Born to be Wild the podcast

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10 | [birth story] Isabel & Pepe - a homebirth plan, pre-eclampsia, and taking back control

Isabel had a plan. Home birth, the right midwife, months of preparation.... Then, at 36 weeks, pre-eclampsia changed everything. What she did next is what makes this story so powerful. Because even inside that hospital, Isabel stayed in charge. She refused interventions she didn't need. She vocalized through every contraction while the nurses asked Pepe to keep it down because the dad next door was getting scared. And when Agostinho was born and didn't cry, she knew exactly what to do! This is a story about what becomes possible when you trust yourself, even when nothing goes according to plan. "It is possible to be in the hospital and have a respectful birth. But you need to be prepared." --> Isabel and Pepe initially asked midwife Raquel Cajão to be present at the birth of their son. Listen to episode 5 for her story. 🎙️ Born to Be Wild: https://www.instagram.com/borntobewild.pt/

54 min

May 27

9 | Sara Arruda - three premature births, from trauma to empowerment, self-care as a radical act

Sara Arruda is a nurse, a midwife, a health coach, and the author of Cuida-te. She is also a mother of three boys. All three born premature. And all three completely different births. Her first started with a helicopter evacuation at 26 weeks. She woke up after the C-section not wanting to open her eyes. Because she did not know if her baby was alive... Twelve years later, she tried again. And again! Until her third birth went exactly as she had visualized it, every single day of her pregnancy. In this episode, Sara also talks about the postpartum of postpartum. The long stretch after the six weeks that officially marks the end, where so many women are still quietly struggling, and where nobody is really looking anymore. And about self-care that has nothing to do with spa days. Self-care as the foundation of everything, including the way you show up for your children. "This will pass. I got you and you got this." Sara Arruda: https://www.instagram.com/enf.sara.arruda/ Book Cuida-te: https://www.wook.pt/livro/cuida-te-sara-arruda/33415138 Born to Be Wild: https://www.instagram.com/borntobewild.pt/ Irene Jaspers: https://www.instagram.com/irenejaspers

43 min

May 20

8 | Hannah Staunton - matrescence, the word that changes everything about motherhood

There is a word that most women have never heard. But the moment they do, something shifts. The word is matrescence. It describes the complete transformation a woman goes through when she becomes a mother. Not just physically. but also eurologically, emotionally, spiritually, and socially. All of it at once! Hannah Staunton is a somatic and yoga psychotherapist who specializes in supporting mothers through this process. She lives in Lisbon, she birthed her son here in Portugal, and in this episode she is honest about what that experience was like. Being treated badly. Shouted at by a pediatrician. Left alone at two in the morning shaking. And how that became the most important turning point in her work. She talks about what becoming a mother does to the nervous system. Why birth trauma goes unrecognized so often, even by the women who are carrying it. And why preparing for postpartum matters more than preparing for birth. And also, what the beliefs you are holding in your subconscious right now might be doing to your experience of motherhood. This episode is for every woman who has ever felt lost and wondered if something was wrong with her. "Nothing is wrong with her. She is just in the birth canal." Question list for moms (to be): https://hannahstaunton.myflodesk.com/mama-mindset-workbook Website: https://www.hannahstaunton.com/ Insta: https://www.instagram.com/hannah__staunton/ Born to Be Wild: https://www.instagram.com/borntobewild.pt/ Birthmode: https://www.instagram.com/birthmode/

42 min

May 6

7 | [birth story] Rita - IVF alone, a premature birth, and the MAC that changed everything

Rita always knew she wanted to become a mother. What she didn't know was how long that road would be, or how many times she would have to start over. Three miscarriages. IVF, alone, in a foreign country. A premature birth that left her with joy and grief at the same time. And a second pregnancy that forced her to make one of the hardest decisions of her life. Rita did her homework. She asked questions. She pushed back. And eventually she found what she was looking for. In this episode, she tells us everything. And what she says about her final birth stayed with us for a long time... This episode contains open conversations about pregnancy loss and birth trauma. Please take care of yourself before listening. Born to Be Wild: https://www.instagram.com/borntobewild.pt/ Birthmode: https://www.instagram.com/birthmode/

49 min

Apr 29

6 | Filipa Piedade - midwife, her own traumatic birth, changing the system from within

Filipa Piedade became a midwife because of her own birth. And that birth was one of the hardest experiences of her life. Being a nurse, she thought she knew what to expect, but... she didn't. The birth of her daughter turned out to be traumatic. She had no idea that what happened to her had a name. That it wasn't her fault! But instead of just carrying that with her, she used it. She stepped back into the very system that had let her down, and she started changing it from the inside. One birth (plan) at a time. In this episode, Filipa also talks about what it really costs to be a midwife in Portugal. The impossible workload, the burnout, and the moment she finally said: no more. This is a story about turning your own wound into a reason to fight for others. About what happens when someone who has been invisible decides to make sure no one else ever has to feel that way again. "I want every woman to feel like a goddess while giving birth to their child." Filipa Piedade: https://www.instagram.com/filipamaedaluz/ Parto Consciente: https://www.instagram.com/partoconsciente_homebirth/ Born to Be Wild: https://www.instagram.com/borntobewild.pt/ Birthmode: https://www.instagram.com/birthmode/

30 min

Apr 22

5 | Raquel Cajão - midwife, the art of doing nothing at birth

Raquel Cajão has been attending home births in Portugal for over eleven years. She didn't touch the last baby she delivered. Why? She didn't need to! In this episode, Raquel talks about what it really means to support a physiological birth. Not as a technician managing a process, but as someone who knows how to read a room, a breath, a small movement, without saying a word. She calls it rhythm, focus and inwardness. And once you hear her describe it, you will never think about birth support the same way again. She also challenges one of the most common assumptions about safety in birth. And she makes the case that sometimes, the most powerful thing a midwife can do is nothing at all. But this episode is also personal. Raquel is the midwife who got on a plane to attend Irene's homebirth in the Azores. If you have ever wondered what truly respectful birth support looks like, this is it! Website Raquel Cajão: https://raquelcajao.com/Website Nascer em casa: https://www.nasceremcasa.pt/Book Parto em Casa: Planeado e executado em Portugal (Portuguese Edition) by Raquel: https://www.amazon.com/Parto-Casa-Planeado-executado-Portuguese/dp/B0C51VCBJXBorn to Be Wild: https://www.instagram.com/borntobewild.pt/Birthmode: https://www.instagram.com/birthmode/

33 min

Apr 15

4 | [birth story] Irene - a hospital fire, an unplanned homebirth, trusting your body

Irene Jaspers is one of the hosts of this podcast. She is also a doula on Santa Maria, on of the smaller islands of the Azores. And in this episode, she is the guest! Her second pregnancy was going beautifully. Then, four weeks before her due date, the maternity ward of the only public hospital on the neighboring island caught fire. Everything changed. What followed was a homebirth she never planned, in an Airbnb on São Miguel, with a midwife who flew in from Lisbon. And it turned out to be exactly what she needed. This episode is about following your instincts when the system pushes back. About staying connected to yourself even when everything around you feels uncertain. And about what becomes possible when you trust your own body. Follow us on Instagram: Born to Be Wild: https://www.instagram.com/borntobewild.pt/ Birthmode: https://www.instagram.com/birthmode/

48 min

Apr 8

3 | Koen Deurloo - obstetrician, MAC pioneer, what it really means to put women at the centre

Koen Deurloo is a gynecologist and obstetrician in Utrecht, the Netherlands, who has spent over a decade quietly rewriting what a cesarean birth can look like. Not by changing the surgery, but by changing who is at the centre of it. In this episode, Koen introduces the MAC method, or Mother Assisted Cesarean, where the mother herself lifts her baby out of the womb with her own hands. He explains how it started with one woman's request, why the data shows it is just as safe as a standard C-section, and why it costs little more than a pair of sterile gloves and four extra minutes. But this episode goes far beyond one procedure. Koen speaks honestly about what it took for him to become a doctor who truly listens, including a moment early in his career where he pushed a woman into an induction she didn't want, and what that taught him. He talks about why the Dutch system produces different outcomes than other countries, what the role of midwives and doulas should be inside hospitals, and why preparing for plan B might be one of the most powerful things you can do before you give birth. If you have ever felt like a patient waiting behind a drape instead of the woman bringing her child into the world, this episode is for you. "The change is not going to come from doctors. It is going to come from women." Koen Deurloo on Instagram: @koendeurloo Book: Door de ogen van de gynaecoloog (Dutch) https://tinyurl.com/4nmxcxhj The Macazine (English and Dutch) https://tinyurl.com/3z423pv8 MAC method information https://www.mamamoonapp.com/blog/mother-assisted-caesarean-mac

44 min

Apr 1

2 | Sara do Vale - doula, birth activist, what they (don’t) tell you about giving birth in Portugal

Sara do Vale has been inside Portuguese maternity care for over a decade, as a doula, as an activist, and as a mother of three. She has sat in parliament, co-founded the Portuguese Birthrights Association, and supported women through births in both public and private hospitals. She does not soften the picture. In this episode, Sara breaks down what giving birth in Portugal actually looks like today: why midwives are sidelined despite the evidence, why the C-section rate in private hospitals sits at 67%, and why you might find yourself having contractions while checking an app to find out which hospital is even open that night. But Sara also tells you what to do with that information. How to read the red flags early. How to push back. How to find the pockets within the system where things are done differently. And why she still believes, after all these years, that change is coming. If you are pregnant in Portugal, planning to be, or simply trying to understand why birth here feels the way it does, this episode is essential listening. "We keep fighting so that one day our daughters can say: really? It was like that?" Website Sara do Vale: https://www.saradovale.com/ Associação Portuguesa pelos Direitos da Mulher na Gravidez e Parto (Birthrights Association): www.associacaogravidezeparto.pt

39 min

Mar 25

1 | [birth story] Maria & Carlos - a doctor's empowering journey, 5 day homebirth, hospital transfer

In this first episode, we sit down with Maria and Carlos, a Portuguese couple who chose to prepare for a home birth in Lisbon after years of living in London. What makes their story remarkable is that Maria is a doctor. A GP specializing in women's health, who trained inside the very system she was choosing to step away from. Together with her partner Carlos, she spent months preparing for a non-medicalized birth at home, supported by independent midwives and a community of couples on the same path. What followed was five days of labor, a shift to plan B, and a birth that turned out to be nothing like what they had imagined and everything they needed. What happens when a doctor questions the system from the inside? What does it take for a partner to show up fully during five sleepless days of labor? And can plan B still be beautiful? This episode is for anyone who has ever been told their birth plan isn't realistic, and for anyone who knows that trusting your body is easier said than done. The list of homebirth midwives in Portugal: https://associacaogravidezeparto.pt/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/Lista-de-Profissionais-de-Saude-Parto-Domiciliar.pdf Born to be Wild: https://www.instagram.com/borntobewild.pt/ Birthmode: https://www.instagram.com/birthmode/

48 min

Born to be Wild the podcast

Episodes

10 | [birth story] Isabel & Pepe - a homebirth plan, pre-eclampsia, and taking back control

9 | Sara Arruda - three premature births, from trauma to empowerment, self-care as a radical act

8 | Hannah Staunton - matrescence, the word that changes everything about motherhood

7 | [birth story] Rita - IVF alone, a premature birth, and the MAC that changed everything

6 | Filipa Piedade - midwife, her own traumatic birth, changing the system from within

5 | Raquel Cajão - midwife, the art of doing nothing at birth

4 | [birth story] Irene - a hospital fire, an unplanned homebirth, trusting your body

3 | Koen Deurloo - obstetrician, MAC pioneer, what it really means to put women at the centre

2 | Sara do Vale - doula, birth activist, what they (don’t) tell you about giving birth in Portugal

1 | [birth story] Maria & Carlos - a doctor's empowering journey, 5 day homebirth, hospital transfer

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