Birth with Hope

Hope Steele

Join me in listening to birth stories rooted in power, healing, and hope.

Episodes

  1. Oct 25

    11. "I Still Believe that Birth is Normal" | Abbie's C-Section Under General Anesthesia after 40 Hours of Labor

    Before Abbie got pregnant with her son, she tried to conceive for two years, and after she finally did, she lost that pregnancy at 9 weeks. Abbie got pregnant with her son two months later. She chose to see a midwife, and get co-care from an OBGYN to help manage chronic pain from Adenomyosis. Abbie planned to have a natural birth at a birth center, but towards the end of her pregnancy, she had continuous high blood pressure readings. Eventually her blood work came back indicating that she was going into pre-eclampsia.  Abbie made the tough decision to go to the hospital to get induced, even though it wasn't at all what she wanted. Her body did not respond well to the Pitocin, and labor progressed slowly. Abbie opted for an epidural a few hours after starting the Pitocin. After over 24 hours of labor, the epidural started to wear off. Her son also began showing signs of distress. It was around this time that the conversation about a C-section got brought up. It was not a rushed emergency, and Abbie got some time to decide what she wanted to do. She labored for a few more hours, but progress was slow and painful. Abbie eventually made the call to get a C-section. They turned off the Pitocin and began prepping her for surgery. Abbie had to lay still on an operating table even though she was still in pain from contractions. They tried to top off her epidural, but her body had become too tolerant of it. They poked her stomach with needles to see if she could feel it, and she could. The decision was made to put her under general anesthesia. Abbie’s husband was not able to be in the room with her after she went under. However, after their baby was born he was able to stay with his dad until Abbie woke up and finally got to hold her baby in her arms.  A while after Abbie woke up, she passed a large blood clot and continued to bleed heavily and pass more clots. She got fundal massages and medication to help manage a postpartum hemorrhage, which may have been linked to a condition she’s believed to have called Adenomyosis. Regarding her conception and birth experiences, Abbie said “I think it was my midwife that told me that a lot of times your conception story helps prepare you for pregnancy, and then your pregnancy prepares you for birth, and then your birth prepares you for motherhood… I really believe in that…I feel like for whatever reason I had to learn to let go of my expectations, and go with the flow more, and I needed to know that before I became a mom.” Find her on Instagram and Facebook @strugglingtohomestead

  2. Oct 12

    10. Massage Therapy, Twin Birth, and Becoming a Doula | Kayleigh's Stories

    Kayleigh is a mom of three boys (including a set of twins.) She is also a Doula and Massage Therapist/ Owner at Cicada Massage and Wellness.  Kayleigh had been married for a few months when she learned she was pregnant. Kayleigh didn’t go to a doctor until later in her pregnancy because she wasn’t living near home. Kayleigh was calm and happy about the pregnancy. She could feel her baby moving, and she had an EMT friend who would take her blood pressure. Her first baby came into the world sunny side up at a birth center in Utah.  Two and a half years later, Kayleigh found out she was pregnant again. She suspected twins after feeling kicks on both sides of her stomach at once. She knew the baby wasn’t big enough to hit both sides at the same time. Kayleigh’s mom was a twin so she knew it was a possibility. She told her husband to prepare for twins and they were confirmed at her 20-week ultrasound scan. Kayleigh delivered them both naturally in the OR.  The first birth that Kayleigh witnessed was her sister-in-law’s. Kayleigh attended her birth as her sister, not a doula. After attending this birth she decided to offer labor support to women, and later became a certified doula. As a doula she says “My whole goal is just that women have the birth they want, and that they just have peace about it.” She advocates for mothers to take care of themselves, however that looks for them, (and to get massages if possible!) Kayleigh specializes in prenatal and postpartum massage, but she has a team who offers therapeutic and sports & recovery massage as well. You can find Cicada Massage and Wellness at: cicada.massagetherapy.com Or on Instagram @cicada.massageandwellness

  3. Aug 31

    9. “There’s Nothing I Can’t Do” | Maya’s Six Births, Ectopic Pregnancy Rupture, Precipitous Labors, and More

    When Maya was 18 or 19 she got pregnant for the first time and had a miscarriage early on. She conceived again a few months later. She had never really considered what decisions she would make during pregnancy and birth, and had no idea how to deal with the medical system. Maya said “Nowhere up until that point had I been put into so much medicalized terminology and constant appointments…That whole world was a little jarring.” Maya ended up delivering her first baby with the same doctor that her mom had when delivering her. When Maya went to the hospital in labor, she immediately felt on edge in the hospital setting. During her labor she heard the staff whispering about her age, and behaving as if they had authority over her because she was young. After the birth they didn’t let her go home when she wanted because they said they had to do testing, and that made her feel a little captive. Maya said “I think there’s a severe lack of knowledge, especially in first time moms about what birth entails. I think it’s not a generational thing anymore where moms explain everything to their daughters, and grandmothers are there, and sisters.”  After her first, Maya became a baby-wearing educator. She got turned on to home birth during the 2011/2012 baby-wearing craze because there was overlap between the baby-wearing world and the home birth world. When Maya got pregnant with her second baby, she decided on a home birth and didn’t give her husband much say in it. Her second baby 's birth was a pretty uneventful homebirth. Two weeks after her this baby was born, her husband left on a deployment. She was by herself with two little kids in a state with no family, and very little support. She said it was during that time that she realized there’s nothing she cannot do.  Maya discovered doulas and birth support work during her second pregnancy and attended several births before they moved away from the military world. With Maya’s third baby, she interviewed 10-12 midwives and nobody wanted to take her on because she was far along and midwives were booked up. Eventually she found a midwife and had her third at home. Between her third and fourth baby, Maya found out she was pregnant but had a gut feeling that something was off. She went in to get it checked out as soon as possible, and they discovered an ectopic pregnancy. She got a shot to end the pregnancy, and she thought the situation was over. Shortly after that, Maya woke up in the night in extreme pain and her husband took her to the ER. They did an ultrasound and discovered internal bleeding because the ectopic had ruptured. Maya was then air lifted to another hospital to have surgery. Maya found out she was pregnant with her fourth baby shortly after they moved to New Mexico. She hired a midwife for this birth, but she didn’t make it because it was only 45 minutes! Her fifth and sixth births were also quick, around 2 hours each.

  4. May 29

    3. Emma's Beautiful and Joyful Experience

    When Emma found out she was pregnant she was so excited, but she couldn’t tell her husband yet because he was away on a river rafting trip. She was so overjoyed that she decided to share the news with her coworkers. When Emma was exactly at her 40 week guess date, she started to have some cramping but it went away towards the end of the day. Then, Emma was awoken at 2 AM to some consistent cramping. She got in the bathtub which helped her relax, and pushed her further into labor. Around 5AM Emma and her husband made it out of the house to head to the hospital. When she got there, she found out she was already 8cm dilated. She hadn’t realized she was in full blown active labor. After pushing for about 40 minutes her baby boy was born at 9:10 AM. After the birth, Emma was so happy that she couldn’t sleep while her baby slept for a week! Her heart was so full that she would just stay up and look at her baby. Emma describes the birth of her son as the most empowering thing she has done in her life. Emma’s natural birth helped prepare her for the difficulty of motherhood, and she was able to draw strength from her experience with pregnancy and childbirth. She recommends hiring a doula, and said she loved having a doula to help keep her grounded, give her ideas for positions to try, etc. After Emma's personal positive experience with birth, she decided to become a doula herself. She had several people approach her and tell her that she would be a great doula, and that felt like confirmation that she should do it. For Emma, becoming a doula was a calling. You can find information about Emma's doula services at birthwithem.com and on Instagram @birthwithem

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