The Divorce Awakening

Delia Monk and Sam Brindle
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The podcast that helps you wake the f**k up after divorce — with coaches Delia Monk and Sam Brindle. You haven't failed. Your life isn't over. Divorce is the perfect chance to find out who you truly are, what you really want, and to build a life better than you can ever imagine.  Join us as we talk about all the big stuff you suddenly find yourself questioning, like purpose, career changes, dating, spiritual shit, and falling in love with… yourself. Welcome to the most liberating chapter of your life.

  1. Oct 30

    Episode 24: How To Take Brave Action (Even When You Don't Feel Ready)

    Find out more about Delia's new programme here: https://ashmcdonaldmentoring.com/encore Most of us wait for the confidence to arrive before we act. Delia says that’s backwards: the confidence comes after the action. This week Sam and Delia talk about designing your life on purpose rather than letting it happen to you. Delia shares how she takes action even when she’s scared, what that looks like in real life, and the question she’s asking herself heading into next year: what if you went all in on what you really want? 🔥 Why you don’t need to feel ready before you start, and why confidence comes after the action, not before 🔥 How Delia turned a quiet month with no clients into a $10,000 week in under two weeks 🔥 What to do when the “what if it goes wrong?” voice shows up: Delia’s trick for flipping it into “what if this works?” 🔥 Why failing teaches you more than getting it right, and why nobody is watching as closely as you think 🔥 What it would look like to go all in on your life next year, and the three things that help Delia keep moving: knowing your own risk level, having someone who pushes you, and surrounding yourself with people who take action Work with Delia: She’s launching an 11-month mastermind for entrepreneurs with business strategist and therapist Ash MacDonald, “The Entrepreneur’s Therapist”. There are only 11 spaces, with two group calls a month, quarterly challenges and a five-day luxury retreat in Mexico. Delia would love some of those spaces to go to women rebuilding after divorce. Contact Delia through Instagram for more details. What if next year was the year you went all in? Listen now. Come and say hi to us on Insta!   / delia.monk    / sambrindlecoaching

  2. Oct 23

    Episode 23: The Secret to Choosing How You Feel (Even When Life Is Being a Bit Shit)

    A client says no. A triggering message lands. The kids are chaos and you haven’t slept. And suddenly your mind is off — you’re not good enough, what’s the point, why are you even trying. Sam and Delia have both been there. And over the last few years they’ve built a practice that changes everything. Not toxic positivity. Not pretending it’s fine. A real, repeatable way of choosing how you experience every moment of your day — even when life is doing its absolute worst. This week they walk you through it. All of it. 🔥 The step that happens before anything else — what Sam does every morning that wards of the spiral before it even gets started 🔥 Why your thoughts are not you — and the moment you realise that is the moment everything gets better 🔥 How to close the door on the inner critic — the exact words both Sam and Delia use when the voice starts up at the worst possible moment 🔥 What to do when you can’t find a better thought — and why asking what your best friend would say right now is more powerful than anything else 🔥 Why this works just as well for tax investigations, financial fear and divorce as it does for four kids and a pile of towels on the bathroom floor You are not the waves. You are the ocean. This episode is about learning to feel that — not just understand it. Listen now. Comment/share/follow us on:  / delia.monk   / sambrindlecoaching

  3. Oct 16

    Episode 22: How to stop anxiety spiralling (without meditation)

    Come and say hi to us on Insta! @delia.monk x @sambrindlecoaching In this episode, Delia and Sam explore the nature of anxiety, how it manifests, and practical strategies to manage and reduce its impact. They share personal experiences, mental models, and actionable tips to help listeners navigate anxiety more effectively. Listen to find out: 🔥 The first thing to do the second a spiral starts, and how to tell a thought from a fact when your brain is being very convincing 🔥 Why trying to get rid of anxiety for good can make it worse 🔥 How to find what’s really sitting underneath the worry, and the one question to ask once you do 🔥 The seesaw that explains why anxiety rises, and what to put on the other side 🔥 Why “just meditate” can be the worst advice for a noisy mind, and what gets you out of your head instead 🔥 The journal that rebuilds your trust in yourself, built from the times you were sure it was all over Keywords: anxiety, mental health, coping strategies, mindfulness, self-awareness, resilience, mental models, emotional health, stress management, personal growth Chapters; 00:00 Introduction to Anxiety and Its Impact 01:56 Personal Experiences with Anxiety 04:13 Understanding What Anxiety Feels Like 05:55 The Physical and Mental Symptoms of Anxiety 08:00 Sharing and Talking About Anxiety 10:05 Strategies to Recognize and Catch Anxious Thoughts 12:02 Building Self-Trust and Belief in Your Capabilities 15:01 The Role of Faith, Trust, and Hope in Anxiety Management 18:00 Practical Techniques: Breathing, Flow, and Presence 21:03 The Power of Reframing and Positive Mindset 23:48 Personal Stories of Overcoming Anxiety 27:07 The Importance of Sharing and Support 30:02 Next Episode Preview: Overcoming Suffering and Building Resilience

  4. Oct 9

    Episode 21: Solo Living After Divorce - Who Are You When Nobody is Watching?

    Sam had never lived alone before her divorce. Neither had Delia. And nobody really prepares you for what it’s actually like — the strange mix of liberation and chaos, the bad habits that creep in when no one’s watching, and the surprisingly complicated question of whether you’re actually lonely or just a bit bored. This week Sam and Delia get into all of it. 🔥 The first night in a new house — what it actually felt like for both of them and why it didn’t feel real for months 🔥 What happens to your habits when no one is watching — and the rules both Sam and Delia have had to make for themselves to stop the spiral 🔥 Why living alone is the ultimate test of self-trust — and what Sam did to become the person she actually wants to be when no one else is there 🔥 The difference between loneliness, boredom, jealousy and missing your kids — and why lumping them all together as loneliness isn’t helping you 🔥 Why living alone for the first time isn’t something to survive — it’s an invitation to design exactly the life you want when no one else is watching Also: an honest conversation about beer, cigarettes, late nights and bad habits — and the moment both of them realised that looking after yourself when no one is watching is actually the whole point. Listen now. Send us your question via Insta —   / delia.monk     / sambrindlecoaching

  5. Oct 2

    Episode 20: Can You Be Too Close to Your Ex?

    Sam lives around the corner from her ex-husband. They share the school runs, the sports weekends, the WhatsApp group. They went on holiday together this summer. And some people think that's a problem. This week Delia asks her about it — and Sam talks through what it actually took to get here, what the early days really looked like, and why she genuinely believes that the closer divorced parents can be, the better it is for everyone. Especially the kids. 🔥 What a child psychologist told Delia about the four levels of post-divorce parenting — and where a good co-parenting relationship sits on that list 🔥 Why being close to your ex actually reduces the chance of your kids wanting you back together — not the other way around 🔥 How Sam and her ex stay on the same page with four kids so there's no room for anyone to play one parent off against the other 🔥 The honest truth about how long it took to get here — and what she'd say to anyone who can't imagine it from where they're standing right now 🔥 Why any future partner would need to be completely on board with this — and why that feels like a filter rather than a problem This one is for anyone who's been told the way they're doing divorce is wrong. There are no rules. There is only what works for your family. Listen now. Send us your question via Insta — / delia.monk / sambrindlecoaching

  6. Sep 25

    Episode 19: How to Co-Parent with an Impossible Ex

    This week on Divorce Awakening, Sam and Delia answer a listener stuck with an ex who won't reply to anything — not the after-school club form, not the budget question, not a single message. So they get into what actually works when you're co-parenting with someone who's checked out. Listen to find out: 🔥 5 different strategies to regain your peace (and power) when your ex is being truly impossible 🔥 The parenting style you switch to the second co-parenting stops working — and how to know you're already there 🔥 Why "of course he has" might be the most useful phrase in a high-conflict divorce 🔥 The importance of boundaries (and how to use them) when dealing with tricky exes Send us your question via Insta — @delia.monk x @sambrindlecoaching Timestamps 00:24 — Introduction and listener question 00:50 — Listener describes her high-conflict divorce 03:24 — Making decisions when an ex does not respond 04:01 — Introduction to parallel parenting 05:25 — Setting communication boundaries and deadlines 07:07 — Treating communication like a business transaction 0 08:35 — The “business partner” analogy 10:02 — Accepting what you cannot control 13:34 — Understanding the ego’s need for justice 15:06 — Avoiding angry texts and voice notes 16:42 — Episode summary and key takeaways

  7. Sep 18

    Episode 18: The Best and Worst Dating Stories Post-Divorce

    Delia and Sam share a mix of awkward, funny, and genuinely hopeful post-divorce dating stories (yes, there is hope!).  Listen to find out: 🔥 The terrible “get me out of here” line that Delia used on her worst ever date post divorce (we recommend you try something else!) 🔥 How a breakup text (even after a couple of dates) will reveal the true nature of a person — pity we can’t test this so easily on the ones we like! 🔥 The awful date that even “fun Sam” couldn’t save 🔥 The best date that Delia’s had post-divorce — and why it’s thanks to Sam that she even went on it in the first place 🔥 The resistance that comes up with dating and why it might just be worth pushing yourself through it anyway Timestamps 00:00 - Prepping the episode and introducing the dating theme 01:06 - Why listeners wanted more dating stories after divorce 02:20 - Starting with the worst dates first 07:16 - How to end a date politely when there’s no chemistry 08:16 - What people’s replies reveal about maturity 10:47 - Sam’s most awkward date 18:49 - Moving from worst dates to best dates 19:08 - Sam’s best date ever on a foggy hilltop 23:36 - Why low-pressure activity dates can feel more natural 24:42 - Delia’s best date and the call that convinced her to go 26:10 - Immediate good energy and an easy first kiss on the cheek 27:13 - Why being low-stakes and unbothered makes dating easier 29:42 - Meeting people organically 31:40 - Lingering eye contact before the first conversation 33:40 - A walk, a snog, and feeling like teenagers again 35:03 - Why eye contact in real life can be so powerful 36:24 - Final encouragement to keep trying, even when dating feels hard 37:15 - Leaving bad dates quickly and using exit excuses if needed

  8. Sep 16

    Episode 17: How to Make More Money After Divorce (No Idea Too Ridiculous)

    Last week was the mindset. This week Sam and Delia get into the practical stuff, and they do not hold back. Delia sat down and wrote a list of 50 ways to start making money right now. No judgment, no idea too small, no option off the table. And this episode they go through it together — the sensible ones, the inspired ones, and the ones that somehow end up in a conversation about the surprisingly lucrative market for foot pics. It's that kind of episode. And also genuinely one of the most useful ones they've done. 🔥 The 50-idea exercise Delia does with every client in financial transition — and why writing everything down before you edit yourself is the whole point 🔥 How one of Sam's clients went from nearly losing her house to building a savings pot — using two skills she already had 🔥 Why the best side hustle is almost always hiding in something you already do naturally — and the questions to ask yourself to find it 🔥 The more creative options nobody thinks of — renting yourself out as a friend, AI training jobs, Airbnb experiences, erotic fiction — yes, really 🔥 Why going wide before you go narrow matters — and how a "silly" idea on a list can lead to something that actually changes your financial situation Your financial situation right now is not your financial situation forever. This episode is proof of that. Listen now. Get in touch with Sam & Delia through Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sambrindlecoaching/ https://www.instagram.com/delia.monk/

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The podcast that helps you wake the f**k up after divorce — with coaches Delia Monk and Sam Brindle. You haven't failed. Your life isn't over. Divorce is the perfect chance to find out who you truly are, what you really want, and to build a life better than you can ever imagine.  Join us as we talk about all the big stuff you suddenly find yourself questioning, like purpose, career changes, dating, spiritual shit, and falling in love with… yourself. Welcome to the most liberating chapter of your life.

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  • Creator
    Delia Monk and Sam Brindle
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    24
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Delia Monk and Sam Brindle
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    The Divorce Awakening