Spouseology Podcast

Santi Deoleo x Susie Castillo
  • 5.0 (3)
  • Relationships
  • Weekly

Welcome to the Spouseology Podcast with Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo – a candid look at modern marriage from two people who’ve been in it for over 20 years each. She’s a former Miss USA, host and child-free. He’s a Boston radio vet with four kids. Together, Santi and Susie bring 50 years of collective relationship experience, two very different marriages, and a willingness to say the quiet parts out loud.

  1. Oct 23

    What We Dislike About Our Spouses & How We Work Through It

    Susie and Santi name the traits they dislike in their spouses and use those uncomfortable truths to examine defensiveness, validation, apologizing, privacy, mental load, and acceptance in marriage. They also begin a candid discussion about perimenopause and how hormonal change affects both partners. An honest, funny episode about hearing your spouse without turning every complaint into a fight.

  2. Oct 16

    Can Married People Have Opposite-Sex Best Friends?

    Can a married person have an opposite-sex best friend? Susie and Santi debate jealousy, exes, private communication, emotional intimacy, and the boundaries that protect trust. They also unpack research on attraction in male-female friendships and explain why “just friends” may not mean the same thing to both people. A direct, funny conversation designed to help couples define their own rules before conflict begins.

  3. Oct 9

    Can Your Spouse Really Change? Accountability, Chores & Growth in Marriage

    Can a spouse truly change? Susie and Santi return for Season 2 with a candid look at accountability, chores, mental load, and the laundry realization that changed their day-to-day partnership. They explore neuroplasticity, evolving together, modeling responsibility for children, and why “I told you so” can undo genuine progress. A funny, practical relationship conversation for couples ready to communicate better and share the load.

  4. Jun 24

    Ep. 10 The Relationship Lessons We Learned From Our Parents

    In this deeply personal episode of Spouseology, Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo explore how childhood experiences, family dynamics, and parental relationships shape the partners we choose and the marriages we build. Both Santi and Susie open up about growing up in Latino households, witnessing infidelity, conflict, and unhealthy relationship patterns, and how those experiences influenced their views on love, communication, trust, and commitment. They discuss: • How your parents’ relationship becomes your first model for love • The impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships • Growing up with difficult family dynamics • Breaking generational cycles and unhealthy patterns • Why communication is essential in marriage • People-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional baggage • The role therapy can play in healing childhood wounds • Choosing a partner who reflects your values, not your past This episode is an honest conversation about healing, self-awareness, marriage, family relationships, and creating a healthier future for ourselves and our children. Whether you’re married, dating, or working through your own family history, this discussion offers valuable insight into how the past shapes our present relationships. Subscribe for more real conversations about marriage, relationships, family, communication, intimacy, parenting, and personal growth. #Marriage #Relationships #ChildhoodTrauma #FamilyDynamics #Communication #MentalHealth #Parenting #Spouseology #SusieCastillo #SantiDeOleo

  5. Jun 17

    Ep. 9 How to Improve Intimacy in Marriage

    Can talking openly about intimacy actually strengthen your marriage? In this episode of Spouseology, Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo dive into one of the most important but often avoided topics in relationships: communication about sex, intimacy, and emotional connection. Inspired by a conversation with actor Caleb Emery, Santi and Susie discuss why so many couples struggle to talk honestly about what they want in their relationship, the fear of rejection that often gets in the way, and how vulnerability can create deeper connection. They also explore:• How to communicate your needs without feeling awkward• Why understanding your spouse’s love language matters• Ways to keep intimacy from becoming routine• The role vulnerability plays in long-term relationships• How couples can maintain attraction and emotional connection after years of marriage• Why honest conversations lead to stronger relationships Whether you’ve been married for 2 years or 20 years, this episode offers practical relationship advice, real-life experiences, and honest conversations designed to help couples build stronger marriages and deeper intimacy. 🎙️ Subscribe for more real conversations about marriage, relationships, family, communication, and love. Follow Spouseology:📲 Instagram: @spouseologypod #MarriageAdvice #Relationships #MarriagePodcast #LoveLanguages #IntimacyInMarriage #RelationshipAdvice #CommunicationInMarriage #Spouseology #CouplesPodcast #HealthyRelationships

  6. Jun 10

    Ep. 7 I Love You… But I Don’t Like You Right Now

    Ever looked at your spouse and thought “I love you, but I really don’t like you right now”? No? Just us? In this episode of Spouseology, Santi and Susie get into the stuff nobody puts in their wedding vows: laundry battles, micromanaging vacations, whose upbringing is to blame, and the very real feeling of coming in second place to literally everything else in your spouse’s life. Santi finally admits his laundry situation is out of control. Susie confesses she might be a tiny bit of a control freak on vacation. And together they figure out why loving someone and liking someone are two very different things, and what to do when those two things stop showing up at the same time. If you’ve ever been deeply in love with someone and also deeply annoyed by them on the same Tuesday, this episode is for you. In this episode: • Why love and like are not the same thing • How your childhood is quietly ruining your marriage • Laundry, clutter, and the resentment nobody talks about • Feeling like you’re coming in last place • Communication mistakes every couple makes • How to actually work through conflict without losing your mind New episodes every week on YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.

  7. Jun 10

    Ep. 8 Actor Caleb Emery on Finding “The One” in Just 6 Months | Spouseology Podcast FULL EPISODE

    Can you really know you’ve found “The One” after just a few months? In this episode of Spouseology, Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo sit down with actor Caleb Emery (Summer of 84, Young Sheldon, Good Girls, NCIS: Origins, Grey’s Anatomy, American Vandal) to discuss one of the fastest relationship journeys we’ve ever heard. Caleb met his wife Emily in September 2023, proposed just six months later, bought a house together, got married in February 2025, and welcomed their first child in March 2026. Most people would call it moving too fast. Caleb calls it knowing exactly what he wanted. Together, we explore what makes a relationship work, how communication creates a strong marriage, and why so many couples struggle when they stop prioritizing each other. Whether you’ve been married for 20 years, are newly engaged, or are still searching for your future spouse, this conversation is packed with practical relationship advice, honest stories, and powerful insights about love, commitment, communication, and building a life together. 🎙️ Follow Spouseology for new episodes every week as Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo explore the realities of marriage, relationships, parenting, communication, intimacy, and everything in between. #Marriage #Relationships #MarriageAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #CommunicationInMarriage #LoveLanguages #Parenting #Newlyweds #Podcast #Spouseology #CalebEmery #YoungSheldon #HealthyRelationships #MarriageCommunication

  8. May 27

    Ep 6 Career Changes, Fear & Marriage | How Jobs Can Impact Relationships

    Can a career change save your marriage… or destroy it? In this deeply honest episode of Spouseology, Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo open up about the emotional reality of career transitions, burnout, fear, people-pleasing, anxiety, and how work stress can slowly impact your marriage and home life. Santi shares the full story behind leaving a 20+ year career in radio at JAM’N 94.5, the fear that kept him stuck for years, and how finally walking away changed his mental health, marriage, confidence, and life. Susie also opens up about navigating career uncertainty with her husband Matt, supporting your partner through major life decisions, and the importance of speaking up instead of suffering in silence. This episode dives into: Career changes and marriageFear of leaving a stable jobBurnout and anxiety from workHow jobs affect relationships and family lifeSupporting your spouse through career transitionsPeople-pleasing in the workplaceMental health, therapy, and self-worthBalancing ambition, marriage, and happinessWhy communication matters during stressful seasonsThe emotional toll of staying in the wrong career too longSanti and Susie also discuss: Radio industry burnoutEntertainment careers and instabilityWork-life balance in marriageTough love between spousesSupporting your partner’s dreamsHow fear can quietly control your lifeThe importance of speaking up at work and at homeIf you’ve ever felt stuck in a career, afraid to make a leap, overwhelmed by work stress, or worried about how career changes could affect your marriage or relationship, this episode is for you. 🎙️ Follow Spouseology for real conversations about marriage, relationships, communication, career pressure, intimacy, family life, personal growth, and modern partnerships. 📲 Follow us everywhere: Instagram/TikTok/Facebook: @SpouseologyPod #MarriagePodcast #CareerChange #Relationships #WorkLifeBalance #MarriageAdvice #MentalHealth #Burnout #CareerBurnout #RelationshipPodcast #Spouseology #Anxiety #Therapy #MarriageAndCareer #PersonalGrowth #Communication #Podcast

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About

Welcome to the Spouseology Podcast with Santi DeOleo and Susie Castillo – a candid look at modern marriage from two people who’ve been in it for over 20 years each. She’s a former Miss USA, host and child-free. He’s a Boston radio vet with four kids. Together, Santi and Susie bring 50 years of collective relationship experience, two very different marriages, and a willingness to say the quiet parts out loud.

Information

  • Creator
    Santi Deoleo x Susie Castillo
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    13
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Santi Deoleo x Susie Castillo
  • Show Website
    Spouseology Podcast

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