I Think I Can Be Happier

Hannah Choi and Amy McDuffie

This one's for the person who knows they could be happier but isn't quite sure how to get there. Join us, Hannah Choi and Amy McDuffie, as we embark on this adventure with you. We're two people who work as executive function coaches and care deeply about living well. We're still figuring this whole happiness thing out ourselves and want to share what we learn with you! I Think I Can Be Happier brings you the stories of people who are finding their own path toward happiness, the science behind why it's so hard, and tools and strategies that might make things a little easier. Stories and science for people in progress.

  1. 4d ago

    Decluttering Your Priorities with Tyler Moore, The Tidy Dad | Ep. 14

    Hannah and Amy welcome Tyler Moore, AKA Tidy Dad, author of Tidy Up Your Life, Today Show guest, and New York City elementary school teacher. Hannah first interviewed Tyler on her previous podcast Focus Forward, complete with a coughing fit that almost took her out entirely. This time around, the conversation opens a little differently than usual: Hannah shares that she is recording this episode on the same day she learned that one of her favorite musicians, Glen Hansard, died the night before. Tyler's book is now available in paperback, and he has also launched a podcast called Tidy Tidbits, short digestible episodes on tidying, organization, and priorities. Both are worth checking out. The conversation covers a lot of ground, all of it connected by a through line about what it actually means to live in alignment with your values rather than everyone else's expectations. Tyler talks about his twenties as a decade of building, his thirties as a decade of proving himself to others until it led to a complete mental health breakdown, and his forties as a decade of ruthlessly decluttering other people's opinions. He lives in a 750-square-foot New York City apartment with his wife and three kids, walks six blocks to school, comes home for lunch every day, and considers that a life well designed. It might not be what others would choose, but it is what aligns with what his family actually values: family, connection, freedom, and time. Hannah and Amy connect Tyler's philosophy throughout to executive function skills, particularly organization, prioritization, metacognition, and interoception, making the case that tidying your physical life and tidying your inner life are the same skill practiced in different rooms. In this episode: living in alignment with your values, the messy middle, priorities vs. time management, organization as a life skill, the focusing illusion, what your body is trying to tell you, metacognition and interoception, starting over, the oxygen mask principle, ruthless decluttering of other people's opinions, and why the bathroom being on floor three and a half of a New York City school is just fine. Find Tyler thetidydad.com Instagram: @tidydad Substack: The Tidy Times | Substack Tidy Up Your Life by Tyler Moore is now available in paperback. Amazon link Tidy Tidbits, Tyler's podcast: short episodes on tidying, organization, and priorities. Find it wherever you get your podcasts. MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE Tyler's previous appearance on Focus Forward The Viral Sensation Sweeping the Nation: Eric's delicious dinner. Trader Joe's lobster bisque over pasta with Argentinian pink shrimp and scallops. Hannah promised the recipe in the show notes. Here it is. Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman: Hannah references the focusing illusion and Kahneman's quote: "Nothing in life is as important as you think it is while you are thinking about it." The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk: Hannah brings this in during the conversation about the physical signals our bodies send us when something needs to change. Tyler's eye twitch during the book editing process is a perfect example. Metacognition and interoception: Two helpful skills that come up throughout the episode. Metacognition is the ability to think about your own thinking and notice patterns in yourself. Interoception is your awareness of what is happening inside your body: tension, stress, hunger, fatigue. Both are learnable and both are, as Hannah and Amy point out, things Tyler has clearly put real work into developing. Glen Hansard: The Irish folk singer Hannah mentions at the opening of the episode, whose music has been a companion through some of her hardest seasons. CONNECT WITH US Reach out to us! Email us at hello@icanbehappier.com or visit icanbehappier.com. Find us on Instagram at icanbehappier.podcast, and on Facebook and LinkedIn. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health support. Please reach out to a qualified licensed provider if you need help. As an Amazon affiliate, we get a small percentage of the sale of any books you purchase through our links. It's an easy way to support us! Thank you!

  2. Aug 31

    Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life with Bill Abel | Ep. 13

    In this episode, Hannah and Amy sit down with Bill Abel, certified yoga instructor, watercolor artist, and, as Amy is happy to report, one of her own yoga teachers. Bill has been teaching yoga for nearly 11 years, and discovered his practice at 52 after a cold call from a stranger invited him to try a free class. That phone call changed everything. Bill's story is one of the most warmly human conversations the show has had. An unexpected and unwanted divorce, a deep sense of disconnection, a body that needed moving and a mind that needed quieting, and then one unexpected phone call that became a catalyst for a whole new life. He talks about what it felt like to be stuck, how fear and vulnerability became his teachers rather than his enemies, and why the yoga mat is a mirror for who you are in life. He also introduces his inner gremlin, Richard (short for something he's not sure if he can say but learns he can), and how naming and living with your limiting beliefs, rather than trying to silence them, is part of what actually moves you forward. In this episode: finding your catalyst, beginner's mind, fear as a sign of growth, self-limiting beliefs and the gremlin, connection and belonging, pure listening, contribution as a path to happiness, the minimalist mindset, and what it looks like to sell everything and start over at any age. Find Bill Bill Abel is a certified yoga instructor and watercolor artist based in North Carolina. His watercolor work is genuinely worth seeing. Bill Abel – Watercolor painter and yoga instructor in Hendersonville, NC MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE Baron Baptiste and Baptiste Yoga: The yoga methodology that shaped Bill's practice and teaching. Built on three principles: physicality, empowerment, and possibility. www.baptisteyoga.com Dancing Mind Studios, Falls Church, Virginia: Where Bill took his very first yoga class after that cold call. The studio that started it all. Two Wolves: Bill references the well-known parable about two wolves, one of fear and one of courage, and which one wins depending on which one you feed. David Bowie on aging: Bill references a Bowie quote about getting older being the beautiful process of becoming who you were really meant to be. "Aging is an extraordinary process whereby you become the person you always should have been." ADDITIONAL RESOURCES The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker: For listeners who want to go deeper on the relationship between fear and growth, and how to tell the difference between fear that protects and fear that holds you back. Daring Greatly by Brene Brown: Bill's conversation about vulnerability, belonging, and letting others see the beginner in you maps directly onto Brown's research. A natural companion to this episode. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck: The foundational book on growth mindset, directly relevant to everything Bill describes about leaning into discomfort, embracing failure, and staying in the learning zone. The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer: For listeners moved by Bill's reflections on getting out of your head and coming into your body and your life. CONNECT WITH US Reach out to us! Email us at hello@icanbehappier.com or visit icanbehappier.com. Find us on Instagram at icanbehappier.podcast, and on Facebook and LinkedIn. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health support. Please reach out to a qualified licensed provider if you need help. As an Amazon affiliate, we get a small percentage of the sale of any books you purchase through our links. It's an easy way to support us! Thank you!

  3. Aug 17

    Stop Playing Small with Kiin Sauna Founder Ginger Richardson | Ep. 12

    Listen in as Hannah and Amy sit down with Ginger Richardson, certified sauna and cold plunge coach, health coach, and founder of Kiin, a contrast therapy business based in Westport, Connecticut. Ginger runs a wood-burning Nordic style mobile sauna and cold plunge operation that pops up at beaches, wellness retreats, and private events across the area, and Hannah has personally experienced it firsthand, breaking a lantern on the way in and staying in the cold plunge for two full minutes despite having Raynaud's. Liking our show? Leave us a tip to say thanks! Ginger's story is one of the most honest and inspiring the show has featured. Divorce after 12 years out of the workforce, a mother's stroke, a lost friendship, a relationship ending, a rental sold out from under her, all within five months. Instead of playing small, she woke up one morning and put her savings into a mobile sauna business she designed herself. Less than a year later she has investors, two employees, and a permanent location. But the real heart of the conversation is not the business success. It is what Ginger learned along the way about discomfort, the central nervous system, community, and what happiness actually requires. Ginger's definition of happiness is a calm central nervous system, and everything she does, contrast therapy, breathwork, grounding, movement, community, filtering relationships through how they make her feel in her core, is in service of that. She talks about the tools she has built, how she uses humming to regulate in the middle of the night, how breathwork in the cold plunge translated into getting air into closing airways during an anaphylactic episode, and why she believes all the hard things in her life led her exactly where she needed to be. In this episode: contrast therapy and its benefits, the physiological effects of heat and cold, breathwork as a life skill, building your toolbox before you need it, cognitive flexibility and metacognition, the central nervous system and happiness, filtering relationships, doing the inside work first, why you just have to start, and why life being hard is actually the best part. Find Ginger Kiinsauna.com for booking, private events, corporate events, and wellness partnerships. Instagram: @kiinsauna Kiin is based in Westport, Connecticut with mobile pop-ups throughout the area. MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE The Upside of Stress by Kelly McGonigal: Hannah references the episode they did on this book and McGonigal's finding that people who believe stress is harmful have a significantly higher mortality rate than those who see stress as something useful. Listen to that episode here. The Happiness Lab with Laurie Santos: Hannah references Santos on the idea that we don't expect to get fit from one exercise class and never work out again, yet we somehow expect happiness to work that way. Listen here. Contrast therapy research: Ginger references research that suggests regular sauna use may be associated with reduced cardiovascular risk. Read it here. Reach out to us! Email us at hello@icanbehappier.com or visit icanbehappier.com. Find us on Instagram at icanbehappier.podcast, and on Facebook and LinkedIn. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health support. Please reach out to a qualified licensed provider if you need help. As an Amazon affiliate, we get a small percentage of the sale of any books you purchase through our links. It's an easy way to support us! Thank you!

  4. Aug 10

    The Foundations of a Happier Life, Part 2 | Ep. 11

    Listen as Hannah and Amy wrap up their two-part series on foundational routines with nutrition and social connection. If you missed part one on sleep and movement, go back and listen to that one first since these four areas are deeply interconnected and build on each other throughout both episodes. Liking our show? Leave us a tip to say thanks! Amy takes the lead on nutrition, walking through why the brain, despite being only about 2% of your body weight, uses roughly 20% of your daily energy and needs to be fed accordingly. She covers the gut-brain axis, the role of blood sugar stability in executive function, and the surprising research on dehydration showing that even mild fluid loss, before you feel thirsty, measurably impairs attention, working memory, and processing speed. Hannah adds observations from years of working with college students including that students who cook for themselves tend to do significantly better academically, and she believes nourishing their brains more consistently is a big part of why. Hannah dives into the social connection section with genuine enthusiasm, covering the three dimensions outlined in The World Happiness Report — quantity, quality, and structure — and sharing some striking research: social relationships are better predictors of long, happy lives than social class, IQ, or genetics, and 19% of young adults globally now report having no one to count on, a 39% increase since 2006. She also touches on synchrony and collective joy, the value of brief everyday interactions with strangers, diversifying your social portfolio across ages, and a simple but powerful self-check after spending time with people. In this episode: the sleep-nutrition connection, the gut-brain axis, blood sugar and executive function, omega-3 fatty acids and brain health, hydration as a cognitive tool, cooking as an executive function practice, social connection and longevity, synchrony and collective joy, body doubling, the connection crisis, the three dimensions of social connection, diversifying your social portfolio, and why brief interactions with strangers matter more than you think. RESEARCH MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE The World Happiness Report: An annual global study out of Harvard covering a wide range of wellbeing factors. Hannah references the chapter "Connecting With Others" by Pai and Zaki, which outlines the three dimensions of social connection: quantity, quality, and structure. Read the report here. The Global Flourishing Study: Another major Harvard-based study consistently finding that social relationships are better predictors of long, happy lives than social class, IQ, or genetics. Learn more here. Lassale et al. (2019), published in Molecular Psychiatry: Analysis of data from over 45,000 people across multiple countries finding that a healthy diet rich in vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and healthy fats was associated with significantly lower risk of depression. Masento et al. (2014), published in the British Journal of Nutrition: Found that even mild dehydration, before you feel thirsty, measurably impairs attention, working memory, and processing speed. Omega-3 fatty acids and the brain: Amy references research linking DHA specifically to better working memory, attention, and processing speed. A good overview can be found in Stonehouse (2014), published in Nutrients. THREE DIMENSIONS OF SOCIAL CONNECTION From The World Happiness Report, chapter by Pai and Zaki: Quantity: The number of existing social relationships in your life, from isolation to high connectivity. The actual number matters less than whether it feels right for you. Do you have enough? Are you spread too thin? Quality: The emotional, social, or practical support provided by your relationships. A useful question to ask yourself after spending time with people: do you feel supported, and do you feel good about yourself? Structure: The organizational makeup of your social network, including how interconnected your people are with each other. Being part of a community, however small, has a surprisingly meaningful impact on wellbeing. It can be friends, family, coworkers, an online group, or a neighborhood. ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Lost Connections by Johann Hari: One of the most important books on the social roots of depression and anxiety, directly relevant to the connection crisis Hannah discusses. Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam: The foundational research on the decline of social capital and community in America. This Is Your Brain on Food by Uma Naidoo MD: A Harvard-trained psychiatrist and nutritionist on the direct relationship between diet and mental health, including anxiety, depression, and cognitive function. In Defense of Food by Michael Pollan: A readable and reassuring case for eating real food without overcomplicating it. His summary, "Eat food, not too much, mostly plants," is a useful antidote to nutrition overwhelm. Greater Good Science Center: Berkeley's research hub for wellbeing science. Their sections on social connection and gratitude are particularly strong. CONNECT WITH US Have something that works for you around nutrition and social connection? Hannah and Amy would love to hear it. Email hello@icanbehappier.com, find them on Instagram at icanbehappier.podcast, or visit icanbehappier.com. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health support. Please reach out to a qualified licensed provider if you need help. As an Amazon affiliate, we get a small percentage of the sale of any books you purchase through our links. It's an easy way to support us! Thank you!

  5. Aug 3

    The Foundations of a Happier Life, Part 1 | Ep. 10

    In this episode, Hannah and Amy kick off a two-part series on foundational routines, the things we do in daily life that quietly support everything else, including our executive function, our mood, and our ability to show up as the people we want to be. This is part one, covering sleep and movement. Part two, covering nutrition and social connection, drops next week. Liking our show? Leave us a tip to say thanks! Before they dive in, Hannah and Amy are clear about what this episode is not: it is not a lecture, it is not a list of shoulds, and it is definitely not about perfection. The goal is simply to share some of the science, offer a few ideas, and invite listeners to think about which of these foundations might deserve a little more love and attention. On sleep, Amy walks through why the brain needs it so much more than we tend to give it credit for, including what happens to the prefrontal cortex and emotional regulation when we are running on too little, and why we are often worse off than we realize. Hannah adds the ADHD angle and the hormonal piece that many women do not know about until it is already affecting them. On movement, Hannah digs into a wealth of research showing that almost any amount of regular movement has real cognitive and happiness benefits, that frequency matters more than intensity, and that exercising with other people makes the whole thing significantly more powerful. The episode closes with an invitation to ask one simple question: what would this look like if it were fun? In this episode: why the brain is active during sleep, the ADHD and sleep connection, hormonal changes and sleep disruption, the minimum effective dose of movement, why frequency beats intensity, the cognitive benefits of getting outside, moving in community, interoception and executive function, the default mode network, and why you absolutely do not need to run a marathon. BOOKS MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE The Joy of Movement by Kelly McGonigal — Hannah references this extensively in the movement section. McGonigal makes the case that movement does not have to be a slog and covers the profound benefits of moving outdoors and in community. She also discusses the Hadza tribe of Tanzania, studied by Herman Pontzer, whose high levels of physical activity correlated with uncommonly low rates of anxiety and depression. (Note: Hannah mentions she has not read it cover to cover yet but did a deep dive on the content.) The Upside of Stress by Kelly McGonigal — Referenced briefly as the subject of an earlier episode. McGonigal's work on reframing stress connects naturally to her work on movement. Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain by John J. Ratey — Amy recommends this one from memory as a compelling read on the mind-body connection, full of case studies including research on a school district that incorporated exercise and saw lasting cognitive benefits in children. Say Good Night to Insomnia by Gregg D. Jacobs — Based on a Harvard Medical School program using cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia, known as CBT-I, which is currently the gold standard treatment for chronic insomnia and is recommended before medication. A practical and research-backed resource for listeners who specifically struggle with falling or staying asleep. RESEARCH MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE Laura Barca (2024) — Hannah references a recent meta-analysis by Barca that summarizes the broad cognitive and emotional benefits of movement, including its effects on interoception, executive function connectivity, self-awareness, and emotion regulation. Zhang and Chen (2018) — A review of 23 studies drawn from over 1,500 candidates, all reporting positive associations between physical activity and happiness. Key finding: as little as 10 minutes a day or one session per week of physical activity can make a meaningful difference. Scullin and Bliwise (2015) — Amy references this research showing that a consistent wake time is one of the most impactful single changes you can make for sleep quality, often more achievable than trying to fall asleep earlier. Killgore (2010), a review published in Progress in Brain Research: Amy refers to this research that found that sleep loss impairs not just cognitive performance but emotional regulation, moral reasoning, risk assessment, and social judgment. In other words, sleep does not just affect how well you think. It affects who you are in your relationships and how you make decisions about your life. MOVEMENT IDEAS FROM THE EPISODE Hannah mentions she will include a list in the show notes. Here it is: Hiking, pickleball, walking around your neighborhood, yoga, chair yoga, cleaning, dance, stretching, playing games at an arcade, gardening, folding laundry, walking a dog, walking with a friend, a workplace lunch walk, walking club, Hiking with Hounds at your local animal rescue, a Saturday morning fitness class, getting outside for 10 minutes in the morning, pickleball, walking around a parking lot while you wait for someone whose brownies took longer than expected. The guiding question: what would this look like if it were fun? A NOTE ON PART TWO Nutrition and social connection are coming next week. Hannah and Amy will cover the science behind both, why they matter for executive function and happiness, and what small experiments you might try. CONNECT WITH US Have something that works for you around sleep or movement? Hannah and Amy would love to hear it. Email hello@icanbehappier.com, find them on Instagram at icanbehappier.podcast, or visit icanbehappier.com. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health support. Please reach out to a qualified licensed provider if you need help. As an Amazon affiliate, we get a small percentage of the sale of any books you purchase through our links. It's an easy way to support us! Thank you!

  6. Jul 20

    Everyone Has a Story with Matt Shearer of WBZ Boston | Ep. 9

    Listen to Matt Shearer, a reporter for WBZ Newsradio in Boston and New England's most viral journalist, according to The Boston Globe. Matt has won multiple awards including a national Edward R. Murrow Award for excellence in innovation, and has built a devoted following through social media videos that capture the stories of everyday people across Massachusetts. Liking our show? Leave us a tip to say thanks! Hannah has been a fan for a while and, by her own admission, had to work very hard not to fangirl throughout the entire conversation. Matt came to journalism through years of morning radio, and when he landed at WBZ he made it his mission to do things his way: just real people with stories that might not otherwise be told. Hear about the man whose M&M collection turned out to be a story about grief and loneliness, to Richard from Aeropostale who hadn't performed as drag persona Maria Christina False Eyelashes in 30 years until Matt brought him to a Boston drag club. His work is a masterclass in what happens when you actually stop and listen to people. His sold-out live show at the Wilbur Theatre, featuring everyday locals who'd gone viral through his videos, proved that authentic human connection translates to any stage. The conversation gets real when Matt talks about what viral success has cost him, including a new kind of anxiety he'd never experienced before and the sting of very public mistakes. He also shares what years of talking to strangers has taught him: that human connection is what actually makes people happy, that we are losing precious face-to-face interaction, and that common ground is almost always there when you're willing to sit across from someone and listen. In this episode: human connection as the foundation of happiness, storytelling as a path to joy, going viral and what it costs, learning from public mistakes, the loneliness hiding behind humor, creative freedom as self-care, presence over achievement, and why the best stories are always the ones you never see coming. Find Matt Follow Matt on Instagram: @reportermatt Follow WBZ Newsradio on TikTok: @WBZBoston WBZ Newsradio on air and online in Boston A special shout-out Amy's son Ian wrote the intro music and theme song for I Think I Can Be Happier. Hannah's business partner Bonnie Liang, co-owner of Bonaco Fiber Arts, created the podcast artwork. Thank you both! MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE The Wilbur Theatre, Boston: The historic 1,000-seat venue where Matt held his first-ever live show, featuring everyday locals who had gone viral through his videos. It sold out in under two weeks. thewilbur.com Jacquez Cabaret, Boston: The legendary drag club where Matt brought Richard, aka Maria Christina False Eyelashes, to perform for the first time in 30 years. A genuinely magical moment. Check it out here. Marie Kondo: Referenced by Matt in the context of fitting two kids and all their stuff into a very small electric car. Her Netflix show and philosophy around keeping only what sparks joy are well worth exploring if you haven't already. Marie Kondo's website Market Basket: A beloved New England grocery chain with a famously devoted following. If you're not from the region, the passion people have for this grocery store will surprise you. marketbasket.com Billy Eichner: The comedian and actor Matt fanboyed over the night before recording this episode. Matt was on stage with him, which is the kind of thing that happens when you spend years telling people's stories with genuine joy and care. No Mow May: The environmental initiative encouraging people to skip mowing their lawn in May to support pollinators. Matt tried it. He did not enjoy it. Learn more here. Edward R. Murrow Awards: One of the most prestigious awards in broadcast journalism. Matt won a national award for excellence in innovation. Learn more here. ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Lost Connections by Johann Hari: Matt's observation that we're losing face-to-face human connection and it's making us miserable is exactly what Hari documents in this deeply researched and readable book. One of the most important books on happiness and mental health of the last decade. Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam: The foundational book on the decline of social capital and community connection in America. Heavy but important, and directly relevant to what Matt describes. Tribe by Sebastian Junger: A short and powerful read about belonging, community, and why human beings need each other more than modern life allows. The Art of Noticing by Rob Walker: For anyone inspired by Matt's ability to find extraordinary stories in ordinary moments, this book is a practical and beautiful guide to paying attention. Reach out to us! Email us at icanbehappier@gmail.com or visit icanbehappier.com. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health support. Please reach out to a qualified licensed provider if you need help. As an Amazon affiliate, we get a small percentage of the sale of any books you purchase through our links. It's an easy way to support us! Thank you!

  7. Jul 6

    Being a Dad, ADHD, and Finding Your Own Happiness with Archie Chimanayi | Ep. 8

    In this episode, Hannah and Amy sit down with Archie Chiminayi, a neurodevelopmental specialist clinician based in the UK and founder of ADHD Care. Hannah met Archie at the CHADD ADHD conference in Baltimore in 2023, where he walked up to her with a microphone and interviewed her on the spot for his podcast. He brings nearly two decades of professional expertise alongside deeply personal lived experience as the father of an 11-year-old with autism and ADHD, and that combination, as he puts it, taught him things that no clinical training ever could. Knowing what to say to a struggling parent is one thing, but being that struggling parent is something else entirely. Liking our show? Leave us a tip to say thanks! The conversation weaves through some of the most honest territory the show has explored yet: what it means to ask for help when you've been raised to believe that strength means coping quietly, how cultural stigma around mental health and neurodiversity shows up even within families who love you, and how vulnerability on a public platform can break down walls that private conversations cannot reach. They also dig into what actually helps: exercise, music, quiet time, getting outside, recognizing overwhelm early, and having a small handful of trusted people you can speak to honestly. Archie closes with his personal definition of happiness: peace of mind, emotional presence, contentment, connecting with the people he loves, having a purpose, and watching his children feel at ease in the world. In this episode: neurodiversity and happiness, the power of lived experience, vulnerability as connection, cultural stigma around mental health, supporting a neurodivergent child, self-care for parents and caregivers, asking for help, ADHD diagnosis and what comes after, comparison culture online, and what happiness actually looks like when you stop chasing it. Find Archie ADHD Care is Archie's UK-based private practice offering diagnostic assessments and treatment for ADHD and autism, as well as resources for individuals and families. The website has a wide range of resources worth exploring. The ADHD Care Podcast covers all things ADHD and neurodiversity, with a focus on raising awareness and sharing honest conversations from the field and from lived experience. Follow Archie and ADHD Care on social media: @ADHDCareLtd on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok. Focus Forward Podcast: Hannah's previous podcast, hosted during her time at Beyond BookSmart. Archie was a guest on Focus Forward before joining I Think I Can Be Happier. Focus Forward: An Executive Function Podcast ADDITIONAL RESOURCES ADHD Foundation (UK) — A neurodiversity charity with a strengths-based approach to ADHD and related conditions. ADDitude Magazine — One of the most trusted and comprehensive resources for individuals and families living with ADHD and learning differences. CHADD — US-based education and advocacy organization for children and adults with ADHD, with a national directory of support groups. The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene — A widely respected resource for parents of children with challenging behaviors, including ADHD. Takes a collaborative rather than punitive approach. Driven to Distraction by Edward Hallowell and John Ratey — One of the most accessible and compassionate books ever written about ADHD, from two psychiatrists who have it themselves. How to ADHD on YouTube — A practical and warm channel run by Jessica McCabe, widely loved by the ADHD community for making the science accessible and human. Reach out to us! Email us at icanbehappier@gmail.com or visit icanbehappier.com. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health support. Please reach out to a qualified licensed provider if you need help. As an Amazon affiliate, we get a small percentage of the sale of any books you purchase through our links. It's an easy way to support us! Thank you!

  8. Jun 22

    Happiness is Found in Progress with Nick Kellar | Ep. 7

    Hannah and Amy sit down with Nick Kellar, a real estate entrepreneur, community leader, and mentor based outside of Baltimore. We knew he'd be a great guest and from the first few minutes it's clear why: he is, as Hannah puts it, a human version of the show's tagline. A person in progress who actively learns from stories and science, applies what he reads, and then passes it forward to the people he mentors. Liking our show? Leave us a tip to support it! Nick's journey from happiness as a chase to happiness as a practice started with a commitment to lifelong learning and deepened through one of the hardest moments of his life. Sitting alone with his mother on her last day, a priest he'd never met gave him what he calls one of the most transformational gifts he's ever received: the reminder that the only thing that actually matters is the present moment, where your feet are. From there, his philosophy took shape. Happiness is in progress, not in outcomes. Small wins compound. Your definition of success is yours to decide. This is a rich, warm, and surprisingly moving conversation that covers grief, fatherhood, relationships, letting go, and what it actually means to play an infinite game. Nick needed tissues. So did we. In this episode: happiness as progress not perfection, priority management vs. time management, the windows and mirrors metaphor, lead indicators for a winning day, the circles of control and influence, the be-do-have equation, treating life like a scientist, grief as unexpressed love, the infinite game, defining your own success, the wheel of life, and what it feels like to be a girl dad of teenagers. Nick Kellar is a real estate entrepreneur and mentor based in the Baltimore area, passionate about community impact and helping people in his industry and beyond define their own version of success. LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/nick-kellar/ Heidi Shoemaker-Burnett is the executive function coach who connected Hannah with Nick. LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/shoemakerburnett/ BOOKS MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt: Nick cites this as a foundation for his belief that happiness is in progress, not arrival. The Almanack of Naval Ravikant compiled by Eric Jorgenson: Naval's philosophy on wealth, peace of mind, and the cost of desire maps closely onto Nick's framework throughout the conversation. The Four Disciplines of Execution by Chris McChesney, Sean Covey, and Jim Huling: The source of Nick's lead indicators framework, which he adapted from business execution into a personal philosophy for identifying what actually constitutes a winning day. Think Again by Adam Grant: Nick recommends this in the context of holding your perspectives loosely and being willing to consider that you might be wrong. Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman: Hannah brings this in alongside Nick's "scientist vs. attorney" reframe, pointing to System 1 thinking (automatic, bias-prone) and System 2 thinking (effortful, reflective). The Infinite Game by Simon Sinek: Nick calls Sinek one of his favorite authors and cites this book specifically for the reframe that business and life are not finite win-lose games but ongoing processes of improvement and impact. Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker: Nick returns to this one as he navigates the teenage years with his daughters, taking comfort in the reminder to keep showing up, meet them where they are, and be their hero. The Breakthrough Years by Ellen Galinsky: Hannah recommends this to Nick during the closing conversation about parenting teenagers. It covers adolescent development through an executive function lens and draws on interviews with over 1,000 teenagers about what they wish adults understood about them. Reach out to us! Email us at icanbehappier@gmail.com or visit icanbehappier.com. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health support. Please reach out to a qualified licensed provider if you need help. As an Amazon affiliate, we get a small percentage of the sale of any books you purchase through our links. It's an easy way to support us! Thank you!

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This one's for the person who knows they could be happier but isn't quite sure how to get there. Join us, Hannah Choi and Amy McDuffie, as we embark on this adventure with you. We're two people who work as executive function coaches and care deeply about living well. We're still figuring this whole happiness thing out ourselves and want to share what we learn with you! I Think I Can Be Happier brings you the stories of people who are finding their own path toward happiness, the science behind why it's so hard, and tools and strategies that might make things a little easier. Stories and science for people in progress.

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