I Feel Like I Should

Keith Lane
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Everyone had a song they pretended to love, the one all your friends swore by, the one you nodded along to so nobody would ask why you didn't. I Feel Like I Should starts there, with that one small lie, and follows it all the way to the bigger ones underneath: who taught you what you were supposed to want, and what it costs to keep carrying it. Ten conversations. Ten different shoulds. Hosted by Keith Lane. I Feel Like I Should is not a therapy podcast and is not a substitute for professional mental health care.

Episodes

  1. Aug 4

    Kath Parker: We Can't All Be Frank Zappa

    Kath Parker co-runs The Veiled Mirror, an antique store where she curates pieces that are dark, unusual, and often unexpectedly beautiful, with objects dating from the 1600s through the 1940s. In this episode of I Feel Like I Should, Kath starts with her love of Foreigner, then goes back to growing up around MTV, alternative music, pink hair, a mohawk, and a school environment where she did not feel the same pressure to fit in that many people remember from that age. From there, the episode moves into confidence, co-running a business, Daoism, Alan Watts, loss, Victorian mourning practices, and why grief can feel so private in a culture that often expects people to keep going. We also talk about technology, attention, YouTube, and the difference between work and art. Kath ends the episode with This Mortal Coil’s “Song to the Siren,” the final song added to the Season 1 guest playlist. This is the final episode of Season 1 of I Feel Like I Should. Thank you to everyone who listened, shared an episode, followed along, or sent in a song or artist they felt like they should have loved but didn’t. We’re taking a short break before Season 2. More soon. Listen to episodes and learn more: https://ifeellikeishould.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifeellikeishouldpod Guest playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2kMw7iXDryYtRlV8oRXHFB

    Kath Parker: We Can't All Be Frank Zappa

  2. Jul 28

    Mark Manausa: Fitting In, Leaving Home, and Building Community

    Mark Manausa is a commercial airline pilot with a deep love for music and creative expression. Music has been a steady part of his life, both as a listener and a player, and is one of the main ways he stays grounded. In this episode of *I Feel Like I Should*, Mark starts with a Taylor Swift song a friend once woke him up with at 3 a.m., then goes back to middle school, when he was trying to figure out what he liked, what everyone else liked, and where he fit. From there, the episode moves into Nirvana, leaving home at a young age, fear of failure, parenthood, and the part of himself that used to say, “we gotta go.” We also talk about building community, getting to know your neighbors, and why Miles Miller’s Mister Runaway is worth hearing. Listen to episodes and learn more: https://ifeellikeishould.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifeellikeishouldpod Guest playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2kMw7iXDryYtRlV8oRXHFB

    Mark Manausa: Fitting In, Leaving Home, and Building Community

  3. Jul 21

    Peay: What the American Dream Leaves Out

    Peay is a professor of Black Studies and a native of Southeast Texas with seven years of experience working in secondary education across the Houston area. In this episode of I Feel Like I Should, Peay starts with Olivia Dean, country music, New Kids on the Block, MTV, BET, grunge, R&B, hip-hop, and the later wave of boy bands that never really connected for him. Growing up in Southeast Texas, music was not one lane. A lot of sounds were present at once, even if some never quite landed. From there, the episode turns toward the American Dream and the promises many people were raised on: get an education, follow the path, build a life. Peay talks about Southern expectations around adulthood, race, class, generational wealth, and what happens when the rules people inherit no longer match the world they are living in. Peay also shares why Snarky Puppy is a band more people should hear. Listen to episodes and learn more: https://ifeellikeishould.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifeellikeishouldpod Guest playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2kMw7iXDryYtRlV8oRXHFB

    Peay: What the American Dream Leaves Out

  4. Jul 7

    Shep: Questioning the Shoulds We Hold

    Shep is a queer relationship and sexuality coach and therapist-in-training whose work focuses on non-conventional relationship structures and kink. After nearly a decade working in sustainability, they returned to school to help people think more clearly about themselves, their relationships, and the rules they were taught to follow. In this episode of I Feel Like I Should, Shep talks about music, growing up with a strong need to fit in, navigating gender, attending fashion school in London, and eventually leaving the industry for work that felt more aligned with their values. As Shep moves through another career transition into therapy, the episode turns toward relationships, sexuality, chosen paths, and the process of asking where a “should” came from before deciding whether it still belongs. Listen to episodes and learn more: https://ifeellikeishould.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifeellikeishouldpod Guest playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2kMw7iXDryYtRlV8oRXHFB

    Shep: Questioning the Shoulds We Hold

  5. Jun 30

    Chris Schumacher: Learning to Want What You Want

    Chris Schumacher is a visual artist, photographer, and occasional musician living on a small mountainside farm in Appalachia. Raised in the Deep South, he spent years trying to live up to expectations that never quite felt like his own. In this episode of I Feel Like I Should, Chris talks about growing up with religious and cultural pressure, trying to fit in, marrying young, and questioning ideas about success, masculinity, and work. As Chris reflects on career crossroads, the episode moves into art, photography, family, money, uncertainty, and the difference between asking what you should do and asking what you actually want. Listen to episodes and learn more: https://ifeellikeishould.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifeellikeishouldpod Guest playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2kMw7iXDryYtRlV8oRXHFB

    Chris Schumacher: Learning to Want What You Want

  6. Jun 23

    Daniel Whitaker: The Pressure to Catch Up

    Daniel Whitaker is a graduate student in mental health counseling, a bonsai instructor, an event host, and a self-described professional goofball living in New York City. In this episode of I Feel Like I Should, Daniel talks about music, fitting in, and the feeling of being behind before you really know who you are. From there, the episode moves into growing up in the Midwest, coming out later in life, finding community in New York City, and learning to stop measuring yourself against other people’s timelines. We also talk about comparison, mental health, queerness, friendship, and what it can feel like to build a life that finally feels like your own. Listen to episodes and learn more: https://ifeellikeishould.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifeellikeishouldpod Guest playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2kMw7iXDryYtRlV8oRXHFB

    Daniel Whitaker: The Pressure to Catch Up

  7. Jun 16

    Shane Alcock: Curiosity, and the Paths We Don't Take

    Shane Alcock is a filmmaker, father, and self-described interested human being who hopes the caring and compassionate side of humanity can continue to grow. In this episode of I Feel Like I Should, Shane talks about music, childhood, and growing up in South Africa. From there, the episode moves into family expectations, fatherhood, creativity, regret, curiosity, and the long process of finding your own path. Shane reflects on growing up in a fishing family, choosing a different life than the one imagined for him, and an eco-lodge dream that still matters even though it never happened. We also talk about deep listening, the music that shaped him, and the ways songs can connect people across time, place, and memory. Listen to episodes and learn more: https://ifeellikeishould.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifeellikeishouldpod Guest playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2kMw7iXDryYtRlV8oRXHFB

    Shane Alcock: Curiosity, and the Paths We Don't Take

  8. Jun 9

    Lola Villa: Rest, Identity, and Trusting Yourself

    Lola Villa is a Bogotá-born composer, musicologist, DJ, and sound designer whose work explores electronic music, deep listening, and environmental awareness. She is the co-founder of Future Sound of Nature, a record label featured in MoMA Magazine; a board member of DJs for Climate Action; a co-founder of EchoSystem School of Sound; and the sound designer behind  I Feel Like I Should's original theme music. In this episode of I Feel Like I Should, Lola talks about music, taste, family expectations, immigration, productivity, rest, anxiety, and learning to trust her own experience. The episode moves through creativity, body awareness, nature, deep listening, and the ways music has shaped Lola's life and work. Content note: This episode includes discussion of anxiety, eating disorders, body image, and mental health. If you or someone you know needs support, contact the NAMI HelpLine at 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) or info@nami.org. Listen to episodes and learn more: https://ifeellikeishould.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifeellikeishouldpod Guest playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2kMw7iXDryYtRlV8oRXHFB

    Lola Villa: Rest, Identity, and Trusting Yourself

  9. Jun 2

    Kim Fox: Podcasting, Creativity, and What Comes Next

    Kim Fox is a podcast producer, educator, and researcher whose work has helped shape audio storytelling in Egypt, across Africa, and beyond. A Professor of Practice at the American University in Cairo, she specializes in radio, audio, and podcasting, with a focus on Global Majority creators. She is the founder of PodFest Cairo, the first podcasting conference in Egypt and Africa, and the executive producer of the award-winning bilingual podcast Ehky Ya Masr (Tell Your Story, Egypt). In this episode of I Feel Like I Should, Kim talks about growing up around music, finding her way into radio and podcasting, and building a career centered on listening, teaching, and helping others tell stories. The episode moves into cultural expectations, family, work, entrepreneurship, and what it means to build something new when there is no clear model in front of you. Listen to episodes and learn more: https://ifeellikeishould.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifeellikeishouldpod Guest playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2kMw7iXDryYtRlV8oRXHFB

    Kim Fox: Podcasting, Creativity, and What Comes Next

  10. May 26

    Emily Johnson: Journalism, Identity, and the Songs We Think We Should Love

    Emily Johnson is a freelance journalist whose reporting has taken her around the world, from Ukraine to Argentina, East Africa, and parts of Asia. She is also an associate professor in the journalism department at Baruch College and is currently working on her first novel. In the first episode of I Feel Like I Should, Emily talks about the Dave Matthews Band, Dispatch, Guster, growing up around Motown, and coming to hip-hop later in life. From there, the conversation moves into atheism, patriotism, the Pledge of Allegiance, journalism, restlessness, travel, family expectations, and the pull toward a bigger life. Emily also talks about writing her first novel, returning to fiction after years of reporting, and the difference between the “shoulds” that come from external pressure and those that feel closer to a calling. Listen to episodes and learn more: https://ifeellikeishould.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifeellikeishouldpod Guest playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2kMw7iXDryYtRlV8oRXHFB

    Emily Johnson: Journalism, Identity, and the Songs We Think We Should Love

  11. Apr 8

    I Feel Like I Should | Official Trailer

    I Feel Like I Should is a podcast built around a simple idea: most of us have loved things because we thought we were supposed to. Each episode begins with a song or artist a guest felt like they should have loved but didn’t. Sometimes it comes from friends. Sometimes from family, culture, or a moment when fitting in matters more than being honest with yourself. There’s usually a pause when I ask the question. Then people start talking. What begins with music opens into something else. Conversations about identity, expectations, and the quiet pressure to become a certain kind of person. I’m Keith Lane. This is I Feel Like I Should. Episodes coming soon. Listen to episodes and learn more: https://ifeellikeishould.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ifeellikeishouldpod Guest playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2kMw7iXDryYtRlV8oRXHFB

    I Feel Like I Should | Official Trailer
  • 11 Episodes

About

Everyone had a song they pretended to love, the one all your friends swore by, the one you nodded along to so nobody would ask why you didn't. I Feel Like I Should starts there, with that one small lie, and follows it all the way to the bigger ones underneath: who taught you what you were supposed to want, and what it costs to keep carrying it. Ten conversations. Ten different shoulds. Hosted by Keith Lane. I Feel Like I Should is not a therapy podcast and is not a substitute for professional mental health care.

Information

  • Creator
    Keith Lane
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    11
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 I Feel Like I Should
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