What You Took Back Podcast

Skye Underhill
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Most people aren’t living unconsciously — they’re living conditioned. They’ve adapted. Softened. Over-functioned. Stayed agreeable. Played roles that once kept the peace but slowly cost them their authority. This podcast is about taking that authority back. Through sharp insights, honest reflection, and practical frameworks like the Power Receipt Method™, each episode challenges approval patterns, emotional reactivity, weak boundaries, and borrowed identities — replacing them with clarity, standards, and internal leadership. This isn’t self-help in soft focus. It’s structured self-reclamation. If you’re ready to stop performing and start operating from your own centre, you’re in the right place.

  1. 5d ago

    Episode. 31 You Know. So Why Do you Keep Doing It?

    You know you're carrying too much. Your friends have told you. Your body has told you. You've probably told yourself on a few exhausted nights. You still pick up the bowl, remake the bed, organise the holiday, and fix the thing that wasn't asked of you. In Episode 31, Skye asks a different question: not why women carry so much, but why we keep carrying it when we know it's hurting us. Through a conversation with a friend who said, "If I don't do it, it won't get done," and her own years as the self-appointed Director of Vacuuming Standards, Skye unpacks why knowing isn't always enough to change a pattern. In this episode: Why "just stop" never works when the load has become part of how you see yourself The brick wall you keep banging your head against, and why you do it anyway Who told you it was your duty, and when taking care of everyone became the price of being a good woman The difference between responsibility and over-responsibility The 30-second pause between the urge and the action The two questions to ask in that pause: "What am I afraid will happen if I don't do this?" and "Is the consequence actually mine?" Why being uncomfortable and being responsible are two different things This week's take back: The One Thing You Don't Fix Sometimes taking yourself back isn't about adding one more thing to your list. Sometimes it's simply not doing. So leave the pillow crooked, and ask yourself: what are you willing to put down? 🎧 New episodes every Wednesday. Here Free: the Power Leak Checklist™ at whatyoutookback.com Take it back. Then go live it.

  2. Sep 29

    Episode. 30 The batsh*t truth about modern motherhood.

    It's 5:15 a.m.; Skye has a squat weight on, and then her back goes. That's how this episode starts, and it's a pretty fitting warm-up for a conversation about how much we do, how much we compare, and how hard it is to stop. In Episode 30, Skye gets honest about the batsh*t truth of modern motherhood: somewhere along the way, it became a competition. Nobody announced it, and nobody signed up, but here we all are, keeping score. In this episode: The footy sideline moment that showed Skye how quickly we start comparing exhaustion Who decided motherhood came with a scoreboard, and why the prize is another tired woman saying "Yeah. Me too" Why we measure ourselves against women living completely different lives Where Skye's own scoreboard began, from becoming a mum at sixteen to juggling five kids and every sports ground on the coast The woman underneath the mother, and why being needed isn't the same as being valuable A small "Try This" exercise: three things you did because you wanted to, and three you did because you thought you were supposed to Your hard doesn't cancel out mine, and mine doesn't cancel out yours. You don't have to become less of a mother to step off the scoreboard. The question to take with you: What expectation of motherhood are you ready to put down? Come find us: Website: whatyoutookback.com Join the What You Took Back community and keep taking yourself back, one piece at a time. If this episode sounded like your life, share it with another woman who needs to hear it. *Contains strong language.

  3. Sep 22

    Episode. 29 The Hard Stuff Doesn't Get The Final Word

    Last weekend I had a conversation with a friend I see most Saturdays, and I haven't stopped thinking about it. She's fought cancer twice, had a stroke, gone through seven years of menopause with no medication to help, lost her daughter to suicide, and left a marriage after twenty-five years — and she's one of the happiest, most switched-on people I know. Closing out the Survival Mode series, this episode goes into her story, what real psychology says about resilience and growth after trauma, and practical tools for the moments it all feels like too much — plus a reminder that your path is yours to set, and nobody else's opinion gets a vote. This isn't about pretending the hard stuff doesn't happen. It's about what's still yours once it has. Ready to figure out what's actually draining you before you can build anything back? Take the free Power Leak Checklist™ and start identifying where your power's been quietly slipping away → [link] And if this episode has you ready to go deeper, the Power Receipt Method™ is where you turn what you've survived into proof of what you're capable of. Learn more inside What You Took Back → whatyoutookback.com

    Episode. 29 The Hard Stuff Doesn't Get The Final Word

  4. Sep 15

    Episode. 28 Women, Money and What's Left When It's All Gone.

    We are all two weeks away from becoming homeless. I heard my university lecturer say that years ago and thought, surely not me. Surely not the women I know. I was wrong. This episode started with a conversation with a 56-year-old friend going through a divorce after more than 20 years of marriage. She has worked most of her life, yet now finds herself without a home or car, living with her niece while she works out what comes next. It made me think about how quickly a life we believe is secure can change. This isn't an episode about blaming men. It isn't about telling women to leave their relationships. And it isn't about living in fear. It's about knowing your own life. Do you know every account you have? Do you know the debt? Do you know what's happening with your super? Do you know where the important documents are? Do you know what would happen if your circumstances changed tomorrow? I've been on the other side of that question myself. I know what financial free-fall feels like, and I know the shame that can come with suddenly needing help. So this conversation is serious — but it's also about something much more useful than fear. Self-trust. Awareness. A foothold. It could be your mother. Your sister. Your aunt. Your best friend. It could be you. Sometimes taking yourself back doesn't look dramatic. Sometimes it looks like finally knowing exactly where you stand. What You Took Back™ Take it back. Then go live it.   www.whatyoutookback.com

    Episode. 28 Women, Money and What's Left When It's All Gone.

  5. Sep 8

    Episode. 27 "The Woman Who Carries Everyone."

    Episode 27: The Woman Who Carries Everyone (Emotional Load) If you're the one everyone hands their feelings to — this episode is for you. Most women carry an emotional load nobody ever names: reading the room, smoothing things over, tracking everyone's needs before working out their own. It's not a personality trait. It's a job you were handed without ever being asked, and you've never once clocked out. I get specific about a moment with my own adult kids — a family holiday, an incident, and the choice to do absolutely nothing about it for the first time—no fixing, no managing, no absorbing. Nobody was hurt. The collapse I'd been protecting everyone from for years simply never happened. If you're ready to see exactly where you're still carrying weight that was never yours, take the Power Leak Checklist™: Click on the link here What Will you be taking back? 🎙️

    Episode. 27 "The Woman Who Carries Everyone."

  6. Sep 1

    Episode. 26 "Survival Mode: The Woman Who Looks Fine Isn't Fine"

    Episode 26: Survival Mode — The Woman Who Looks Fine Isn't Fine You can look completely fine and be completely hollowed out at the same time. This episode opens our September series on Survival Mode with a claim I stand behind: almost every woman 20+ is running some version of it right now — and calling it normal. I share the stretch of my own life where my mum was dying, my business still had to run, my kids still had sport every day — and the one place I let any of it show was alone in the car between one thing and the next. We get into the part most "burnout" content skips: sometimes there is no clean way out. You can't leave a dying parent. You can't leave your kids on the sideline. So what do you actually do when you have to keep going and there's no exit? How long can you keep going like that — and what changes when you stop carrying it alone? If this episode hits home, take the Power Leak Checklist™ to find out exactly where survival mode is draining you: [link] What will you be taking back? 🎙️ Skye  www.whatyoutookback.com

    Episode. 26 "Survival Mode: The Woman Who Looks Fine Isn't Fine"

  7. Aug 25

    Episode. 25 "Nobody told me I'd have to keep finding myself."

    I'm Skye. And this is What You Took Back. A podcast for women who've spent years surviving on fragments of themselves. I'm here to hand you back the whole damn thing. I thought rediscovering myself was a one-off. Find her once, hold on tight, done. I've since confirmed that's not how it works. I was a single mother first, raising my daughter and my son on my own. Then I married and had my youngest daughter inside that marriage. That marriage ended in divorce. Then I remarried, and took on my husband's two children full-time as their step-mother, while learning to co-parent my own three across two households at the same time. Four completely different chapters. Same woman underneath all of them — and every single one required me to become someone slightly different to actually do it well. This episode closes out the August series and brings in narrative identity theory, real psychology from researcher Dan McAdams, showing that people who can flexibly update their life story after a major change actually have better mental health than people who cling to one fixed version of themselves. You are not behind because you've had to rediscover yourself more than once. That's exactly what a healthy identity is supposed to do. In this episode: Why life isn't linear, and what that actually looks like lived out across four different family structures Narrative identity theory — the real research behind why revising your story is a sign of resilience, not failure Rediscovery as an ongoing practice, not a one-time project — and the single question to ask every time your life changes shape Take the free Power Leak Checklist at whatyoutookback.com/power-leak-check-list-sign-up, and if you're ready to go deeper, The Noticing and The Awakening are both built for exactly this kind of rebuilding. What will you be taking back? 🎙️   www.whatyoutookback.com

    Episode. 25 "Nobody told me I'd have to keep finding myself."

  8. Aug 18

    Episode. 24 "What Would Get You Out Of Bed If No One Needed You."

    If you didn't have anyone needing anything from you tomorrow morning, what would actually get you out of bed? Not your job, not the school run, not the list. The real version. For a lot of us, that question goes very quiet, very fast. I did all the work — found myself again, built an identity separate from wife, separate from mother, separate from everyone. And then I woke up one morning and thought, okay... now what? Turns out there's a second wall right behind the first one. I knew who I was again. I still didn't know what I was for. What actually shifted it wasn't dramatic. It was one conversation, at a kitchen table, with a woman who said, "I don't even know how to explain what's wrong. I just feel like I disappeared somewhere." That conversation — not a business plan, a kitchen table — is the honest, unglamorous reason this podcast exists. In this episode: Real research from Carleton University showing a strong sense of purpose predicts a measurably lower risk of death, regardless of age — this isn't a soft finding, it's a genuine risk factor Why purpose disappears so fast for so many women — because it was never built, it was borrowed from a role with an expiry date A two-part exercise for finding your own direction, without needing to "find your calling" by Friday Take the free Power Leak Checklist at whatyoutookback.com/power-leak-check-list-sign-up, and if you're ready to go deeper, The Noticing and The Awakening are both built for exactly this kind of rebuilding at https://whatyoutookback.com/programs/ What will you be taking back? 🎙️

    Episode. 24 "What Would Get You Out Of Bed If No One Needed You."
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Most people aren’t living unconsciously — they’re living conditioned. They’ve adapted. Softened. Over-functioned. Stayed agreeable. Played roles that once kept the peace but slowly cost them their authority. This podcast is about taking that authority back. Through sharp insights, honest reflection, and practical frameworks like the Power Receipt Method™, each episode challenges approval patterns, emotional reactivity, weak boundaries, and borrowed identities — replacing them with clarity, standards, and internal leadership. This isn’t self-help in soft focus. It’s structured self-reclamation. If you’re ready to stop performing and start operating from your own centre, you’re in the right place.

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  • Creator
    Skye Underhill
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    31
  • Rating
    Explicit
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