What You Took Back Podcast

Skye Underhill
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Most people aren’t living unconsciously — they’re living conditioned. They’ve adapted. Softened. Over-functioned. Stayed agreeable. Played roles that once kept the peace but slowly cost them their authority. This podcast is about taking that authority back. Through sharp insights, honest reflection, and practical frameworks like the Power Receipt Method™, each episode challenges approval patterns, emotional reactivity, weak boundaries, and borrowed identities — replacing them with clarity, standards, and internal leadership. This isn’t self-help in soft focus. It’s structured self-reclamation. If you’re ready to stop performing and start operating from your own centre, you’re in the right place.

  1. 4d ago

    Episode. 34 Apparently, We're Doing Midlife Wrong?

    When did midlife become a performance review? By our forties and fifties, we're apparently meant to have the body, the relationship, the career, the financial security and the hormonal balance all sorted. Meanwhile, there's an endless stream of diets, detoxes, wellness trends and advice telling us what we should be fixing next. In this episode, Skye explores the pressure women face to look a certain way, stay relevant and have life figured out by a particular age. She shares a funny, all-too-relatable story about going from being the woman getting checked out in the car to the mum sitting beside her gorgeous adult daughter — and reflects on the sense of loss and uncertainty she noticed in her own mum. Underneath the humour is a bigger question: what happens when we don't know where life is heading, so we start following everyone else's directions? This is a conversation about ageing, identity, changing expectations and the difference between choosing the life you want and constantly trying to prove you're doing well. If nobody else could see your life or judge your choices, what would you actually want for yourself? Want to visit the power receipt method link here w: whatyoutookback.com e: hello@whatyoutookback.info

  2. Oct 20

    Episode. 33 You Don't Have to Be Ready To Begin.

    Have you ever wanted to do something for so long that you've almost talked yourself out of it before you've even started? In Episode 33, I'm reflecting on a conversation at the gym that sent me back to Episode 1 of this podcast. Listening to where I started compared with where I am now was a reminder of just how much we can learn when we give ourselves a chance. Building What You Took Back hasn't been a straight line. I've had to learn about podcasting, websites, marketing, selling and plenty of things I never expected to be figuring out. I'm still learning, still building and still working towards the business I want. But I wouldn't have made it to Episode 33 if I'd decided Episode 1 wasn't good enough. And it got me thinking about how often we do the same thing in our own lives. We wait until we're more confident, more experienced, less busy or absolutely certain we're going to get it right. We compare our beginning with someone else's years of experience and convince ourselves we're not ready. In this episode, we're talking about starting before you feel ready, trying new things at any age, learning as you go and recognising progress even when you haven't reached the outcome you're working towards. You don't need a five-year plan or a guarantee of success. Sometimes you just need to give yourself the chance to find out. So, what have you been waiting to feel ready for?   www.whatyoutookback.com

  3. Oct 13

    Episode. 32 Maybe You Don't Hate Sex. Maybe You Hate Your Sex Life.

    Have you ever wondered whether you’ve lost your sex drive, or whether something about your sex life just isn’t working for you anymore? Maybe you’re exhausted. Maybe you feel disconnected. Maybe sex has become another thing on the list of things you’re expected to do. Or maybe you’ve reached a point where you’re questioning what you actually want. Along the way, you’ve started wondering whether something is wrong with you. But what if you don’t actually hate sex? What if you hate the pressure, the expectations, the lack of connection, or the feeling that your own needs have somehow slipped to the bottom of the list? In this episode of the What You Took Back™ Podcast, we open up an honest conversation about sex, desire, intimacy and the things women can find difficult to say out loud. Not to tell you what your sex life should look like. Not to make you feel guilty for wanting more, wanting less or not knowing what you want at all. But to make space for a different question: What do you actually want? Because taking your power back includes being honest with yourself about your own body, your boundaries, your desires and what feels right for you. No shame. No pressure. Just an honest conversation about something that deserves more honesty. What You Took Back™ — Take it back. Then go live it.   www.whatyoutookback.com

  4. Oct 6

    Episode. 31 You Know. So Why Do you Keep Doing It?

    You know you're carrying too much. Your friends have told you. Your body has told you. You've probably told yourself on a few exhausted nights. You still pick up the bowl, remake the bed, organise the holiday, and fix the thing that wasn't asked of you. In Episode 31, Skye asks a different question: not why women carry so much, but why we keep carrying it when we know it's hurting us. Through a conversation with a friend who said, "If I don't do it, it won't get done," and her own years as the self-appointed Director of Vacuuming Standards, Skye unpacks why knowing isn't always enough to change a pattern. In this episode: Why "just stop" never works when the load has become part of how you see yourself The brick wall you keep banging your head against, and why you do it anyway Who told you it was your duty, and when taking care of everyone became the price of being a good woman The difference between responsibility and over-responsibility The 30-second pause between the urge and the action The two questions to ask in that pause: "What am I afraid will happen if I don't do this?" and "Is the consequence actually mine?" Why being uncomfortable and being responsible are two different things This week's take back: The One Thing You Don't Fix Sometimes taking yourself back isn't about adding one more thing to your list. Sometimes it's simply not doing. So leave the pillow crooked, and ask yourself: what are you willing to put down? 🎧 New episodes every Wednesday. Here Free: the Power Leak Checklist™ at whatyoutookback.com Take it back. Then go live it.

  5. Sep 29

    Episode. 30 The batsh*t truth about modern motherhood.

    It's 5:15 a.m.; Skye has a squat weight on, and then her back goes. That's how this episode starts, and it's a pretty fitting warm-up for a conversation about how much we do, how much we compare, and how hard it is to stop. In Episode 30, Skye gets honest about the batsh*t truth of modern motherhood: somewhere along the way, it became a competition. Nobody announced it, and nobody signed up, but here we all are, keeping score. In this episode: The footy sideline moment that showed Skye how quickly we start comparing exhaustion Who decided motherhood came with a scoreboard, and why the prize is another tired woman saying "Yeah. Me too" Why we measure ourselves against women living completely different lives Where Skye's own scoreboard began, from becoming a mum at sixteen to juggling five kids and every sports ground on the coast The woman underneath the mother, and why being needed isn't the same as being valuable A small "Try This" exercise: three things you did because you wanted to, and three you did because you thought you were supposed to Your hard doesn't cancel out mine, and mine doesn't cancel out yours. You don't have to become less of a mother to step off the scoreboard. The question to take with you: What expectation of motherhood are you ready to put down? Come find us: Website: whatyoutookback.com Join the What You Took Back community and keep taking yourself back, one piece at a time. If this episode sounded like your life, share it with another woman who needs to hear it. *Contains strong language.

  6. Sep 22

    Episode. 29 The Hard Stuff Doesn't Get The Final Word

    Last weekend I had a conversation with a friend I see most Saturdays, and I haven't stopped thinking about it. She's fought cancer twice, had a stroke, gone through seven years of menopause with no medication to help, lost her daughter to suicide, and left a marriage after twenty-five years — and she's one of the happiest, most switched-on people I know. Closing out the Survival Mode series, this episode goes into her story, what real psychology says about resilience and growth after trauma, and practical tools for the moments it all feels like too much — plus a reminder that your path is yours to set, and nobody else's opinion gets a vote. This isn't about pretending the hard stuff doesn't happen. It's about what's still yours once it has. Ready to figure out what's actually draining you before you can build anything back? Take the free Power Leak Checklist™ and start identifying where your power's been quietly slipping away → [link] And if this episode has you ready to go deeper, the Power Receipt Method™ is where you turn what you've survived into proof of what you're capable of. Learn more inside What You Took Back → whatyoutookback.com

    Episode. 29 The Hard Stuff Doesn't Get The Final Word

  7. Sep 15

    Episode. 28 Women, Money and What's Left When It's All Gone.

    We are all two weeks away from becoming homeless. I heard my university lecturer say that years ago and thought, surely not me. Surely not the women I know. I was wrong. This episode started with a conversation with a 56-year-old friend going through a divorce after more than 20 years of marriage. She has worked most of her life, yet now finds herself without a home or car, living with her niece while she works out what comes next. It made me think about how quickly a life we believe is secure can change. This isn't an episode about blaming men. It isn't about telling women to leave their relationships. And it isn't about living in fear. It's about knowing your own life. Do you know every account you have? Do you know the debt? Do you know what's happening with your super? Do you know where the important documents are? Do you know what would happen if your circumstances changed tomorrow? I've been on the other side of that question myself. I know what financial free-fall feels like, and I know the shame that can come with suddenly needing help. So this conversation is serious — but it's also about something much more useful than fear. Self-trust. Awareness. A foothold. It could be your mother. Your sister. Your aunt. Your best friend. It could be you. Sometimes taking yourself back doesn't look dramatic. Sometimes it looks like finally knowing exactly where you stand. What You Took Back™ Take it back. Then go live it.   www.whatyoutookback.com

    Episode. 28 Women, Money and What's Left When It's All Gone.

  8. Sep 8

    Episode. 27 "The Woman Who Carries Everyone."

    Episode 27: The Woman Who Carries Everyone (Emotional Load) If you're the one everyone hands their feelings to — this episode is for you. Most women carry an emotional load nobody ever names: reading the room, smoothing things over, tracking everyone's needs before working out their own. It's not a personality trait. It's a job you were handed without ever being asked, and you've never once clocked out. I get specific about a moment with my own adult kids — a family holiday, an incident, and the choice to do absolutely nothing about it for the first time—no fixing, no managing, no absorbing. Nobody was hurt. The collapse I'd been protecting everyone from for years simply never happened. If you're ready to see exactly where you're still carrying weight that was never yours, take the Power Leak Checklist™: Click on the link here What Will you be taking back? 🎙️

    Episode. 27 "The Woman Who Carries Everyone."
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Most people aren’t living unconsciously — they’re living conditioned. They’ve adapted. Softened. Over-functioned. Stayed agreeable. Played roles that once kept the peace but slowly cost them their authority. This podcast is about taking that authority back. Through sharp insights, honest reflection, and practical frameworks like the Power Receipt Method™, each episode challenges approval patterns, emotional reactivity, weak boundaries, and borrowed identities — replacing them with clarity, standards, and internal leadership. This isn’t self-help in soft focus. It’s structured self-reclamation. If you’re ready to stop performing and start operating from your own centre, you’re in the right place.

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  • Creator
    Skye Underhill
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    34
  • Rating
    Explicit
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