"When I think of this powerful state, I know this is going to sound kind of silly, but it makes me think of being a child." Danielle Griffiths opens on elementary school — wanting to be an astronaut, wanting to be a cowgirl, and not a smidgen of doubt that it would happen. Which begs the question she and Brooke Benevento spend this episode on: how did we get so far away from that? Brooke breaks down the two states. Primal state is stress, overwhelm, anger, jealousy, depression, boredom — the bottom of the emotional gas tank, where the nervous system is running fight, flight, and freeze. Powerful state is the top of it: flow, joy, curiosity, enthusiasm, and the one Brooke names as the biggest for her now — peace and calm about life. Things are always coming at us that we can't control. The question is only ever how you respond. It's the same thing Napoleon Hill, Abraham Hicks, and David Bayer are all pointing at, described differently because we all absorb things differently — and one day one of those descriptions clicks. Danielle makes the case that the world has been in a primal state since 2020, and the two of them trace how it gets manufactured. Napoleon Hill's cycles of fear — the Great Depression and fear of poverty, war and fear of death, epidemics and fear of ill health, the crash of '08, COVID. News that has to sell fear to hold you. Breaking news that stopped being breaking news when it went 24/7. Then the flip side: comparison, and young people taught that someone else's success is subtraction from theirs, when there's plenty of everything for everyone. The back half turns practical. Brooke and Seth's one foundational rule after going through the Think and Grow Rich Institute philosophy — if it isn't giving us peace, we get rid of it — and Danielle's challenge to take stock of what you're choosing that costs you yours. Then five practices to move up the scale, including the one Brooke's mentor gave her early on that she now passes to every client: life is not an emergency. In this episode, you'll learn: What primal state actually is — stress, overwhelm, anger, jealousy, depression, boredom — and where it sits on the emotional gas tankWhat powerful state feels like: flow, joy, curiosity, enthusiasm, and above all peace and calmWhy we do need some fear, and where it stops being protection and starts being a cageHell on earth vs. heaven on earth, and why Hill, Hicks, and David Bayer are describing the same thingThe umbilical cord to source, and what kinks it — anger, jealousy, overwhelm, anxietyWhy every tradition says be childlike, and what a child has that most adults lostSocial heredity: the people who told you to be realistic, and why you don't announce your plan to themNapoleon Hill's cycles of fear, and how each era installs a new oneWhy positivity doesn't sell, and what it says about you when drama doesThe comparison trap — you're seeing a small glimpse of somebody's life and grading your own against itThere's plenty of everything for everyone, so be happy when people succeedGood relationships take work, and why "there are no good ones anymore" isn't trueBrooke and Seth's rule: if it isn't giving us peace, it goesDanielle's challenge — take stock of what you keep choosing that takes your peaceWhy it's okay to be bored, and Brooke's mentor on doing nothing still being doing somethingPractice one: limiting beliefs — what do I want, and do I believe I can have it?Practice two: support the nervous system and down-regulate, ideally without a screenPractice three: compulsive behavior — you can react with no intention, or pause and act with itPractice four: get into nature, because nothing out there is out of placePractice five: community — get off the screen and go have the coffeeCourage isn't the absence of fear, and the moment you use it is the moment you cross into powerful stateWhy "the kingdom within you" isn't a religious claim so much as a reminder you were made with intentionMentioned in this episode: David Bayer's framing of primal state and powerful stateNapoleon Hill, and his cycles of fear and social heredityAbraham Hicks and the emotional scaleThe Think and Grow Rich Institute philosophy and coaching Brooke and Seth went throughSatish Verma, Brooke's mentor — "life is not an emergency"The Schumann resonance and the idea of a connected human raceThe first four episodes of the podcast, which set the stage for all of thisDanielle's sound bed, and using vibration to reset the nervous systemYoga, reading, sun on your face, and bare feet on grassBrooke's community of women, and the listener who asked her to coffeeConnect with us: Instagram: @the.missing.peace.podTikTok: @the.missing.peace8Email: themissingpeace26@gmail.comSupport the show: Venmo: @DanielleGriffiths78 — every donation goes straight back into keeping the podcast goingHave a question, or want us to go deeper on this one? 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