations should maintain their people the way they maintain equipment, on a schedule and before something breaks.Why the one-thing rule on Dr. Traci's free collaborative call filters for people who actually engaged with the episode, not just the free book. We talk about: 00:00 Change tests your patterns, not your plan 00:03:00 Welcome to Got Your SiX with Dr. Traci 00:04:15 Meet Dr. Douglas Lindsay, a career built like scaffolding not a ladder 00:10:53 What is actually pulling you toward this work 00:13:26 Which turn in his career was hardest, and why 00:17:04 Why he named it Next Mission, not a second act 00:20:38 What is the change actually asking of you 00:36:00 Choose your hard, staying versus taking the risk 00:44:00 Why looking backward feels easier than looking forward 00:47:13 One leadership truth to take with you today 00:53:07 Bring one thing, get the book and workbook free Resources: Bring one thing you took from this episode to a free 20 minute collaborative call with Dr. Traci, and her book Inside Out Leadership: Transforming Your Life from the Core, plus the companion workbook, are yours at no cost: https://drtraci.erbusinessconsulting.com/mission-check-in-call Connect with Doug LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/douglaslindsayphd/Author page: https://www.military.com/author/douglas-lindsayWebsite: https://www.nextmissionleadership.com/ Connect with me Leadership Call: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/coaching/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-traci-55410868/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrTraciER/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtraci_battletested/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gotyoursixpodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@erbusinessconsultingWebsite: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/Email: info@erbusinessconsulting.com #LeadingThroughChange #IdentityAndChange #LeadershipPodcast #ChangeManagement #ExecutiveLeadership #ResilientLeadership #BattleTestedLeadership #ComposedOperator #LeadershipDevelopment #CareerTransition #NextMissionLeadership #LeadershipResearch #ChangeReadiness #SelfLeadership #PersonalGrowth #LeadershipMindset #TransitionCoaching #GotYourSiX

    Change Doesn't Wait for You to Be Ready with Dr. Douglas Lindsay | Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn

  4. Sep 8

    Traits vs Skills in Leadership | Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn

    Leadership traits are the automatic behaviors you default to when there is no time to decide, not the impressive qualities listed on a job posting. If you have ever watched a confident, articulate leader run a team where nobody knows what is going on, you have already seen the gap between an impression and a trait. Job postings ask for charisma, commanding presence, and strong communication because those things are visible from across a room in the first ninety seconds. None of that tells you what a person does the morning the numbers come back wrong or the moment their best person resigns. Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn, a retired U.S. Army officer and founder of E&R Business Consulting, walks through the traits everyone lists, integrity, vision, decisiveness, communication, and accountability, then shows why the definition most leaders carry for each one is only the easy half. She introduces uphill accountability, the harder half most leaders never practice, and two traits rarely discussed anywhere else: containment, the ability to absorb pressure without passing it down to your team, and the willingness to be disliked. Using her Battle-Tested Leadership methodology, she gives you one simple exercise to build a single trait through deliberate repetition this week. Pick the trait you skipped past while listening, and go find the situation that requires it. In this episode, you’ll discover: Learn the actual definition of a leadership trait, and why it is completely different from a leadership skill you can rehearse and perform on command.Discover why integrity in leadership is structural, and why your team is not testing your honesty, they are testing what you do when honesty gets expensive.Find out why vision is not prediction or enthusiasm, and how to hold a clear direction while the plan, the market, and your team keep shifting under it.Understand why decisiveness has nothing to do with speed, and why owning the outcome of a choice matters more than how fast you made it.Hear why accountability has to run uphill toward your own mistakes, not just downhill toward your team, or your people will stop bringing you problems early.Learn what containment and restraint actually require, and why absorbing pressure without dumping it on your team is a trait, not a personality type.Get the one exercise that builds a leadership trait through repetition under pressure, instead of reading about ten traits you will never practice. We talk about: 00:00 What job postings get wrong about leadership 03:27 Meet Dr. Traci and Battle-Tested Leadership 04:16 What is a leadership trait, really 07:19 Why integrity in leadership is structural 09:32 What vision actually requires under pressure 12:15 Is decisiveness about speed or something else 15:25 Why articulate leaders still fail at communication 17:39 Accountability running uphill instead of downhill 21:13 What containment means under pressure 24:37 Why restraint stops you from becoming the bottleneck 26:15 The willingness to be disliked as a leadership trait 33:00 How to build one leadership trait this week Resources: Dr. Traci’s Battle-Tested Leadership Action Plan: https://drtraci.erbusinessconsulting.com/battle-tested-leadership-action-plan Connect with me Leadership Call: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/coaching/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-traci-55410868/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrTraciER/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtraci_battletested/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gotyoursixpodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@erbusinessconsultingWebsite: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/Email: info@erbusinessconsulting.com #LeadershipTraits #BattleTestedLeadership #LeadershipDevelopment #ExecutiveLeadership #MilitaryLeadership #AccountabilityInLeadership #DecisiveLeadership #LeadershipUnderPressure #IntegrityInLeadership #VisionaryLeadership #PsychologicalSafety #ConsistencyInLeadership #RestraintInLeadership #ContainmentLeadership #WillingnessToBeDisliked #TraitsOfALeader #BusinessLeadership #TeamAccountability #LeadershipPodcast #GotYourSixPodcast

    Traits vs Skills in Leadership | Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn

  5. Sep 1

    Leading Without Rank at Gettysburg | Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn

    Leadership lessons from Gettysburg reveal something most leaders never get told: rank never made a single person a leader on that battlefield. In this episode of Got Your SiX, Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn walks the actual grounds of Gettysburg with her husband Michael to unpack battle tested leadership, decision making under pressure, and what happens when you're leading through your own smoke, the moments at work when you can't see clearly and no one can hear you. If you've ever wondered whether your title is doing the leading for you instead of you, this episode answers that question on the same ground where it got decided in 1863. You'll hear what Colonel Strong Vincent, General Meade, and a staff engineer with no troops of his own actually did when the chain of command broke down, and why Lincoln's 270 words outlasted Edward Everett's two-hour speech at the Gettysburg cemetery dedication. Dr. Traci also opens up about her book, Inside Out Leadership: Transforming Your Life from the Core, and its companion workbook, both free to anyone who books a collaborative call and shares one thing that landed from this episode. Walk this battlefield with her, then ask yourself what your people would actually follow if you couldn't shout over the noise. In this episode, you’ll discover: Leadership lessons from Gettysburg start here: a staff engineer with no troops of his own saw the Union's undefended flank, commandeered a hill on his own authority, and held it.How Colonel Strong Vincent intercepted an order meant for someone else, told his bugler he would take responsibility himself, and moved his brigade to that hill without waiting for permission.What General Meade faced after being woken at 3am and told he now commanded 90,000 men, just three days before the battle that would decide the war began.Why the drummer boys and flag carriers on the battlefield mattered as much as any general, and how their signals worked like the radios you rely on today.What gunpowder smoke actually did to soldiers in 1863, and why they ended up firing at movement in a cloud instead of an enemy they could actually see.Why Lincoln's two-minute Gettysburg Address is remembered and Edward Everett's two-hour speech from the same platform is not, and what that says about leadership communication.The story of Jennie Wade, the only civilian killed during the Gettysburg battle, and what her death in her own kitchen says about selfless service. We talk about: 00:00 What leading in the smoke really means for you 00:42 Why powder smoke made officers lose sight of their own men 02:00 Welcome to Got Your SiX and the Battle-Tested Leadership Methodology 04:13 Recording live on the Gettysburg battlefield with Michael 06:43 Why drummer boys as young as eight carried the beat of battle 10:27 Standing on Cemetery Hill and why the high ground mattered 12:55 The moment that marked the surrender of Lee's army 14:05 How musket and cannon smoke turned soldiers into shapes in a cloud 16:03 Why rank never made the leaders who mattered at Gettysburg 20:16 The one civilian who died during the Gettysburg battle 24:39 Visiting the Jennie Wade House and her story of service 29:01 Why leadership was never about rank, then or in your job now Resources: Dr. Traci’s Battle-Tested Leadership Action Plan: https://drtraci.erbusinessconsulting.com/battle-tested-leadership-action-plan Connect with me Leadership Call: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/coaching/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-traci-55410868/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrTraciER/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtraci_battletested/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gotyoursixpodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@erbusinessconsultingWebsite: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/Email: info@erbusinessconsulting.com #LeadershipPodcast #BattleTestedLeadership #GotYourSix #GettysburgLeadership #MilitaryLeadership #LeadershipLessons #LeadershipDevelopment #LeadershipWithoutRank #LeadershipUnderPressure #VeteranLeadership #BusinessLeadership #ExecutiveCoaching #LeadershipCoach #DecisionMakingUnderPressure #ChaosToClarity #InsideOutLeadership #CivilWarHistory #ServantLeadership #WomenInLeadership #GotYourSixPodcast

    Leading Without Rank at Gettysburg | Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn

  6. Aug 25

    You Don't Need a Title to Lead | Joy Hutter and Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn

    Servant leadership means showing up for your community long before anyone hands you a title, and Joy Hutter, executive director of the Greater Crofton Chamber of Commerce, is proof of it. On this episode of Got Your SiX, Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn sits down with Joy to unpack what years of unpaid, unnoticed community work actually build: the credibility, trust, and relationships that get you asked to lead before you ever ask for the job. If you have ever wondered whether volunteering counts as a leadership strategy, this conversation answers that directly. Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn, retired U.S. Army officer, founder of E&R Business Consulting, and creator of the Battle-Tested Leadership Methodology, walks through Joy's path from joining her local chamber in 2008 to running it. You'll hear how 19 years connecting Chick-fil-A restaurants to their community through the Passport to Serve initiative shaped Joy's approach, and how she grew the Crofton chamber to 200-plus members and 140-plus vendors at the Festival on the Green. Joy shares her practical answer for anyone who wants to get more involved, what to do if your town has no chamber at all, and why she believes real leaders have to be willing to clean the toilet. Stop waiting for permission and start building the kind of trust that gets you asked to lead. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why credibility gets earned in the unpaid hours nobody is tracking, and how that history is exactly what gets you asked to lead when a community needs someone.How Joy Hutter turned volunteering into a strategy, joining her local chamber in 2008 and building the relationships that eventually led to her executive director role.What "date your chamber" means in practice, and how a chamber of commerce can become your fastest path into community leadership if you're new to a town.Why Joy treats AI as an extra team member so a two-person chamber staff can still put one-on-one relationships first with every new member.The exact sponsor conversation that forced Joy to fix a stale event lineup, growing it into 140-plus vendors at the Festival on the Green.Why leadership isn't about the label you're given but the trust you build day after day, one relationship and one act of service at a time.Joy's test for whether a leader has actually earned the right to be followed: are you willing to clean the toilet yourself. We talk about: 00:00 Why titles are given but leadership is earned 02:16 Meet Joy Hutter, executive director of the Greater Crofton Chamber 05:05 How volunteering became Joy's declared hobby 06:20 19 years connecting Chick-fil-A to the community 09:00 Why you should date your chamber before you commit 15:18 What do you do when a sponsor calls you out on your event 20:27 How the executive director title finally shifted Joy's role 22:00 Using AI to protect one-on-one relationships 26:08 Chamber of commerce or BNI, which one is right for you 28:52 One practical step to build community roots this week 32:24 Joy's one piece of advice, don't be afraid to clean the toilet Resources: Dr. Traci’s Battle-Tested Leadership Action Plan: https://drtraci.erbusinessconsulting.com/battle-tested-leadership-action-plan Connect with Joy LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joy-hutter-a4139a18/Website: https://www.croftonchamber.com/ Connect with me Leadership Call: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/coaching/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-traci-55410868/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrTraciER/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtraci_battletested/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gotyoursixpodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@erbusinessconsultingWebsite: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/Email: info@erbusinessconsulting.com #ServantLeadership #CommunityLeadership #BattleTestedLeadership #ChamberOfCommerce #VolunteerLeadership #LeadWithTrust #SmallBusinessCommunity #LeadershipDevelopment #WomenInLeadership #EarnedNotGiven #CommunityInvolvement #NonprofitLeadership #NetworkingStrategy #TrustBasedLeadership #GotYourSix #LeadershipPodcast

    You Don't Need a Title to Lead | Joy Hutter and Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn

  7. Aug 18

    Who’s Got Your SiX?

    You are always the one holding everything together. But when the weight becomes too heavy, who is holding you? In this solo episode of Got Your SiX, Dr. Traci asks leaders, business owners, high performers, and habitual problem-solvers a question they may not know how to answer: Who has your six? In military terminology, your “six” is the position directly behind you, the one place you physically cannot see or protect by yourself. Yet many leaders leave that structure behind and build lives in which everyone depends on them, while they depend on no one. Drawing from a deeply personal season in her military career, Dr. Traci reveals what happened when she became the person who could always handle one more responsibility. While supporting her colleagues, caring for her hospitalized husband, travelling hours to be present for her children, and continuing to lead, she created a reputation for being fine even when she was quietly reaching her breaking point. This episode explores why high-performing leaders struggle to ask for help, how self-reliance can become a dangerous identity, and why building a support system for leaders is an operational necessity, not a sign of weakness. Dr. Traci also explains why relying on your team or family to absorb your unfiltered stress can shift the emotional burden onto the very people you are trying to protect. You will walk away with four practical steps for finding peer-level support, making your first honest ask, and creating a structure that allows someone else to watch the place you cannot see. Because asking for help is not where leadership ends. It is one of the most important leadership skills you can model. In this episode, you’ll discover: What “I’ve got your six” really means and why no one can cover their own six.How being known as the reliable one can quietly become an exhausting identity.Why people may not offer support when you have taught them to believe you are always fine.How leaders become a single point of failure in their businesses, teams, and families.Why an unsupported leader can eventually become an unpredictable leader.The difference between authentic vulnerability and transferring your emotional load.Why your team and family may not be equipped to provide the support you need.How asking for help demonstrates leadership rather than diminishing it.Why finding peer-level support may require changing the room you are in.Four practical steps for building a genuine support system before burnout takes over. We talk about: 00:00 Intro 00:42 Who has your back when everything falls apart? 02:44 What “I’ve got your six” actually means 04:26 How leaders become known as the one who always handles it 05:43 When “I’ll figure it out” becomes an identity 06:00 The military assignment that left Dr. Traci without support 08:00 Reaching the breaking point and finally asking for help 10:00 Why nobody checks on the person who always appears fine 10:59 The danger of becoming a single point of failure 12:57 How an uncovered leader becomes an unpredictable leader 14:13 Why your team and family cannot always be your six 18:02 Asking for support is not a sign of structural damage 20:55 Four steps for building a support system for leaders Resources: Dr. Traci’s Battle-Tested Leadership Action Plan: https://drtraci.erbusinessconsulting.com/battle-tested-leadership-action-plan Connect with me Leadership Call: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/coaching/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-traci-55410868/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrTraciER/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtraci_battletested/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gotyoursixpodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@erbusinessconsultingWebsite: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/Email: info@erbusinessconsulting.com #LeadershipSupport #SupportSystemForLeaders #LeadershipDevelopment #LeadershipBurnout #LeadershipResilience #ExecutiveLeadership #AskingForHelp #PeerSupport #StrongLeaders #SelfLeadership #LeadershipWellness #BusinessLeadership #LeadershipCoaching #WomenInLeadership #VeteranLeadership #MilitaryLeadership #BattleTestedLeadership #GotYourSiX

    Who’s Got Your SiX?

  8. Aug 11

    How to Become a Leader That People Never Forget | Detria Austin Everson

    Would people still follow you if your title disappeared tomorrow? In this episode of Got Your SiX, Detria challenges one of the most persistent myths about leadership: that authority creates influence. Titles may give leaders power on paper, but trust, loyalty, and lasting impact are earned through service. Drawing on more than two decades of leadership across the nonprofit, healthcare, housing, corporate, and financial sectors, Detria explains why servant leadership is not soft, passive, or incompatible with accountability. It is an intentional leadership practice that puts people first while still expecting them to perform, grow, and contribute to the mission. You will also hear why serving yourself is not selfish, how leaders can hold people accountable without abandoning compassion, and the simple act you can take today that may give someone the strength to keep going. Discover why the strongest leaders do not lead from above. They serve from within. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why servant leadership creates more influence than status, rank, or authority ever could.How servant leadership strengthens trust, loyalty, relationships, and organizational performance.Why serving others does not mean lowering expectations, avoiding difficult conversations, or allowing yourself to be overlooked.How accountability becomes easier to accept when people trust that their leader has their best interests in mind.How leaders can use their influence in service to others, even without a large platform or public recognition.Why legacy is built through the way you show up every day, not only through achievements that can be measured. We talk about: 00:00 Would people follow you without your title? 02:21 Meet Detria and the mission behind Serving Is a Superpower 06:04 Why leadership is a service, not a status 07:30 The example that first shaped Detria’s leadership 09:51 Authority, trust, and the actions people are watching 12:45 Why service creates more influence than power 14:49 Servant leadership does not mean being soft 17:35 Holding people accountable while putting them first 18:35 The story behind Serving Is a Superpower 22:05 Grief, purpose, and the decision to finish the book 25:12 Building a legacy that cannot always be quantified 28:43 Why serving yourself is vital, not selfish 33:41 Small acts of service that can change someone’s day Resources: Learn more about Detria and Serving Is a Superpower: www.servingisasuperpower.comServing Is a Superpower by Detria Austin Everson is available through Amazon, Kindle, and major booksellers.Dr. Traci’s Battle-Tested Leadership Action Plan: https://drtraci.erbusinessconsulting.com/battle-tested-leadership-action-plan Connect with Detria Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/detriaaustineverson/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/detria.everson/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/detriaaustineverson/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@detriaaustineversonWebsite: www.servingisasuperpower.com Connect with me Leadership Call: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/coaching/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-traci-55410868/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrTraciER/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtraci_battletested/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gotyoursixpodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@erbusinessconsultingWebsite: https://www.erbusinessconsulting.com/Email: info@erbusinessconsulting.com #ServantLeadership #ServiceBasedLeadership #LeadershipDevelopment #LeadershipInfluence #LeadershipAccountability #LeadershipTrust #PeopleFirstLeadership #LeadByExample #EmployeeEngagement #LeadershipLegacy #PurposeDrivenLeadership #SelfLeadership #WomenInLeadership #VeteranLeadership #BattleTestedLeadership #ServingIsASuperpower #GotYourSiX

    How to Become a Leader That People Never Forget | Detria Austin Everson
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Are you leading from Strategic Altitude, or have you become the "designated shock absorber" for everyone else's chaos? Welcome to Got Your Six, the podcast for senior leaders and business owners who are tired of carrying the weight of the "cape" alone. Hosted by Dr. Traci Eisenberg-Rayburn, a retired Army Officer and high-level Leadership Consultant, this show provides a tactical intervention for those who have the title but are operating in survival mode. We move beyond "fluffy" leadership theory to deliver battle-tested strategies that work in the real world... from the commander’s table to the kitchen table. Whether you’re navigating high-stakes business pivots, managing organizational culture, or trying to reclaim your presence at home, Dr. Traci offers the "Operational Blueprint" you need to lead with sustainable clarity. Because leadership is not forged in comfort - it is forged in responsibility, awareness, and follow-through. Press play to stop "powering through" and start leading from a place of regulated, unshakeable confidence. And remember, we've got your six!

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