The Tenacity Podcast

Patrick E Martinez
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Tenacity is a podcast for individuals and couples navigating the hardest moments of life and relationships. Hosted by Patrick Martinez, this show goes beyond theory and into lived experience—covering marriage under pressure, crisis, trust, resilience, and reality of rebuilding when everything seems lost. Through raw storytelling, practical frameworks, and hard-earned insight, Tenacity equips you to survive what you’re facing—and build something stronger on the other side. This isn’t about perfect relationships. It’s about enduring, rebuilding, and refusing to give up when it matters most.

  1. 14h ago

    The Tenacity Podcast Ep. 31: The Annual Conference

    Are you building the life you want together, or just getting through another year? Patrick and Maddie explain how they use an annual marriage conference to reflect on their relationship, review family priorities and plan for the future. Drawing on their own difficult year, they discuss shared responsibilities, better communication and making time for the people who matter most. In this episode, Patrick and Maddie cover: How an annual conference differs from weekly planningAssessing how you handled both difficult and comfortable seasonsAligning shared family goals with individual dreamsSharing financial and household responsibilities when extra shifts are neededGiving encouragement, working through conflict and protecting quality time Making room for each child's interests and your family's future Subscribe for new episodes.

  2. Oct 28

    The Tenacity Podcast Ep. 30: Reacting to an "Unconventional Marriage"

    Reacting to an "unconventional marriage": a wife on TikTok listed the unconventional things she said worked for them: close friends of the opposite sex they see alone, nights out at the bar on their own, independent lives and separate bank accounts. Patrick had a guess where it was heading. Then she posted her update: they are getting divorced. Patrick and Maddie react to the video, talk about the guy best friend who became an issue early in their own relationship, and explain why a marriage of separate lives ends up as two roommates. In this episode, Patrick and Maddie cover: Why friends of the opposite sex you see one-on-one put a marriage at risk, even when nothing is going on What happened with Maddie's guy best friend, and how they settled it together "If you don't include your spouse, it is flirting," and how to make friendships something you share as a couple Separate bank accounts and split bills: why they breed distrust and division at home Roasting each other in public, intimacy behind closed doors, and why respect means listening Her update, and what Patrick and Maddie think went wrong Reacting to Eastcoastblonde (@eastcoastblonde on TikTok). The Tenacity Podcast is Patrick and Maddie Martinez, a podcast for couples about marriage, family and getting through a crisis together. To learn more go to our linktree: https://linktr.ee/patrickemartinez #marriage #marriageadvice #tenacitypodcast

  3. Oct 21

    The Tenacity Podcast Ep. 29: The Weekly Conference

    The weekly conference is a short sit-down where a couple plans the week together around what actually matters to them. Patrick and Maddie built theirs in the middle of a family crisis, and it ended so much of the bickering in their house. It answers a problem one of Patrick's coaching clients put in two words: "We're roommates." No date nights, no quality time, two lives that rarely meet. Patrick and Maddie walk through the three steps to build your own. In this episode, Patrick and Maddie cover: Why your schedule, not your words, shows what your priorities really are Step one: write your priorities, each of you separately, then reconcile themTurning priorities into goals and goals into systems, so "eat out less" actually happens Step two: list every household task and give each one to whoever does it best, man job or woman job aside Step three: the family and friends tier list, and how to run the conference itselfWhy a conference that uncovers problems is doing its job, and why theirs now often takes 10 or 15 minutes The family and friends tier list has its own episode: The Tenacity Podcast Ep. 11: The Family & Friends Tier List. The Tenacity Podcast is Patrick and Maddie Martinez, a podcast for couples about marriage, family and getting through a crisis together.F ree 30 minute call with Patrick: call.pem.coach #marriage #marriageadvice #weeklymeeting #priorities #communication #genderroles #relationships #christianmarriage #tenacitypodcast #patrickemartinez

  4. Oct 14

    The Tenacity Podcast Ep. 28: Abby Eckel's Archetypes of Husbands

    He shows up. He doesn't yell, doesn't cheat, and keeps trying even when he falls short. A popular TikTok series says that husband is lying to you, and that your only choices are to settle or leave. Patrick and Maddie Martinez react to Abby Eckel's archetypes of husbands and make the case for a third option: fix it together. In this episode, Patrick and Maddie cover: Why a promise that falls through is not always a lie or manipulation. How to ask your spouse for change: the right request, said kindly, with follow-up. What if you're the problem? Unreasonable expectations, no self-care, and "change or I'm gone." The good guy husband, and why nobody is naturally good at marriage. Is he laid back, or are you controlling? How to delegate and let it go. Why "radically accept him or leave" misses the real answer: work as a team. Reacting to Abby Eckel's TikTok series on husband archetypes. Her originals: @abbyeckel on TikTok, https://www.tiktok.com/@abbyeckel Next week: the weekly conference, the one meeting that turns two separate agendas into one team. Subscribe so you don't miss it. The Tenacity Podcast is Patrick and Maddie Martinez, a podcast for couples about marriage, family and getting through a crisis together. Free 30 minute call with Patrick: call.pem.coach #marriage #marriageadvice #husband #wife #relationships #communication #christianmarriage #reaction #tenacitypodcast #patrickemartinez

  5. Oct 7

    The Tenacity Podcast Episode 27 Part 3: It's Okay To Be Sad. It's Not Okay To Be Depressed.

    Anxiety is carrying too much. Depression is when the circumstances start deciding your future for you. Patrick has been there: the couch, the light moving across the wall, hours gone, a friend on the phone saying I'm worried about you, and a pastor telling him he was living in the basement with the windows shut. This is Part 3 of a three-part series on anxiety and depression in the midst of a crisis. Patrick and Maddie draw the line between necessary sadness and depression, talk about sweet lemons and sour grapes, and lay out what they are doing while their daughters are gone: the fathers' group, ice club, saying yes to things they did not feel like doing, praying for the opposition, and getting the girls' rooms ready for when they come home. Part 1 and Part 2 cover anxiety. Chapters 00:00 Previously, on Parts 1 and 2 00:54 Welcome 01:16 Anxiety vs Depression 02:35 Necessary Sadness 04:45 Where To Draw The Line 06:55 Staring At The Wall 08:28 You're In The Basement 09:49 Hopelessness 11:38 Preparing For Them To Come Home 13:26 Sweet Lemons, Sour Grapes 15:53 Content In Despair 17:11 Stubbornly Living Your Life 19:06 No Idle Hands 19:58 The Fathers' Group 22:37 Depression Wants You Isolated 25:09 Let People Support You 29:13 Praying For The Opposition 31:16 Reframe The Crisis 33:51 Pivot, Adapt, Level Up 35:43 Commit To The Suck 37:39 You Never Regret Going 40:45 Sadness Is Not Depression The Tenacity Podcast is Patrick and Maddie Martinez, a podcast for couples about marriage, family and getting through a crisis together. Free 30 minute call with Patrick: call.pem.coach #depression #sadness #hope #crisis #mentalhealth #marriage #relationships #faith #christianmarriage #isolation #tenacitypodcast #patrickemartinez

  6. Sep 30

    The Tenacity Podcast Epi 26: Anxiety And Depression In A Crisis Part 2

    Month five of the crisis. Nothing has gotten better. Their daughters are still gone, the court is still the court, and the longer it goes the worse it looks on paper. What changed is Maddie's response to it. This is Part 2 of a three-part series on anxiety and depression in the midst of a crisis. Patrick and Maddie talk about suffering with a purpose instead of pointlessly, why a crisis magnifies every flaw you were already carrying, the fog of war and why you are not supposed to see the whole path, and the shame that shows up when you cannot keep up appearances. Then the high chair: a baby shower gift with a $35 budget, an antique from Facebook Marketplace, twelve hours of stripping and painting, and a cousin who called it the most meaningful gift he got. Part 1 is where the anxiety conversation started. Part 3 is depression. Chapters 00:00 Previously, on Part 1 00:58 Welcome 01:49 Peace Despite The Chaos 03:25 Suffering With A Purpose 04:49 The Choice Inside Suffering 05:53 A Crisis Magnifies Every Flaw 07:08 The Last Crisis 08:13 Wisdom Only Suffering Teaches 10:52 The Fog Of War 13:32 Walking By Faith 14:45 Shame And Self-image 15:56 Caring What People Think 16:59 The Baby Shower Gift 19:17 Abased And Abounding 20:22 The $35 High Chair 25:22 The Gift He'd Remember 26:43 Draining People 30:06 Find The Source, Remove It 30:46 Be Proud Of The Fight 31:49 Please God, Not Men The Tenacity Podcast is Patrick and Maddie Martinez, a podcast for couples about marriage, family and getting through a crisis together. Free 30 minute call with Patrick: call.pem.coach

  7. Sep 23

    The Tenacity Podcast Epi 25: Anxiety And Depression In A Crisis - Part 1

    Maddie has been anxious since she was a kid. Then the crisis hit: five and a half months without their daughters, another round of false accusations, court dates, attorney bills. The anxiety turned into a skin infection that three months of antibiotics could not clear, because the thing keeping it alive was stress. This is Part 1 of a three-part series on anxiety and depression in the midst of a crisis. Maddie describes what anxiety is like from the inside, every waking second, and Patrick describes what it was like to watch. Then they walk through what actually changed: the two priorities Maddie was allowed to worry about and the note on her phone that held them, what Patrick took off her plate, what he had to hand off himself, and why self-care is not a pedicure. Part 2 keeps going on anxiety, the shame that comes with a crisis, and a $35 high chair. Part 3 is depression. Chapters 00:00 Someone's about to die 00:19 Why Anxiety, Why Now 03:15 Every Waking Second 05:25 Anxiety Or Trauma 06:14 Peace Can't Depend On Circumstances 09:24 The Illness That Forced The Lesson 13:25 Chapter One: Self-care 17:49 Two Priorities, Nothing Else 19:41 That's Not Your Burden 21:26 Let Him Cook 22:23 You're Not Their Protector 26:18 Self-care Is Active 27:29 Interrupt The Spiral 29:05 Where The Worry Came From 30:28 Your Body Thinks It's A Wolf The Tenacity Podcast is Patrick and Maddie Martinez, a podcast for couples about marriage, family and getting through a crisis together. Free 30 minute call with Patrick: call.pem.coach

  8. Sep 16

    The Tenacity Podcast Epi 24 Part 2: Why We Don't Go To Church Anymore

    People quote Hebrews 10 at Patrick and Maddie: do not forsake the assembling of yourselves together. Patrick's answer is that the verse is about community, and that a church where you cannot question a doctrine without being removed is not offering community. So they went and found it elsewhere. A fathers' group in Tulsa. An AA meeting, though Patrick has never been an addict. The mats at Maddie's jiu jitsu gym, where a training partner asked how she was really doing and her instructor corrected him when his advice went off the rails. She calls that better Christian community than she was getting on Sunday. Then Patrick, who spent seven years as a pastor and went to Bible college for this, lays out the part he cannot get around. He argues the church has the gospel itself wrong. That "Jesus died for your sins" is a thin description of the cross, like saying he bought Maddie a wedding ring so she would have something pretty to wear. That everlasting life in John 3:16 is not heaven, and Jesus defines it himself four chapters later. That salvation was never about accepting forgiveness, and the best salvation prayer in the Bible is Paul's five-word question. They are not deconstructing. Patrick is clear about the difference: they name what is broken, and then they put something in its place. If you have a good church, keep it. This is where the two of them landed. Chapters 00:00 Previously, in Part 1 00:55 Welcome 01:16 The three reasons, recapped 01:59 The verse people quote at us 03:09 You cannot question the doctrine 03:20 So we found community elsewhere 03:41 The fathers' group 06:28 Adhere to all of it, or get out 07:16 The church as a black hole 09:38 You'd be a better Christian in the parking lot 10:42 If your church closed, would anyone notice? 11:38 Better Christian community at jiu jitsu 14:35 The biggest reason, we can't buy in 15:11 Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees 16:21 Jesus died for your sins is a weak description 17:23 They made salvation all about heaven 18:02 John 3:16, and what everlasting life means 19:08 Salvation has nothing to do with forgiveness 20:22 What a salvation prayer actually is 21:25 How you actually hear God's voice 22:48 Not deconstructing, reconstructing 23:26 Why the Bible is not like any other book 24:21 God's Word is one Greek word 25:18 You can't grasp it with a 3D brain 26:37 Reading the Bible topically 27:51 What they never teach you 28:46 Where Jesus would actually be 29:14 Thanks for being with us The Tenacity Podcast is Patrick and Maddie Martinez, a podcast for couples about marriage, family and getting through a crisis together. Free 30 minute call with Patrick: call.pem.coach

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Tenacity is a podcast for individuals and couples navigating the hardest moments of life and relationships. Hosted by Patrick Martinez, this show goes beyond theory and into lived experience—covering marriage under pressure, crisis, trust, resilience, and reality of rebuilding when everything seems lost. Through raw storytelling, practical frameworks, and hard-earned insight, Tenacity equips you to survive what you’re facing—and build something stronger on the other side. This isn’t about perfect relationships. It’s about enduring, rebuilding, and refusing to give up when it matters most.

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  • Creator
    Patrick E Martinez
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    33
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Patrick E Martinez
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    The Tenacity Podcast