Connected Chaos: The Family Table

Sonja Merritt, Shawn Bradbury, Lisa Brody, Melinda Burkhart
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Connected Chaos: The Family Table is a conversational podcast featuring coaches, consultants, and professionals who care deeply about family, relationships, personal growth, and human connection. Through honest, supportive, and relatable conversations, we explore the real-life challenges people and families face in today’s busy, often disconnected world, with a mix of practical insight, warmth, humor, acceptance, and hope. Our goal is to help listeners feel seen, encouraged, supported, and a little less alone. Brought to you by Sonja Merritt, Shawn Bradbury, Lisa Brody, & Melinda Burkhart

Episodes

  1. Oct 16

    How to Disagree With Your Kid Without Losing Them

    The goal is not to win. The goal is to keep the door open. _________________________________________________________ At some point, most parents hit a moment they did not see coming. Their child- the one they raised, the one they poured everything into- starts thinking differently. About religion. About politics. About how the world works. And instead of the conversation they imagined, there is defensiveness, tension, and a husband who looks like he might need a moment to sit down. In this episode of Connected Chaos: The Family Table, we talk about what happens when your child's beliefs start diverging from your own, and how you keep the relationship intact when the differences feel personal. Sonja opens with a real story: her 21-year-old daughter, still at home, very much her own person, quietly announced one day that she did not share her parents' faith. Her husband's reaction. Her daughter's reaction. And the realization that something had to change in how they were approaching the conversation. From there, we dig into what actually works: coming in with curiosity instead of an agenda, setting the intention before the conversation begins, knowing your child's love language and using it, and understanding that you are not entitled to alignment with your kids- and they are not entitled to yours. We talk about the difference between apologizing for your beliefs and apologizing for how heated things got. And we talk about what hospice nurses will tell you about deathbed regrets, because it turns out almost nobody regrets the argument, they regret all the things they never said.

  2. Oct 12

    Nobody Told Me I Could Call for Backup

    Nobody expects you to be Superman every day. But this episode might help you figure out who to call when you're not. ___________________________________________________________________ It usually starts small.  You wake up not feeling well. You have clients to see, kids to take care of, and a full day that did not get the memo that you are running on empty. So you do what most parents do: you push through, plop on a smile, and hope nobody notices. In this episode of Connected Chaos: The Family Table, we talk about what happens when parents are depleted- physically, emotionally, or both- and what it actually looks like to show up for your family when you genuinely do not have much left to give. Shawn opens by sharing that he woke up sick the morning of this recording. His 18-year-old daughter was already standing at his door with water and cold medicine before he even asked. It's a small moment, but it opens a bigger conversation: what happens when kids are younger and cannot step in that way? What happens when the depletion is not a cold but something longer and harder, like a serious illness or a family crisis? And what did we learn (or fail to learn) about asking for help from the people who raised us? We talk about the difference between "fake it till you make it" and the kind of transparency that actually serves your family. We talk about parent timeouts, building a team before you need one, and the quiet patterns formed in childhood that show up decades later in ways we're still figuring out. We also give a shoutout to Lisa, who could not be here for this one but was very much with us in spirit.

  3. Oct 8

    The Chest Freezer Conversation

    Nobody wants to talk about it.  And yet, at some point, someone in your family is going to have to deal with the will that was never updated, the junk drawer that was never cleaned out, and possibly (if you're related to anyone like the people at this table) a chest freezer in the garage with very specific instructions. In this episode of Connected Chaos: The Family Table, we went somewhere most families avoid until they absolutely cannot: death, dying, and the mess- emotional and otherwise- that gets left behind when we don't plan for it. Shawn opens by sharing that a chance encounter at the library led him to a will and trust seminar that changed how he thinks about what he's leaving his daughter. Melinda talks about the gift of a mother who started a notepad list, color-coded stickers, and a room-by-room process that turned a hard moment into something almost beautiful. And Lisa- who by her own admission may have a genetic hoarding condition- floats the idea of being preserved in a chest freezer just in case medical science catches up in time. Her family is reportedly still processing this. Ha. We talk about Swedish death cleaning, the difference between a will and a trust, why "I have everything in order" from a Great Depression-era grandfather may not mean what you think it means, and why the greatest gift you can leave the people you love is a plan- even if it is just scribbled in a notebook.

  4. Aug 22

    Some People Are Only Meant for a Season

    This one might make you want to reach out to someone you have not talked to in years... There is a particular kind of relationship that doesn't have an official name. Not a cousin, not a neighbor, not quite a friend in the ordinary sense. The family up the street whose mom made chocolate chip cookies and showed up to your games when your own parents didn't. The boy at the door every morning at 6:37 during summer break who became the brother you never fought with. The best friend you have known for 37 years who your husband once looked at and said: "You were with her all day - what could you possibly still have to talk about?" In this episode of Connected Chaos: The Family Table, we talk about chosen family. The people who filled the gaps, shaped who we became, and sometimes - because life does what life does - drifted away or had to be let go. We share stories about friendships built on baseball catches, backyard tents, and hours of laughter that left you doubled over and convinced you finally had abs. We talk about what happens when divorce or distance or simply growing in different directions changes everything. We talk about energy vampires, grieving a friendship with no official funeral, and the quiet realization that some people are only meant to be in your life for a season — and that is not failure; it is just how it goes. We also talk about what it means when you are the one who changes, and everyone else stays the same, and the strange mix of loss and relief that comes with that. Not every chosen family lasts forever. But the ones that shaped you — the ones who showed you what a good marriage looked like, or stood at your prom when you needed a friend, or made you feel like just another kid at the table — those stay with you long after the relationship itself has shifted.

  5. Aug 15

    Why Are You Hiding?

    Most of us have gotten pretty good at it: the smile that says everything's fine. The voice that stays steady when nothing inside is. The mask we put on before we walk out the door, or sometimes before we even walk into the next room. In this episode of Connected Chaos: The Family Table, we talk about what it actually costs to keep that mask on - and what starts to become possible when you finally take it off. Melanie opens the conversation with one of those weeks that had no business happening in the same seven days: a publishing deal and having to say goodbye to her dog of 18 years. One moment you are celebrating, the next you are gutted, and somewhere in between you still have to show up for work, for family, for everyone who needs something from you. What she did differently this time - and why it worked - is worth listening to. Lisa shares a story about a Halloween party, a fortune teller, and the moment a complete stranger looked at her and said "why are you hiding?" She had spent years convinced she was doing a good job of holding it together. Turns out she was not as good at it as she thought. We talk about what it means to model real emotions for your children, what happens when you stuff things down for so long you cannot find your way back to what is real, and why simplifying your life and setting better boundaries are not just self-care advice — they are survival tools. There is no one right way to handle being drained. But pretending you are not? That tends to have a way of finding you eventually, fortune teller or not.

  6. Jul 21

    What We Keep and What We Carry

    Nostalgia is a funny thing. It can wrap you in something warm and remind you of everything good. It can also quietly keep you standing in the past while your actual life is happening somewhere else. In this episode of Connected Chaos: The Family Table, we follow Shawn into a question his daughter's 18th birthday dropped right in his lap: how do you honor what WAS without missing what IS? From there, the conversation goes exactly where you would expect five honest people around a table to take it - which is somewhere much deeper than anyone planned. We talk about the possessions we hold onto long after we should have let them go, the difference between nostalgia that brings gratitude and nostalgia that becomes avoidance, and what it means to carry someone with you after they are gone without being weighed down by everything they left behind. Sonja talks about her grandparents' belongings. Melinda shares what it was like going through her brother's things after his passing. And Lisa gets identified as the group MacGyver, which honestly tracks. We also get into abundance versus scarcity, and how the way we think about what we have shapes what we feel we can afford to release. Some things are worth keeping. Some things are worth passing down. And some things are just taking up space where something new could grow. This episode helps you tell the difference.

  7. Jul 8

    Who Are You When They Don't Need You Anymore?

    Nobody tells you that one of the HARDEST transitions in family life is not a crisis. It's a graduation. A packed car. A kid who is technically fine, actually excited, and ready to go- while you are standing in the driveway trying to figure out who you are now that the daily job of raising them looks completely different. In this episode of Connected Chaos: The Family Table, we talk about empty nesting, and all the complicated feelings that come with children growing up and moving toward their own lives. Shawn shares what it has been like navigating his daughter's high school graduation as a single father, watching their relationship shift from parent and child toward something more like two adults finding a new way to be close. The rest of us bring our own versions of that story to the table. We talk about the grief that can show up even when everything is going well, the pressure to feel a certain way about a milestone everyone else seems to be celebrating without complication, and what it actually looks like to give yourself grace during a season that doesn't come with a roadmap. We also talk about something that doesn't come up enough in these conversations: what this period can be for YOU. Not just what you are losing, but what quietly becomes possible when the shape of your days starts to change. Everyone's version of this transition looks different. If yours doesn't match what you see on social media, you're probably doing just fine.

  8. Jul 2

    Delayed, Redirected, + Somehow Still Together

    There is something about family travel that strips away the polished version of everyone and gets right down to the real thing. You find out pretty quickly how people handle delays, missed connections, hungry toddlers at 30,000 feet, and the particular chaos of an airport when the plan has completely fallen apart. In this episode of Connected Chaos: The Family Table, we swap travel stories, and not the highlight reel kind. We talk about missed flights, difficult landings, a two-year-old with very strong feelings about missing a meal, and what it actually looks like to stay calm when everything around you is not. We also talk about what travel teaches families, about each other, about how we handle the unexpected, and about the kind of modeling that happens whether we intend it or not when our kids are watching us navigate hard moments. Along the way, we share a few things that have actually helped: naming what is happening out loud, breathing before reacting, and the surprisingly effective move of just looking around and describing what you see when your nervous system needs somewhere to land. Family travel can bring people closer or quietly reveal every fault line in the group. Sometimes both, on the same trip. If you have ever white-knuckled a connection, managed a meltdown at altitude, or discovered something unexpected about yourself at baggage claim, this one is for you.

  9. Jun 16

    Episode 2

    Take a seat at the family table      ... with Sonja Merritt, Shawn Bradbury, Lisa Brody, Melinda Burkhart, & Niyati Patel

  10. Jun 4

    Why We Started Connected Chaos

    Welcome to Connected Chaos: The Family Table With Sonja Merritt, Shawn Bradbury, Lisa Brody, Melinda Burkhart, & Niyati Patel What happens when the plan changes, life gets messy, and a real conversation turns out to be more powerful than anything you originally set out to create? In this debut episode of Connected Chaos: The Family Table, we share how this podcast was born from an honest, unfiltered conversation about parenting, family stress, personal struggle, resilience, and the very human work of trying to live well. You’ll meet the voices behind the podcast and hear the experiences that shaped each of us, from supporting families through job loss, teen conflict, and special needs parenting to helping parents reconnect with themselves and guiding people toward greater clarity, grounding, and connection. At the heart of this conversation is one shared truth: there is no handbook for family life. There is no perfect formula. There is only the daily work of showing up, learning, adjusting, and loving people through hard things. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, underprepared, or alone in the middle of family life, this table is for you. p.s.  In the beginning of this episode, you’ll hear us introduce the podcast by its original working title, 'Becoming the Resilient Family'. As it turns out, the conversation kept evolving, and so did we, which is how Connected Chaos, The Family Table was born!

    Why We Started Connected Chaos
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Connected Chaos: The Family Table is a conversational podcast featuring coaches, consultants, and professionals who care deeply about family, relationships, personal growth, and human connection. Through honest, supportive, and relatable conversations, we explore the real-life challenges people and families face in today’s busy, often disconnected world, with a mix of practical insight, warmth, humor, acceptance, and hope. Our goal is to help listeners feel seen, encouraged, supported, and a little less alone. Brought to you by Sonja Merritt, Shawn Bradbury, Lisa Brody, & Melinda Burkhart

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    Sonja Merritt, Shawn Bradbury, Lisa Brody, Melinda Burkhart
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    10
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    Clean
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