This is Linda M Hughes, psychic medium and grief coach. As you start to get used to carrying around the weight of the loss of your Loved One, you realize that your “life before loss” will never return. You can’t go back, but you also can’t go forward… with those old plans and dreams. Totally crushed by this realization, I came face to face with what I call my Decision Point. I felt like I had 3 choices: - stop the clock, forever tapping replay on every memory of my life up to that point of loss - give up, give in & fade away, letting the clock simply run out until I too am gone - or, I could get a new improved clock, honoring my Loved Ones by rebuilding my inner life, & dreaming new dreams. I Decided To Rebuild My Inner Life. My decision point arrived at about one year into grieving my husband and grieving my son for 4. While taking a life coaching class, an instructor posed this statement to our class, "You are NOT your story," For days, I was so botheredby that statement, it was shaking things loose in the back of my mind. "Are you your story?" "Well, of course I am", I thought tomyself. Who else could I be? And if this were not true, then who was I... or more importantly, who could I be, or become? This moved to the front of my mind and a week or so later I had a EUREKA type moment. The Eureka moment was when I realized that I was NOT my current story,. I realized that this right here was the first step in starting over. It was also from agreat place of strength and power. Using myself as an example, I am more than the mother, wife, daughter, sister or aunt of my 6 deceased loved ones. I was still and am a living, vibrant contributor to the world at large AND to myself in particular. And the next step in rebuilding my inner life was to remember this! I needed to close this chapter and write a new one. For the 1st time in my life, I cried for ME. I cried for that lovely person I had been as a mother, wife, daughter, sister and aunt. I cried for the very loss of my own self as I had cried for those that I had lost. And as my tears dried, I aughed deep belly laughs in anticipation of taking all the great parts of old me into a chapter of the new me. And I know my 6 loved ones were cheering me on from the other side! Action 1: At Your Decision Point, What Will Your Choice Be? This will be a very private, personal decision that will be honored by myself and all others within this Community. To proceed with the remaining Action Steps, this decision mustalready be made by you. Reach out to me for a private coaching session if you would like help making this decision. And please know that everyone reaches decision points in THEIR time, and that will be perfect for you! I will add a new post to this playlist every 4th week on Wednesday mornings. If you have questions, need more clarification or would like to talk about these things, please: Start by commenting below or: -Sign up and attend an “Our Place” Community get-together -or Schedule a private session from my website But what I would really like you to do is to: -Sign up for a FREE 1 hour group session with me & no more than 4 others! Those 4 could be family, friends,neighbors. It may also be someone new to you that has signed up from the site. In this session: - I will share a synopsis ofthe work to be done in each of the private 5 week sessions, - or during the 1 Day 5 hour long Small Group Intensive held one Saturday of the month.- you can introduce yourself,- share a little bit of your story- and ask your questions! If you got something out of this recording, please comment, like, share and subscribe for free. This will help me reach others that want to start creating their new story. Also, please stop by my website to learn more about this Step 4 as wellas Steps 1 – 3 in my Rebuild Your Inner Life After Loss Program. I will leave the link in the comments below. Thank you in advance.
