Hot Mom Sh!t

Leah Van Dale
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  • Mental Health
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Hot Mom Sh!t is the podcast that lives in the AND — because you can look good and be a good mom. You can love your kids fiercely and still need to be more than just their mom. Hosted by Leah Van Dale, this is the show for the mom who is done pretending to have it all together, all of the time. Hear the real stories, honest conversations, and the moments Leah probably should have kept to herself but didn't. This isn’t a show about doing it perfectly. It’s about the raw side of motherhood exactly as it is — hot and messy.

  1. 8h ago

    Is Being a Mom Enough? (Mom Guilt, Gentle Parenting, and Why "Breast Is Best" Has to Go — with Dr. Sanam Shamtobi)

    Dr. S is back, you guys, and thank god, because you have all been taking my unhinged advice for months now and I am not qualified to give it. She showed up with barely a voice — her toddler had been in school for approximately two days and already brought something home — which is honestly the exact energy this episode needed. My son did the same thing to me. Two moms, both sick, both in it, finally handing you over to an actual expert. I asked her the question I have been chewing on for months: is being a mom enough for me? Because some days I never want to leave my kids and I just want to be home with them, and other days I need something that is mine, and the guilt shows up either way. What she said about guilt — that the feeling itself isn't the problem, letting it drive every single decision is — rearranged something in my head. We also got into whether motherhood counts as a job at all (she has thoughts), why none of us have a village anymore, the toy rotation on Instagram that sent her into a spiral, and her hot take on gentle parenting, which involves a dad, an eight-year-old named Jimmy, a pond, and a turtle nobody did anything about. And then producer Jess took the mic, and I am so glad she did. When Dr. S said she cannot stand "breast is best," Jess shared what it was like to hear that while her daughter was in the NICU for seven weeks and her milk never came in. Fed is best. That is the whole thing. In this episode we get real about: Is being a mom enough? Why getting rid of mom guilt isn't actually the goal, and what to do with it instead The belief behind why motherhood somehow isn't "a job" until you're paying someone else to do it Her hot take on gentle parenting,  The physical tells that you're spiraling, and the body scan that catches it before the whole day is gone Producer Jess on the NICU, formula, and what "breast is best" cost her that it never should have Momma, if you have ever loved being home with them and quietly needed something that was just yours, both of those are true at the same time. Neither one cancels the other out. Thank god it's not just us. Listen to new episodes of Hot Mom Sh!t dropping every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale Join the Snatch community: snatch.co Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN

  2. Sep 8

    Just Tell Me I'm a Good Mom (A Hot Mom Q&A on Preschool, Solids, and Saving My Marriage in Therapy)

    This was one of those weekends where I genuinely don't know how I'm still standing. Bruno Mars, two sick kids, a three-minute nap that somehow ruined my entire Sunday, and by Monday I was Googling how tall Bruno Mars actually is instead of sleeping. Anyway. You guys have been sending me questions since I started this podcast, so today I finally sat down and answered some of them — no script, no notes, just me and my opinions, which come with a very large asterisk: I am not an expert, I'm just a mom who's figured a few things out the hard way (and gotten plenty wrong). In this episode we get real about: The Bruno Mars concert, the three-minute nap that broke me, and why I couldn't just let it go Why we put Dimitri in preschool before he even turned three, and crying in the parking lot anyway Starting solids with baby number two versus baby number one — what actually changed (spoiler: mostly me) Why marriage counseling has been one of the best things Matt and I have ever done, and what being the "default parent" really costs Learning to just say what I need instead of slamming dishes in the sink and hoping he gets the hint The line that lives in my head now: I don't care if I look hot, I just want to hear that I'm a good mom Momma, if you've ever needed someone to just tell you you're doing a good job — this one's for you. Thank god it's not just us. Listen to new episodes of Hot Mom Sh!t dropping every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale Join the Snatch community: snatch.co Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN

  3. Sep 3

    What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Hotter with Laura Clery

    I finished her book ten minutes before we hit record. Ten minutes. I have a two-year-old and a ten-month-old, and this is the second book I've read in three years — so understand what I'm telling you when I say I could not put it down. I texted my mom about it. I told Laura she's my new best friend, out loud, on the recording, like a normal person. Laura Clery has 26 million followers, three books, and a new one called What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Hotter — which, if that's not hot mom sh!t, I don't know what is. She wrote it over four years while her marriage came apart in real time, so it reads less like a memoir and more like a thriller you keep having to remind yourself actually happened to a real person. And she still made it funny, because that's what she does. We got into all of it: the boundaries she didn't have, the ones she has now, why motherhood is the thing that made her brave, and what "hotter" actually means when it has nothing to do with your face. In this episode we get real about: Why Laura swears her lack of a filter is the actual secret to 26 million followers and the times that has cost her Waking up to a phone full of calls and texts because her ex announced their separation on YouTube before she'd even told her own mom Being told to pick a lane and why she throws all of it on one page instead Why motherhood, not sobriety and not career wins, is what made her the bravest she's ever been Going from codependent to running her whole life by herself Comparison, haters, and the practice that keeps her self-worth out of the comment section What "hotter" actually means in that title, and her AND: she can love being a mom and want to be very far away from her kids for a minute Momma, if you've been quietly waiting for permission to be more than one thing at a time, this is it. Two hot moms, one book, no notes. Join the Snatch community to get first access to new episodes, behind the scenes content, and so much more. Listen to new episodes of Hot Mom Sh!t dropping every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale  Follow Laura: @lauraclery  Get the book: What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Hotter  Join the Snatch community: snatch.co  Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN

  4. Aug 25

    Hot Zaddy Sh!t: Matt Is Back (Red Flags, Anesthesia Confessions & How We Got Our Marriage Back)

    My husband is back on the podcast for the first time since episode two — and back then we were smack in the middle of the hardest season of our marriage. This time we're coming to you from the other side of it, and Matt brought receipts. We start with the aftermath of my first colonoscopy, because apparently I told him he was my hero, gave him full permission to "take his pick," and got very concerned about a cartoon character while still under anesthesia. Naturally, I made him relive the whole thing on mic. Then I put Matt through my own version of the newlywed game — a list of questions I wrote down with zero warning to him. We get into his actual red flags (he named three, unprompted), whether having kids made our marriage better or harder, what moms get away with that dads never could, and whether we'd still date each other if we met today. In this episode we get real about: - Matt's anesthesia confession session after my first colonoscopy  - Why sleep was the first domino to fall in getting our marriage back - The unscripted newlywed-game-style Q&A  - Whether having kids made our marriage better or harder  - What moms get away with that dads never could, and vice versa - Why I really wanted Matt on this episode  Momma, if you and your partner are in the thick of a hard season right now, this one's for you. We were there too. Thank god it's not just us. Listen to new episodes of Hot Mom Sh!t dropping every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. I invite you to join the Snatch community  to get first access to new episodes, behind the scenes content and so much more. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale  Join the Snatch community: snatch.co  Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher  "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN

  5. Aug 18

    The Mental Load Is the Real Burnout (Why I'm Stepping Back from snatch)

    So this week starts with me bleeding through a leopard-print romper in the vestibule of Mission Barbecue, and ends with me making one of the biggest decisions I've made all year. Only on this podcast, honestly. Solo mom weekend, day one: I somehow convince myself Target has “farting pigs” (it does not), survive a public period incident with zero backup, and still manage to have one of the best weekends I've had in months with my boys. Then somewhere between the leftovers and bedtime, it hits me — the thing that's exhausting about motherhood was never the mothering. It's everything stacked on top of it. Which brings me to the part I haven't said out loud anywhere yet: I'm stepping back from SNATCH. In this episode we get real about: The period story I have to tell you about, because no one was there to laugh about it with me Why solo parenting all weekend went better than I ever expected — and what actually changed My theory that motherhood burnout doesn't come from mothering, it comes from the mental load of everything else (curious if you agree, moms) Why I'm stepping back from SNATCH, and why that's not the same thing as failing Giving yourself permission to take something off your plate, even when it feels like letting people down Momma, if you've ever felt like you're failing just by needing a minute, this one's for you. Thank god it's not just us. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher  "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN

  6. Aug 11

    Losing Your Identity as a Mom (and Finding Yourself Again) with Tara Clark

    I did a cute little shoot this week. Got my glam done, washed my hair for the first time in days, felt like I had my life together for about five minutes. And then I sat down with Tara Clark and immediately felt like the biggest hot mess in the room. In the best way. You know Tara as Modern Mom Probs — the Instagram, the podcast, the book, all of it. She's been doing the good, the bad, the ugly, the real about motherhood since before it was a whole genre, and I've been dying to get her on since I was on her podcast. This time we go deep: identity, comparison, guilt, and what it actually looks like to build a life — and a business — out of nothing. In this episode we get real about: Why I still introduce myself as "Carmella from WWE" instead of "mom" — and Tara's take on why we all do this How Tara went from working social media at Nickelodeon to building Modern Mom Probs from her living room The #1 modern mom problem Tara hears from every single guest on her podcast (it's not what you'd think... okay, it's exactly what you'd think) Curating your Instagram feed the same way you curate your house, and giving yourself permission to just unfollow The guilt of letting your mom take the kids for a night so you can sleep (and why you should let her) What actually fills your cup right now — for both of us, it's smaller than you'd think Tara's advice for any woman starting completely from scratch: build the village yourself Momma, if you've ever felt like you lost yourself somewhere between the baby monitor and the group chat, this one's for you. Thank god it's not just us. I invite you to join the Snatch community to get first access to new episodes, behind the scenes content and so much more. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale Join the Snatch community: snatch.co Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher  Follow Tara: @modernmomprobs "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN

  7. Aug 4

    Finding Myself Again (and Finding Out I Have a Cancer Gene)

    In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, I'm almost 10 months postpartum, a month free of breastfeeding, and finally starting to feel like myself again — libido and all. But it's not all good news. I'm also opening up about something I've been putting off for over a decade: getting tested for Lynch syndrome, a genetic mutation that runs in my family and raises your risk for certain cancers, after my mom's own cancer diagnosis back in 2014. I finally did the testing, got my results, and yes, I have the gene. I talk through the spiral I went into, how I've reframed it, and what happens next, including my upcoming colonoscopy. I also get into why prioritizing your own health isn't selfish, why it took an outside perspective from a life coach to make things click, and why I'm finally starting to feel lighter after a really heavy stretch. In this episode I get real about: Almost 10 months postpartum and a month free of breastfeeding and how I’m finally catching glimmers of myself again My libido coming back after years of being pregnant or breastfeeding, and what that's doing for my marriage My mom's 2014 endometrial cancer diagnosis and how it led to a Lynch syndrome diagnosis in our family Finding out I carry the Lynch syndrome gene, the spiral that followed, and reframing it as a "cheat code" instead of a diagnosis My upcoming colonoscopy and why I'm choosing to face this head-on Why self-care and prioritizing yourself is not selfish, it's what makes you better for everyone else Momma, if you've been putting off something for your own health because life just keeps getting in the way, this one's your sign to prioritize yourself.  I invite you to join the Snatch community to get first access to new episodes, behind the scenes content and so much more. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale Join the Snatch community: snatch.co Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher  "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN

  8. Jul 28

    Stepmom Life: Co-Parenting, Boundaries & Blended Families

    In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, I'm sitting down with Alyssa and Becca from Stepmom Side Chats  and I'm not gonna lie, I felt so seen the second I found their page that I had to have them on. I talk about my step kids, but I've never really gotten into the actual ins and outs of stepmom life, and these two go there in a way I've never heard anyone go there before. We get into how they became best friends at a tiny Christian college in Texas, how a text thread about marrying men with kids turned into a full podcast, and why their "Sunday Stepmom Secrets" confessional became a lifeline for so many women.  Alyssa opens up about her high-conflict co-parenting situation and years in and out of court. Becca talks through blending two very different bio-mom relationships, and we get real about the stuff you'd never say out loud because it feels too ugly to admit.  We also talk about what changes once you have your own biological kids after being a stepmom first and how to talk to your husband about his kids without it turning into a fight. In this episode we get real about: How Alyssa and Becca met at a Christian college in Abilene, Texas and bonded as the "outsiders" Sunday Stepmom Secrets, the anonymous confessional that became everyone's free therapy Alyssa's high-conflict co-parenting situation — court, CPS, and a bio mom who struggles to let the kids be happy The #1 thing stepmoms confess to them: not knowing how to talk to their husband about his kids Why having your own biological kid changes how you see your stepkids The stuff no one admits out loud: the mess, the smell, the sick-kid anxiety, wanting kids to just go home Fill in the blank: "Being a stepmom taught me ___" If you’re a stepmom, this is a must listen. Tune into new episodes of Hot Mom Shit every Tuesday and follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. Join the Snatch Chat community to get first access to new episodes, behind the scenes content and so much more. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale Join the Snatch community: snatch.co Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher  "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN

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Hot Mom Sh!t is the podcast that lives in the AND — because you can look good and be a good mom. You can love your kids fiercely and still need to be more than just their mom. Hosted by Leah Van Dale, this is the show for the mom who is done pretending to have it all together, all of the time. Hear the real stories, honest conversations, and the moments Leah probably should have kept to herself but didn't. This isn’t a show about doing it perfectly. It’s about the raw side of motherhood exactly as it is — hot and messy.

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  • Creator
    Leah Van Dale
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    21
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
    Hot Mom Sh!t

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