Ern and TaTa

Ernest Holmon
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  • Relationships

After 15 years of marriage and raising a blended family of 9 kids, Ernest and Tyera bring honest conversations about love, conflict, growth, parenting, and everything in between—without the sugarcoating. From viral relationship debates to everyday situations couples actually face, nothing is off limits. You’ll hear both perspectives—the male and female point of view—sometimes aligned, sometimes completely opposite… but always real. Whether it’s communication issues, trust, finances, modern dating standards, or “who’s really right,” this podcast challenges how people think about relationships today. If you’ve ever said “that’s exactly how it is in my house,” this is the podcast for you.

  1. 20h ago

    We Almost Didn't Record! | Marriage Arguments, Communication & Accountability

    Every marriage has disagreements. But what happens when the argument starts before the microphones even turn on? On this episode of the Ern & TaTa Podcast, we're giving listeners an unfiltered look into our marriage after a disagreement nearly derailed our recording session. What started as a simple misunderstanding over Ern watching the Philadelphia Eagles quickly became a much deeper discussion about communication, emotional intelligence, accountability, financial stress, and how differently husbands and wives can interpret the same situation. Ern believes that remaining calm, agreeing, and walking away from unnecessary arguments shows personal growth. TaTa believes that acknowledging your emotions, even when you're not yelling, is essential to honest communication. But can both perspectives be valid? After 15 years of marriage, we're still discovering that loving someone doesn't automatically mean understanding how they think, communicate, or process emotions. We also explore the difference between defending yourself and creating drama, why spouses sometimes feel unheard, the importance of supporting each other's interests, and how past experiences influence the way we respond to conflict. This isn't a polished conversation about a perfect relationship. It's a real husband and wife having a real disagreement, sharing both perspectives, and figuring things out along the way. In this episode, we discuss: Communication problems in long-term marriagesEmotional intelligence and accountabilitySilent treatment vs. healthy conflict resolutionFeeling misunderstood by your spouseMarriage disagreements and financial pressureSupporting your partner's interestsStanding up for yourself without creating unnecessary conflictLearning to handle arguments differently as your marriage grows Here's the question: Is staying quiet during an argument a sign of maturity, or can silence sometimes make your partner feel even more unheard? Join Ern & TaTa for another honest conversation about marriage, relationships, personal growth, and the realities of building a life together. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. Follow, rate, review, and share the Ern & TaTa Podcast with someone who appreciates authentic conversations about love and marriage.

    We Almost Didn't Record! | Marriage Arguments, Communication & Accountability

  2. 6d ago

    Battle of the Sexes: 2000s Movie Trivia Gets Competitive!

    Ern and TaTa face off in a 2000s movie trivia challenge, with their youngest daughter serving as the surprise host! Can they remember the details from Love & Basketball, ATL, Baby Boy, Barbershop, Training Day, and other favorites? Expect hilarious mix-ups, playful arguments, and plenty of nostalgia as this married couple races to 100 points. Listen along, test your own movie knowledge, and decide whether you're Team Ern or Team TaTa. Who deserves the bragging rights—and which movie era should come next? Follow the Ern & TaTa Podcast, leave a review, and share this episode with your favorite movie fan. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.

    Battle of the Sexes: 2000s Movie Trivia Gets Competitive!

  3. Oct 6

    We Gave Our Kids Everything… Was It Still Not Enough? | Parenting, Sacrifice & Adult Children

    What happens when the children you sacrificed everything for grow up and tell you that you didn’t do enough? Ern and TaTa sit down for a raw conversation about parenting adult children, blended families, family conflict, sacrifice, resentment and the emotional toll of being a parent. After more than 15 years of marriage and raising a blended family, they discuss what happens when children become adults with their own memories, expectations and opinions about how they were raised. Can parents love their children while admitting they’re exhausted? Why do some adult children remember their parents’ mistakes more than their sacrifices? Did today’s parents overcorrect from the strict parenting they experienced growing up? And has social media changed what children believe their parents should provide? Ern and TaTa also discuss absent parents, discipline, setting boundaries with adult children, protecting the image of the other parent, keeping a marriage united through family conflict and realizing that sometimes parents and their grown children need to get to know each other all over again. It’s emotional. It’s uncomfortable. But it’s a conversation happening inside families everywhere. Are today’s parents underappreciated—or are adult children finally speaking honestly about how they were raised? Listen and decide for yourself. #ErnAndTaTa #Parenting #AdultChildren #Marriage #BlendedFamily #FamilyRelationships #fyp #ernandiso4president

    We Gave Our Kids Everything… Was It Still Not Enough? | Parenting, Sacrifice & Adult Children

  4. Oct 1

    Compatible or Just Comfortable? The Truth After 15 Years

    After 15 years together and raising a blended family of nine kids, Ern and TaTa ask a surprisingly difficult question: Are we actually still compatible—or are we just comfortable being together? Compatibility isn't only about what brought two people together. People grow, priorities change, children enter the picture, responsibilities pile up, and before you know it, a romantic relationship can start feeling more like two business partners running a household. In this episode, Ern and TaTa talk about the “roommate phase,” why couples have to keep dating each other, whether compatibility changes over time, unrealistic relationships on social media, taking responsibility for what you accept from a partner, and why being different from your spouse isn't necessarily a bad thing. They also turn the conversation inward and discuss where their own relationship could use more effort—from getting out of the house and trying new experiences to exercising together and intentionally finding new ways to connect. After 15 years, maybe the goal isn't to stay exactly the people you were when you fell in love. Maybe it's learning how to keep finding each other as you change. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. — Ern & TaTa Podcast

  5. Sep 29

    The NEW Rules of Dating: Could You Survive Dating in 2026?

    Dating isn’t what it used to be—and Ern & TaTa aren’t sure they’d want any parts of today’s dating world. In this episode, the married couple steps back to the stage before marriage and debates the new rules of dating. Who makes the first move? Can a woman ask a man out and still expect him to pay? How long is too long to text back? Is double texting embarrassing? When does exclusivity actually become a relationship? The conversation gets even more personal when Ern & TaTa revisit how they started dating—including the moment TaTa realized Ern was still talking to other women, their different views on dating multiple people, and the signs Ern may have completely missed along the way. They also tackle situationships, social media stalking after the first date, posting your partner, expensive first dates, who should pay, and whether spending big creates expectations. The dating game has changed. The question is: Are the new rules helping people find relationships—or making everything more complicated? Ern & TaTa Podcast — Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.

    The NEW Rules of Dating: Could You Survive Dating in 2026?

  6. Sep 24

    We Almost Lost Us: When Grace, Hurt & Accountability Collide in Marriage | Part 2

    In Part 2, the conversation gets personal. What began as a discussion about traditional relationships, providing and expectations turns into Ern and TaTa taking an honest look at their own marriage. Can two hurt people actually heal together? What happens when a husband and wife begin feeling more like roommates than partners? How much grace should you give the person you love—and when does that grace become permission for the same behavior to continue? Ern and TaTa open up about difficult seasons in their marriage, expectations they never fully discussed, moments when they fell out of love with the situation, and the decisions that ultimately helped them find their way back to each other. But they don't agree on everything. TaTa believes marriage requires grace because relationships naturally go through peaks and valleys. Ern questions whether repeatedly accepting behavior that hurts you can eventually make you partly responsible for allowing the cycle to continue. This isn't about pretending to have a perfect marriage. It's about looking honestly at love, hurt, accountability, healing and what it actually takes to keep choosing each other. So here's the question: When does giving your partner grace become giving them permission? And can two hurt people really heal together? Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. The Ern & TaTa Podcast #ErnAndTaTa #MarriagePodcast #Relationships #Marriage #LoveAndMarriage #CouplesPodcast #fyp #ernandiso4president

    We Almost Lost Us: When Grace, Hurt & Accountability Collide in Marriage | Part 2

  7. Sep 22

    Should a Man Pay 100%? Traditional Men, Modern Women & Relationship Expectations | Part 1

    Should a man pay 100% of the bills? That's the question that starts this episode of Ern & TaTa — but it definitely isn't where the conversation ends. Ern and TaTa debate the growing conversation around men being expected to financially provide for the household while women maintain their own independence and income. But what does “providing” actually mean? Does paying the bills make a relationship traditional? What should the other partner contribute? Why does the word “obey” create such a strong reaction? Can someone want a traditional provider while rejecting traditional relationship roles? Then things get personal. Ern and TaTa move into a deeper conversation about failed relationships, red flags, second chances and whether we have to accept some responsibility when we stay with someone after they've repeatedly shown us who they are. It's an honest disagreement between two people with very different perspectives — and neither one is backing down. This is PART 1 of a two-part conversation and intentionally ends in the middle of the discussion. TO BE CONTINUED… Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. The Ern & TaTa Podcast.

    Should a Man Pay 100%? Traditional Men, Modern Women & Relationship Expectations | Part 1

  8. Sep 17

    Why Doesn’t Anyone Talk About the GOOD Side of Marriage?

    Everybody tells you what you could lose by getting married—but what about everything you could gain? On this episode of the Ern & TaTa Podcast, Ern and TaTa push back against the constant negative conversation surrounding marriage and talk about the benefits people don't discuss enough: companionship, security, commitment, shared memories, responsibility, growth, and building a life with someone you love. After more than 15 years of marriage, they ask a bigger question: does becoming husband and wife actually change a relationship, or could you have everything marriage offers without ever signing the papers? From divorce and prenups to choosing the right partner, fighting through difficult seasons, learning from failed relationships, and understanding what commitment really means, Ern and TaTa have an open conversation about why marriage may still have value in a generation increasingly questioning whether it's necessary. Is marriage still worth it—or has society simply gotten better at talking about everything that can go wrong? Tap play and join the conversation.

    Why Doesn’t Anyone Talk About the GOOD Side of Marriage?
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After 15 years of marriage and raising a blended family of 9 kids, Ernest and Tyera bring honest conversations about love, conflict, growth, parenting, and everything in between—without the sugarcoating. From viral relationship debates to everyday situations couples actually face, nothing is off limits. You’ll hear both perspectives—the male and female point of view—sometimes aligned, sometimes completely opposite… but always real. Whether it’s communication issues, trust, finances, modern dating standards, or “who’s really right,” this podcast challenges how people think about relationships today. If you’ve ever said “that’s exactly how it is in my house,” this is the podcast for you.

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  • Creator
    Ernest Holmon
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    49
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Ernest Holmon
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