B. Real Podcast

Brittany Bijan

You have spent years holding it together for everyone else.Your kids. Your partner. Your job. Your family. Everyone except yourself. Somewhere along the way you stopped recognizing yourself. Not because you are broken — but because nobody told you the truth about your body, your hormones, your trauma or your healing. And you have been running on empty ever since.B. Real — The Sh!t Nobody Told Me is where that shit stops. Hosted by Brittany Bijan — certified health coach, trauma coach and yoga teacher, mama of 4, nana of 2 and a woman who figured out everything the hard way — this podcast exists for the midlife woman who has spent years taking care of everything and is finally ready to take care of herself. Every week we get real about four things: Your body — building strength and capability that has nothing to do with how you look and everything to do with how you live and how you feel. Your nervous system — understanding what chronic stress, burnout and fight or flight are actually doing to you mentally & physically and what to do about it. Your story — the trauma, the healing, the hormones and everything they forgot to tell us. Said out loud. Finally. We all have shit and we’re gonna unpack our shit together. And Who you are beyond everyone and everything else — your identity, your relationships, all of it. No one ever talked to me about any of this, I figured it all out on my own through experience. I am happy to be able to share all with you now. No b******t, all raw and honest conversations from a woman still working through her own shit daily — with guests who keep it a hundred too. You are not broken. You got this. New episodes every week on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and YouTube.If this is your show - hit follow. Come find me on Instagram at Brittany Bijan and grab The 40 Fit Blueprint through the link in my bio.

  1. 3d ago

    29. Cortisol Is Wrecking Your Gains — Here's What to Do About It

    In this episode of B.Real Podcast, Brittany Bijan breaks down the hidden connection between chronic stress, cortisol, and your body's ability to build muscle — especially for women navigating their late 30s, 40s, and perimenopause. If you've been training hard, eating well, and still not seeing results, the problem may not be your program or your discipline. It's your nervous system. Brittany shares her personal journey of training consistently without progress, what she learned about cortisol's catabolic effect on muscle, and actionable steps to lower stress, fuel properly, and finally get stronger. 5 Key Takeaways • (05:25) — Cortisol is catabolic, meaning chronically elevated levels literally break down your muscle tissue for fuel. • (06:37) — In perimenopause, declining estrogen already raises your baseline cortisol, and layering chronic stress on top compounds the problem. • (07:27) — Chronic cortisol suppresses testosterone and growth hormone, both essential for muscle building — making gains significantly harder no matter how well you train. • (10:29) — You cannot build muscle or recover in a calorie deficit; under-eating is a stress event that spikes cortisol further. • (12:19) — For women in perimenopause, strength training is the medicine — cardio has its place, but lifting heavy is the foundation. "You're not failing. Your body's responding exactly as it should to the environment it's living in. Chronic stress, undereating, poor sleep, too much cortisol, not enough recovery. We gotta change that shit up. Change the environment, and your body will change, too." Enjoyed this episode? Take 30 seconds to rate and review B.Real Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Reviews help more women find this show and start showing up for themselves. And don't forget to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Follow Brittany on Instagram @BrittanyBijan and check out the 40 Fit Blueprint linked in her bio. Disclaimer: Everything on this show is for educational purposes only. Brittany is not a doctor or therapist. If you need support, please reach out to your doctor or healthcare professional.

    29. Cortisol Is Wrecking Your Gains — Here's What to Do About It

  2. Oct 20

    28. The Comfort in Discomfort: Uprooting Life and Finding Growth Abroad

    In this solo episode, host Brittany Bijan shares an honest update on her family's bold move from Santa Barbara to Madrid. From the initial decision to uproot their life of nine (plus dogs), to navigating kids' resistance, language barriers, and the unexpected loneliness of living in a city where no one knows you — Brittany gets real about what starting over actually feels like two months in. She reflects on grief, growth, and why discomfort might be exactly what you need. Key Takeaways (1:55) — Brittany and her family went from decision to departure in about six months, trading a comfortable Montecito bubble for a metropolitan life in Madrid.(3:46) — The kids resisted the move, especially her oldest son, but are now settling in as independent city kids on foot and on trains.(5:36) — Living where nobody knows you brings both freedom and loneliness, forcing you to sit with your own thoughts without distraction.(9:53) — Brittany welcomes the discomfort of starting over, recognizing that the greatest growth lives on the other side of feeling scared.(10:58) — Life isn't meant to stay the same — shifts, challenges, and change make you more soul-filled, and you will be okay."It's good to feel uncomfortable. It's good to feel scared. It's good to think that you can't do something, and then you do it, and you're like, 'Holy f**k, I did that thing I didn't think I could do, and I'm okay, and I feel even stronger from it.'" Enjoyed this episode? Take 30 seconds to rate and review B.Real Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Reviews help more women find this show and start showing up for themselves. And don't forget to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Follow Brittany on Instagram @BrittanyBijan and check out the 40 Fit Blueprint linked in her bio. Disclaimer: Everything on this show is for educational purposes only. Brittany is not a doctor or therapist. If you need support, please reach out to your doctor or healthcare professional.

  3. Oct 15

    27. You Don't Move On — You Grow Around It

    In this deeply personal solo episode of B.Real: The Shit Nobody Told Me, host Brittany Bijan opens up about her grief journey following the loss of her sister. For nearly six years, Brittany kept her grief largely private — unable to get out of bed for months, unable to hear anyone else's stories of loss, and unable to function as the mother and business owner she had been. After sharing a spontaneous video about her sister on social media, the overwhelming response from others navigating grief made her realize the healing power of shared vulnerability. Now, she's stepping into a new role: creating a safe space for others to share, grieve, and grow. 5 Key Takeaways (4:20) — Grief can be physically debilitating; Brittany couldn't get out of bed for three months and needed grief counseling twice a week.(8:12) — Sharing your grief story publicly can unlock an unexpected wave of connection and healing for others going through the same thing.(8:43) — Early in grief, hearing other people's loss stories can feel unbearable — but that resistance can soften with time.(11:15) — The loss of a loved one can completely redefine your life's direction — Brittany pivoted her entire career into the health and wellness space.(13:09) — You don't "move on" from grief — you learn to pick up the pieces and grow around it."I will never feel whole because she's not here anymore, and that's just the reality of it. But I've figured out ways to pick up all the pieces and try to grow around it, because it's never gonna feel the same without her." — Brittany Bijan Enjoyed this episode? Take 30 seconds to rate and review B.Real Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Reviews help more women find this show and start showing up for themselves. And don't forget to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Follow Brittany on Instagram @BrittanyBijan and check out the 40 Fit Blueprint linked in her bio. Disclaimer: Everything on this show is for educational purposes only. Brittany is not a doctor or therapist. If you need support, please reach out to your doctor or healthcare professional.

    27. You Don't Move On — You Grow Around It

  4. Oct 11

    26. Why You Can't Sleep (And What Actually Fixes It)

    In this episode of the B.Real Podcast, host Brittany Bijan dives deep into the one thing that underpins every other health goal: sleep. Sharing her personal journey with years of insomnia, Brittany breaks down why sleep is the non-negotiable foundation for nervous system regulation, hormone balance, muscle building, immune function, and emotional well-being — especially for women navigating perimenopause. From the brain's glymphatic system to cortisol spikes at 2 AM, she explains what's actually happening in your body when you don't sleep, and offers practical, actionable tools to help you finally get the rest you need. Key Takeaways • (2:54) — You cannot regulate your nervous system, balance hormones, lose weight, build muscle, or heal trauma without quality sleep. • (3:37) — Women are 40% more likely than men to suffer from insomnia, and declining progesterone and fluctuating estrogen after 40 drastically change sleep architecture. • (5:47) — Your brain's glymphatic system only activates during deep sleep, flushing out waste linked to Alzheimer's and cognitive decline — without sleep, that waste builds up. • (8:56) — Waking up wide awake between 2–4 AM is often a cortisol rhythm issue tied to perimenopause, not insomnia. • (10:25) — Morning light within 30 minutes of waking, no screens in bed, a balanced dinner with protein, and box breathing are simple but powerful tools to anchor your sleep. "Sleep is not just rest, it's repair, and most of us aren't getting it. You cannot out-discipline poor sleep." — Brittany Bijan Enjoyed this episode? Take 30 seconds to rate and review B.Real Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Reviews help more women find this show and start showing up for themselves. And don't forget to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Follow Brittany on Instagram @BrittanyBijan and check out the 40 Fit Blueprint linked in her bio. Disclaimer: Everything on this show is for educational purposes only. Brittany is not a doctor or therapist. If you need support, please reach out to your doctor or healthcare professional.

    26. Why You Can't Sleep (And What Actually Fixes It)

  5. Oct 3

    25. ⁠The Regulated Reset: How to Calm Your Nervous System in Minutes

    In this episode of the B.Real Podcast, host Brittany Bijan introduces The Regulated Reset — a 7-day guide to calming your nervous system and getting back on track. Brittany shares her personal journey through chronic stress, a disrupted cycle, and sleepless nights, and breaks down the science of fight, flight, and freeze states. She offers practical, two-minute tools you can use anywhere to regulate your system, stop living in survival mode, and start working with your body instead of against it. Key Takeaways: (2:36) — Your nervous system operates in three states — fight, flight, and freeze — and most people only know about two of them.(3:47) — Your vagus nerve is the brake pedal for stress, and you can learn to press it on purpose.(8:11) — Recognizing whether your survival self or your adult self is driving is the key to choosing a calmer response.(9:12) — Different stress states require different tools — match the technique to how you're actually feeling.(10:59) — Box breathing, shaking it off, and the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method are simple two-minute tools that work.Quote: "This isn't laziness and it's not you being dramatic. This is your nervous system saying, 'Slow the f**k down.' It's your nervous system protecting you the only way it knows how — by powering down." Enjoyed this episode? Take 30 seconds to rate and review B.Real Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Reviews help more women find this show and start showing up for themselves. And don't forget to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Follow Brittany on Instagram @BrittanyBijan and check out the 40 Fit Blueprint linked in her bio. Disclaimer: Everything on this show is for educational purposes only. Brittany is not a doctor or therapist. If you need support, please reach out to your doctor or healthcare professional.

  6. Sep 23

    24. How Even "Good" Change Wrecks Your Nervous System Part 2

    In Part 2 of this two-part episode, host Brittany Bijan breaks down what nervous system dysregulation actually looks like — beyond the panic attacks and anxiety — and shares the practical tools she's personally using to calm her system down while navigating a major life transition abroad. From waking at 2 AM with cortisol spikes to unexpected hair loss and emotional numbness, Brittany gets real about the signals your body sends when it's been in overdrive too long. She covers why strength training beats cardio when cortisol is already elevated, how a 30-second breathing technique can shift your physiology, the cortisol-reducing power of nature, and why real connection with trusted friends is "human medicine." This episode is a grounded, no-BS guide for women who've been strong for everyone else and are ready to rebuild their relationship with their own nervous system. 5 Key Takeaways (1:55) — Nervous system dysregulation doesn't always look like a panic attack — it can show up as 2 AM wake-ups, digestive issues, irritability, getting sick repeatedly, hair loss, or feeling emotionally flat.(7:43) — When your cortisol is already elevated (perimenopause, major transitions), cardio can raise it further; strength training at moderate intensity is the better move.(10:54) — The "physiological sigh" (double inhale through the nose, long slow exhale through the mouth) is the fastest-acting cortisol reduction tool — you can do it anywhere in 30 seconds.(11:39) — Just 20 minutes walking in nature can reduce cortisol by up to 21% — and being present without your phone amplifies the effect.(13:14) — Real connection with trusted friends is "human medicine" — having people you can be raw with regulates your nervous system in ways that solo tools can't replicate."The work is not just to eliminate the stress. We need to rebuild a relationship with your nervous system, and you need to learn how to lock in and calm that shit down." — Brittany Bijan Enjoyed this episode? Take 30 seconds to rate and review B.Real Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Reviews help more women find this show and start showing up for themselves. And don't forget to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Follow Brittany on Instagram @BrittanyBijan and check out the 40 Fit Blueprint linked in her bio. Disclaimer: Everything on this show is for educational purposes only. Brittany is not a doctor or therapist. If you need support, please reach out to your doctor or healthcare professional.

  7. Sep 16

    23. How Even "Good" Change Wrecks Your Nervous System

    In Episode 23 of the B.Real Podcast, Brittany Bijan gets real about something nobody warned her: even a change you chose and dreamt about can dysregulate your nervous system. Fresh off her family's move to Spain, Brittany shares her personal experience of being simultaneously grateful and physically wrecked — missing her period for three months, waking at all hours, and crying on a loop. She dives into the science of the female stress response (thanks to Stacy Sims), Gabor Maté's concept of the "authentic vs. adapted self," and the very real signs your body is running on overdrive. Most importantly, she shares the tools that actually helped her calm her system down — from strength training and breathwork to nature walks and leaning on her closest friends. Key Takeaways • (3:47) - Your nervous system can't tell the difference between a good change and a bad one — it just knows something big is happening. • (7:00) - Women have a unique stress response called "befriend" — you're biologically wired to seek connection and care for others under stress. • (9:16) - After 40, declining estrogen raises your baseline cortisol, making stress recovery take up to three times longer. • (13:20) - Nervous system dysregulation shows up as 2 AM wakeups, digestive issues, hair loss, repeated illness, and emotional numbness — not just panic attacks. • (18:05) - Strength training, breathwork, daily nature walks, proper fueling, and real connection are the tools that actually calm your system. Quote "What you cannot express, you suppress, and what you suppress does not disappear. It lives in your body."— Brittany Bijan, quoting Gabor Maté If this episode hit home, please take 30 seconds to rate and review the B.Real Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Reviews help more people find the show — and let Brittany know she's not the only one navigating the real stuff. Hit subscribe so you never miss an episode.

  8. Sep 9

    22. Life in Spain Begins

    Brittany opens up about her family's life-changing move to Spain — nine people (including her kids, son-in-law, and grandbabies) and four dogs relocating to a country where they don't speak the language. She shares the emotional toll on her teenage sons, the surprising ease of adapting at this stage of life, how she's kept up her fitness routine with minimal equipment, and how she's continuing the podcast amid the chaos of an international move. Key Takeaways: • (1:17) - Brittany's family move to Spain includes nine people and four dogs, none of whom speak Spanish yet. • (3:14) - Jet lag and adjusting hit harder in her 40s, so she prioritized simple at-home strength training and Pilates to reset. • (7:52) - Reactions to the move varied widely — her daughters were excited, but her teenage sons struggled emotionally for months. • (13:30) - The move has been harder than expected for her 16-year-old, but overall life abroad has exceeded her family's dream of it. • (15:16) - Despite the upheaval, Brittany pushed forward with the podcast, bringing on guests from her new time zone in Europe. Quote: "Better than expected — I think just our idea of our dream of moving abroad, and what that could look like, and then actually living it, is better than my dream." If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and follow B.Real Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Your support helps us reach more listeners — thank you for tuning in!

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You have spent years holding it together for everyone else.Your kids. Your partner. Your job. Your family. Everyone except yourself. Somewhere along the way you stopped recognizing yourself. Not because you are broken — but because nobody told you the truth about your body, your hormones, your trauma or your healing. And you have been running on empty ever since.B. Real — The Sh!t Nobody Told Me is where that shit stops. Hosted by Brittany Bijan — certified health coach, trauma coach and yoga teacher, mama of 4, nana of 2 and a woman who figured out everything the hard way — this podcast exists for the midlife woman who has spent years taking care of everything and is finally ready to take care of herself. Every week we get real about four things: Your body — building strength and capability that has nothing to do with how you look and everything to do with how you live and how you feel. Your nervous system — understanding what chronic stress, burnout and fight or flight are actually doing to you mentally & physically and what to do about it. Your story — the trauma, the healing, the hormones and everything they forgot to tell us. Said out loud. Finally. We all have shit and we’re gonna unpack our shit together. And Who you are beyond everyone and everything else — your identity, your relationships, all of it. No one ever talked to me about any of this, I figured it all out on my own through experience. I am happy to be able to share all with you now. No b******t, all raw and honest conversations from a woman still working through her own shit daily — with guests who keep it a hundred too. You are not broken. You got this. New episodes every week on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and YouTube.If this is your show - hit follow. Come find me on Instagram at Brittany Bijan and grab The 40 Fit Blueprint through the link in my bio.

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  • Creator
    Brittany Bijan
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    29
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 B. Real Podcast
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