Against My Better Judgment Podcast

Kim
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A show at the intersection of mental health and learning from your mistakes.

Episodes

  1. Oct 27

    You Left Your Abuser. Now What?

    Everyone talks about finding the courage to leave an abusive relationship. But nobody talks enough about what happens next. In this episode, I’m diving into the messy reality of life after abuse, why you might feel worse before you feel better, how trauma affects your relationships, why healing isn’t linear, and what it really takes to rebuild yourself. Because leaving your abuser is one thing. Reclaiming yourself is a whole different journey. #DomesticAbuseRecovery #HealingAfterAbuse #TraumaRecovery #ReclaimYourself #AgainstMyBetterJudgment

  2. Oct 12

    The honest convo men & women aren’t having

    What happens when we stop protecting men’s comfort and start having honest conversations about women’s safety? In this powerful, unfiltered episode, I’m joined once again by my friend Ryan for a conversation that challenges everything we’ve been taught about masculinity, male privilege, rape culture, and the expectations society places on men and women. We dive into the uncomfortable reality that many men remain completely unaware of the dangers, discrimination, and everyday experiences women navigate simply because they’re women. We explore what it actually means to be a male ally—and why genuine allyship sometimes requires men to surrender their comfort, challenge other men, and even risk their own safety to protect women. But this conversation isn’t just about what men need to do differently. It’s also about the enormous pressure men face to achieve financial success, status, and stability by a certain age. We discuss how these expectations shape men’s identities, relationships, and self-worth, and offer advice to younger men struggling with the feeling that they’re falling behind. We also tackle the difficult question of how women can identify red flags in men, particularly when harmful attitudes and behaviours aren’t immediately obvious. And perhaps one of the most disturbing parts of our conversation: Where are women actually supposed to feel safe? After sharing my own positive and healing experience with a male therapist on social media, I was confronted with an unsettling reality. Approximately 30% of the women who commented on my post shared experiences of male therapists saying or doing inappropriate things that left them feeling violated, unsafe, or re-traumatized. Because being a good man isn’t just about what you personally refuse to do. It’s also about what you’re willing to stand up against. Content warning: Discussions of sexual violence, rape culture, abuse, and inappropriate conduct in therapeutic relationships. #MalePrivilege #RapeCulture #ToxicMasculinity #WomensSafety #AgainstMyBetterJudgment

  3. Sep 30

    Women Can’t Fix Rape Culture: Men, We Need You.

    Men, We Need You: Rape Culture Isn’t a Women’s ProblemWe keep asking women to protect themselves. Watch your drink. Watch what you wear. Watch where you walk. Watch who you trust.But when are we going to start asking men to watch each other?In this episode, I talk about toxic masculinity, rape culture, the Cornell case, and the much bigger conversation it forces us to have about the messages we give boys and men about women, sex, consent, power, and accountability.And I’m making a direct call to men: we cannot f*****g do this without you.Women cannot dismantle rape culture by ourselves. And as a mother raising a son, I can teach him empathy, consent, respect, and what healthy masculinity looks like—but I cannot control every locker room, group chat, friendship, influence, or man he will encounter.I need good men in those spaces too.Because raising boys who respect women cannot only be mothers’ work. Protecting women cannot only be women’s work. And changing the culture means men being willing to speak up—not just when a woman is in the room, but especially when she isn’t.#ToxicMasculinity #RapeCulture #ConsentMatters #RaiseGoodMen #AgainstMyBetterJudgment

  4. Sep 4

    I’m a good therapist BECAUSE I’m f****d up

    Maybe being a little “f****d up” is exactly what made me a better therapist. 🤷‍♀️I’ve been through trauma. I’ve made terrible decisions. I’ve stayed when I should’ve left. I’ve struggled, unraveled, rebuilt myself, and learned some lessons the very hard way.And no, lived experience doesn’t automatically make someone a good therapist. But I do believe mine has given me something no textbook ever could: the ability to sit across from someone in their mess without judging them, rushing them, or pretending healing is neat and linear.I don’t help people because I’ve always had my shit together.I help people because I know what it feels like when you absolutely f*****g don’t. 🎙️#TherapistTalk #MentalHealthUnfiltered #LivedExperience #HealingJourney #AgainstMyBetterJudgment

  5. Aug 2

    I left my alcoholic ex at 8 months pregnant

    This is the most personal episode I've shared yet. At eight months pregnant, I made the hardest decision of my life: I left my narcissistic, abusive, alcoholic partner. Looking back, I can clearly see that this moment was my **Dive**—the second stage of the five-stage framework I created after rebuilding my life from the ground up.In this episode, I walk through the **Five Stages of Reclaiming Yourself**—Survive, Dive, Revive, Thrive, and Archive—and explain how they transformed not only my healing journey but the way I understand every major life change. If you've ever found yourself thinking, *"This can't be my life,"* this episode is for you. I hope it helps you see that the fear you're feeling might not be a stop sign—it might be the doorway to everything you've been looking for. If this resonates, subscribe, leave a comment, and share it with someone who needs to hear they're capable of more than they think.

  6. Jul 17

    The toxic workplace that almost broke us

    In this episode, Sandra shares two very challenging workplace conflicts she went through as a school counsellor. She walks us through the dynamics, the way she chose to handle it with authenticity and courage, and how it led to a more peaceful workplace today. Kim also shares her perspective by highlighting one work experience where she was overqualified, underpaid, and overworked. Kim also makes the connections between putting up with toxicity in the workplace, childhood experiences, and low self worth. Sandra and Kim both weave in some advice and tools to navigate these situations.

  7. Jul 4

    I’m stuck with him because I don’t deserve better

    In this episode, Morgan, who lost over 80 lbs, talks about how she used her shame and frustration from starting a quitting her weight loss journey for 8 years into an online empire simply by sharing her story. Kim, who lost 45 lbs with Morgan's mentorship, talks about breaking the shackles of being bound by her therapist ethical guidelines and wanting to use and share her story, including her past challenges with bipolar disorder, to help and reach more people online than she ever could one on one.

  8. Jun 29

    Everybody’s a narcissist

    In this part 2 episode, Kim, who has successfully managed her bipolar disorder for 6 years now and recovered from burnout recently, talks to us about her clinical perspective on narcissistic abuse and burnout recovery. Ryan, a certified personal trainer, as well as a nutrition and life coach, jumps in to talk about his physical burnout story and perspective on resilience the positive impact of physical exercise on mental health. Self diagnosed narcissist I refer to: Lee Hammock https://www.instagram.com/mentalhealnesss/?hl=en Man Box TED Talk I refer to: A Call To Men by Tony Porterhttps://youtu.be/td1PbsV6B80?si=l_SNMAxNs8B8Er-y

  9. Jun 17

    Men never say this out loud!

    In this episode, Ryan, who has successfully lost 120 pounds (and kept it off for over 20 years) talks to us about why he is so passionate about advocating for men to get access to mental health support. Ryan is a certified personal trainer, as well as a nutrition and life coach. Kim jumps in to talk about her personal story, as well as give her clinical perspective on men's mental health.

  10. May 13

    I paid the price for ignoring my intuition

    In this episode, I introduce the podcast and give a little background about myself, my story, and how I finally ended up in alignment in my career as a therapist.

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A show at the intersection of mental health and learning from your mistakes.

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