SEND the Mums

Kenna Burke
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Welcome to Send the Mums, we’re Kirsty and Kenna. Two mums figuring it out as we go. This podcast is about real life. Parenting. School struggles. Advocating for our children. The overthinking, the chaos, and everything in between. We don’t have all the answers. Most of the time we have no idea what we’re doing. We’re winging it, overthinking it, and now we’re talking about it. If you’ve ever felt like you’re just trying to get through the day, you’re not alone.

  1. 6d ago

    Is Everyone Autistic Now?

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode! “Everyone’s autistic these days.” How many times have you heard that one? With autism and ADHD diagnoses on the rise, and the recent government review raising questions about overdiagnosis, we wanted to have a proper conversation about what’s actually happening. Are there really more autistic people, or are we finally recognising children and adults who would have been overlooked years ago? This week, we talk about our own misconceptions, the reality of pursuing a diagnosis, the impact of waiting years for answers and why so many parents are having to fight for support. We also look at what the government review actually says, because there's quite a difference between some of the headlines and the wider findings. And perhaps the biggest question of all: Why are we spending so much time questioning diagnoses when so many children still can't access the support they need? As always, we're sharing our own experiences as SEND mums, not speaking as medical professionals. We'd love to hear your thoughts. Have you ever been told that everyone's autistic or ADHD these days? 🤍 SENDtheMums | Real conversations about SEND parenting.

    Is Everyone Autistic Now?

  2. Oct 2

    You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode! You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know What should you actually be asking for at school? This week, Kirsty and I are talking about some of the things we’ve tried with the boys over the years, from movement breaks and quieter spaces to trusted adults, different transitions and the little adjustments that have ended up making a massive difference. We’ve been visiting some local SEND groups recently and found ourselves hearing the same thing from parents again and again. Their child is struggling, they know something needs to change, but they have absolutely no idea what to ask for. And that’s the problem. You don’t know what you don’t know. With some turbulent times ahead for the SEND provision at our own school, it’s also got us thinking about what actually works for our boys, what they need to access school and the support we’ve learnt to ask for over the years. So we’re sharing what’s worked wonders for us, what hasn’t, and some of the things we really wish we’d known to ask about much earlier. Hopefully, there’s something in this episode that makes you think, hang on… could that help my child too? 🤍

    You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know

  3. Sep 18

    How are SEND parents supposed to work?

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode! How Are SEND Parents Supposed to Work? This week we’re asking a question we know a lot of SEND parents will relate to… how are we actually supposed to work? We’re talking about the reality of trying to hold down a job or build a career alongside school calls, appointments, paperwork, childcare that doesn’t always meet our children’s needs and the general unpredictability that comes with SEND parenting. We also look at some pretty shocking recent statistics around how having a child with SEND affects parents’ employment and earning potential, and talk honestly about how it’s shaped our own working lives. Plus, we check in on those new school year resolutions we made a couple of weeks ago. Because obviously they were all going to plan beautifully. 🫠😂 Has SEND changed the way you work? Have you reduced your hours, changed career, become self employed or had to stop working altogether? We want to hear your about your experience. 🤍

    How are SEND parents supposed to work?

  4. Sep 4

    Back to School

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode! The six weeks are over and it’s time to send them back and if we’re completely honest, we’ve got very mixed feelings about it. 🫠 This week we’re chatting about what going back to school actually looks like after spending six weeks trying to get our children regulated. We’re anxious about what the next few weeks might bring, how quickly the overwhelm might creep back in and whether we’ll start seeing the same struggles we had before summer. We also have a bit of a rant about school holiday fines, because obviously we couldn’t help ourselves 😂, and we’ve come up with our own new school year resolutions about what we’re going to try to do differently this time around. Basically, the uniforms are ready, the kids are going back and we’re cautiously waiting to see what happens next.

    Back to School

  5. Aug 21

    SEND Us Friends

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode! WE’RE IN DOUBLE DIGITS! 🎉 EPISODE 10! This week we’re talking friendships, and how much they can change once children come along, especially when SEND becomes part of the picture. We chat about the friends you had before children, the ones that slowly drift away, the people who surprise you by sticking around, and the completely unexpected friendships you find along the way. There’s the comparing your child to everyone else’s, the awkward birthday parties, cancelling plans because you already know it’s not going to work, and that horrible feeling of wondering if people are judging your parenting because they don’t really understand your child. But we also talk about the good bit. Finding people who just get it. Friends who understand the meltdowns, the last-minute changes, the school battles, the assessments, the constant overthinking and the fact that sometimes you might disappear from the group chat for a week and come back as if nothing happened. Neither of us expected the school playground to give us some of our closest friends, but somehow that’s exactly what happened. And honestly, having a little village of people who understand your children and understand you can make such a difference. If you’ve ever felt your friendships changed when you became a parent, especially of a SEND child, or you’re still trying to find your people, this one’s for you. 🤍

    SEND Us Friends

  6. Aug 7

    A Summer of SEN

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode! The school holidays are here and we’re already remembering just how much our children rely on the routine that school gives them. This week we’re chatting about what the summer holidays actually look like in our houses. The lack of routine, boundaries being well and truly tested, and the constant juggling act of trying to make sure everyone in the family gets what they need. Because when you have a child with SEN, it can be really easy for their needs to steer what the whole family does. Where we go, how long we stay, what we do and, occasionally, whether we bother going at all. 🫠 We’re trying to get a little cleverer this summer and find ways to meet the boys’ needs without everything revolving around them, while also accepting that sometimes our best laid plans are going straight in the bin. At one point we mention that we may need a welfare check by the time this episode actually comes out... Good news. We’re still here. 😂 Six weeks though...It's an awfully long time. 🤍

    A Summer of SEN

  7. Jul 24

    The School Refuser

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode! School Refusal and When Every Morning Feels Like a Battle Please note: This episode contains emotional discussions around school refusal, parental burnout and the impact it has on the whole family. Kirsty becomes understandably emotional while sharing her family's experience. This week, Kenna chats to Kirsty about what life has been like with Ed, who struggles to go into school almost every day. Together, we talk about the reality of those mornings, the emotional toll it takes on the whole family, and what it feels like when you're doing everything you can but still don't have the support your child needs. We discuss why transitions can be so difficult for some neurodivergent children, what happens when school struggles to put the right support in place, and the heartbreaking reality of watching your child become increasingly distressed. This is one of our most raw and honest conversations yet. There are tears, frustration and moments that many SEND parents will recognise all too well. If school refusal is something your family is living through, we hope this episode helps you feel seen, understood and a little less alone. 🤍

    The School Refuser

  8. Jul 10

    Who looks after the SEND parent?

    Got something to say to this podcast? Send a voicemail, and you might hear yourself on the next episode! Who looks after the SEND parent? In this episode, we’re turning the conversation back onto ourselves. After a few really tough weeks, Kirsty and I sat down for a proper catch-up about how we’ve actually been feeling. The end of the school year, endless school requests, emotional exhaustion, and trying to hold everything together while our children need us more than ever. We talk honestly about burnout, guilt, why everything can sometimes feel so relentless, and how easy it is to lose yourself while you’re busy looking after everyone else. We also touch on our own experiences of postnatal depression and the impact it had on us. There’s no advice in this one. Just two mums having a real conversation and reminding each other, and hopefully you, that it’s okay to admit when you’re struggling. Because sometimes the person who needs looking after is the one doing all the looking after. 🤍

    Who looks after the SEND parent?
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Welcome to Send the Mums, we’re Kirsty and Kenna. Two mums figuring it out as we go. This podcast is about real life. Parenting. School struggles. Advocating for our children. The overthinking, the chaos, and everything in between. We don’t have all the answers. Most of the time we have no idea what we’re doing. We’re winging it, overthinking it, and now we’re talking about it. If you’ve ever felt like you’re just trying to get through the day, you’re not alone.

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  • Creator
    Kenna Burke
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    14
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Kenna Burke
  • Show Website
    SEND the Mums

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