Send us Fan Mail Welcome, Shrinking America community, to the community episode! We had a running joke that we would just keep mentioning the community episode without ever actually recording it. And then we quickly realized this was a bit of a metaphor. It's much easier to talk about wanting more community, but the real work of building it can be just that…work. In this episode we try to use our own experience in building a community through podcasting to explore the possible roadblocks, the biological and psychological drives that lead us to seek out connection, and even small, actionable steps that can help us move toward creating a community we can all rely on. Full disclosure, this was actually our second time recording the community episode, because the first go-around didn't foster much, well, community. But as a quote from Woody Allen (misattributed to Woody Harrelson in this episode) states: "Eighty percent of success is showing up." So join us as we show up again, while exploring the therapeutic concept of rupture and repair, to give building community together another shot. We hope you'll feel inspired to connect with us, as well as your fellow Americans, in our ongoing effort to form “a more perfect union." Deeper Learning Points Atomic HabitsBowling Alone "In a groundbreaking book based on vast data, Putnam shows how we have become increasingly disconnected from family, friends, neighbors, and our democratic structures– and how we may reconnect.”Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection “John T. Cacioppo’s groundbreaking research topples one of the pillars of modern medicine and psychology: the focus on the individual as the unit of inquiry. By employing brain scans, monitoring blood pressure, and analyzing immune function, he demonstrates the overpowering influence of social context—a factor so strong that it can alter DNA replication."Corrective Emotional Experience “A corrective emotional experience occurs when an individual experiences a healthier interaction with a therapist than they did with significant figures in their past, such as parents or caregivers. This shift allows patients to revisit painful emotions in a safe, supportive environment, promoting healing and growth.”Exposure Therapy “Exposure therapy is a psychological treatment that was developed to help people confront their fears. When people are fearful of something, they tend to avoid the feared objects, activities or situations. Although this avoidance might help reduce feelings of fear in the short term, over the long term it can make the fear become even worse.”Big 5 Personality TraitsSex Differences in the Impact of Physical Pain RelieversVANGELISTI, A.L., PENNEBAKER, J.W., BRODY, N. and GUINN, T.D. (2014), Reducing social pain: Sex differences in the impact of physical pain relievers. Pers Relationship, 21: 349-363. Dunbar's Number “The theory of Dunbar’s number holds that we can only really maintain about 150 connections at once. But is the rule true in today’s world of social media?”Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari "Homo sapiens rules the world because it is the only animal that can believe in things that exist purely in its own imagination, such as gods, states, money, and human rights. Starting from this provocative idea, Sapiens goes on to retell the history of our species from a completely fresh perspective."Social BatteryOur Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation (2023) by Dr. Vivek H Murthy 19th and 21st Surgeon General of the United States.DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness SkillsTribe by Sebastian Junger “We have a strong instinct to belong to small groups defined by clear purpose and understanding--"tribes." This tribal connection has been largely lost in modern society, but regaining it may be the key to our psychological survival.”Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs