Permission to Show Up

Kara De Kretser
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Exhausted, always saying yes and wondering what happened to your confidence? Sounds like you are a busy working Mum who has been so busy holding everything together for everyone else that you stopped showing up for yourself. Every week in under 15 mins, Women's Life and Confidence Coach and former UN professional Kara De Kretser gives you one honest, practical insight to stop doubting yourself, silence that inner critic and finally feel like yourself again. No woo woo or vague advice. Just the conversation that makes you think finally someone gets it. Your permission to show up starts now.

  1. 2d ago

    31. When Life Gives You Lemons… How the Hell Do You Make Lemonade?

    Everyone loves to say “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” But nobody tells you HOW. What if you don’t have the sugar? Or the jug? Or the energy to even squeeze the lemon? In this episode, I talk about the part of “make lemonade” that everyone skips. The hard part. The real part. In this episode, we explore: Why it’s OK to admit the lemons are sour firstHow to look for evidence of what you’ve already handled, instead of panickingFinding your sugar: your strengths and your supportWhy you only need to make ONE glass, not a whole stallHow your lemonade might look different from what you pictured, and even better Your reflection this week: what’s one lemon in your life right now, and what’s ONE glass of lemonade you could make from it this week?

    31. When Life Gives You Lemons… How the Hell Do You Make Lemonade?

  2. Nov 3

    30. What Does Successful Living Mean to YOU?

    What does successful living look like for YOU? Not your parents. Not your social circle. Not the version you were taught to chase. YOU, in your life, right now. In this episode I share a moment from the streets of Rome. A marketing campaign stopped me in my tracks and sparked a real conversation with my boys about what a successful life actually is. And it brought me straight back to the work I do with almost EVERY woman I coach. So many of us are living by a definition of success we never chose. We inherited it. We absorbed it. And then we wonder why “doing everything right” still doesn’t feel right. In this episode we explore: Where our ideas of success really come fromWhy the life that looks good isn’t always the life that feels goodHow to start defining successful living for YOURSELFYour invitation this week: write your very own definition of successful living. Just a few honest lines. Then send it to me directly! I would LOVE to read it. DM me on Instagram @karadekretser or email kara@karadekretser.com Ready to build a life that matches YOUR definition? Book a free 30-min coffee call with me: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/224392 Two women chatting over a cuppa. An honest conversation about where you are and where you want to be.

    30. What Does Successful Living Mean to YOU?

  3. Oct 26

    29. Don't Worry, I Get Distracted Too (And Why It Doesn't Mean You Can't Do It)

    You sit down to work on your goal, and an hour later you're scrolling, reading or starting something new. Then the inner critic shows up: "See? You can't even finish this." In this episode I share a very real moment of distraction from my own week, and why distraction and imposter syndrome feed each other. You'll also get 3 simple pillars to build a system that keeps you focused on what matters most. Because getting distracted doesn't mean you can't do it. It just means you're human, and humans need systems. ✨ In this episode: How distraction gives your inner critic "evidence" against youWhy shiny objects are so tempting, especially for capable peopleThe 3 pillars: ONE priority, protected time and a parking lotThe reframe that turns every distraction into proof you CAN do thisLet's connect:☕ Book your FREE 30-minute coffee call📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karadekretser/ (DM me FOCUS)🌐 Website: https://karadekretser.com

    29. Don't Worry, I Get Distracted Too (And Why It Doesn't Mean You Can't Do It)

  4. Oct 19

    28. Our Worldschooling Year: Everything You Need to Know (and How We Afford It)

    We're not rich. We never won the lottery. There's no big inheritance coming my way. And yet I'm recording this from Italy, eight months into a year of travelling the world with my husband and our two boys! If you've ever dreamed of doing something like this, or you're just curious how we make it work, this episode is for you. I'm sharing EVERYTHING. In this episode I am sharing with you...✦ How the idea came about, and what freedom really means to us✦ The phone call from a school dad who said it was a bad idea, and what kept me grounded✦ How we built a curriculum to meet Australian requirements and registered for homeschooling✦ What our days actually look like (and why the boys finished their core curriculum in 7 months!)✦ How we make it financially viable: half a year in Asia, Workaway, daytime flights and our Interrail family pass✦ Reconnecting with family roots in Sri Lanka, Sicily and Sweden, and raising our boys with three languages I was SO worried about what everyone would think. But that was just my inner critic trying to protect us from the unknown. And this unknown is one I highly recommend you get to know. The vision gave us the dream. The plan gave us the confidence. 💛 Got a big dream sitting on your vision board? Join my FREE masterclass, Off the Vision Board, On to the Plan, on Wednesday 21 October. Register HERE: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/236964 SHOW NOTES & LINKS REFERRED TO IN THIS EPISODE: Homeschooling in Victoria (Department of Education):https://www2.education.vic.gov.au/pal/home-schooling-and-partial-enrolments/policyOutside Victoria? Each state and territory has its own requirements, so check your state or territory's education department website for more information. Overseas? Check with your national education department to find out if homeschooling is permitted, and for your respective application processes. Khan Academy: https://www.khanacademy.orgThe Good and the Beautiful: https://www.goodandbeautiful.comDuolingo: https://www.duolingo.comWorkaway: https://www.workaway.infoInterrail: https://www.interrail.eu GOT A DREAM YOU WOULD LOVE TO CREATE A PLAN FOR? Connect with me:Website: https://karadekretser.comInstagram: @karadekretserWork with me: https://karadekretser.com/11-coaching-with-kara/

    28. Our Worldschooling Year: Everything You Need to Know (and How We Afford It)

  5. Oct 12

    27. The Number 1 Planning Technique You Need to Learn, Now

    Before you plan a single step toward your goal, there's one thing you need to get right first, and almost nobody does it properly. In this episode, I share the technique that has to come before any action plan, any milestone, any to-do list, getting painfully, vividly specific about what "done" actually looks like. I explain why vague goals feel productive to work toward but rarely lead anywhere, and why busy isn't the same as aimed. I also share a personal example from my own life, how "I want more freedom" only became real once I got specific about what that freedom actually looked like, hour by hour. I walk you through a simple exercise to try this week, before anything else, so you're finally aiming at something real instead of something blurry.

    27. The Number 1 Planning Technique You Need to Learn, Now

  6. Oct 5

    26. Why "No" Feels Like a Confrontation, Even Though It Isn't

    Someone asks you for something. You don't want to do it. And your heart starts pounding like you're about to walk into battle, over one word. In this episode, I break down why saying no can trigger the same physical alarm bells as an actual confrontation, even when nobody's upset, nobody's angry, and nothing dangerous is actually happening. I explain where that old wiring likely came from, and why it has nothing to do with being weak or bad at boundaries. I also give you one simple thing to try the next time you feel that familiar jolt right before you say no to something. If your body reacts to a normal request like it's bracing for a fight, this one's for you.

    26. Why "No" Feels Like a Confrontation, Even Though It Isn't

  7. Sep 28

    25. The Negotiation Trick Diplomats Use That Works on Your Husband Too

    Twelve years ago, I sat in rooms with internation development workers and diplomats who sometimes fundamentally disagreed with each other, sometimes over things their countries had been at odds with for decades, and somehow they'd still find a way forward. In this episode, I share the one trick that made that possible, and why it works just as well on your husband as it does in a UN negotiating room. I break down the real difference between arguing your position and understanding someone's actual interest underneath it, and why most at-home negotiations get stuck simply because both people are defending the wrong thing. I also give you one simple question to try this week, next time you hit resistance on something that matters to you. If you've ever felt like you're stuck arguing in circles with someone you love, this one's for you.

    25. The Negotiation Trick Diplomats Use That Works on Your Husband Too

  8. Sep 21

    24. The No. 1 Swedish Trick That Makes People Actually Listen to You

    I married a Swede, and nearly two decades in, there's still one thing he does on the phone that used to make me panic every time. In this episode, I tell you what it is, and why it might be the exact thing missing from how you communicate. I share the wild contrast between how I was raised (where people start answering before you've even finished the question) and the very Swedish habit of trusting silence instead of rushing to fill it. I explain why that instinct to fill every gap isn't confidence, it's actually fear in disguise, and what pausing properly can do for how seriously people take you. I also give you a simple experiment to try this week, no big overhaul, just one small, doable shift. If you've ever said something important and felt like it just slid past the room unnoticed, this one's for you.

    24. The No. 1 Swedish Trick That Makes People Actually Listen to You
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Exhausted, always saying yes and wondering what happened to your confidence? Sounds like you are a busy working Mum who has been so busy holding everything together for everyone else that you stopped showing up for yourself. Every week in under 15 mins, Women's Life and Confidence Coach and former UN professional Kara De Kretser gives you one honest, practical insight to stop doubting yourself, silence that inner critic and finally feel like yourself again. No woo woo or vague advice. Just the conversation that makes you think finally someone gets it. Your permission to show up starts now.

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  • Creator
    Kara De Kretser
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    32
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Kara De Kretser
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    Permission to Show Up