Still Choosing US

Omar & Yami
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 A Real Marriage Podcast with Omar & Yami.

Episodes

  1. 6d ago

    My House. My Money. My Stuff. Where Do I Fit?

    Send us Fan Mail What happens when one little word—“my”—starts creating distance in a marriage? When Omar and Yami first built a life together, Yami already had a home, furniture, children, responsibilities, and a life she had worked hard to create. Without realizing the impact, she kept saying my house, my furniture, my money, my stuff. For Yami, those words represented security and protection. For Omar, they sent a completely different message: You’re a guest here. You don’t really belong. In this deeply honest episode of Still Choosing Us, Omar and Yami unpack how past hurt, insecurity, money, possessions, age differences, and the need for self-protection quietly created a “mine versus yours” dynamic in their relationship. Omar shares what it felt like to enter the relationship with almost nothing and wonder whether he was truly an equal partner. Yami confronts the uncomfortable truth that while she thought she was protecting herself, her language was creating insecurity in the person she loved. They also explore Dr. Stan Tatkin’s concept of the “couple bubble” from Wired for Love—the intentional shift from me versus you to us versus the problem. Because building an “us” doesn’t mean losing yourself. It means creating a relationship where both people know: I belong here. If your relationship has ever struggled with my money, my house, my kids, my stuff, or keeping score over who contributes more, this conversation may hit closer to home than you expect. The question isn’t just, “What belongs to me?” It might be: “Does the person I love feel like they belong with me?”

  2. Jul 27

    The Day I Walked Away

    Send us Fan Mail  Trust isn't usually broken in a single moment, and it's rarely rebuilt by a single apology. In this deeply personal episode, Omar and Yami share one of the most painful chapters of their marriage—when Omar left for a month after an argument and the emotional impact it had for years afterward. Drawing from Dr. John Gottman's research, they explore how trust is built through everyday moments, emotional bids, and consistent actions. Whether you're trying to rebuild trust or strengthen a healthy relationship, this episode offers practical tools and the hope that healing is possible—one small choice at a time.

  3. Jul 14

    Is Love Enough?

    Send us Fan Mail Is love enough to make a marriage last? In this episode, we challenge one of the biggest relationship myths—that love alone can overcome every obstacle. Drawing from our own 18-year marriage, we share why trust, respect, communication, emotional maturity, friendship, and commitment are the real foundations of a thriving relationship. If you've ever wondered why love sometimes doesn't feel like enough, this conversation will encourage and equip you with practical steps to keep choosing each other every day.

  4. Jun 29

    The Marriage Nobody Warns You About

    Send us Fan Mail When the Honeymoon Is Over explores what really happens after the excitement of a new relationship fades. Omar and Yami share their own 18-year marriage journey, explaining why the end of the honeymoon phase isn't the end of love—it's the beginning of building something deeper. They discuss common mistakes couples make, how to navigate changing expectations, and practical ways to keep pursuing each other through trust, friendship, communication, and shared purpose.

  5. Jun 15

    Can You Hear Me Now?

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Still Choosing Us, Omar and Yami share a recent disagreement that highlights how easily communication can break down in marriage. They discuss common patterns such as criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt, while exploring practical ways to improve connection through listening, understanding, and repairing conflict more quickly. The episode reminds couples that healthy communication isn't about winning arguments—it's about protecting the relationship and helping each other feel seen and understood.

  6. Jun 2

    My Spouse Needs Subtitles

    Send us Fan Mail  Why does "I'm fine," "Do whatever you want," or "We need to talk" so often lead to misunderstandings? In this episode, Omar and Yami dive into the hidden meanings behind everyday phrases that create conflict in marriage. Through personal stories, humor, and honest conversation, they explore how assumptions, past experiences, and unspoken emotions shape communication. Learn practical ways to better understand your spouse, avoid unnecessary arguments, and strengthen your connection through clarity, grace, and laughter. Because sometimes what we mean and what our spouse hears are two very different things.

  7. May 18

    It Was Never About the Money (Part 2)

    Send us Fan Mail In Part 2 of our Money Conflict conversation, Omar shares his side of the story—how growing up in poverty shaped his relationship with money, spending, security, and identity. We unpack how financial fights in marriage are rarely about the dollars themselves, but the fears underneath them: not feeling safe, not feeling trusted, or not feeling enough. This episode is a raw, honest conversation about breaking unhealthy money patterns, understanding your spouse’s perspective, and creating honest conversations that build connection instead of conflict. Plus, we share practical reflection questions and a simple “10-minute money meeting” you can start using today.

  8. May 4

    It Was Never About the Money

    Send us Fan Mail In this deeply honest episode of Still Choosing Us, we open up about one of the biggest sources of tension in marriage: money. But what we’ve learned after years of ups and downs is this—most fights about money aren’t really about money at all. Yami shares her story of growing up with financial stability, structure, and control—and how those beliefs shaped her expectations in marriage. When life shifted into uncertainty, debt, and survival mode, fear took over, creating pressure, resentment, and emotional conflict between us. This episode unpacks the hidden fears behind financial stress—fear of instability, fear of carrying the weight alone—and how those fears silently shape the way we communicate, react, and show up for each other. We talk about real moments from our marriage, the tension between saver vs. spender, planner vs. avoider, and how misunderstanding each other’s perspective nearly broke us. But this isn’t about perfect solutions. It’s about awareness. We share simple but powerful questions that helped us start real conversations, rebuild trust, and shift from control to connection. Because the goal isn’t to agree about money…  It’s to feel safe talking about it.

  9. Apr 20

    We Didn't Fall Out of Love....We Lost Connection

    Send us Fan Mail  In this episode of Still Choosing Us, we talk about emotional disconnection in marriage — how it happens slowly through stress, parenting, responsibility, and missed moments, not because love disappears. We share part of our own story and simple ways couples can begin reconnecting again through small daily choices that help you turn back toward each other.

  10. Apr 6

    When Small Misunderstandings Turn Into Big Arguments

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Still Choosing Us, we share a real argument that happened just hours before recording — and honestly, it started over something small. A simple comment about a picnic turned into frustration, silence, and hurt feelings. But when we slowed down and talked through what actually happened, we realized the argument wasn’t about the picnic at all. It was about expectations, assumptions, and feeling misunderstood. If you’ve ever thought:  “Why did that conversation turn into a fight?”  or  “Why does my partner hear something different than what I meant?” You’re not alone. In this episode we talk about:  • how misunderstandings really start  • why we react instead of listening  • how expectations quietly shape arguments  • what to do when emotions take over  • and one simple conversation exercise you can try together this week Marriage isn’t about never misunderstanding each other.  It’s about choosing to understand each other again and again. If things feel hard right now, this episode is for you.

  11. Mar 22

    I Don't Need You Anymore

    Send us Fan Mail  In this episode of Still Choosing Us, Omar and Yami talk about the turning point in their marriage when their relationship shifted from dependence to intentional partnership. They share how unmet expectations, fear, identity struggles, and outside pressures shaped their early years—and how personal growth, faith, and self-awareness helped them move from needing each other to choosing each other every day. This conversation invites couples to reflect on where their needs come from and what it looks like to build a stronger, healthier foundation together.

  12. Mar 22

    The Story Behind Still Choosing Us

    Send us Fan Mail  In this first episode of Still Choosing Us, Omar and Yami share the real story behind their 18-year marriage—one shaped by a blended family, financial struggles, communication challenges, trauma, faith, and seasons when they weren’t sure they would make it. Instead of offering perfect answers, they open the door to honest conversations about what it means to stay committed through hard moments and keep choosing each other again and again. This episode is for couples in the middle—those who love each other but know marriage isn’t always easy—and who need a reminder that they’re not alone and there is still hope.

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 A Real Marriage Podcast with Omar & Yami.

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  • Creator
    Omar & Yami
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    12
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Still Choosing US
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