Love Yourself Loudly

Nina Polyne

Welcome to Love Yourself Loudly — where self-love isn't a concept. It's a practice. I'm Dr. Nina — a couples psychologist and energetic connector by nature. I ask a lot of questions, I live my life in color, and I've never been very good at playing small. This is where we have the real conversations — about how we love ourselves, how we show up in our relationships, and how we give ourselves full permission to take up space — boldly, unapologetically, without explanation. We also get curious about why that's so hard. Why speaking kindly about ourselves can feel somehow wrong. Why confidence gets mistaken for arrogance, why being sure of yourself gets treated like a character flaw, why we've been taught that humility and self-worth can't coexist — and whether any of that was ever actually true. This isn't about telling you how to live. It's an open invitation to explore — together — what it actually means to choose yourself, and to hold your self-respect and your humility in the same hands without apologizing for either. Real dialogue, honest depth, and a space that meets you exactly where you are. No fluff. No performance. New brief episodes every Sunday. Follow the show so you never miss what's coming. And remember: you deserve to love yourself loudly — and don't be sorry about it. --- 📌 **A note before you dive in:** Love Yourself Loudly is educational and personal development content. It is not therapy, counseling, or mental health treatment, and nothing shared here should be used as a substitute for professional support. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you're going through something heavy, please reach out to a licensed professional who can truly hold space for you. You deserve that support. 🆘 In crisis? **Call or text 988** (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) — available 24/7. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 4d ago

    You’re Not a Disappointment: Perfectionism, Earning Love, and How to Parent Yourself First

    Do you ever feel like you have to earn love by getting everything right? Dr. Nina Polyné sits down with her very first guest, therapist Bryana Kappadakunnel of Conscious Mommy, to talk about perfectionism, performing for love, breaking generational cycles, and how to parent yourself first with real self compassion. “I can feel disappointed in my behavior and still not be a disappointment.” Jump to the Parent Yourself First conversation at 14:13. Care note: this episode includes conversations about childhood abuse and passive suicidal ideation. If you are struggling, you are not alone. Call or text 988, any time, day or night. Sit with these after you listen: What is one thing you believe you have to get right to be wanted, and how old do you feel when you believe it?When did you last mix up “I’m disappointed in what I did” with “I am a disappointment”?Who is one person you could let into the mess with you, even a little? Find Bryana: The Conscious Mommy Community: https://www.consciousmommy.com Parent Yourself First (book): https://www.consciousmommy.com/book Before You Yell Again, free guide: http://newsletter.consciousmommy.com/ Instagram @consciousmommy: https://www.instagram.com/consciousmommy Dr. Nina's free workshop: The Daily Gaze, a guided mirror work practice for self-love and self-compassion. Watch it free here: https://love-yourself-loudly-podcast.kit.com/723d2719e0 DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  2. Oct 18

    That’s Beneath Me: How to Stop Caring What People Think and Handle Passive Aggressive People

    One slick comment, and the whole drive home becomes a courtroom in your head. Dr. Nina Polyné breaks down how to stop caring what people think, how to handle passive aggressive people, and the one sentence that keeps their comments from running your day. “Impenetrable is not a wall. It is a floor. You did not stop hearing people. You stopped picking up things that landed underneath it.” Sit with these after you listen: What is the last passive aggressive comment you got, and what would the honest version of it have been?Whose opinion of you still gets a vote, and what have they built that you would want for yourself?What is your floor, in one sentence you could actually say out loud this week? Free workshop: The Daily Gaze, a guided mirror work practice for self-love and self-compassion. Watch it free here: https://love-yourself-loudly-podcast.kit.com/723d2719e0 DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  3. Oct 11

    How to Actually Love Yourself: Self Compassion and the Grief Step Nobody Includes

    You have done the affirmations and you own the journal, so why can’t you stand yourself some days? In this episode, Dr. Nina Polyné breaks down how to love yourself in three steps: why self esteem was the wrong target, how self compassion holds up on your worst day, and the grief step nobody includes, letting go of the version of you that you have been waiting to become. If self love keeps not working for you, this is the step you skipped. “You cannot love someone you are still trying to replace. And you have been trying to replace yourself for years.” The three steps: Stop trying to feel better about yourself. Swap self esteem for self compassion, and try the friend test: say the sentence out loud, then ask if you would say it to your best friend.Grieve her. Name the version of yourself you have been waiting to become, out loud, in the past tense, once. Grieving her is not giving up. It frees the woman who is here.Write the letter. Write to yourself as the friend who knows everything and stayed anyway. Name what happened without softening it, remind yourself that everyone struggles, and say what you would want for her. Do not fix, advise, or plan. Ten minutes, a few times a week, and nobody reads it. If it feels fake at first, keep going. Fake is the sensation of a new sentence. Sit with these after you listen: Who is the version of yourself you have been waiting on, and how long has she been late?What sentence do you say to yourself that you would never say to your closest friend?If she is not coming, what would you do differently starting this week? Mentioned in this episode: Dr. Kristin Neff, whose research on self compassion shaped this episode This episode is for reflection only. The self compassion letter is a practice, not a treatment for depression or anxiety. Free workshop: The Daily Gaze, a guided mirror work practice for self-love and self-compassion. Watch it free here: https://love-yourself-loudly-podcast.kit.com/723d2719e0 DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  4. Oct 4

    You’re Not Behind in Life, You’re On Somebody Else’s Clock: Timelines and the Comparison Trap

    You did everything you were told to do, so why does it feel like everyone your age is ahead of you? In this episode, Dr. Nina Polyné unpacks the social clock, why feeling behind in life is often grief and not failure, and how the comparison trap and social media turn other people’s milestones into a scoreboard. She names who actually set the timeline for the house, the partner, and the kids, and shares five steps for getting off a clock that was built for a different economy. If you have been calling a broken promise your personal failure, this one is for you. “You are not behind. You are on somebody else’s clock. And you are allowed to put it down.” Sit with these after you listen: Which milestone on your list did you actually choose, and which one did you inherit?Who is the one person you compare yourself to most, and what do you know about their life that the feed does not show?What was the milestone supposed to give you, and what is one piece of that you could have by the end of this month? Mentioned in this episode: Hasan Minhaj, Hasan Minhaj Doesn’t Know, his episode on housingEmma Grede, in her own words about her days as a founder and mom This episode is for reflection only. It is not financial, fertility, or medical advice. DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  5. Sep 27

    Why Can't I Just Accept My Body? Grief, Body Image, and Why Your Family Isn't the Villain

    You have done the work, you say all the right things about other women's bodies, and you still cannot extend one inch of it to yourself. In this episode, Dr. Nina Polyné shares a story from when she was eleven and reframes body image struggles as disenfranchised grief, explains why body neutrality is a rest stop and not a destination, and the small self compassion/conscious observer practice she uses in the mirror. This is not an episode about learning to love your body. It is about what you have been carrying instead, and finally calling it by the right name. “You are not grieving your body. You are grieving the life you were told came with a different one.” Sit with these after you listen: What did you assume would be different in your life if you had the body you were supposed to have, and is any of it actually available to you now?Which woman in your family taught you the automatic sentence, and who do you think taught it to her?What have you been postponing until your body earns it, and what would it take to do it this week instead?Mentioned in this episode: The Body Is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self Love by Sonya Renee TaylorBody Talk by Katie Sturino A note before you share this one: this episode is not asking anyone to confront, forgive, or reconcile with a parent. There is no instruction attached to the story. DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. If you need support: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988, available 24/7 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741, available 24/7 National Alliance for Eating Disorders Helpline: (866) 662-1235, Monday to Friday, 9am to 7pm ET, staffed by licensed clinicians Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  6. Sep 20

    Why Do I Hate My Skin? Eczema, Dry Sensitive Skin, and the Shame Nobody Names

    You will spend forty five minutes researching a moisturizer and zero seconds asking why you talk to your skin like it betrayed you. In this episode, Dr. Nina Polyné shares her own history with severe eczema, dry skin, and sensitive skin, and why eczema on brown skin gets missed by the people trained to see it. She breaks down skin shame, body image, and the difference between a repair job and a ritual, plus the three minutes of gentle touch that change what your nervous system hears. If you have been treating your face like a problem to solve, this one is for you. “My skin was never the thing that needed fixing. The way I talked to it was.” Sit with these after you listen: What is one thing you have been calling a flaw that is actually just your body doing a hard job with fewer tools?Whose voice is it, when you look in the mirror and criticize your skin? Say the name out loud if you know it.What is one step in your routine you only kept because someone told you your face was a problem to solve? What's actually on my shelf I am a clinical psychologist, not a dermatologist. Nothing here is medical advice about your skin. These are things that work on my sensitive, dry, eczema prone skin. Eczema is not one condition, it is a hundred different conditions wearing the same name, and what calms mine could wreck yours. Nothing on this list is a treatment recommendation. If your skin is struggling, take this list to a dermatologist. Nothing here is sponsored, gifted, or an affiliate link. Nobody paid me and I earn nothing if you buy any of it. Morning Vanicream Vitamin C, 5 percentArencia Vitamin C Booster ShotPrequel Peptides and Ceramides Fluid MoisturizerBirch Juice Moisturizing UV Lock Sunscreen, SPF 45Eucerin Tinted Age Defense Hyaluronic Acid Sunscreen, SPF 50 Evening La Roche-Posay Hydrating Gentle CleanserSKIN1004 Madagascar Centella serumGood Molecules Copper Peptide Serum with PDRNPrequel Barrier Therapy Skin Protecting CreamGood Molecules RetinolCeraVe Skin Renewing Night Cream DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast (https://www.instagram.com/loveyourselfloudlypodcast/) Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne (https://www.instagram.com/drninapolyne/) Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg (https://www.instagram.com/joeledinberg/) Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  7. Sep 13

    Why Can't I Let This Go? How to Forgive Someone Who Never Apologized, and Why Forgiveness Is Not Reconciliation

    You can forgive someone completely and never speak to them again. Nobody tells you that, which is exactly why so many of us stay stuck for years. In this episode, Dr. Nina Polyné breaks down why forgiveness is not reconciliation, how to forgive someone who never apologized, why the grudge you cannot put down is quietly doing a job for you, and the four steps for actually putting it down. If you have been waiting to feel differently before you let it go, that feeling was never coming, and this is the other way in. “They did it once. You have been paying for it every month since.” Sit with these after you listen: • Who are you still carrying, and what has it cost you this year specifically? • What did you forgive too fast, because being angry felt more dangerous than being hurt? • What would you spend the energy on if you put it down this week? DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast https://www.instagram.com/loveyourselfloudlypodcast/ Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne https://www.instagram.com/drninapolyne/ Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg https://www.instagram.com/joeledinberg/ Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  8. Sep 6

    Why Can't I Forgive Myself? Guilt, Shame, and How to Stop Punishing the Woman Who Didn't Know Better Yet

    Why Can't I Forgive Myself? Guilt, Shame, and How to Stop Punishing the Woman Who Didn't Know Better Yet You have forgiven people who never apologized to you, and you are still serving a sentence for something you did years ago. In this episode, Dr. Nina Polyné breaks down the difference between guilt and shame, why self forgiveness keeps failing when what you are actually carrying is grief, and how to be accountable and free at the same time instead of only ever being offered the first one. She also names the double standard underneath it: a man who was checked out during a hard season gets a chapter, and a woman in the same season gets a title that never expires. If you can recite your own case against yourself in full sentences, with dates, this one is for you. “You already served the sentence. You are just the only one who never scheduled the release.” Sit with these after you listen: What is the thing you have never once said out loud to another person, and how long have you been carrying it by yourself?Which version of yourself are you actually grieving, and what did you think she was going to be?What have you been withholding from yourself as punishment, and what would it take to give it back this week? DISCLAIMER The content shared on Love Yourself Loudly is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not therapy, counseling, or a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are in crisis or need support, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or contact a licensed professional in your area. Connect with Dr. Nina Polyné: All links (Linktree): https://linktr.ee/loveyourselfloudlymedia Podcast Instagram: @loveyourselfloudlypodcast https://www.instagram.com/loveyourselfloudlypodcast/ Personal Instagram: @drninapolyne https://www.instagram.com/drninapolyne/ Personal LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nina-polyné-48494934a Creative Direction, Producing + Editing by Dr. Nina Polyné ⚡ Audio/Visual Engineering & mix by Joel Edinberg @joeledinberg https://www.instagram.com/joeledinberg/ Podcast Advisor: Marisa Bramwell, MBA https://solas-creative.com/ Remember: Loving yourself loudly is a daily practice. Embrace your imperfections, honor your emotions, and speak your truth with confidence. Start today, unapologetically. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Welcome to Love Yourself Loudly — where self-love isn't a concept. It's a practice. I'm Dr. Nina — a couples psychologist and energetic connector by nature. I ask a lot of questions, I live my life in color, and I've never been very good at playing small. This is where we have the real conversations — about how we love ourselves, how we show up in our relationships, and how we give ourselves full permission to take up space — boldly, unapologetically, without explanation. We also get curious about why that's so hard. Why speaking kindly about ourselves can feel somehow wrong. Why confidence gets mistaken for arrogance, why being sure of yourself gets treated like a character flaw, why we've been taught that humility and self-worth can't coexist — and whether any of that was ever actually true. This isn't about telling you how to live. It's an open invitation to explore — together — what it actually means to choose yourself, and to hold your self-respect and your humility in the same hands without apologizing for either. Real dialogue, honest depth, and a space that meets you exactly where you are. No fluff. No performance. New brief episodes every Sunday. Follow the show so you never miss what's coming. And remember: you deserve to love yourself loudly — and don't be sorry about it. --- 📌 **A note before you dive in:** Love Yourself Loudly is educational and personal development content. It is not therapy, counseling, or mental health treatment, and nothing shared here should be used as a substitute for professional support. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you're going through something heavy, please reach out to a licensed professional who can truly hold space for you. You deserve that support. 🆘 In crisis? **Call or text 988** (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) — available 24/7. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.