The 12/10 by Nadja Olivera

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The psychology-backed, sensually intelligent podcast for high-achieving women whose lives look great on paper — but who know they’re settling. Hosted by psychologist and life reinvention coach Nadja Olivera from Mallorca, where she rebuilt her own life from sober, single-mom, and starting over — into one that feels 12 out of 10.

  1. Sep 29 ·  Video

    There Are 90 Days Left This Year. Are You Going to Lock In or Wait for January?

    There are ninety days left in this year. Most of us will run them down to nothing. Halloween, then Christmas, then January first, where we finally lock in. Until we wait for spring. Until it is Christmas again. And the loop repeats. Not this year. In this episode I am talking about what I realized on my flight home from Greece, journaling at 30,000 feet, connecting with the woman I want to be on December 31st. What she looks like. How she feels in her body. What she did to get there. And working my way backwards from her, not toward her. Because the difference between the women who actually get what they want and the women who keep starting over on Monday is not talent. Not luck. Not genetics. It is one thing: they kept going when it stopped being fun. They did not quit right before the identity shift happened. This episode is also the story of how a conversation with my friend Jenny turned into something I was not planning. A free three hour live workshop on October 3rd. Because why lock in alone when we can do it together? In this episode: Why most high achieving women do not have a starting problem, they have a week two, week three, week four problemWhy quitting usually happens right before the actual shift and why that makes it feel so justifiedThe neurological reason change is hard in the beginning and exactly when it stops being hardThe ritual I do every time I go somewhere new: who do I want to be in this place?How I connected with my December 31st self on that flight and what she told me that surprised meThe difference between a habit tracker and actual identity workWhy discipline is self-trust in action and how locking in on small things teaches you to trust yourself in big onesThe six step framework I am walking through live on October 3rdJoin the free LOCK THE FCK IN WOKSHOP: October 3rd, 3 to 6pm Spain time. 2 to 5pm UK. 9am to 12pm Eastern. Sign up here: https://v2.stan.store/twelveoutoften/p/ltfi-workshop 48 hour replay available if you cannot be there live. Find me here: Instagram: @nadjaloveslife DM me AUDIT for the free 12/10 Life Audit. DM me TWELVE to work together.

  2. Sep 15 ·  Video

    A Love Letter to All the Women I Have Been and to the One I Am Becoming

    This episode is different. No framework. No science. No stories. Just a letter. One I wrote for you. And for me. Listen to this whenever you doubt yourself. Whenever the old version no longer fits and the new one has not fully arrived yet. Whenever you need someone to see you, all the versions you have ever been, and say: you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Because honoring where you have been is the foundation for where you are going. We do not want to go anywhere from a place of insufficiency. We want to go from fullness. From wholeness. From deep radical recognition of everything we already are. In this episode I read a love letter. Three parts. To the woman I was, to the woman I am, and to the woman I am becoming. To the woman I was: the one who said yes when she meant no, who carried shame she was never meant to carry, who hurt herself because she did not yet know how to be that big in the world. Who always knew there was more and never stopped believing it even when she could not see it. To the woman I am: the one in between. Uncertain. Becoming. Extraordinary right now exactly as she is. To the woman I am becoming: the one I can already feel pulling me forward. This one is for you. Write your own letter after you listen. Thank yourself for who you were. Celebrate yourself for who you are. And invite the woman in that you are becoming. She is listening. Find me here: Instagram: @nadjaloveslife DM me AUDIT for the free 12/10 Life Audit. DM me TWELVE if you are ready to do this work with support.

  3. Sep 8 ·  Video

    You Can Just Be Done: On Sobriety, Self Abandonment and Building a Life You Don't Need to Escape with Sarah Anderson

    You do not need a DUI. You do not need a divorce. You do not need a diagnosis. You do not need to lose everything before you are allowed to change something that is not working. You can just be done. My guest today is Sarah Anderson, attorney, D1 athlete, mom, wife, and what she calls a booze free bitch. From the outside she had everything together. From the inside she was drinking close to a bottle of vodka a day, going to work, going to the gym, paying the bills, showing up. And slowly, quietly losing herself. Seven years ago she stopped protecting her drinking habit and started fighting for her life instead. Today she has built a life so extraordinary that alcohol has genuinely nothing to offer her anymore. This conversation is for every woman in the grey area. The one who does not look like what she thinks an addict looks like. The one who is still functioning, still showing up, still telling herself it is not that bad. And the one who suspects, somewhere in her body, that the numbing is costing her more than she knows. In this episode: What it actually looks like to be a high achieving woman whose drinking is invisible to everyone around her including herselfHow the capable, have it together identity makes it harder to see and admit what is happeningThe grey area: why you do not need rock bottom permission to change something that is not workingThe connection between numbing and self abandonment and why the less you abandon yourself the less you need to escape yourselfPink wine culture and how alcohol has been aggressively marketed to women specificallyWhat it actually means to become a non-drinker versus a drinker who cannot drinkHow to build a life so full and so real that alcohol stops being interestingWhat Sarah wants every woman in the grey area to hearFind Sarah: Instagram: @theboozefreebitch Find her Website here. Ready to look at what you might be numbing? DM me AUDIT on Instagram @nadjaloveslife and I will send you the free 12/10 Life Audit directly. And if you are ready to do the real work with support, DM me TWELVE and let's talk. Find me here: Instagram: @nadjaloveslife

  4. Sep 1 ·  Video

    The Tank You Swim In: Why Who You Surround Yourself With Is Your Most Underrated Reinvention Tool

    A goldfish always grows to the size of its tank. Put it in a small bowl and it stays small. Put it in a pond and it grows to match its environment. You are no different. The question is not how big can you get. The question is: how big is your tank right now? Jim Rohn, the man who actually mentored Tony Robbins, said you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. And Harvard researchers tracking nearly five thousand people over twenty years proved it scientifically. Happiness is contagious up to three degrees of separation. The people in your circle are shaping your biology whether you choose it or not. In this episode I am going deep on the most underrated reinvention tool there is. Not a morning routine. Not a mindset hack. The rooms you invest in. The friendships you keep. The thinking you absorb every single day through proximity alone. I share how being surrounded by freelancers kept me thinking like a freelancer. How my first mastermind changed my entire operating system. Why the ego loves being the biggest fish and why your soul desperately needs a bigger tank. In this episode: The goldfish principle and the neuroscience of why your environment shapes your identityJim Rohn's five people rule and the Harvard study that proves it scientificallyWhy an expander is not just someone who has what you want but someone who has it the way you want itHow surrounding yourself only with freelancers kept me thinking small without knowing itThe mastermind that changed how I thought about money, business and what was possibleWhy the ego loves being the biggest fish and what it costs youHow to find your expanders: the rooms you invest in, the friendships you audit, what you ask the universe forThe nuance: you do not have to put someone on a pedestal just because they have one thing you wantToday's question: Who are the five people I spend the most time with? And are they expanding me or confirming me? Ready to grow into a bigger tank? Book yourself a complimentary 12/10 Alignment Call and let's talk about what working together looks like. I would love to be your expander. And if you want to start with an honest look at every area of your life, download the free 12/10 Life Audit here. Find me here: Instagram: @nadjaloveslife

  5. Aug 25 ·  Video

    You Already Have the No: The Art of Asking for What You Want

    You want to know the reason I always get what I want? First of all, I tell myself I am a woman who always gets what she wants. That identity matters. But that is not the actual hack. The real hack is embarrassingly simple. And most people never do it. I ask. That is it. I just ask. For the seat on the plane. For the hug from a stranger after yoga. For a man to hold me at a temple night. For the water bottle to be allowed into the festival. For a stranger in the market to hold my dog so I could go buy flowers. Every single time, something came back. Not always a yes. But so much more often than if I had never asked at all. In this episode I am going deep on the one thing that separates the women who get what they want from the women who silently hope and quietly resent. And I am going into the psychology behind why asking feels so terrifying, what is actually happening in your nervous system when you do it anyway, and the energetic shift that happens the moment you open your hands and say: yes please. More. What else is possible? In this episode: Why the fear of rejection is not about the no but about what you have been taught the no means about youThe psychology of uncommunicated desires and why they always turn into resentmentWhy you already have the no and a yes is the only thing asking can give youWhat is actually happening in your nervous system when you ask anyway and how you rewire it every single timeThe stories: the dog, the hug, the temple night, the plane seat, the water bottle, and asking for what you want in intimacyHow asking is an energetic act of receiving posture and why the universe responds to open handsThe practical tools for asking specifically, confidently, and without apologyWhy clarity is the most magnetic frequency there isToday's question: What is one thing I have been wanting but have never asked for? And what would actually happen if I just asked? Not next week. Today. Ready to see where you are still not asking for what you want? Download the free 12/10 Life Audit here. An honest look at every area of your life including where you are still hinting instead of asking. And if you are ready to do that work with real support, DM me TWELVE and let's talk. Find me here: Instagram: @nadjaloveslife

  6. Aug 18 ·  Video

    Show Me How Good It Can Get: Morning PowerTalk for Your Best Day Yet

    Ten minutes that are going to completely change the frequency you walk into your day with. This is a PowerTalk. And it is for the woman who is done letting the day live her. The woman who knows, somewhere in her body, that she is built for something more alive than what she has been tolerating. The woman who is ready to stop waiting and start receiving. Every single day you wake up with a blank canvas. Brand new. Completely untouched. And you get to decide what goes on it. In this episode I am going to take you through a full activation — breath, movement, evidence, identity declarations, and ending with a shout to the universe that is going to catapult you into the frequency of everything you want. This one is meant to be listened to on repeat. On the mornings when you need reminding. On the mornings when you forgot how powerful you are. On the mornings when you need someone to say: hey. You pressed play. That means you are already choosing. Let's go. In this episode: Why pressing play this morning is already a choice most people never makeThe blank canvas metaphor and how every moment is a world premiereWhy focus is your superpower and what you are calling in todayMoving the energy through your body before the day gets to youWhy you are not separate from the universe but an expression of itThe I am a woman who declarations to stack your identity before the day beginsEnding with the only question that matters: show me how good it can getToday's declarations to carry with you: Everything is always working out for me. I am the love of my life. I am a woman who is ready. Show me how good it can get. I am ready. Find me here: Instagram: @nadjaloveslife

  7. Aug 11 ·  Video

    When Did You First Decide You Were Not Enough? Healing vs. Wholeness

    It was a moment. A specific moment. Maybe you remember it. Maybe you just remember the feeling that came with it. For me it was 16 years old, an exchange student in America, and something my host mother said that landed like a conclusion: the way I am is not okay. I did not know it at the time but that moment became a filter. Everything that came after ran through it. This episode is not about healing. It is about remembering. Because healing implies you were broken. And you were never broken. In this episode I am going into something I think the personal development world gets fundamentally wrong. The self-improvement industry, the healing space, the wellness world — so much of it runs on the wound of not-enoughness. Always finding the next belief to work on. The next version to become before you finally deserve good things. And at some point that becomes its own trap. A wellness outfit worn over the same old wound. The 12/10 life is not built from fixing. It is built from remembering. In this episode: The two fundamental human fears everything else comes back to and how much of your life has been spent managing themThe moment the not-enough story gets born and why it was never actually trueWhy the healing obsession can become its own version of the same woundThe difference between self improvement from worthiness vs self improvement from wound — same actions, completely different energy, completely different resultsWhy the universe does not need your 2.0The decision that changes everything — and why worthiness is not a feeling you wait to haveWhat actually becomes possible when worth is no longer a questionToday's question: If my worthiness was never in question, what would I allow myself to have, to feel, to be today? Not one day. Today. Ready to see where the not-enoughness is loudest in your life? DM me AUDIT on Instagram @nadjaloveslife or download it here. An honest look at every area of your life so you can see exactly where you are still running the prove-it-first program. And if you are ready to do the remembering with real support, DM me TWELVE and let's talk. Find me here: Instagram: @nadjaloveslife

  8. Aug 4 ·  Video

    The Neuroscience of Reinvention: Why Your Brain Fights Change (And How to Win)

    You Are Not Stuck. Your Brain Just Thinks You Are. I have reinvented myself more times than I can count. From the girl who developed an eating disorder at 16 to the one who chose recovery. From psychology student to kiteboarding instructor following love across the world. From building a brand with my sister to building this one from scratch, alone, in Mallorca, as a single mom. Every single time, my brain told me it was impossible. Every single time, it was not. It was just unfamiliar. In this episode I am going deep on what is actually happening in your brain when you try to change something real about your life. Why it feels like resistance. Why it feels like you keep reverting. And why the problem is almost never willpower. It is identity. In this episode: Why your brain does not resist change but resists identity loss, and why that distinction changes everythingThe 12/10 Reinvention Formula: how your personality creates your personal reality, and why changing the outside never works before you change the insideThe neuroscience of identity: why synapses that fire together wire together, and how to use that for you instead of against youThe exact moment the new version of you stops being an effort and starts being just youWhy you do not have to feel like her first, you just have to act like her consistently enough that your brain updates its recordsThree things that actually accelerate the rewiring: deciding first, repetition with emotion, and small daily identity votesToday's question: If I fully decided I was already her, the woman I am becoming, what would I do differently today?  Ready to see where the gap is? Download the free 12/10 Life Audit here. An honest look at every area of your life so you can see exactly where you are still acting from the old version. And if you are ready to close the gap with real support, DM me TWELVE and let's talk. Find me here: Instagram: @nadjaloveslife

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The psychology-backed, sensually intelligent podcast for high-achieving women whose lives look great on paper — but who know they’re settling. Hosted by psychologist and life reinvention coach Nadja Olivera from Mallorca, where she rebuilt her own life from sober, single-mom, and starting over — into one that feels 12 out of 10.

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  • Creator
    Nadja Olivera
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    13
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The 12/10 by Nadja Olivera
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