Sex Worth Having

Clare Sente
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Sex Worth Having is a podcast for men over 50 who want deeper intimacy, stronger connection, and better sex in long-term relationships. If your partner’s desire has changed… If menopause has shifted your sex life… If you miss feeling wanted… Or if you simply want to become a more confident, intuitive lover… You’re in the right place. Hosted by Clare Sente, a VITA™ Certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach with over 850 hours of embodied training, this podcast teaches men how to create heart-centered intimacy instead of chasing orgasm-focused sex. Here we explore: How desire actually works in midlife and menopause. Responsive desire and why she may not feel “in the mood” first. Nurturing touch that relaxes before it arouses. Polarity, presence, and becoming magnetic instead of needy. This isn’t about performance hacks or bedroom tricks. It’s about learning the skills that create safety, trust, and erotic connection over time. Some episodes are solo teachings. Others feature respected experts in sexuality, embodiment, and relationship dynamics. New episodes released biweekly. If you’re ready to slow down, stay present, and create sex that feels good for both of you… Subscribe now. Slow down. Stay present. Keep exploring. Sex worth having, starts with you.

  1. 6d ago

    How to Stay Attractive to Your Wife: Be Curious

    Why Curiosity Is The Secret To Lasting Attraction If your partner met you for the very first time today, would they be excited to get to know you?   It's an uncomfortable question, but it might also be one of the most important questions you can ask yourself.   In this episode, Clare Sente explores why lasting attraction isn't about looking younger, mastering new techniques, or trying to become someone else. It's about continuing to grow. Staying curious. Becoming someone who is still engaged with life.   Over time, many long-term couples drift from lovers to efficient partners. Careers, children, routines, and responsibilities slowly replace novelty, curiosity, and discovery. But attraction doesn't disappear overnight. More often, it fades when we stop becoming.   In this episode, you'll discover:   Why curiosity is one of the most attractive qualities you can cultivateHow curiosity keeps you interesting to both your partner and yourselfWhy personal growth strengthens intimacy and desireThe difference between comfort and complacency in long-term relationshipsFive reflection questions to help you evaluate your own growth and relationship (score yourself between 1-10)How well are you taking care of your physical health?What energy do you bring into a room?How curious are you?How curious are you about your partner?Are you evolving and growing as a person?  Whether you're looking to reconnect with your partner or simply reconnect with yourself, this episode is an invitation to become someone worth discovering...again.   Because the best lovers never stop becoming....and they never stop being curious. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

    How to Stay Attractive to Your Wife: Be Curious

  2. Jul 14

    The Intelligence of Touch: How Safe and Inviting Touch Builds Desire and Connection with Ali Mezey

    The Intelligence of Touch: How Safe and Inviting Touch Builds Desire and Connection with Ali Mezey What if one of the most powerful ways to revive passion in your relationship has been right at your fingertips all along? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare sits down with body therapist, sexologist, and host of The Brilliant Body Podcast, Ali Mezey, to explore the intelligence of touch and why so many long-term couples are missing one of the greatest opportunities for creating connection, novelty, and desire. Many men only learn to touch a small portion of their partner's body during intimacy. Ali explains why slowing down, becoming more curious, and exploring the other 90% of the body can help your partner feel seen, safe, and deeply cared for while creating the kind of anticipation that keeps desire alive. We also discuss why non-sexual touch is often the foundation for better sex, how to communicate through your hands instead of your agenda, and why middle age may actually be the perfect time to discover a richer, more connected way of making love. Whether you've been married for 20 years or simply want to become a more confident, intuitive lover, this conversation will change the way you think about touch, pleasure, and intimacy. What You'll Learn: Why touch is a conversation, not a performanceHow curiosity creates more connection than techniqueWhy exploring the whole body increases novelty and arousalThe difference between touch with an agenda and touch that builds safetyA simple practice you can try this week to deepen intimacy with your partner Ali Mezey's Website: https://www.alimezey.com/ Ali Mezey's Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-brilliant-body-podcast-with-ali-mezey/id1720039607 Sex Worth Having, Episode 3: How Do You Ask for What You Want in Bed? with Betty Martin: https://feeds.podetize.com/ep/t9ylx0gKB/media Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

    The Intelligence of Touch: How Safe and Inviting Touch Builds Desire and Connection with Ali Mezey

  3. Jun 30

    How Mindfulness Makes Sex Better

    What does a raisin have to do with better sex? More than you might think. In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare Sente explores how mindfulness can deepen pleasure, connection, and desire in long-term relationships. Most of us spend much of our lives on autopilot, moving through our days without fully noticing what's right in front of us. The same thing can happen in our relationships. We stop seeing our partner with fresh eyes and begin relating to them from memory rather than curiosity. Using the classic raisin mindfulness exercise, Clare shows how slowing down and paying attention can transform everyday experiences, including intimacy. You'll learn: Why pleasure can only happen in the present momentHow familiarity causes us to stop noticing our partnerWhy attention is one of the most attractive gifts you can offerHow mindfulness helps keep erotic energy aliveWhy mindfulness may be the opposite of taking your partner for grantedA simple experiment to help you reconnect with curiosity, desire, and pleasure If you've ever felt like your relationship has become routine, this episode offers a practical way to bring more presence, connection, and aliveness back into your partnership. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! Resources & LinksMentioned in This EpisodeThe Raisin Mindfulness ExerciseEpisode 13: The Need to Feel WantedSex Worth Having Website Book a Free 30-Minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare

    How Mindfulness Makes Sex Better

  4. Jun 23

    Curious About Kink? with Faith Laux

    Many people hear the word kink and immediately think of something extreme. But what if kink has less to do with whips, chains, or dungeons and more to do with communication, trust, curiosity, and connection? In this episode, intimacy coach Faith Laux joins Clare to explore what kink really is and why so many people are curious about it. They discuss how healthy kink relies on clear communication, strong boundaries, consent, and self-awareness, and how these skills can strengthen any relationship, whether you're interested in kink or not. You'll learn why novelty matters in long-term relationships, how to talk with a partner about fantasies or desires, why self-acceptance is the first step toward vulnerability, and how expressing both your yes and your no can build deeper trust. If you're looking for ways to bring more honesty, playfulness, and connection into your relationship, this conversation offers practical insights that extend far beyond the bedroom. In this episode you'll discover: • Why kink is often misunderstood • How novelty and curiosity help keep desire alive • A simple approach to discussing fantasies with a partner • Why boundaries create safety, trust, and intimacy • What every couple can learn from the communication skills practiced in healthy kink communities Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! Resources & LinksKink Curious Website:https://www.faithlaux.com/kinkcurious1 Kink Curious Waitlist: https://links.ivorey.io/widget/form/coYxJvfvPEIcFH6mEHE6 10% off Code for Kink Curious (if you miss the early bird deadline): Sex Worth Having Sex Worth Having Website Book a Free 30-Minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare

    Curious About Kink? with Faith Laux

  5. Jun 16

    The Need To Feel Wanted

    When was the last time your partner felt unmistakably wanted by you? And when was the last time you felt wanted by them? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the deepest human longings in long-term relationships: the need to feel desired. Many couples still love each other deeply, but somewhere along the way, they stop expressing desire. The relationship becomes focused on schedules, responsibilities, and daily logistics while the erotic connection slowly fades into the background. You'll learn: Why love and desire are not the same thingHow couples unintentionally drift from lovers to roommatesWhy "evidence of desire" matters more than most people realizeHow resentment can quietly block attraction and connectionA simple question that can help you understand what makes your partner feel wanted If you want more intimacy, passion, and connection in your relationship, this episode will help you understand why feeling wanted remains essential at every stage of love. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! Resources & Linkshttps://youtu.be/-qgpewMCVjs?si=RerjC8DCX8xlnmdE - Cheap Trick performing I Want You to Want Me https://cheftova.substack.com/ - article by Tova on Substack demonstrating the difference between feeling cared for vs wanted Sex Worth Having Website Book a Free 30-Minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare

    The Need To Feel Wanted

  6. Jun 9

    Early Ejaculation: Why Slowing Down Changes Everything

    What if early ejaculation isn’t really about lack of control… but a nervous system that has learned to rush, brace, and panic during intimacy?   In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores the hidden anxiety, shame, and nervous system patterns behind early ejaculation—and why so many successful men silently struggle with it. Instead of focusing on numbing creams, distraction tricks, or performance hacks, this conversation takes a different approach: slowing down, becoming more present, and learning how to regulate arousal through awareness and full-body connection.   You’ll learn: why anxiety and hypervigilance often make early ejaculation worsehow the body becomes conditioned for speed instead of regulationwhy mindfulness and presence-based approaches are gaining research supporthow slowing down changes both arousal and connectionwhat it means to expand pleasure beyond just the genitalsand why many men regain control by becoming more connected to their bodies—not less  This episode is about much more than “lasting longer.”   It’s about helping men stop dreading intimacy and start feeling calm, connected, and confident during sex again. Download the Free 10-Minute Guided Pre-Intimacy Meditation: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033 Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

    Early Ejaculation: Why Slowing Down Changes Everything

  7. Jun 2

    Menopause, Hormones, and Intimacy: What Men Need to Understand

    What happens to intimacy when hormones, sleep, stress, and a woman’s nervous system all begin to change during peri-menopause and menopause? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the most misunderstood topics in long-term relationships: how hormonal changes in midlife affect desire, arousal, orgasm, emotional connection, and a woman’s ability to relax into intimacy. You’ll learn: the difference between perimenopause and menopausewhy stress and cortisol directly affect desirehow changing estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels impact the bodywhy responsive desire becomes even more important during midlifehow menopause affects sleep, anxiety, vaginal tissue, orgasm, and nervous system regulationwhy many women feel dismissed by the medical systemand how couples can adapt their intimacy instead of turning against each other This episode is not about blaming or “fixing” your partner. It’s about understanding what may really be happening in her body… so you can approach this chapter with more compassion, teamwork, and connection. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! Here are the treatments by MD's who specialize in Menopause; Listed Resource and Links: Dr. Lauren Streicher: https://substack.com/@DrStreicherDr. Kelly Casperson: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329Dr. Mary Claire Haver: https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/Dr. Rachel Rubin: https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/Dr. Amy Killen: https://dramybkillen.substack.com/Dr. Sarah Szal: https://saraszalmd.substack.com/The Menopause Society: https://menopause.org/Book a Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033

    Menopause, Hormones, and Intimacy: What Men Need to Understand

  8. May 26

    What If Sex Wasn’t About Orgasm? With Ariel Szabo

    Why does sex sometimes leave you feeling empty instead of fulfilled? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare Sente sits down with somatic sex educator and sexological bodyworker Ariel Szabo to explore why so many men feel disconnected after sex – and why it should not be about orgasm alone. Learn the difference between disembodied and embodied pleasure, why performance-focused sex leaves many couples unsatisfied, and how shifting your attention from outcome to connection can completely change your experience of intimacy. This conversation opens the door to a more conscious, connected way of relating to your desire, your body, and your partner – one that leads to deeper satisfaction. Ariel Szabo's website: https://www.sacredmoonflower.com/begin Ariel Szabo's Substack: https://theeroticfrontier.substack.com/ Sex Worth Having website: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/ Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-call Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

    What If Sex Wasn’t About Orgasm? With Ariel Szabo
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Sex Worth Having is a podcast for men over 50 who want deeper intimacy, stronger connection, and better sex in long-term relationships. If your partner’s desire has changed… If menopause has shifted your sex life… If you miss feeling wanted… Or if you simply want to become a more confident, intuitive lover… You’re in the right place. Hosted by Clare Sente, a VITA™ Certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach with over 850 hours of embodied training, this podcast teaches men how to create heart-centered intimacy instead of chasing orgasm-focused sex. Here we explore: How desire actually works in midlife and menopause. Responsive desire and why she may not feel “in the mood” first. Nurturing touch that relaxes before it arouses. Polarity, presence, and becoming magnetic instead of needy. This isn’t about performance hacks or bedroom tricks. It’s about learning the skills that create safety, trust, and erotic connection over time. Some episodes are solo teachings. Others feature respected experts in sexuality, embodiment, and relationship dynamics. New episodes released biweekly. If you’re ready to slow down, stay present, and create sex that feels good for both of you… Subscribe now. Slow down. Stay present. Keep exploring. Sex worth having, starts with you.

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  • Creator
    Clare Sente
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    18
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 | All Rights Reserved | Clare Sente
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    Sex Worth Having

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