In Episode 3 of The Blueprint, George and April Davis dive into one of the most-asked questions in any church: "I’m not on dating apps, I don’t go to clubs — so how am I supposed to meet the one?" They challenge the myth of a single, mystical soulmate, make the case for living fully now rather than waiting for marriage to start, and walk through the very real math problem facing single Christian women today. They also offer practical wisdom on how Christian men should approach women with respect and intention, what it looks like for women to be approachable, when a single person might consider adoption or in vitro, and how couples can navigate the different expectations they bring into marriage. Honest, biblical, and refreshingly practical — this is an episode for everyone who is waiting, wondering, or working it out. In This Episode • Is there really “the one”? George and April unpack why the pressure of finding one single mystical soulmate can actually cause you to miss a great relationship — and how Scripture reframes what it means to find a spouse. • Start living your life now: Don’t wait until you’re married to take the trip, buy the house, or build the life. George explains why a fully-lived single life actually makes the wait shorter — and more attractive. • Where to meet people: Church is a great starting point, but it isn’t the only room. From dance classes to grocery stores to Christian dating sites, George and April make the case for being open to unexpected places and moments. • Christian dating sites — just another room: They address the stigma head-on: a godly dating site is simply another space where you might meet someone. A profile doesn’t replace discernment — but it shouldn’t be demonized either. • The math of single Christian life: Why do so many godly women struggle to find a godly man? George breaks down the numbers — and why trusting God’s timing matters more than panicking about the pool. • How a Christian man should approach a woman: George walks men through a framework rooted in respect, intention, and a willingness to be rejected — and shares the story of how he eventually approached April in college. • How women can be approachable: April encourages single women to be open — in person, in public, and on social media — and explains how a simple signal can give a man the confidence to take a next step. • Single people and adoption or in vitro: A nuanced, compassionate conversation about God’s best vs. what’s sinful — and why the answer may look different for a 20-something than for a woman in her late 30s who has done everything right. • Navigating different expectations in marriage: When you and your spouse are working from completely different blueprints, George and April explain why premarital counseling matters, and how to find common ground when the expectations don’t match. Key Takeaways • There may not be just one right person for you. God is alpha and omega — He knew who you’d choose, and He prepared a life around that choice. Take the pressure off. • Marriage should not be the ultimate goal. A godly marriage should be a goal, but in order to have a godly marriage, you need to first build a godly life. • Don’t wait on your life. Take the cruise. Buy the house. Decorate it. If someone God sends your way is right for you, they’ll jump into the party you already have going. • Put down your phone. The world is bigger than that screen. Some of the most important meetings happen when you’re paying attention to what’s in front of you. • Be open to unexpected rooms. A godly dating site, a dance class, a football game — they’re all just rooms. Don’t disqualify a connection because of where it started. • The math is real. There are more church-going women than men, and more women ready for marriage than men who are ready. That’s not your fault — and it doesn’t mean God can’t send you the right one. • Men: approach her as a daughter of God. Be direct about your intentions, use group settings to get to know her first, and be willing to accept rejection without it being about your worth. • Women: be approachable — in person and online. If a man expresses interest and you’re open to it, give him a sign. Don’t leave him guessing. • Just because you’re not married yet doesn’t mean something is wrong with you or that you’re not ready. Sometimes it simply takes time for the right connection to happen. • The purpose of dating is to investigate. Get into settings where you can actually talk and learn who someone is — not watch a movie or scroll in silence. • Know yourself before you try to know someone else. If you don’t know what you really want out of life, you may sacrifice your dreams just to be chosen. • Premarital counseling gets you on the same page before you say “I do.” If you’re already married and working through mismatched expectations, a qualified Christian counselor can help you build a new set of lenses together. Scripture Referenced • Proverbs 18:22 — “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor of the Lord.” • Amos 3:3 — “How can two walk together except they are in agreement?” The foundation of any lasting relationship is alignment — in values, in faith, and in direction. Resources Mentioned • Impact Church Counseling Center: Free and confidential for members. Covers dating, marriage, parenting, and financial counseling. Call (904) 725-3636 to schedule. • Celebrate Recovery: Tuesday nights at Impact Church. Open to anyone navigating hurts, hangups, or habits — not just addiction. • Premarital Counseling: Available through the counseling center to help couples get aligned before marriage. • Small Groups: One of the primary ways Impact Church helps people build community, find accountability, and meet others who share their values. Connect With Us If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who needs it. And if you have a question for George and April Davis, reach out — your question could be featured in a future episode. • 🎙️ Subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube • 📱 Follow us on Facebook & Instagram • 📧 Submit your questions: theblueprintpodcast@weareimpact.com Support the show The Blueprint with George & April Davis is a conversation about the principles that build strong lives, strong families, strong leaders, and strong ministries. 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