Versions of Ourselves

Chelsey Gray
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These are the thoughts you avoid, spoken out loud. We confront the versions of ourselves that aren’t pretty — who we pretend to be, who we actually are, and who we’re still trying to understand.

Episodes

  1. 2d ago

    This Isn't Just Toxic Behavior. It's Emotional Abuse.

    Emotional abuse isn't always obvious. It can look like a pattern of criticism, intimidation, manipulation, unpredictable outbursts, and blame-shifting. In this video, we discuss what emotional abuse is and the common signs to be aware of. Relationships aren't perfect, but emotional torment should never be normalized.If this video resonates with you, please consider sharing it with someone who may need to hear it.

    12 min

  2. Jun 7

    Family Shouldn't Get a Pass for Bad Behavior

    Family doesn’t exempt anyone from accountability, and it doesn’t make harmful behavior okay. In this episode, we talk about why blind loyalty to relatives can lead to tolerating behavior you’d never accept from anyone else, and why so many people end up excusing things they should be setting boundaries around. This is episode 5 of Editing Reality, a series about the excuses we make for disrespect, inconsistency, and people who repeatedly show us exactly who they are. After a certain point, "trying to understand" becomes avoiding the truth.

    9 min

  3. May 29

    You're Friends with Your Biggest Hater

    Some of you are committed to excusing disrespect simply because someone falls under the title of "friend." In this episode, we're talking about toxic friendships, manipulation, boundaries, and why history with someone doesn't automatically justify keeping them in your life. This is episode 4 of Editing Reality — a series about the excuses we make for disrespect, inconsistency, and people who repeatedly show us exactly who they are. After a certain point, "trying to understand" becomes avoiding the truth.

    11 min

  4. May 22

    Stop Making Excuses for Men Who Treat You Badly

    Some of you are working harder to defend a man than he's ever worked to treat you well. We're talking about the pattern of defending men who are emotionally unavailable and treat you poorly, and how that leads you to accept more than you should. This is episode 3 of Editing Reality — a series about the excuses we make for disrespect, inconsistency, and people who repeatedly show us exactly who they are. After a certain point, “trying to understand” becomes avoiding the truth.

    11 min

  5. May 15

    Why You Defend People Who Hurt You

    We're breaking down why you keep excusing actions that don't match the reality in front of you, and how attachment to potential keeps you stuck in the same cycle. This is episode 2 of Editing Reality — a series about the excuses we make for disrespect, inconsistency, and people who repeatedly show us exactly who they are. After a certain point, “trying to understand” becomes avoiding the truth.

    6 min

  6. May 8

    You Keep Justifying Disrespect | Editing Reality

    Some people aren't misunderstood. You're just bending over backwards to explain their behavior away. This is episode 1 of Editing Reality — a series about the excuses we make for disrespect, inconsistency, and people who repeatedly show us exactly who they are. After a certain point, “trying to understand” becomes avoiding the truth.

    9 min

  7. May 1

    You Set a Boundary—Now You’re the Problem

    Setting boundaries doesn’t make you difficult—it means you’ve stopped tolerating what doesn’t feel right. When people push back, it’s rarely about the boundary itself; it’s about losing a dynamic that used to serve them.

    9 min

  8. Apr 24

    You Know It’s Over, So Why Are You Still Acting Like It’s Not?

    What are you still holding onto that’s already over? Not the things that still have potential—but the ones that are DONE. In this episode, we’re talking about the mental loop that keeps you stuck in a past that no longer exists. Whether it’s a relationship, a career path, or a version of your life you can’t let go of—holding on doesn’t keep it alive, it keeps you trapped.

    9 min

  9. Apr 17

    Does Talking to You Feel Like Work?

    Typically, people won’t tell you that conversations with you feel like a lot of work—they’ll just gradually engage less.   In this episode, we’re talking about habits that can make conversations harder than they need to be, like interrupting, overexplaining, talking over important moments, and not fully listening.   Most of the time, it’s the small things that add up.

    11 min

  10. Apr 9

    They’re Not Sorry—You’re Being Played

    If they keep saying “I’m sorry” but nothing changes… you’re not being misunderstood—you’re being played. At some point, it stops being a mistake and starts being a pattern. This episode breaks down why people apologize with no intention of changing, how that cycle keeps you stuck, and what it takes to protect your peace when someone has proven they won’t. This isn’t about comfort. It’s about clarity—even when it’s uncomfortable.

    15 min

  11. Apr 3

    You’re Not a Bad Person… But You Might Be a Bad Friend

    You’re not toxic, but you might be a bad friend. On this episode of Versions of Ourselves, we’re getting candid about behavior that isn’t talked about enough: Being an emotionally lazy friend. Not responding to texts. Never initiating plans. Showing up only when it’s convenient for you. You care about your friends, but maintaining friendships takes effort—and maybe you err on the side of being distant and detached. We’re breaking down PRACTICAL ways to show up for the people you love, because good intentions mean nothing if your actions don’t reflect them.

    16 min

  12. Mar 26

    You Think They're Jealous... But What if You're the Problem?

    What if the real reason people get irritated or distance themselves from us is due to our own behavior? In this episode of Versions of Ourselves, we discuss a thought process some of us were taught (or taught ourselves!): “They’re just jealous.” In this frank and honest conversation, we acknowledge that sometimes we’re not the victim… we’re the problem—which is actually great news, because it means we have the power to change. We touch on: “She’s just jealous” mentalitySubtle (and not-so-subtle) behaviors that push people awayAttention-seeking and self-awarenessTaking accountability for our actions

    17 min
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About

These are the thoughts you avoid, spoken out loud. We confront the versions of ourselves that aren’t pretty — who we pretend to be, who we actually are, and who we’re still trying to understand.

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  • Creator
    Chelsey Gray
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    12
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Chelsey Gray
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