Rebel Ninja Parent Series

Coach Andrew

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Kids & Family

Welcome to the Rebel Ninja Parent Series, the show for parents raising confident, resilient kids. Coach Andrew shares real talk and actionable tools to help your child build unstoppable confidence, a resilient mindset, and the social skills to thrive in any situation.

5d ago

11 Year Old Learns to Outsmart Bullies

You can't follow your child to school. You can't stop a mean kid from saying something cruel. But you can make sure your child knows exactly what to do when it happens. Coach Andrew walks you through a real coaching call with an 11 year old girl who was about to start a new school. You'll hear the exact words, questions, and pictures he used to help her feel strong and calm. Every tool is simple enough to practice at home tonight. Explain why bullies bully so your child stops taking it personally.Show your child why bullies pick the "hurt zebra" and how to stop being an easy target.Practice faces and tone in the mirror so your child looks and sounds calm.Use the repeat technique, the uncomfortable flip, and the question technique to shut teasing down.How to help a kind child speak up without feeling like the bad guy.Your child doesn't need to be tough to stand strong. They just need the right tools before the first hard day. (00:00) - Intro (00:51) - Keep it super simple: the KISS method (02:26) - Free bully videos in the Rebel Ninja app (06:12) - Why bullies bully: hurt people hurt people (08:28) - Bad kids or kids making bad choices? (09:15) - Why empathy comes first (11:05) - The two reasons a bully targets your child (11:49) - The hurt zebra (13:20) - Why being a threat brings rumors (15:14) - The diary story (16:34) - Why ignoring a bully doesn't work (18:22) - Why fighting back isn't the answer (19:43) - Step 1: Control your face (21:34) - Logical kids and facial expressions (24:45) - Step 2: Tonality (27:17) - Step 3: What to say (29:08) - The repeat technique (31:21) - The uncomfortable flip (32:31) - The question technique (34:10) - Why telling the teacher is okay (37:29) - Recap (38:43) - How to reach Coach Andrew
Sep 30

The Real Reason Your Kid Says No

You tell your kid what to do. They dig in. You say it again, louder. Now you are both stuck and nobody is listening. Nancy is a homeschool mom of two girls, ages 5 and 8. When her oldest refused jiu jitsu, telling got her nowhere, but a few calm questions found the real reason. You will learn the exact questions she uses to walk her kids out of big feelings and into clear thinking. Name the feeling out loud and let your kid say yes or no.Offer the wrong answer first and the right answer last.Watch for eyes looking down, because it means something is bugging them.Keep "what do you mean?" and "tell me more" in your back pocket.Use a caring, worried tone so your questions never sound like a quiz.Stop pushing harder and start asking better, because your kid already has the answer inside. (00:00) - Intro (00:24) - Meet Nancy (02:58) - What is a Fire Ninja? (04:47) - Asking instead of telling (05:46) - When empathy made it worse (08:18) - Why telling feels faster but isn't (11:14) - Saying sorry to your kids (13:07) - The emotions room and the making sense room (15:18) - The jiu jitsu story (21:16) - Invisible walls (23:13) - When their eyes look down (24:06) - Why questions work (26:18) - When kids beat themselves up for being upset (28:16) - Tell their story first (30:15) - Two back pocket phrases (30:32) - The sourdough lesson (32:19) - Wrong answer first, right answer last (34:02) - When they pick the wrong answer on purpose (35:30) - "This sounds like it takes forever" (36:55) - Role play: trying a dance class (41:21) - Tone matters (45:57) - What's happening in the brain (47:51) - Nancy's advice for parents
Sep 23

Why Kids Say "I Don't Want to Be Alone"

Your child freezes when another kid is mean. Or they keep a friend who treats them badly, because speaking up feels like being mean. Teaching boundaries only fixes the surface. Coach Andrew digs into why kind kids stay quiet and finds a deeper fear underneath: being left alone. It starts with a real moment from a coaching call and a simple drawing on a whiteboard. Then he shows how kids build real confidence so they can speak up or walk away without you stepping in. Learn the chain of fears that makes a kind kid freeze.See the difference between being alone and feeling lonely.Understand how a scarcity mindset keeps kids stuck with friends who hurt them.Play the Question Detective game at home with just two W's and three topics.How to use the spotlight effect to calm nerves before your child talks to someone new.Your child does not need you to fight their battles, they need the skills to handle their own. (00:00) - Intro (01:50) - Why kids freeze when someone is mean (03:25) - The first fear: not wanting to sound mean (05:35) - The deeper fear: "I don't want to be alone" (07:15) - Alone vs lonely, the whiteboard drawing (10:05) - Why kids argue at home but not with friends (11:45) - Fixed mindset and the chain of whys (13:35) - Scarcity mindset and the 100 Nidos question (16:00) - Why affirmations don't fix scarcity (19:15) - The priceless pancake and what "value" means (21:10) - Tactical empathy and the Question Detective (25:20) - Two W's and three topics, playing the game (28:10) - Make it about you and you lose (31:00) - The introvert light switch (33:30) - The spotlight effect (38:25) - Chase butterflies or build a garden
Sep 16

Why Do Other Kids Turn On Your Child?

Is your kid dealing with a friend who used to be their person and now treats them like an outsider? It is one of the hardest things to watch as a parent, and most of the advice out there does not actually work. Coach Andrew shares a framework he built after testing it with his own students, and it works whether your child is five or fifteen. You will learn how to help your child build their own team of real friends, so one jealous or manipulative kid can never turn a whole group against them. Here is what you will take away: Learn why the kids excluding your child are usually not bad kids, just scared onesUnderstand the North Star that makes a kid magnetic instead of a people pleaserUse the two C's, compliment and common, to get past any wall between your kid and a new friendTeach your child to be a question detective who asks what and why instead of yes or no questionsShow your kid how giving without expecting anything back builds a team that has their back no matter whatYour child does not need to be the most popular kid in the room. They need a team that shows up when it matters. (00:00) - Intro and 1570 downloads thank you (02:12) - Todays topic and the Team Bob idea (04:37) - Why kids exclude a friend (06:54) - The North Star, give not take (08:48) - Bad kid or bad choices (11:01) - The wall called in grouping (12:56) - The two C's, compliment and common (14:20) - Practicing compliment and common (16:23) - Being a question detective (18:16) - Get them talking about themselves (20:13) - Identity problem versus skill problem (22:22) - Two rules after a compliment (23:31) - Show you are interested, not just interested (25:34) - What it means to build Team You
Sep 9

Your Child's Best Friend Became The Bully, Now What?

Your kid's best friend became the bully. Now the whole group runs the other way, and making a new friend feels impossible. Coach Andrew breaks down what happened after an eight year old's closest friend turned on him, and why he started rating making new friends a ten out of ten scary. The fix had nothing to do with handling bullies. It came down to giving him real evidence that he is worth being friends with. Spot the spotlight effect before it stops your child from talking to anyone newLearn why telling your child to just go make friends can backfireSee how a simple compliment challenge builds real confidence one step at a timeDiscover why the question challenge turns any kid into a social magnetHow to help your child leave every person better than they found them, and why that changes everythingIf your child still trusts the friend who let them down, or freezes around anyone new, this one is for you. (00:00) - Understanding Bullying and Its Impact on Children (03:09) - The Scarcity Mindset and Fear of Making Friends (06:10) - The Spotlight Effect: Anxiety in Social Situations (09:17) - Shifting Focus: From Self to Others (12:05) - Games to Build Social Skills in Children (17:56) - The Importance of Open-Ended Questions (24:10) - Building Confidence Through Social Skills
Sep 2

This Trick Worked On A Two Year Old

Your kid was having so much fun. Then you said it's time to go, and the fight that followed felt way bigger than turning off a screen or leaving the house ever should. In this one, Coach Andrew breaks down the real reason small transitions turn into full meltdowns, and teaches the exact skill that stops it before it starts. You will learn why telling a kid to breathe does not work in the moment, and what actually calms them down instead. Here is what you will walk away with: Learn why your kid hears the word stop and feels like you hate them. Discover why breathing exercises fail in the middle of a meltdown. Play a simple game that trains this skill through fun, not lectures. Hear a real coaching session where a child argues his own inner critic into defeat. Find out why this exact skill worked on a two year old. If transitions turn into fights in your house, tonight is a good night to press play. (00:13) - Understanding Children's Meltdowns (03:19) - The Role of Metacognition in Emotional Regulation (06:08) - Teaching Metacognition: The Ant Squasher Game (12:04) - Developing Inner Critic Awareness (17:57) - Shifting Perspectives: From Mad to Glad
Aug 26

Why Telling A Bully To Stop Backfires

You've told the teacher. You told the bully to stop. Maybe the principal got involved. Maybe it went further than that. And your child is still getting bullied. In this episode, Coach Andrew breaks down why the advice most parents give, just tell them to stop, actually makes bullying worse. You will learn why kids freeze up around bullies, and the exact mindset shift that helps them respond instead of react. Here is what you will walk away with: Understand why hurt kids hurt other kids, and how that changes what your child feels when they get bullied. Discover why saying please stop hands the bully exactly what they want. Hear the simple question your child can ask that flips the whole power dynamic. Learn the buff zebra trick that teaches kids to look strong even before they feel strong. Find out how a little unexpected kindness can end a bullying pattern for good. Your child does not need to fight back to be safe. They just need the right words, and the confidence to stay calm while they say them. (00:00) - Understanding Bullying: The Landscape (02:52) - Teaching Kids to Respond, Not React (05:53) - Empathy and the Psychology of Bullies (08:54) - Effective Communication Strategies (11:53) - Role-Playing Techniques for Resilience (15:00) - Building Confidence Through Humor (19:04) - Practical Tips for Parents and Kids
Aug 17

What An 11 Year Old Taught Us About People Pleasing

Does your child agree with everyone just to keep the peace, then wonder later why they said yes when they meant no? You are not imagining it, and it is not a phase they will just grow out of on their own. Eleven year old Simone and her mom Natalie join Coach Andrew to unpack why kids people please, why it quietly gets worse the longer it goes unnoticed, and what actually helps a child stay true to themselves without losing their friends. In this episode you will learn: Understand why a child's brain treats rejection as more painful than almost anything else.See the exact pattern a child's brain builds every time they say yes just to avoid being left out.Hear the real story of a best friend replaced overnight, and what happened next.How to swap taking energy for giving energy so your child builds real connection instead of chasing approval.How to turn your family's values into a north star your child can return to when peer pressure hits.If your child has ever agreed to something they did not want, this episode gives you the why and a way through. (00:13) - Introduction to the Guests (12:19) - Understanding Challenges Faced by Kids (17:09) - Navigating Social Dynamics and Fitting In (26:08) - Helping Kids Stay True to Themselves (29:56) - Facing Peer Pressure and Rejection (43:55) - When Friendships Change (51:04) - Parenting with Values and Resilience (56:38) - Building New Connections (01:05:30) - Encouragement for Parents

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Welcome to the Rebel Ninja Parent Series, the show for parents raising confident, resilient kids. Coach Andrew shares real talk and actionable tools to help your child build unstoppable confidence, a resilient mindset, and the social skills to thrive in any situation.

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Coach Andrew
Years Active

2026
Episodes

23
Rating

Clean
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