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Big Girl Thoughts is where real women bring real talk—full of laughs, tears, and faith that keeps us going. Hosted by Ashleigh, this podcast shares the messy, beautiful, and hilarious parts of life through honest conversations and stories that remind you you’re not alone and that God’s got a bigger plan in it all.

  1. 2d ago

    I expect a miracle right now. | Our Full Story, Pt 2 | BGT #14

    Hey babe. Shawn's back, and we're finishing the story. Part 1 ended with the phone call I had to pull over to take. Shawn's business partner had emptied the account, shut it down, and cut off his email, his debit card, and his expense accounts. We were in Austin with two babies and no income. Start-over number five, if you're counting. Shawn started knocking on doors with a little marketing company. We sat our kids down and prayed for the people who had hurt us, and little Brooklyn folded her hands and prayed for the guy. That's the season I started seeing the Lord as my provider instead of my husband, and it changed everything for me as a woman. Then we got down to 75 cents in the console of his old beater car. Shawn pitched a massage company on a $100,000 plan and the owner told him no. He sat in that parking lot for 20 minutes, weeping, and told the Lord, "I expect a miracle right now." I was 200 yards away with our babies. His phone rang. The owner had never felt anything like it and needed Shawn to come back. Shawn walked out with a check for $8,000, and we made it to the bank before 4:30. The next test came dressed as success. Our medical business took off, then an employee copied the model and took the clients, and we went from 78 employees to two. Shawn was set to win a million-dollar lawsuit when the Holy Spirit stopped him on a restroom break: vengeance is mine. He dropped it. We close with what all of it taught us. Pray first, listen, and come into alignment with God. God's not sprinkles on top of your business plan. And the big girl thought I want you to keep: God isn't breaking you. He's building you for the calling He has on your life. MISSED PART 1? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GC1ymlhIjTw WHAT WE GET INTO 0:00 Cold open: "I expect a miracle right now" 0:14 Welcome to Big Girl Thoughts 0:47 Our full story, part two 1:21 He stole all the money 1:36 Chasing money without the Lord 2:34 Knowing it and doing it 3:26 Start-over #5: knocking on doors 4:36 Praying for the people who hurt us 4:54 Little Brooklyn prays 6:20 To the wives: pray for the business 7:18 "The Lord is my provider, not you" 7:57 Done for you, not to you 8:37 A trade for massages 9:55 Crack the code 10:31 Credit at the print shop 11:42 75 cents in the console 12:44 The $100,000 pitch 13:34 Weeping in the parking lot 15:10 "I expect a miracle" 15:28 The phone rings 16:40 "You're the guy" 17:38 $8,000 up front 19:53 From 75 cents to eight grand 20:06 God saw our hearts 21:08 Doing life with Daddy 21:36 Harder as a lone wolf 21:50 Too embarrassed to ask 22:43 The potter and the clay 24:05 Finding the niche: doctors 25:04 Two guys at a Super Bowl party 26:15 Zero to hero 26:25 Success is a test 28:08 78 employees to two 28:41 "Maybe there's a me problem" 29:06 God as a gumball machine 30:02 Dropping the million-dollar lawsuit 31:47 The Lord was moving us out 32:27 Overnight success is a myth 33:03 COVID and buying the clinic 34:03 Cut to today 35:30 Your corner of the puzzle 37:25 "At 56, I see better now" 38:11 The Lord is the main story 38:49 Pray first 39:59 God's not sprinkles 40:14 You need an army 41:03 The big girl thought 41:55 Two young entrepreneurs watching 42:49 It gets simpler 43:42 Faith of a little child 44:12 Thank you, babe ABOUT SHAWN Shawn Leege is Ashleigh's husband, a dad of two, and the rebel from Episode 03, where he shared his sobriety story. He grew up in poverty on an Iowa farm and started over five times on the road to Austin, where he runs a family medicine business and meets with young entrepreneurs. He's 56, and he'll tell you the whole thing got simpler once he started praying first. LISTEN + WATCH YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Biggirlthoughtspodcast Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033ntRmennSoOEIObPs1gc Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/big-girl-thoughts-real-women-real-talk-real-faith/id1896816739 FOLLOW Web: https://biggirlthoughts.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleighleege/ xo, Ash #BigGirlThoughts #OurFullStory #FaithOverFinances #IExpectAMiracle #PrayFirst #ChristianMarriage #ChristianEntrepreneur #Testimony #WomenOfFaith #ChristianPodcast

    I expect a miracle right now. | Our Full Story, Pt 2 | BGT #14
  2. Oct 5

    Sometimes rejections is just redirection. | Brooklynn | BGT #12

    Hey babe. Welcome back to Big Girl Thoughts. This one is special: my daughter Brooklynn is home visiting from her first month of college, and we recorded in our pajamas because it felt right. She's a freshman at Highlands College in Birmingham, and watching her step into her calling at 18 has wrecked me in the best way. We go back to the beginning: the lawyer dream she picked up from watching Suits, the mission trip to Africa with her dad that changed everything, and the gap-year YWAM plan she held onto until one campus visit undid it. She cried through chapel on Discovery Day. A year before that, I stepped onto the same campus on a work trip, called her from the sidewalk, and said this needs to go on your list. Neither of us knew. Then we get honest about friendship. Brooklynn spent high school as the girl who knew everyone and had almost no one, and she talks about what changed when her friendships became equally yoked: loyalty reads different, love reads different, and two days into college she found herself praying for a kid in the middle of a Chipotle. She tells the story of the pedicure, the prompting to bring her wallet inside, and the $100 bill she didn't know she had: "It's not for me. The Holy Spirit told me to give it to you." And she hands us the line I'm still chewing on. She learned it through closed doors, lost friends, and one missed highway exit that turned into her favorite place in Birmingham: sometimes God gives you clarity through rejection instead of acceptance. Rejection is just redirection. If you have a daughter, send her this one. Then watch it yourself. WHAT WE GET INTO 0:00 Cold open: the acceptance-letter song. 0:22 Show intro. 0:48 Brooklynn's home, and we're in our pajamas. 1:52 One month into Birmingham. 2:49 The lawyer plan (thanks, Suits). 4:08 The mission trip that changed everything. 5:13 The YWAM gap-year plan. 6:46 "I don't want to party my butt off." 8:31 Discovery Day: crying in chapel. 9:58 Mom found the campus a year early. 11:11 Dorm life, food, and roommate Sydney. 13:41 A lot of friends, and no friends. 14:54 Equally yoked friendships. 17:40 The gift-giver's question. 21:30 Day two: praying for a kid in Chipotle. 23:38 Boldness, and a Starbucks regret. 24:52 The pedicure: "bring your wallet." 26:57 "Give her the biggest bill you have." 28:22 Jessica, and praying out loud. 30:49 The photography business. 32:15 Dream shoot: a willow-tree proposal. 33:50 Faith of her own: "I'll do it by myself." 35:03 The kid who brought us back to church. 36:44 "We're going to Africa whether you like it or not." 38:58 Rejection, acceptance, and redirection. 41:46 The missed exit that became a favorite place. 44:45 The big girl thought. 45:36 Rapid fire: the college edition. 47:38 "Now we're friends." 48:14 Until next time. ABOUT BROOKLYNN Brooklynn is Ashleigh and Shawn's daughter, a freshman at Highlands College in Birmingham, Alabama, and a portrait and film photographer who started her business in high school in Austin. She goes to Africa with her dad every year, prays for strangers at nail salons, and once told her parents the family was going back to church. She was right. FIND BROOKLYNN Photography: https://www.instagram.com/brook_lens.photog/ LISTEN + WATCH YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Biggirlthoughtspodcast Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033ntRmennSoOEIObPs1gc Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/big-girl-thoughts-real-women-real-talk-real-faith/id1896816739 FOLLOW ASHLEIGH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleighleege/ xo, Ash #BigGirlThoughts #RejectionIsRedirection #ClarityThroughRejection #MomsAndDaughters #CollegeFreshman #ChristianWomen #FaithJourney #WomenOfFaith #ChristianPodcast

    Sometimes rejections is just redirection. | Brooklynn | BGT #12
  3. Aug 17

    Surrendering your dream isn't losing it. | Andrea, BGT #11

    Hey babe. Welcome back to Big Girl Thoughts. Episode #11 is for the woman who has, or had, a dream that God changed a little bit. I sat down with my friend Andrea: mom of four, wife, prayer warrior, and the girl next door everyone should get to have. And here's the thing we only recently discovered about each other — we both carried the same dream of being an actress. Andrea's version starts in a salon chair. She became a hairdresser out of school, did her future husband's hair for three years, and kept telling her agent "I'm not available" while the calls kept coming. When she finally told Jason she had to go to LA, he said no — and years later she can see the Lord was using that no to protect her. Then came the sign she asked for: an audition for Terrence Malick's The Tree of Life with Brad Pitt. She told Jason, "If I get this, I'm quitting hair and pursuing acting." She got it. The bigger story is what happened two years into her marriage: a towel in the backyard, an open Bible, and the day the Holy Spirit washed over her. The trees looked alive. She was, in her words, high on Jesus — and she'll tell you He can take you higher than any drug. We follow that thread all the way to an ordinary Tuesday when she asked, "Lord, what do you want to do today?", heard "go to the kids' school, someone needs prayer," and ended the afternoon watching a seventh grader named Gavin put down his crutches in the pickup line. Her dream isn't dead. It's surrendered — and as I say at the end, surrendering your dream isn't losing it. It's putting it in the hands of the One who really has it for you. WHAT WE GET INTO 0:00 Cold open: "Sit still and ask God." 0:13 Show intro. 0:39 Meet Andrea. 1:58 Life right now: mom of four. 3:53 "Is this it for me?" 4:01 Ashleigh's LA years and Colin Hanks. 5:42 Hair school, and the client she married. 6:00 The agent kept calling. 7:09 "We're not going to LA." 8:07 The Tree of Life sign. 9:53 Wanting it less, and holding it loosely. 11:05 The auditions that felt wrong. 12:06 "It felt like grieving." 16:45 A towel, a Bible, and born again. 17:35 "Higher than any drug." 19:08 2018: the Bible comes alive. 24:27 The Saturday Night Live dream. 25:06 A vision of being interviewed. 31:41 For the woman grieving a dream. 33:39 "Lord, what do you want to do today?" 37:48 Gavin: the parking-lot miracle. 39:29 The big girl thought: surrender isn't losing. 40:46 Rapid fire with Andrea. 46:48 Until next time. ABOUT ANDREA Andrea is a wife and mom of four (15, 13, 9, and 5) in the Austin area. A hairdresser who met her husband Jason in her salon chair, she chased an acting dream through Houston auditions and a role in The Tree of Life, then surrendered it to God without letting it die. She's a prayer warrior who asks the Lord "what do you want to do today?" — and goes where He says. LISTEN + WATCH YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Biggirlthoughtspodcast Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033ntRmennSoOEIObPs1gc Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/big-girl-thoughts-real-women-real-talk-real-faith/id1896816739 FOLLOW BIG GIRL THOUGHTS Web: https://biggirlthoughts.com FOLLOW ASHLEIGH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleighleege/ xo, Ash #BigGirlThoughts #SurrenderYourDream #HigherThanAnyDrug

  4. Aug 10

    You have to be a little crazy to follow God. | Natalie, BGT #10

    Hey babe. Welcome back to Big Girl Thoughts. For episode #10, I sat down with my dear friend Natalie, the sister I never had. Our families do monthly dinners where we are the loudest table in the restaurant, and she mentors my daughter, so this one is personal. At 14, Natalie closed her eyes at a youth conference and saw herself on the streets of Africa next to a lady with short blonde hair. She spent the next four years telling God he had a blank check. At 17 she walked into a travel clinic and asked for shots to "wherever, just get me ready." Then she heard Heidi Baker speak, recognized the woman from her vision, and three weeks later she was on a plane to Mozambique, a country she couldn't yet find on a map. She went on to build micro-lending and savings groups in Ugandan villages, sit with people the world forgot in the bush and the Amazon, and walk into an MS-13 prison yard because God said go. Then there's the love story. At 25 she told a girlfriend she had the strangest feeling she was about to meet her husband. That weekend Scotty saw her at church. One five-and-a-half-hour coffee date later he told her, "I live in Sweden and you're here, but I know you're worth it." Six weeks in, she flew to Stockholm. Date five was a day trip to Paris. Today they're raising three littles and running Waymaker Mortgage together in Texas. We also get honest about the spirit of fear, the scripture that breaks it, and mothering from surrender instead of control. Natalie's big girl thought says it all: you have to be a little crazy to follow God, but you're really crazy not to. WHAT WE GET INTO 0:00 Cold open: "Get ready to go to Africa." 0:32 Meet Natalie. 1:25 Flat or sparkly: our monthly dinners. 3:37 The Netflix-binge part of her story. 4:59 A vision at 14. 7:01 Shots first, destination later. 7:30 The lady with the short blonde hair. 8:25 A ticket to Mozambique at 17. 9:47 The upside-down kingdom. 11:51 Not a mud hut: empowering, not rescuing. 12:50 Called to Africa, and to Whole Foods. 14:02 Sweeping floors or raising the dead. 15:06 The world's hidden gems. 19:06 How she met Scotty. 19:43 "I'm about to meet my husband." 21:24 Praying for a green light. 23:04 The five-and-a-half-hour first date. 24:40 "I know you're worth it." 26:02 Six weeks later: Sweden. 29:20 Date five: a day trip to Paris. 30:51 "I can be led by this man." 32:32 Three littles and a business. 34:06 Surrender, moment by moment. 37:51 Raising kids who know their worth. 41:27 The things we worry about most. 42:03 Wrestling the spirit of fear. 46:43 Perfect love casts out fear. 50:12 A little crazy to follow God. 50:44 Waymaker Mortgage. 53:46 Rapid fire with Natalie. 54:30 Until next time. ABOUT NATALIE Natalie is a wife, mom of three, and missionary at heart from Youngstown, Ohio. Called to Africa in a vision at 14, she boarded a plane to Mozambique at 17 and has since carried the gospel to more than 23 countries, building micro-lending and savings groups that help parents in Ugandan villages start businesses and provide for their kids. She met her husband Scotty on a five-and-a-half-hour first date, said yes to Sweden six weeks later, and today they run Waymaker Mortgage and raise their three children in Texas. FOLLOW NATALIE Instagram: instagram.com/mrsnatcampbell Waymaker Mortgage: https://waymaker.us/home LISTEN + WATCH YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Biggirlthoughtspodcast Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033ntRmennSoOEIObPs1gc Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/big-girl-thoughts-real-women-real-talk-real-faith/id1896816739 BIG GIRL THOUGHTS Web: https://biggirlthoughts.com FOLLOW ASHLEIGH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleighleege/ xo, Ash

  5. Aug 3

    Peace amidst the waves. | Melissa, BGT #09

    CONTENT NOTE: This conversation includes a high-risk twin pregnancy, a diagnosis that came with a recommendation to end the pregnancy, fetal surgery, and time in the NICU. It's a story with a joyful outcome, but it may be tender if you've walked a hard pregnancy. Take care as you listen. Hey babe. Welcome back to Big Girl Thoughts. For episode #09, I sat down with my friend Melissa, the girlfriend you call when you're panicked and need someone to pray. She is a prayer warrior, and she has a story I had never fully heard until we hit record. Melissa and her husband John had life mapped out. Careers, a first son, a dream house, every box checked. Then a routine ultrasound showed twins, and minutes later, a rare and dangerous diagnosis: twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome. At Cincinnati Children's, doctors laid out two options, an experimental laser surgery or ending the pregnancy. Melissa and John, who had walked away from church years before, chose their girls. What happened next is the whole story. A younger couple next door who quietly showed them Jesus. A church that brought dinner every other night for five months while John lost his income. A first, fumbling prayer in a hospital room the night before surgery. Months of bed rest that taught a lifelong planner to surrender. And two baby girls, Sydney and Alexis, who just turned 18. Melissa's big girl thought: doctors can hand you a diagnosis, but God has the final say. Grab your water (Melissa is the one person we know who drinks only water) and settle in. WHAT WE GET INTO 0:00 Meet Melissa. 2:36 The plan, and then twins. 4:06 A rare diagnosis: twin-to-twin transfusion. 5:44 The neighbors who changed everything. 8:01 Two options: surgery, or ending it. 8:32 An unspeakable peace. 10:45 John's first prayer. 11:41 Months of bed rest. 12:51 Delivery, the NICU, and God's timing. 19:56 Financial ruin, and meals for five months. 22:48 The twins today. 30:59 Trust, and Proverbs 3:5-6. 34:24 Pray the promise, not the problem. 35:46 Live to Give Ministries. 38:29 Rapid fire. 45:56 The final say. ABOUT MELISSA Melissa Fanning lives in the Austin, TX area with her husband John. She is a mom of three, a real estate agent, and the founder of Live to Give Ministries, a nonprofit that connects people in hard seasons with the resources and community they need, with a heart for single moms and transitional housing. She and John walked through a high-risk twin pregnancy that brought them back to faith, and they have spent the years since being the hands and feet of Jesus for everyone in their path. FIND MELISSA Live to Give Ministries: L2Gministries.com LISTEN ON Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033ntRmennSoOEIObPs1gc Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/big-girl-thoughts-real-women-real-talk-real-faith/id1896816739 WATCH ON YouTube: https://youtu.be/Tv2oF5WW2_8 FOLLOW ASHLEIGH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleighleege/ xo, Ash #BigGirlThoughts #PeaceAmidstTheWaves #GodHasTheFinalSay #Testimony #TTTS #MiracleBabies #FaithOverFear #ChristianWomen #Twins #WomenOfFaith

    Peace amidst the waves. | Melissa, BGT #09
  6. Jul 27

    Shiny on the outside, shattered within. | Kat, BGT #08

    CONTENT NOTE: This conversation includes discussion of childhood verbal, physical, and sexual abuse, and the loss of a loved one. Please listen with care. Support is available any time through RAINN at 1-800-656-4673 or online.rainn.org. Hey babe. Welcome back to Big Girl Thoughts. For episode #08, I sat down with my friend Kat, and I need to brag on her for a minute. She is the friend who calls you right back, the one you can tell anything. She is also one of the bravest women I know. Kat grew up in a house on a hill in Colorado that looked shiny and perfect from the outside. Inside was a different story: abuse that was verbal, physical, and sexual, a mom who couldn't be present, and a childhood she assumed was normal because it was all she knew. Her sisters were taken by the courts when she was in fifth grade. Years later she lost her brother, her best friend and her steadiest constant, far too soon. She married young and poured everything into building the perfect family she never had. The turning point came in a shower, home from spreading her brother's ashes, when she heard God say what she already knew: he is never going to change. She left. She had her fourth baby with worship music playing and more peace than that moment should have held. Then she started over. Today Kat will tell you the enemy is a liar, that your worth is not up for debate, and that you can do hard things, but only through Him. Grab your coffee. This one is tender, and it is worth every minute. WHAT WE GET INTO 0:00 Meet Kat. 2:55 The house on the hill. 3:44 Behind closed doors. 5:53 When her sisters were taken. 6:18 Her brother, and two very different childhoods. 8:44 Counting down to freedom. 14:55 Free, but still trying to fill the holes. 17:00 Meeting her ex, and becoming a mom. 20:24 Motherhood at 21. 24:07 Losing her brother. 26:08 "He's never gonna change." 28:38 Ryan, worship music, and peace in the chaos. 30:52 Starting over, and proving she's worthy of love. 35:19 Shame, and raising four kids. 37:45 "The enemy is a liar." 40:36 You can do hard things, but only through Him. 41:49 Rapid fire with Kat. 43:30 Until next time. ABOUT KAT: Kat is a single mom in the Austin area, the youngest of a big blended family from Colorado Springs. She survived childhood abuse and the loss of her brother and best friend, then built a life on her own with two and three jobs at a time and an associate's degree earned while raising her kids. She is a recovering people pleaser, a mom determined to raise her children knowing their worth, and living proof that you can do hard things through God. LISTEN ON Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033ntRmennSoOEIObPs1gc Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/big-girl-thoughts-real-women-real-talk-real-faith/id1896816739   WATCH ON YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvITHgYmaRdBonSO4hDVxfw    FOLLOW BIG GIRL THOUGHTS Web: https://biggirlthoughts.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleighleege/    xo, Ash #BigGirlThoughts

    Shiny on the outside, shattered within. | Kat, BGT #08
  7. Jul 20

    "I don't identify as disabled. I identify as a child of God." | Kristen, BGT #07

    Hey babe. Welcome back to Big Girl Thoughts. For episode #07, I sat down with Kristen, and I left our very first coffee thinking she was the most resilient woman I had ever met. Kristen was born without part of her right arm, and she will be the first to tell you it is just normal. She grew up playing varsity tennis (and winning the "most inspirational" award every single year), surfing the California coast, and figuring out how to tie her shoes before her big sister did. Today she is an executive pastry chef who builds jaw-dropping wedding cakes, up to fifteen in a single week, single-handedly. Her words, not mine. Then came the line that stopped me cold: "I don't identify as disabled. I identify as a child of God." Kristen carries deep faith and the best sense of humor you will hear all week (wait for the Bethany Hamilton story). If you have ever felt stuck or overwhelmed, her mantra is for you. Just start. The momentum will build. WHAT WE GET INTO 0:00 Meet Kristen. 2:04 Born without a right arm, and why it's "just normal." 2:19 Varsity tennis and the "most inspirational" award. 6:46 She tied her shoes before her big sister. 10:10 "I don't identify as disabled. I identify as a child of God." 12:37 Meeting Joe (married one week after she turned 20). 16:14 The time a stranger thought she was Bethany Hamilton. 17:31 One hand, half price: the nail salon math. 18:09 How Frosting Fanatic started. 21:24 From stay-at-home mom to wedding cakes. 27:45 "When you're overwhelmed, just start." 28:52 The big girl thought. 30:23 Worship while she bakes (and the Phil Wickham connection). 31:55 Rapid fire with Kristen. 34:27 One word: resilient. 36:56 Where to find her. ABOUT KRISTEN Kristen is an executive pastry chef in the Austin area and the baker behind Frosting Fanatic. Born without part of her right arm, she is a former varsity tennis player and lifelong surfer, now a wife to Joe and a mom of three. She does it all with one hand and a whole lot of grit, and she would rather make you laugh about it than have you feel sorry for her. FIND KRISTEN Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/frosting_fanatic/ Website: https://frostingfanatic.com LISTEN ON Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033ntRmennSoOEIObPs1gc Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/big-girl-thoughts-real-women-real-talk-real-faith/id1896816739 WATCH ON YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Biggirlthoughtspodcast  FOLLOW BIG GIRL THOUGHTS Web: https://biggirlthoughts.com FOLLOW ASHLEIGH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleighleege/ xo, Ash #BigGirlThoughts #ChildOfGod #JustStart #Resilience #ChristianWomen #FaithOverFear #LimbDifference #WeddingCakes #WomenInBusiness #Testimony

    "I don't identify as disabled. I identify as a child of God." | Kristen, BGT #07

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Big Girl Thoughts is where real women bring real talk—full of laughs, tears, and faith that keeps us going. Hosted by Ashleigh, this podcast shares the messy, beautiful, and hilarious parts of life through honest conversations and stories that remind you you’re not alone and that God’s got a bigger plan in it all.

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