Rebel Ninja Parent Series

Coach Andrew

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Kids & Family

Welcome to the Rebel Ninja Parent Series, the show for parents raising confident, resilient kids. Coach Andrew shares real talk and actionable tools to help your child build unstoppable confidence, a resilient mindset, and the social skills to thrive in any situation.

5d ago

Kids Told Me Why They Keep Bad Friends - The Fear Behind People Pleasing

Your child is so nice. They share everything. They never cause drama. But what if all that niceness is not kindness at all? What if it is fear wearing a nice costume? In this episode, Coach Andrew breaks down people pleasing, the social anxiety hiding inside agreeable kids. You will learn why your child says yes when they want to say no. You will also get the exact words to help them speak up without losing friends. How to spot the difference between a kind kid and a scared kid.Why kids would rather keep a bad friend than have no friends at all.How to teach your child to put a softener in front of the truth.Why evidence builds confidence faster than pep talks and praise.How to shift your child from making friends to leaving people better than they found them.If your kid is the nice one who never complains, this is the conversation you did not know you needed. (00:00) - Introduction: Why understanding children's social behaviors matters (02:25) - The four levels of parental consciousness (03:42) - Scarcity mindset and fear in children (04:42) - Social anxiety in extroverted and introverted kids (06:10) - The root of scarcity mindset: fear of losing friends (09:05) - Metaphors to explain social concepts to children (12:15) - Bandwidth tax and decision making in children (13:40) - Loss aversion and its effect on social choices (15:00) - The need to belong and external validation (16:26) - Social media's impact on self esteem (17:58) - Social pain activates physical pain centers (18:57) - Safety behaviors as shields against rejection (20:49) - Challenging passive thoughts and inner critic (22:50) - Children's perspective: survival vs honesty (24:44) - Inner conflict and fear of losing friends (26:40) - Skill building and evidence over affirmations (31:43) - The gift of reciprocity and genuine curiosity (34:26) - Changing the focus from making friends to leaving a positive impact (37:35) - Effective communication and boundary setting (39:04) - Understanding hurtful behavior through compassion (40:45) - The importance of collecting positive social experiences (41:34) - From scarcity to abundance mindset (44:38) - Summary: Key takeaways for parents and caregivers (45:10) - Podcast Outro
Jul 20

Your Child Needs Proof, Not Praise

Your child loses a game and the whole night falls apart. They say they're the worst. They rip up their drawing because it was not perfect. And nothing you say seems to help. Coach Andrew breaks down the real reason kids fall apart after mistakes and what is actually happening inside their heads when they react that way. You will learn why your encouragement is not landing and what your child actually needs instead. You will walk away with tools you can start using tonight. In this episode you'll learn: Understand why every child starts with a fixed mindset and what that means for how they see themselvesLearn why your praise and encouragement backfire and what your child actually needs from you insteadUse the Power of Yet to help your child see mistakes as data and not the end of the roadTeach your child three simple reframes that stop the "I'm the worst" spiral before it takes holdHow to build unstoppable resilience through practice, proof, and not giving up after a bad dayIf your child takes every mistake personally, this episode gives you the exact tools to help them flip it. (00:00) - Introduction: Why mindset matters for kids (00:41) - The importance of a growth mindset in children (01:34) - Recognizing fixed mindset behaviors in kids (03:38) - The science behind fixed and growth mindsets (04:22) - How fixed mindset affects self esteem and confidence (07:24) - Flipping your child's perspective with reframes (08:24) - Why praise often doesn't work and what to do instead (08:53) - The role of evidence and external validation (10:15) - The importance of effort and practice over innate ability (13:46) - Impact of mindset on social relationships and rejection (19:33) - Teaching children about metacognition and superthinking (24:11) - The power of yet and how to use it effectively (28:21) - Pattern interrupt: Making reframing feel authentic (30:52) - Reinforcing the habit of positive reframing (33:51) - Handling negative thoughts and emotional regulation (35:14) - Life as a game: Progress and frustration (37:17) - Creating unstoppable confidence through practice (40:37) - Building identity as a learner, not a loser (42:38) - Addressing common parental concerns and misconceptions
Jul 14

Stop Telling Your Kid to "Just Say Hi"

Your kid talks nonstop at home but turns into a completely different person the second they walk out the door. You have tried everything. You have told them to just say hi. You have pushed, you have pulled, and nothing sticks. In this episode, you will learn why your child shuts down in social settings, how to tell the difference between introversion, shyness, social anxiety, and selective mutism, and what actually works to help them start talking. Here is what you will walk away with: How to figure out if your child is introverted, shy, socially anxious, or selectively mute so you can stop guessing and start helpingWhy "just go say hi" actually makes things worse and what to say insteadHow your child's brain uses patterns to predict bad outcomes and how to flip that aroundThree games with built in levels that help your child practice social skills without triggering their nervous systemThe one shift in focus that helps kids stop worrying about themselves and start connecting with othersIf your child is stuck on that island of silence, this is the episode that hands them the bridge.
Jul 6

This Kid Just Beat His Inner Critic

Your kid gets angry so fast it scares you. You try to stay calm, you try deep breathing, and nothing works. In this conversation, twelve year old Noah and his mom Dani share exactly what changed his anger for good. You will learn why shame is the real reason mistakes turn into meltdowns, and how one simple game taught Noah to beat his own inner critic in real time. Learn why deep breathing does not work when a kid is already upsetDiscover the one word that turns a fixed mindset into a growth mindsetHear how a game called Ant Squasher trains kids to argue back at negative thoughtsFind out how Noah broke a limiting belief by doubling a hard physical challengeSee what parents can say instead of don't feel bad to actually help a child move forwardThis episode gives you real words to use the next time your kid melts down. (00:13) - Introduction to Noah and Dani (00:40) - Noah's Hobbies and Interests (04:28) - Dani's Travel and Culture (10:32) - Understanding Anger and Big Feelings (18:31) - Shame, Mistakes, and Growth Mindset (33:06) - Ant Squasher and the Inner Critic (49:30) - Breaking Limiting Beliefs
Jun 29

A 9 Year Old Explains How to Make Friends

You watch your shy kid stand at the edge of the playground, waiting and hoping someone will come to them. You have seen them change who they are just to fit in. It hurts, because you know how kind and fun they really are. In this one, Coach Andrew sits down with a 9 year old named Amelia and her mom Rasheda. Amelia used to copy her friends and give away her favorite toys just to be liked. Now she walks right up to new kids and makes friends with ease. She shares exactly how she does it, in her own words. Here is what you will learn: How to help a shy kid make the first move without fearWhy copying other kids actually pushes friends awayHow listening more and talking less builds real trustWhy your quiet child may have a hidden social advantageHow to step back so your child can grow on their ownIf your kid struggles to fit in, this conversation will show you a kinder, simpler way forward. (00:00) - Introduction to Amelia and Rasheda (03:03) - Amelia's Journey in Cheerleading and Gymnastics (05:59) - Rasheda's Passion for Cultural Cooking (11:39) - Building Friendships and Overcoming Shyness (01:18:38) - Podcast Outro.wav
Jun 22

Meltdowns Come From Lies - The Hidden Belief That Makes Your Child Fall Apart

Your child gives everything they have. Then one mistake happens and it all falls apart. You want to help, but nothing you say seems to reach them. Coach Andrew sits down with Sofia, age seven, and her mom Rachel to talk about why kids melt down when things go wrong and where those big feelings really come from. You will walk away knowing what is actually happening inside your child in those moments. And you will have a simple daily habit that starts shifting how their brain looks at the day. Understand why kids who try to be perfect are actually starting from a really good placeLearn what a fixed mindset really looks like when a child misses a shot or makes a mistake at schoolFind out what shame is and why it makes meltdowns feel impossible to manage in the momentTry the tiny wins practice that trains your child to start looking for what is going right every dayHear a seven year old explain the journey vs destination lesson entirely in her own wordsIf your child beats themselves up every time they fall short, this conversation will change how you see those moments. (00:00) - Introduction to Creativity and Storytelling (02:46) - The Process of Movie Making (05:40) - The Role of Parents in Creative Development (08:24) - Understanding Perfectionism (11:20) - Learning from Mistakes (13:49) - The Impact of Team Dynamics (16:44) - Emotional Responses in Sports (19:25) - Conclusion and Reflections on Growth (24:44) - Understanding Mindsets: Fixed vs. Growth (27:47) - The Impact of Mistakes on Emotions (32:42) - Shame and Its Effects on Children (37:49) - The Importance of Perspective in Learning (42:36) - Celebrating Tiny Wins for Growth (47:11) - Encouragement for Parents and Kids (51:00) - Podcast Outro.wav
Jun 15

Losing Isn't Failing. It Is Training

Your kid loses a game and the whole night falls apart. The meltdown is real. The tears are real. And you are not sure what to say. In this episode, Coach Andrew sits down with 9 year old Ronyn and his parents to talk about one of the most common struggles kids face: what to do when losing feels like proof that something is wrong with them. You will learn the difference between feeling disappointed and believing you are a failure, and why that one shift changes everything. You will walk away with: How to tell the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset in plain everyday language your kid will actually understandHow to help your child turn every loss into something they can learn from instead of something to rage aboutWhy telling your kid "you are really good" when they are struggling actually backfires and what to say insteadHow to teach your child to make new friends without the fear of rejection getting in the wayWhy practicing these mindset tools as a parent matters just as much as teaching them to your childIf your kid has ever thrown a controller, cried over a card game, or given up the moment things got hard, this one is for you. (00:00) - Introduction to Gaming and Hobbies (02:49) - Family Dynamics and Outdoor Activities (05:46) - Understanding Fortnite: Gameplay and Strategies (08:35) - Emotional Responses to Losing in Games (10:44) - Learning from Losses: Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset (15:09) - The Importance of Trying Again and Learning (18:25) - Navigating New Games: The Learning Curve (19:40) - Understanding Skill Levels and Growth Mindset (23:46) - The Importance of Honesty in Learning (26:27) - Overcoming Fear of Rejection (29:34) - Building Trust in Friendships (33:10) - The Art of Asking Questions (35:59) - Advice for Kids Facing Challenges (37:44) - Encouragement for Parents (39:48) - Embracing Mistakes and Growth (40:24) - Podcast Outro.wav
Jun 8

Self Image And Setbacks

Your child has a rough game, a bad test, or a mean kid ruins their day. And just like that their whole mood crashes. You are not imagining it. This is one of the most common struggles parents face right now. In this episode, Coach Andrew sits down with two young girls named Maddie and Molly and their dad Jake for a conversation about what really happens to a kid's self image when things go wrong. They cover growth mindset, why bragging is actually a sign of low confidence, and what makes good kids freeze when a bully shows up. Here is what you will walk away with: Understand why your child's self image should never go up or down based on winning or losingLearn the real reason kids brag and what it reveals about how they see themselvesDiscover why kind kids freeze when someone is mean to them and what to do about itHow to teach your child the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset in a way they actually getFind out how to help your child stand up for themselves without tearing someone else downYour child is not what they win or lose. This episode will help you show them that. (00:00) - Introduction to the Guests (02:24) - Maddie and Molly's Hobbies (04:52) - Building Confidence Through Training (07:09) - Understanding Mindsets: Fixed vs. Growth (09:06) - Learning from Mistakes and Challenges (11:34) - Self-Image and Winning vs. Losing (12:43) - Bragging and Self-Image Dynamics (15:29) - Complexities of Self-Perception (18:43) - Understanding Complexes: Inferiority and Superiority (20:38) - Mindsets: Fixed vs. Growth (23:04) - Limiting Beliefs and Their Impact (24:42) - Navigating Bullying: Understanding and Responses (29:40) - Building Confidence and Self-Image (36:20) - Encouragement for Parents: Fostering Growth Mindset

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Welcome to the Rebel Ninja Parent Series, the show for parents raising confident, resilient kids. Coach Andrew shares real talk and actionable tools to help your child build unstoppable confidence, a resilient mindset, and the social skills to thrive in any situation.

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Coach Andrew
Years Active

2026
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13
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