The Role Model You Never Had with Jess Tiana

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I’m Jess Tiana - trauma-informed strength and identity coach, former crisis counsellor, and a woman who has been where you are.This podcast exists because you deserve more than band-aid solutions and surface-level advice. We go deep. Nervous system regulation. Attachment and relationships. Body image and food freedom. Identity. Boundaries. The connection between your childhood, your body, and the patterns you can’t seem to break with yourself and your relationships - and what it actually takes to change them. You already know you’re meant for more. This is where you figure out how to get there. No fluff. No toxic positivity. Just honest conversations that give you the tools to stop abandoning yourself and become the role model you never had. 

  1. 6d ago

    Who Benefited From You Believing You Were Selfish?

    If you were ever called selfish, stubborn, too demanding or too much, this one is for you. My dad told me this week that I’m too demanding for having a boundary. There was a time that would have wrecked me. This time I brushed it off. I’m telling you what I think that word was really about, how a kid who fought back grows up into a woman who can’t say no without feeling sick, and how I stopped letting anyone use it on me. The Selfish Daughter, my 8 week live group program, starts November 2. Enrollment closes November 8. DM me SELFISH on Instagram for the details. Enrol in the Selfish Daughter: https://jessica-locher.mykajabi.com/the-selfish-daughter-1 Follow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

  2. Oct 6

    Should You Show Someone Respect?

    Respect your elders. Listen to your boss. Fall in line because of a title. I don't buy any of it anymore, and by the end of this episode, you might not either. I snapped at my boss once, and I still don't regret it. I'm telling the story of what led there, and if there's someone in your life who expects you to simply defer to them, a parent, a boss, anyone leaning on a position instead of actually earning it, this one's for you. I'm telling you exactly what finally made me stop handing out respect for free, and the one thing I think actually earns it. Apply for private coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMi Follow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

  3. Sep 29

    Why You Can't Speak When It Matters Most

    If you've ever sat frozen while someone yelled at you, felt your words disappear right when you needed them most, or ended up crying in your car, your bedroom or on a bathroom floor afterward feeling like a little kid instead of an adult, this one is for you. There's a reason your mouth stops working in the exact moment you need it most, and it has nothing to do with being weak. Press play and find out what's actually happening. Apply for private coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMi Follow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

  4. Sep 22

    It's Not Too Late To Be Angry

    If you grew up with emotionally immature parents, survived a toxic relationship or toxic friendships, and you still can't stop replaying things you can't change, listen to this one. I'm telling you something personal today. My own anger didn't show up when it was supposed to. It came years later, and for a long time I thought that meant something was wrong with me for still being stuck on it. I'm walking you through why the anger waits, what I actually did with mine once it showed up (what you can do too), and why it's time to stop feeling guilty for finally choosing yourself. Apply for 1:1 coaching:https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMi Follow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

  5. Sep 15

    The Guilt That Helps You. The Shame That Hides You.

    Guilt and shame feel almost identical in your body, but they run completely different programs. One moves you toward repair. The other makes you hide. In this episode I break down the real difference between the two, how emotionally immature parents fuse your behavior to your identity as a kid, and why that shows up decades later in the food guilt, the inconsistency, the people pleasing, and the exhaustion so many of you carry. I also get into why the shame was never created by your toxic relationship, it was already there long before, and that's exactly why the love bombing worked. Plus, the nervous system piece nobody talks about: why you can't think your way out of shame, and why fight, flight, freeze, or fawn might be running more of your life than you realize. Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMi Follow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

  6. Sep 9

    Being Needed Isn't The Same As Being Loved

    This episode picks up where the emotionally immature parents episode left off, and follows that pattern straight into adult friendships. I'm telling one unfiltered story about becoming someone's stand-in boyfriend, counselor, nutritionist, and best friend, all at once, and what happened the moment I finally needed something back. I break down why parentified kids build one-sided friendships without realizing it, how to actually break the people-pleasing pattern behind it, and the real language to use when you're done tolerating it.  Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMi Follow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

  7. Sep 1

    You Know Why You Do It. So Why Are You Still Doing It?

    Understanding your patterns is not the same as changing them. And this episode is about the part that actually bridges that gap. We're talking about radical accountability - what it really means, why shame keeps you stuck while accountability moves you forward, and how facing your shadow side is the work most people avoid but everyone needs to do. Including the Carl Jung mirror effect and why the things that bother you most about other people are telling you something important about yourself. Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/mHkEO5dj Follow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

  8. Aug 25

    They Called It Maturity. It Was a Trap

    If you were ever told you were too mature for your age, this episode is going to hit differently. Parentification is what happens when a child takes on the emotional or physical caretaking role that belongs to the parent. Most people who experienced it never had a name for it. And if you're here, you experienced this too. Now, you spend your adult life wondering why you are exhausted, why you cannot ask for help, why you are always the one holding everything together. In this episode I share my own experience, what parentification actually looks like and how it shows up in your adult relationships, friendships, and work without you even realising it. Including the one exercise that starts to unwind it. Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMi Follow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

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I’m Jess Tiana - trauma-informed strength and identity coach, former crisis counsellor, and a woman who has been where you are.This podcast exists because you deserve more than band-aid solutions and surface-level advice. We go deep. Nervous system regulation. Attachment and relationships. Body image and food freedom. Identity. Boundaries. The connection between your childhood, your body, and the patterns you can’t seem to break with yourself and your relationships - and what it actually takes to change them. You already know you’re meant for more. This is where you figure out how to get there. No fluff. No toxic positivity. Just honest conversations that give you the tools to stop abandoning yourself and become the role model you never had. 

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