Straight up talk with Sharon & Peter

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We are both proud Brits and Canadians – this is a no-nonsense weekly podcast about behaviour, people, life, leadership, managing and all sorts of stuff, from a corporate and non-corporate perspective.  We don’t always agree...

  1. Nov 3

    Employed Or Self-Employed, who gets the better deal?

    Send us Fan Mail Employed or self-employed, who really gets the better deal? We dig into the answer with zero fluff, because the truth depends less on your job title and more on what you can tolerate day after day: uncertainty, responsibility, routine, politics, risk, or boredom. From the outside, self-employment can look like total freedom, but we talk honestly about the missing safety net, the pressure to find the next client, and the feast-or-famine cashflow that comes with running your own business.  We also challenge a common myth in employed life: that loyalty guarantees security. Work is a contract, and restructures, mergers, and redundancy can hit even high performers. We explore why people feel personally betrayed when a role ends, how identity gets tied to a position, and why “irreplaceable” is often an illusion. If you’ve ever watched colleagues spiral after a redundancy package, or felt that jolt yourself, you’ll recognise the emotional and practical lessons here.  Then we get pragmatic. If you hate the hours, pay, commute, or your manager, you still have options: talk to them, change roles, search, retrain, or make a bigger career pivot. Sharon shares her move away from corporate work towards building a coaching, training, and facilitation business with clients who respect boundaries and expertise. Press play, then subscribe, share with a mate who’s job-hunting, and leave a review with your take: are you wired for security, freedom, or a mix of both? Have a question, a comment, or want to find out more? go to https://www.beabetteryou.ca/

    Employed Or Self-Employed, who gets the better deal?

  2. Oct 27

    Who are you without your job title?

    Send us Fan Mail If your job disappeared tomorrow, what would be left of you? We start there and follow the thread all the way through work identity, job titles, and the sneaky way a career can swallow your personality if you let it. We’ve both seen how quickly “what I do” turns into “who I am”, especially as retirement gets closer and the old routines start to look less permanent.  Sharon shares a story from moving to Canada and watching a search for the “right” role turn into years of waiting, then a life dominated by the job once it finally arrived. We talk about why some people chase a title more than a life, why corporate status can be loud but empty, and why work will never love you back in the way a human life needs. Along the way we get into the everyday reality of finding passions and hobbies that are real, not just a line you say when someone asks what you’re “into”.  We also pull apart the difference between pride and identity. Doing your work well, taking care, earning trust, and getting genuine praise can feel great. The problem starts when that becomes your only source of worth. If you want a practical takeaway, this chat is packed with it: how to spot excuses, how to build a non-work identity, and how to describe yourself as a person rather than a job title.  If this hit a nerve, share it with a friend who’s living for their role, and please follow or subscribe so you don’t miss the next one. What would you say is the most interesting thing about you that has nothing to do with work? Have a question, a comment, or want to find out more? go to https://www.beabetteryou.ca/

    Who are you without your job title?

  3. Oct 20

    If your life had a soundtrack, what would be on it?

    Send us Fan Mail What song would you pick as the soundtrack to your life, and what would that choice reveal about you? We take that question seriously, then let it pull us through the moments where music locks itself to memory: reconnecting after years apart, sending clips back and forth, and realising you both love the same deep cuts. Along the way we land on Steely Dan, beloved albums, and the oddly intimate feeling of finding someone who hears a track the way you do.  From there we get brutally honest about live music. We talk about the gigs that disappoint, the nights when the sound is awful, and the performances that feel like the artist has checked out. We also share the shows we actually walked out of, and why, plus the strange truth that even great musicians can make something boring when the chemistry is not there. If you have ever left a venue thinking “Was that really it?”, you will recognise the feeling.  We also name the acts we still regret missing, including the impossible dream of seeing The Beatles in full flight and the wish to have caught George Michael live. We rewind to first concerts, punk energy, and the 1980s bands that shaped our taste, then hop across the Atlantic to Canadian music like Neil Young and Tragically Hip. Our big takeaway is simple: find the music you love and play it to death. If you enjoy thoughtful chat about gigs, nostalgia, and the soundtrack of your life, subscribe, share this with a mate, leave a review, and tell us what song you would choose? Have a question, a comment, or want to find out more? go to https://www.beabetteryou.ca/

    If your life had a soundtrack, what would be on it?

  4. Oct 6

    AI isn’t the problem. Not knowing whether its answer is any good might be

    Send us Fan Mail AI can write for us, plan for us, and even “think” alongside us. The uncomfortable twist is that the more we lean on it, the easier it is to lose the very skills we are trying to enhance. We dig into that tension with a real-world, no-hype look at ChatGPT and artificial intelligence in everyday life and work. We talk about the moment AI becomes genuinely useful: not as a flashy toy, but as a tool that turns confusing information into something you can act on, like translating blood test results into plain English. From there, we get practical about AI at work, including using Zoom transcription so we can focus on a client conversation, then using AI to summarise, structure, and draft a proposal. The time savings are real, but only when we stay in control of quality. That leads to the core idea: AI output is only as good as your prompts, your sources, and your ability to judge what comes back. We unpack “garbage in, garbage out”, why you should ask for reputable references, and how mistakes can slip through when you do not have subject knowledge. We also look ahead to workplace AI policies, how managers might use AI without breaking trust, and why schools face a bigger challenge than detection: protecting learning and critical thinking while the tech races ahead. If this conversation made you pause, subscribe for more Straight Up Talk, share it with someone who uses AI daily, and leave a review with your answer: where should the line be between helpful assistance and lazy outsourcing? Have a question, a comment, or want to find out more? go to https://www.beabetteryou.ca/

    AI isn’t the problem. Not knowing whether its answer is any good might be

  5. Sep 29

    When does your pet start owning you?

    Send us Fan Mail How much of your life would you reorganise around an animal? We love dogs and cats, most of our friends have them, and we can absolutely see why people call pets “family”. But we’ve never had pets together, and it’s not an accident, it’s a choice. We like being able to travel, to pack up at short notice, and to disappear for weeks without turning life into a logistics puzzle of kennels, sitters, and guilt. We dig into the real trade-offs of pet ownership: the hit to spontaneity, the responsibility that never takes a day off, and the question of what’s fair to the animal when you’re away. We also talk about the difference between a pet and an animal partner, using our horse as the example, loved deeply but tied to sport, routine, and practical decisions in a way that feels different from a dog on the sofa. Then we get personal and a bit brutal. There are funny stories, sad stories, and the kind of honest money talk people often avoid: expensive emergencies, Sunday vet fees, and the thousands some owners will spend to keep a beloved animal going. It all builds to a simple, uncomfortable question: at what point does owning a pet become the pet owning you? If you’ve ever debated getting a dog, felt guilty about leaving your cat, or judged someone else’s choices, you’ll have thoughts. Subscribe for more Straight Up Talk, share this with a pet lover in your life, and leave us a review with your answer: where do you draw the line? Have a question, a comment, or want to find out more? go to https://www.beabetteryou.ca/

    When does your pet start owning you?

  6. Sep 22

    Getting Older: Buckle Up, Buttercup

    Send us Fan Mail Ageing sounds like a slow fade until you’re actually doing it. Sharon and Pete get brutally honest about what changes after 60: not just your body, but your tolerance, your priorities, and the way the world responds to you. We start with the uncomfortable truth that society is built around younger people, even though later life can bring hard-won skills, experience, and judgement that no course can teach.  Work is where it bites first. Pete talks about the anxiety of trying to find decent paid employment at 65, especially without formal qualifications, and how easily older workers get sidelined by quiet hiring bias. We dig into ageism, the fear employers have about “coasting”, and the awkward dynamic of being managed by someone younger who worries you might outshine them. If you’re thinking about a later-life career change, self-employment, or simply staying in work longer, you’ll hear your own concerns echoed back with clarity.  Then we turn to retirement. Sharon shares her mum’s move to Spain and the line that says it all: “There’s only so many times you can walk up and down the beach.” We talk about purpose after work, why boredom can creep in fast, and how longevity changes the whole idea of what retirement is for. Along the way we hit travel, flying fatigue, mortality, and the upside of ageing: stronger boundaries, fewer fake obligations, and more confidence in who you are.  If you enjoyed this frank conversation about getting older, retirement planning, ageism at work, and finding purpose in later life, subscribe, share it with a mate, and leave us a review. What’s been the biggest surprise of ageing for you? Have a question, a comment, or want to find out more? go to https://www.beabetteryou.ca/

    Getting Older: Buckle Up, Buttercup

  7. Sep 15

    Are You Moving Towards A Better Life Or Just Away From A Problem

    Send us Fan Mail A removals van has barely arrived, it is already dark, and the client asks a question nobody wants to hear: “Before you offload, how much would you charge me to move the stuff back?” That true story sets the tone for a candid chat about moving house in the UK and the thin line between a fresh start and instant regret. We talk honestly about how you decide it is time to move, how you judge whether a new place will suit you beyond the first impression, and why “holiday logic” can be a trap when real life kicks in during winter. Pete brings decades of removals experience and shares the patterns he keeps seeing. One of the biggest drivers is not jobs or bigger kitchens, it is neighbours. We dig into noise, conflict, and the slow grind of living next to someone you cannot reason with, plus the practical question of when it is worth trying to mend things and when it is smarter to cut your losses. Along the way, we swap a few personal stories about learning to keep the peace and why falling out with neighbours can haunt you for years. We also get into school catchment areas, property trade-offs, and the sacrifices families make to get children into better schools, including a day Pete’s team was filmed by ITN while helping a single mum move to a worse home purely for a school with a strong reputation. If you are weighing up a relocation, you will leave with sharper questions to ask, a clearer sense of “right reasons” versus “panic reasons”, and a reminder that temporary moves often last longer than you expect. If this resonated, subscribe, share it with someone planning a move, and leave a review. What is the best or worst reason you have seen someone move for? Have a question, a comment, or want to find out more? go to https://www.beabetteryou.ca/

    Are You Moving Towards A Better Life Or Just Away From A Problem

  8. Aug 25

    You Think You’re Fine. Everyone Else Has Notes.

    Send us Fan Mail You can fall off a chair without being drunk, flip out of a camping seat while protecting your drink, and still be convinced you’re basically fine. That’s the trap, isn’t it? The habits we live with every day feel normal from the inside, while everyone around us is watching the same pattern repeat. Sharon and Pete start with a very real “cack-handed” moment, then use it to get to something much bigger: how self-awareness works, and how easily we miss the impact we have on other people. We talk about the behaviours that show up in relationships and in the workplace: the constant interrupter who swears they’re just engaged, the person who never gets to the point, the one who corrects tiny details, the devil’s advocate on autopilot, the always-late colleague, and the “last minute” hero who leaves everyone else stressed. Some quirks are harmless, but when you’re a manager or leader, the same habits can cost trust, damage psychological safety, and even lose business in a meeting. We also dig into a practical distinction that changes everything: intent versus impact. Good intentions don’t guarantee good outcomes, and assuming you know why someone did something is a fast route to conflict. To bring it home, Sharon shares an emotional intelligence exercise that reveals who defaults to collaboration and who defaults to combat, plus why senior leaders can be the most likely to compete when feedback dries up. We finish with clear takeaways on communication skills: focus on behaviour, check your assumptions, watch body language, and be kind while being direct. If you like thoughtful conversations about leadership development, self-awareness, and better workplace behaviour, hit subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave us a review. What’s one habit you’ve had to unlearn? Have a question, a comment, or want to find out more? go to https://www.beabetteryou.ca/

    You Think You’re Fine. Everyone Else Has Notes.
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We are both proud Brits and Canadians – this is a no-nonsense weekly podcast about behaviour, people, life, leadership, managing and all sorts of stuff, from a corporate and non-corporate perspective.  We don’t always agree...

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