Grounded in 10

Sarah Benitez-Zandi LCSW

Grounded in 10 is the podcast for cycle breakers. If you're the person questioning unhealthy patterns, setting boundaries that nobody understands, healing from experiences that still affect you today, or working to create a different future than the one you inherited, you're in the right place. Hosted by trauma therapist Sarah Benitez-Zandi, MSW, LCSW, Grounded in 10 combines nervous system education, trauma informed insights, and practical somatic exercises to help you move from surviving to thriving in just ten minutes at a time. Each episode is designed for real life. Whether you're commuting, between meetings, navigating parenthood, recovering from a difficult conversation, or simply trying to make it through a stressful day, you'll find practical tools you can use immediately. Inside Grounded in 10 you'll find: - Nervous system education that helps you understand why change can feel so difficult - Trauma informed insights on people pleasing, perfectionism, boundaries, burnout, grief, anxiety, and breaking generational patterns - Somatic practices including grounding, breathwork, bilateral stimulation, tapping, and mindful movement - Practical explanations of how trauma, stress, and the nervous system interact so you understand why these tools work - Quick resets that help you reconnect with yourself in ten minutes or less This podcast is especially for high achievers, helpers, parents, professionals, and anyone who has ever felt exhausted from carrying the weight of everyone else's expectations while trying to build a life that feels authentic to them. Grounded in 10 is built on a simple belief: Insight is important, but insight alone isn't always enough. Many of us understand our patterns. We know where they came from. We know what we should do differently. Yet when stress rises and emotions take over, we often find ourselves repeating the same behaviors we've worked so hard to change. That's because lasting change involves more than understanding. It also requires helping the nervous system feel safe enough to choose a different path. That's where Grounded in 10 comes in. In addition to short educational episodes, you'll find guided somatic resets designed to help you regulate your nervous system, reconnect with your body, and practice the skills that support lasting change. If you're looking for a deeper experience, be sure to explore Grounded in 30, a live weekly nervous system reset for cycle breakers where we put these concepts into practice together. ✨ Subscribe if you're ready to: Break patterns that no longer serve you Learn practical nervous system regulation skills Heal from the past without staying stuck in it Create meaningful change in your relationships and daily life Build a sustainable self care practice that actually fits into a busy schedule Reconnect with yourself one small step at a time Because being a cycle breaker isn't easy. But you don't have to do it alone. Welcome to Grounded in 10.

  1. Jul 17

    A Somatic Reset for Parenting Triggers

    In this Grounded in 10 practice episode, Sarah Benitez-Zandi, LCSW, trauma therapist, EMDR and ART-trained clinician, somatic therapy practitioner, and owner of Trauma Wise Healing, guides a somatic reset for parenting triggers. This practice is designed for after you react. Maybe you yelled, snapped, shut down, used a tone you do not feel good about, or felt your body fill with anger, guilt, shame, adrenaline, or regret. Before repair can come from the adult self, the body often needs a reset. This practice helps parents orient to the present moment, feel physical support, name activation without getting lost in the story, discharge energy through the hands and arms, use longer exhale breathing, and reconnect with a repair cue. This episode is not about analyzing the whole parenting moment or shaming yourself for reacting. It is about helping your nervous system come back to enough steadiness that you can repair from ownership instead of panic, shame, or the trigger. The practice includes simple body-based tools such as orienting, grounding through the feet, pressing hands together, pushing into a wall or stable surface, longer exhale breathing, and choosing one first repair sentence. This practice is for parents to do on their own, especially after a difficult parenting moment. In This PracticeOrient to the room and present moment Feel support through your feet and body Name activation without getting lost in the story Use the phrase “This is activation, not instruction” Discharge fight or stress energy through the hands and arms Practice pushing without harm Use longer exhale breathing to cue the nervous system Separate your child from the trigger Practice the line “I can pause before I parent from the trigger” Prepare a simple first repair sentence Return to the relationship with more steadiness Main TakeawayBefore we repair with words, we often need to come back to the body. Links and ResourcesListen to the related educational episode: Why Parenting Triggers Feel So Big Read the related blog on Notes From the Therapy Room: https://www.traumawisehealing.com/mental-health-blog Learn more about Trauma Wise Healing: https://www.traumawisehealing.com Follow Trauma Wise Healing on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumawisehealing/ Follow Trauma Wise Healing on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61577260897588 Connect with Sarah on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-benitez-zandi-msw-lcsw-83a6677a/

    A Somatic Reset for Parenting Triggers
  2. Jul 14

    Educational Episode: Why Parenting Triggers Feel So Big

    In this Grounded in 10 educational episode, Sarah Benitez-Zandi, LCSW, trauma therapist, EMDR and ART-trained clinician, somatic therapy practitioner, and owner of Trauma Wise Healing, explores why parenting triggers can feel so big when you have a trauma history. Parenting asks us to stay regulated in the middle of noise, need, defiance, mess, exhaustion, emotional intensity, and developmental chaos. For cycle breaker parents, certain moments can activate old alarms connected to childhood trauma, family of origin wounds, shame, helplessness, rejection, loss of control, or fear of becoming the parent they promised themselves they would never become. This episode explores why children may “know better” but still need support accessing skills, why emotionally aware or intelligent children are still developing, why adult children can activate triggers around advice, autonomy, values, and boundaries, and how depletion, postpartum changes, overstimulation, sleep loss, and lack of support can lower a parent’s capacity. Sarah also introduces a light lens from her training and education in Dr. Joshua Coleman’s work around adult children, estrangement, reconciliation, and family repair, while noting that those themes will be explored more deeply in a future series. This episode is not about perfect parenting. It is about noticing triggers sooner, understanding what the nervous system is responding to, holding boundaries without matching a child’s intensity, repairing when needed, and practicing a different response over time. In This EpisodeWhy parenting triggers can feel bigger than the moment How trauma history can shape parenting responses Why parenting triggers are old alarms attached to new situations Why smart, capable, and emotionally aware children are still children How unrealistic developmental expectations can intensify frustration Why children should not have to manage their parent’s nervous system How anger, shutdown, and perfectionism show up in parenting Why depletion, postpartum changes, overstimulation, and lack of support matter Why gentle parenting is not permissive parenting How repair becomes accountability in parenting How adult children, autonomy, boundaries, and differing values can activate old wounds Why repair with adult children requires humility, listening, and changed behavior over time Reflection PromptWhat parenting moment feels bigger than the situation in front of me, and what might my nervous system be recognizing from the past? Links and ResourcesRead the related blog on Notes From the Therapy Room: https://www.traumawisehealing.com/mental-health-blog Learn more about Trauma Wise Healing: https://www.traumawisehealing.com Follow Trauma Wise Healing on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traumawisehealing/ Follow Trauma Wise Healing on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61577260897588 Connect with Sarah on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-benitez-zandi-msw-lcsw-83a6677a/

    Educational Episode: Why Parenting Triggers Feel So Big
  3. Jun 28

    Educational Episode: When Survival Becomes a Pattern

    In this Grounded in 10 educational episode, Sarah Benitez-Zandi, LCSW, trauma therapist, EMDR and ART-trained clinician, somatic therapy practitioner, and owner of Trauma Wise Healing, explores what happens when survival becomes a pattern. For many cycle breakers, the patterns they are trying to change now did not begin as character flaws. They began as protection. People-pleasing may have helped you stay connected. Perfectionism may have helped you avoid criticism. Overfunctioning may have helped you create safety in chaos. Hyper-independence may have protected you from needing people who did not show up. Anger may have served as emotional armor. Control, caretaking, and peacekeeping may have helped you manage environments that did not feel safe, predictable, or emotionally steady. But what once helped you survive can eventually become the thing that keeps you stuck. In this episode, Sarah explores how survival patterns become automatic, how they can be praised and reinforced, and why they can start to feel like personality. She also discusses the difference between shame and guilt, why accountability is not the same as self-attack, and how ownership creates the possibility of real change. This episode is not about blaming yourself for the ways you adapted. It is about asking: Is this who I am, or is this who I had to become? And then taking the next step: What am I responsible for changing now? Because compassion explains the pattern. Ownership changes it. In This Episode, We ExploreHow survival responses become repeated patterns Why trauma responses can start to feel like personality How people-pleasing, perfectionism, overfunctioning, hyper-independence, anger, control, caretaking, and peacekeeping may begin as protection Why being praised for survival responses can make them harder to recognize How hyper-independence can look like confidence while being rooted in fear How hypervigilance can become managing, controlling, or self-abandoning The difference between shame and guilt Why guilt can guide repair, but shame often keeps us stuck Why understanding a pattern does not excuse the harm it may cause now How ownership, accountability, and repair support cycle breaking Why changing survival patterns can bring grief How cycle breakers can begin practicing a different way forward Reflection PromptWhat pattern in my life may have started as protection, and what is it costing me now? Pair This Episode WithWhen Survival Becomes Personality How Nervous System Healing Helps Cycle Breakers Choose Something Different A Body Scan for Building Body Awareness A 10-Minute Reset for Overfunctioning and People-Pleasing LinksLearn more about Trauma Wise Healing: https://www.traumawisehealing.com Read Notes From the Therapy Room: https://www.traumawisehealing.com/mental-health-blog Listen to Grounded in 10 on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grounded-in-10/id1896886498

    Educational Episode: When Survival Becomes a Pattern
  4. Jun 25

    A Body Scan for Building Body Awareness

    In this Grounded in 10 practice episode, Sarah Benitez-Zandi, LCSW, trauma therapist, EMDR and ART-trained clinician, somatic therapy practitioner, and owner of Trauma Wise Healing, guides a simple body scan for building body awareness. For many cycle breakers and trauma survivors, the body can become a place we avoid, ignore, push through, or only notice when something feels wrong. This practice is an invitation to slow down and begin listening to the body with curiosity instead of judgment. This is not about forcing relaxation. It is not about making discomfort disappear. It is not about doing it perfectly. It is about learning how to notice. During this practice, you will be guided to bring awareness to different areas of the body, including the feet, legs, hips, stomach, back, chest, shoulders, hands, arms, neck, jaw, face, and head. You will also be invited to notice sensations such as tension, pressure, warmth, coolness, numbness, heaviness, buzzing, restlessness, support, stillness, and neutrality. The practice ends by helping you gently move between a place of discomfort and a place that feels neutral, calmer, quieter, or more supported. This helps build the skill of noticing body cues without becoming overwhelmed by them. This episode is a foundational somatic practice for anyone learning how to reconnect with their body, understand nervous system cues, and build more body-based awareness over time. In This Practice, You Will Be Guided ToNotice contact and support in the body Bring awareness to body sensations without judgment Identify areas of discomfort, tension, or activation Notice neutral or supported places in the body Practice curiosity instead of forcing relaxation Move gently between discomfort and neutrality Build foundational somatic awareness Return to the present moment with more body connection Reflection PromptWhat is one sensation, body cue, or area of support I noticed today? Pair This Episode WithWhen Survival Becomes Personality How Nervous System Healing Helps Cycle Breakers Choose Something Different A Somatic Reset for When Your Body Thinks the Bear Is Still in the Room LinksLearn more about Trauma Wise Healing: https://www.traumawisehealing.com Read Notes From the Therapy Room: https://www.traumawisehealing.com/mental-health-blog Listen to Grounded in 10 on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grounded-in-10/id1896886498

    A Body Scan for Building Body Awareness
  5. Jun 23

    A Somatic Reset for When Your Body Thinks the Bear Is Still in the Room

    In this Grounded in 10 practice episode, Sarah Benitez-Zandi, LCSW, guides a somatic reset for the moments when your body is reacting like the old danger is still present, even when part of you knows this moment is different. This practice is designed for cycle breakers who are noticing body cues connected to old survival patterns. Maybe your chest tightens, your stomach drops, your hands clench, your jaw locks, your throat closes, your heart races, or you feel the urge to fight, flee, freeze, fawn, fix, shut down, over-explain, control, or disappear. Rather than trying to force calm or talk yourself out of the response, this practice offers gentle co-regulation, somatic grounding, central nervous system support, and body-based awareness. You will be guided through one orienting practice, a body scan, pendulation between a place of discomfort and a place that feels neutral or less activated, containment imagery, gentle bilateral rhythm, and present-day adult self-support. This episode helps your nervous system receive the message: That was then. This is now. I have more choices than I used to. In this practice, you will be guided to:Notice contact and support in the body Orient to the present moment Identify one body cue connected to activation Find one place in the body that feels neutral, settled, or less activated Move gently between discomfort and support Use containment imagery to hold the larger story without entering it fully Practice gentle bilateral stimulation for central nervous system settling Offer compassion to the younger part of you that learned the survival response Identify one cue and one pause to practice in real life Reflection prompt:What is one body cue I can practice noticing earlier, and what is one small pause I can offer myself when it appears? This episode pairs with the educational Grounded in 10 episode: When the Bear Is Not in the Room: Why Your Nervous System Still Feels Stuck Learn more about Trauma Wise Healing: https://www.traumawisehealing.com Read Notes From the Therapy Room: https://www.traumawisehealing.com/mental-health-blog Facebook Instagram Grounded in 10 is for cycle breakers who are ready to stop repeating what hurt them and start building something different, one breath, one pause, and one embodied choice at a time.

    A Somatic Reset for When Your Body Thinks the Bear Is Still in the Room
  6. Jun 19

    Educational Episode: When the Bear Is Not in the Room: Why Your Nervous System Still Feels Stuck

    Have you ever known that a situation is different now, but your body still reacts like the old danger is happening again? In this educational episode of Grounded in 10, Sarah Benitez-Zandi, LCSW, trauma therapist, EMDR and ART-trained clinician, somatic therapy practitioner, and owner of Trauma Wise Healing, explores why the central nervous system can stay stuck in old survival patterns even when the rational brain understands that the present moment is different. This episode builds on the idea that insight alone is not always enough to break the cycle. Sarah explains how trauma can create “GPS pins” in the body and brain, marking certain cues as danger. These cues might include silence, conflict, criticism, a partner pulling away, a child crying, someone’s disappointment, or the feeling of being misunderstood. When the nervous system is responding from an old danger map, the body may prepare to fight, flee, freeze, fawn, fix, shut down, over-explain, control, or disconnect before the rational brain has time to choose something different. This episode explores stuck points not only as thoughts or beliefs, but as body-based experiences that can live in the chest, jaw, throat, stomach, hands, breath, and nervous system. Because sometimes the bear is not actually in the room anymore, but the body still feels like it is. In this episode, we explore: What it means for the central nervous system to feel stuck How trauma creates body-based danger markers Why stuck points are not just thoughts How the body can react to the past in the present Why nervous system healing requires more than insight How EMDR, ART, somatic therapy, trauma intensives, and KAP preparation and integration may support deeper healing when clinically appropriate How cycle breakers can begin updating the old map one small moment at a time Reflection prompt: Where is my body still reacting as if the old danger is here, even when part of me knows this moment is different? Learn more about Trauma Wise Healing: https://www.traumawisehealing.com Read Notes From the Therapy Room: https://www.traumawisehealing.com/mental-health-blog Follow Notes From the Therapy Room on Facebook: Facebook Grounded in 10 is for cycle breakers who are ready to stop repeating what hurt them and start building something different, one breath, one pause, and one embodied choice at a time.

    Educational Episode: When the Bear Is Not in the Room: Why Your Nervous System Still Feels Stuck

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Grounded in 10 is the podcast for cycle breakers. If you're the person questioning unhealthy patterns, setting boundaries that nobody understands, healing from experiences that still affect you today, or working to create a different future than the one you inherited, you're in the right place. Hosted by trauma therapist Sarah Benitez-Zandi, MSW, LCSW, Grounded in 10 combines nervous system education, trauma informed insights, and practical somatic exercises to help you move from surviving to thriving in just ten minutes at a time. Each episode is designed for real life. Whether you're commuting, between meetings, navigating parenthood, recovering from a difficult conversation, or simply trying to make it through a stressful day, you'll find practical tools you can use immediately. Inside Grounded in 10 you'll find: - Nervous system education that helps you understand why change can feel so difficult - Trauma informed insights on people pleasing, perfectionism, boundaries, burnout, grief, anxiety, and breaking generational patterns - Somatic practices including grounding, breathwork, bilateral stimulation, tapping, and mindful movement - Practical explanations of how trauma, stress, and the nervous system interact so you understand why these tools work - Quick resets that help you reconnect with yourself in ten minutes or less This podcast is especially for high achievers, helpers, parents, professionals, and anyone who has ever felt exhausted from carrying the weight of everyone else's expectations while trying to build a life that feels authentic to them. Grounded in 10 is built on a simple belief: Insight is important, but insight alone isn't always enough. Many of us understand our patterns. We know where they came from. We know what we should do differently. Yet when stress rises and emotions take over, we often find ourselves repeating the same behaviors we've worked so hard to change. That's because lasting change involves more than understanding. It also requires helping the nervous system feel safe enough to choose a different path. That's where Grounded in 10 comes in. In addition to short educational episodes, you'll find guided somatic resets designed to help you regulate your nervous system, reconnect with your body, and practice the skills that support lasting change. If you're looking for a deeper experience, be sure to explore Grounded in 30, a live weekly nervous system reset for cycle breakers where we put these concepts into practice together. ✨ Subscribe if you're ready to: Break patterns that no longer serve you Learn practical nervous system regulation skills Heal from the past without staying stuck in it Create meaningful change in your relationships and daily life Build a sustainable self care practice that actually fits into a busy schedule Reconnect with yourself one small step at a time Because being a cycle breaker isn't easy. But you don't have to do it alone. Welcome to Grounded in 10.