Sex Worth Having

Clare Sente
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Sex Worth Having is a podcast for men over 50 who want deeper intimacy, stronger connection, and better sex in long-term relationships. If your partner’s desire has changed… If menopause has shifted your sex life… If you miss feeling wanted… Or if you simply want to become a more confident, intuitive lover… You’re in the right place. Hosted by Clare Sente, a VITA™ Certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach with over 850 hours of embodied training, this podcast teaches men how to create heart-centered intimacy instead of chasing orgasm-focused sex. Here we explore: How desire actually works in midlife and menopause. Responsive desire and why she may not feel “in the mood” first. Nurturing touch that relaxes before it arouses. Polarity, presence, and becoming magnetic instead of needy. This isn’t about performance hacks or bedroom tricks. It’s about learning the skills that create safety, trust, and erotic connection over time. Some episodes are solo teachings. Others feature respected experts in sexuality, embodiment, and relationship dynamics. New episodes released biweekly. If you’re ready to slow down, stay present, and create sex that feels good for both of you… Subscribe now. Slow down. Stay present. Keep exploring. Sex worth having, starts with you.

  1. Curious About Kink? with Faith Laux

    3d ago

    Curious About Kink? with Faith Laux

    Many people hear the word kink and immediately think of something extreme. But what if kink has less to do with whips, chains, or dungeons and more to do with communication, trust, curiosity, and connection? In this episode, intimacy coach Faith Laux joins Clare to explore what kink really is and why so many people are curious about it. They discuss how healthy kink relies on clear communication, strong boundaries, consent, and self-awareness, and how these skills can strengthen any relationship, whether you're interested in kink or not. You'll learn why novelty matters in long-term relationships, how to talk with a partner about fantasies or desires, why self-acceptance is the first step toward vulnerability, and how expressing both your yes and your no can build deeper trust. If you're looking for ways to bring more honesty, playfulness, and connection into your relationship, this conversation offers practical insights that extend far beyond the bedroom. In this episode you'll discover: • Why kink is often misunderstood • How novelty and curiosity help keep desire alive • A simple approach to discussing fantasies with a partner • Why boundaries create safety, trust, and intimacy • What every couple can learn from the communication skills practiced in healthy kink communities Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! Resources & LinksKink Curious Website:https://www.faithlaux.com/kinkcurious1 Kink Curious Waitlist: https://links.ivorey.io/widget/form/coYxJvfvPEIcFH6mEHE6 10% off Code for Kink Curious (if you miss the early bird deadline): Sex Worth Having Sex Worth Having Website Book a Free 30-Minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare

    45 min
  2. The Need To Feel Wanted

    Jun 16

    The Need To Feel Wanted

    When was the last time your partner felt unmistakably wanted by you? And when was the last time you felt wanted by them? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the deepest human longings in long-term relationships: the need to feel desired. Many couples still love each other deeply, but somewhere along the way, they stop expressing desire. The relationship becomes focused on schedules, responsibilities, and daily logistics while the erotic connection slowly fades into the background. You'll learn: Why love and desire are not the same thingHow couples unintentionally drift from lovers to roommatesWhy "evidence of desire" matters more than most people realizeHow resentment can quietly block attraction and connectionA simple question that can help you understand what makes your partner feel wanted If you want more intimacy, passion, and connection in your relationship, this episode will help you understand why feeling wanted remains essential at every stage of love. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! Resources & Linkshttps://youtu.be/-qgpewMCVjs?si=RerjC8DCX8xlnmdE - Cheap Trick performing I Want You to Want Me https://cheftova.substack.com/ - article by Tova on Substack demonstrating the difference between feeling cared for vs wanted Sex Worth Having Website Book a Free 30-Minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare

    22 min
  3. Early Ejaculation: Why Slowing Down Changes Everything

    Jun 9

    Early Ejaculation: Why Slowing Down Changes Everything

    What if early ejaculation isn’t really about lack of control… but a nervous system that has learned to rush, brace, and panic during intimacy?   In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores the hidden anxiety, shame, and nervous system patterns behind early ejaculation—and why so many successful men silently struggle with it. Instead of focusing on numbing creams, distraction tricks, or performance hacks, this conversation takes a different approach: slowing down, becoming more present, and learning how to regulate arousal through awareness and full-body connection.   You’ll learn: why anxiety and hypervigilance often make early ejaculation worsehow the body becomes conditioned for speed instead of regulationwhy mindfulness and presence-based approaches are gaining research supporthow slowing down changes both arousal and connectionwhat it means to expand pleasure beyond just the genitalsand why many men regain control by becoming more connected to their bodies—not less  This episode is about much more than “lasting longer.”   It’s about helping men stop dreading intimacy and start feeling calm, connected, and confident during sex again. Download the Free 10-Minute Guided Pre-Intimacy Meditation: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033 Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

    14 min
  4. Menopause, Hormones, and Intimacy: What Men Need to Understand

    Jun 2

    Menopause, Hormones, and Intimacy: What Men Need to Understand

    What happens to intimacy when hormones, sleep, stress, and a woman’s nervous system all begin to change during peri-menopause and menopause? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the most misunderstood topics in long-term relationships: how hormonal changes in midlife affect desire, arousal, orgasm, emotional connection, and a woman’s ability to relax into intimacy. You’ll learn: the difference between perimenopause and menopausewhy stress and cortisol directly affect desirehow changing estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels impact the bodywhy responsive desire becomes even more important during midlifehow menopause affects sleep, anxiety, vaginal tissue, orgasm, and nervous system regulationwhy many women feel dismissed by the medical systemand how couples can adapt their intimacy instead of turning against each other This episode is not about blaming or “fixing” your partner. It’s about understanding what may really be happening in her body… so you can approach this chapter with more compassion, teamwork, and connection. Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share! Here are the treatments by MD's who specialize in Menopause; Listed Resource and Links: Dr. Lauren Streicher: https://substack.com/@DrStreicherDr. Kelly Casperson: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329Dr. Mary Claire Haver: https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/Dr. Rachel Rubin: https://drmaryclairehaver.substack.com/Dr. Amy Killen: https://dramybkillen.substack.com/Dr. Sarah Szal: https://saraszalmd.substack.com/The Menopause Society: https://menopause.org/Book a Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/pl/2148759033

    23 min
  5. What If Sex Wasn’t About Orgasm? With Ariel Szabo

    May 26

    What If Sex Wasn’t About Orgasm? With Ariel Szabo

    Why does sex sometimes leave you feeling empty instead of fulfilled? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare Sente sits down with somatic sex educator and sexological bodyworker Ariel Szabo to explore why so many men feel disconnected after sex – and why it should not be about orgasm alone. Learn the difference between disembodied and embodied pleasure, why performance-focused sex leaves many couples unsatisfied, and how shifting your attention from outcome to connection can completely change your experience of intimacy. This conversation opens the door to a more conscious, connected way of relating to your desire, your body, and your partner – one that leads to deeper satisfaction. Ariel Szabo's website: https://www.sacredmoonflower.com/begin Ariel Szabo's Substack: https://theeroticfrontier.substack.com/ Sex Worth Having website: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/ Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call with Clare: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-call Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

    33 min
  6. Developing Dominance: How Erotic Leadership Can Transform Intimacy with Brandon the Dom

    May 19

    Developing Dominance: How Erotic Leadership Can Transform Intimacy with Brandon the Dom

    What if dominance wasn’t about control—but about leadership, trust, and creating deeper connection? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare sits down with sex and relationship coach Brandon the Dom to explore how power dynamics, when grounded in consent and care, can bring new energy, polarity, and excitement into long-term relationships. You’ll learn: the difference between dominance and domineeringwhy many men suppress their desire to leadhow “setting the container” helps a partner feel safe enough to let gowhy aftercare is one of the most important parts of intimacyand how exploring new dynamics can help couples break out of predictable sexual patternsThis conversation is not about performance or becoming someone you’re not. It’s about learning how presence, communication, and erotic leadership can create more aliveness, trust, and connection in the bedroom and beyond. Brandon’s Website: https://www.brandonthedom.com/ Developing Dominance Online Class: https://www.brandonthedom.com/developing-dominance Brandon’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BrandonTheDom Sex Worth Having website: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/ Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-call Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

    40 min
  7. How To Stay Connected When Illness Enters Your Relationship

    May 12

    How To Stay Connected When Illness Enters Your Relationship

    When illness enters your relationship, intimacy often gets pushed aside—but it may be the very thing that helps you both get through it. In this episode, Clare explores how fear, stress, and uncertainty affect connection, and why intimacy becomes even more important during challenging times. You’ll learn how to stay close without pressure, redefine intimacy beyond sex, and create meaningful moments of connection that help your partner feel loved, seen, and supported. Visit website: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/ Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-call Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

    13 min
  8. The Power Of Slow: Transforming Sex, Intimacy, And Connection

    May 5

    The Power Of Slow: Transforming Sex, Intimacy, And Connection

    Do you think you’re going slow enough in the bedroom? What feels slow to you is often still too fast for your partner’s body to fully register and feel. Many of us live at a constant “60 miles an hour,” stuck in a stressed, distracted state that blocks the kind of deep, connected intimacy long-term relationships need. It’s time to discover the power of slowing down. This shift begins when someone chooses to lead—and that someone is you. Slowing down isn’t just about movement; it’s about pacing and presence. It creates space for your partner to move from guarded and tense to open and responsive. Slow isn’t boring—slow is sexy. It allows sensation to build, deepens connection, and creates more meaningful intimacy. Learn the essential mindset shifts and simple practices—like hand-on-heart breathing and Qigong—that give you the capacity to slow down, attune to your partner, and become the confident, intuitive lover they dream about. Visit website: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/ Book Free 30-minute Desire Diagnostic Call: https://www.sexworthhaving.com/desire-diagnostic-call Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, & share!

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Sex Worth Having is a podcast for men over 50 who want deeper intimacy, stronger connection, and better sex in long-term relationships. If your partner’s desire has changed… If menopause has shifted your sex life… If you miss feeling wanted… Or if you simply want to become a more confident, intuitive lover… You’re in the right place. Hosted by Clare Sente, a VITA™ Certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach with over 850 hours of embodied training, this podcast teaches men how to create heart-centered intimacy instead of chasing orgasm-focused sex. Here we explore: How desire actually works in midlife and menopause. Responsive desire and why she may not feel “in the mood” first. Nurturing touch that relaxes before it arouses. Polarity, presence, and becoming magnetic instead of needy. This isn’t about performance hacks or bedroom tricks. It’s about learning the skills that create safety, trust, and erotic connection over time. Some episodes are solo teachings. Others feature respected experts in sexuality, embodiment, and relationship dynamics. New episodes released biweekly. If you’re ready to slow down, stay present, and create sex that feels good for both of you… Subscribe now. Slow down. Stay present. Keep exploring. Sex worth having, starts with you.

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  • Creator
    Clare Sente
  • Years Active
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  • Episodes
    15
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    © Copyright 2026 | All Rights Reserved | Clare Sente
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