Boudoir After Dark Podcast

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Welcome to the B.A.D. Podcast! Where we (he photography team behind Boudoir After Dark) have one on one, intimate conversation, questioning and celebrate all legal and consenting sexual walks of life. Hearing stories, sharing in triumphs and pains, and most of all: learning.

  1. 4d ago

    Boudoir After Dark 020 - What Actually Happens at a Swinger Party

    They went to a house party where the hostess put on one of her own films and gave director's commentary. That is not the strangest thing in this episode. Check out the video here - https://youtu.be/_cMnd0EH0Lw   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   🎧 THE EPISODE YOLOExplorer's stated superpower is that when he sees an opportunity, he takes it. After a long marriage ended, that philosophy took him to his first munch alone in 2019, then to a dungeon, then to a kink expo, and eventually into the swinger world — which he's the first to admit he's still figuring out. He's unusually honest about the parts nobody puts in a guide: what the unwritten floor rules at a lifestyle club actually mean, how you approach a couple without being the guy everyone avoids, what happened when someone ignored all of that in a hot tub, and the fact that after years of clean BDSM negotiation he has no idea how to negotiate this. Also: nine acres, naked volleyball, a man who lost a bet, and the discovery that most of what porn taught everyone is wrong — it's mostly giggling.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   ⏱️ CHAPTERS 0:00:00 Intro 0:03:20 If I see an opportunity, I take it 0:04:45 Divorce as a new chapter 0:06:03 Fifty Shades, then The Secretary 0:07:41 Dom vs. top, sub vs. bottom 0:08:48 His first munch, alone 0:11:29 Half pain, half pleasure 0:12:59 Hellraiser and Clive Barker 0:14:57 Stadium vision 0:16:18 How he met Sue 0:18:31 She picked him because he looked safe 0:20:23 You walked in crooked 0:23:54 A first date at a dungeon 0:26:43 Do not touch the drapes 0:29:40 The Annual Kink Expo 0:30:29 The violet wand 0:32:00 What a room party is 0:32:39 His first look at swinging 0:34:21 Nine acres and a volleyball net 0:36:36 The guy who lost a bet 0:37:41 First floor, second floor 0:38:50 The man in the hot tub 0:40:39 Sue's one regret 0:43:50 How Jaysin became a bouncer 0:46:32 Offer something first 0:52:07 Parties in Sue's basement 0:54:14 Nobody taught him to negotiate this 0:55:14 I'm your huckleberry 0:57:47 Does that make you feel ooey? 1:00:25 The hostess was in the film 1:00:42 Director's commentary 1:06:03 Pr0n lied. It's mostly giggling.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   🎙️ THIS WEEK'S GUEST 👤 YOLOExplorer — six years in, still calling himself a beginner ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   ▶️ WATCH NEXT 🎬 Episode  📺 Full podcast playlist → https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjgZN1t8azcHTZESJbyAS8uheyA26X2Cs   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   🖤 FOLLOW B.A.D. 🔗 Everything: https://linktr.ee/BoudoirAfterDark 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/boudoirafterdark_chicago/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BoudoirAfterDark   We're the team behind Boudoir After Dark — a bold, sex-positive, kink-friendly boudoir photo and video studio in Chicago, built for people who want to feel like rock gods. Consensually, artistically, and with zero cringe.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   📸 SHOOT WITH US Moody, cinematic boudoir photo and video. Couples, solo, and kink-friendly sessions with consent-forward direction — you never have to already know how to pose. Albums, prints, wall art, highlight films, full edits. 🔗 https://linktr.ee/BoudoirAfterDark   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   💬 SUPPORT THE SHOW If this episode hit you in the feelings (or the courage), drop a comment with what stuck or what topic you want next. Likes, comments, and shares help more than people realize.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   🎬 CREDITS 🎥 Produced by Jaysin Osterkamp, Hilda Burke and Donna Van 🎵 Music by Temple of Hunger 🎙️ Episode 20   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   ⚠️ CONTENT NOTE + LEGAL This episode is frank storytelling about sex, kink, and non-monogamy, and includes a story about someone ignoring consent etiquette. Full content notes: boudoirafterdark.com/ep20 Educational and entertainment purposes only — not medical, legal, or mental health advice. 18+. Guest views are their own. All audio, video, and photo content © Boudoir After Dark.   #podcast #swinging #sexpositive

  2. Sep 18

    Boudoir After Dark 019 - Your First Kink Convention: What Really Happens

    Conventions are an amazing way to try new things, meet people, and most importantly learn the correct and safe ways to do things. Often times, these places can't legally refuse entry to someone without a sketchy record so today we talk to Apples who ran dungeon security for years and does her own background checks and talks about how you can keep yourself safe.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🎧 THE EPISODE Apples was a head dungeon monitor lead at Kinky College before stepping down to teach at events around the country, and she has spent enough time watching things go wrong to have a system for all of it. She walks through how she vets an event before spending a dollar on it, what red flags she looks for in the people running it, why new attendees get targeted first and what that outreach looks like, and the medical questions almost nobody thinks to ask before a scene. The back third is the most useful thing we've recorded: a full negotiation with Hilda, start to finish, in real time — safe words, trigger words, medical history, implements, restraints, aftercare, all of it. Along the way there is an exorcism, a haunted-woods job, a bucket list involving a hearse, and an incident involving Baby Shark that we are still recovering from.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ ⏱️ CHAPTERS 0:00:00 Intro 0:04:51 The whole spectrum of kink events 0:06:23 How to actually find them 0:08:28 Why she stepped down at KK 0:11:53 The thing nobody negotiates 0:12:14 The night someone had a seizure 0:13:18 Nobody eats or drinks at cons 0:14:36 The emergency card in your badge 0:15:54 Green is go: fast negotiation 0:16:35 Markers, scarves, and notebooks 0:23:47 How she vets an event 0:29:44 Why bad organizers keep running things 0:33:08 RSVP lists as a hunting ground 0:35:18 Top frenzy and bottom frenzy 0:36:43 Why Hilda is a target 0:39:38 Why cons can't turn predators away 0:40:18 Bring a spotter. Always. 0:43:32 Don't split the party 0:44:44 Tuck your badge in the elevator 0:45:58 The common sense garden 0:46:33 Why sloppy technique spreads 0:49:35 The exorcism, and kink as theater 0:52:34 Hook suspension as ritual 0:58:23 The Baby Shark incident 1:04:23 Her six-week convention prep 1:05:00 Why she shops at Farm & Fleet 1:16:35 Don't act scared for my benefit 1:17:27 A full negotiation, start to finish 1:19:50 Red, yellow, green, and purple 1:22:39 Trigger words and medical questions 1:30:52 Negotiating aftercare 1:33:02 Tops get forgotten 1:35:59 Tops can call red too 1:37:33 Tell me three NOs   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🎙️ THIS WEEK'S GUEST 👤 Apples — kink educator, former head DM lead   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ ▶️ WATCH NEXT 📺 Full podcast playlist → https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjgZN1t8azcHTZESJbyAS8uheyA26X2Cs   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🖤 FOLLOW B.A.D. 🔗 Everything: https://linktr.ee/BoudoirAfterDark 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/boudoirafterdark_chicago/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BoudoirAfterDark   We're the team behind Boudoir After Dark — a bold, sex-positive, kink-friendly boudoir photo and video studio in Chicago, built for people who want to feel like rock gods. Consensually, artistically, and with zero cringe.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 📸 SHOOT WITH US Moody, cinematic boudoir photo and video. Couples, solo, and kink-friendly sessions with consent-forward direction — you never have to already know how to pose. Albums, prints, wall art, highlight films, full edits. 🔗https://linktr.ee/BoudoirAfterDark   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 💬 SUPPORT THE SHOW If this episode hit you in the feelings (or the courage), drop a comment with what stuck or what topic you want next. Likes, comments, and shares help more than people realize.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🎬 CREDITS 🎥 Produced by Jaysin Osterkamp, Hilda Burke and Donna 🎵 Music by Temple of Hunger 🎙️ Episode 19   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ ⚠️ CONTENT NOTE + LEGAL This episode discusses kink and sexuality frankly, and includes references to predatory behavior and sexual assault in community contexts. Full content notes: boudoirafterdark.com/ep19 Educational and entertainment purposes only — not medical, legal, or mental health advice. 18+. Guest views are their own. All audio, video, and photo content © Boudoir After Dark.   #podcast #kink #consent

  3. Sep 11

    Boudoir After Dark Podcast 018 - The One Kink Even Kinky People Won't Watch

    At kink events _Heather_ gets put in a corner so the dominant men don't have to watch. She teaches the one thing even the kink community squirms at.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🎧 THE EPISODE _Heather_ teaches CBT — a kink most people react to before they understand it. Her argument is that the reaction is the problem: the word "torture," a lifetime of being told that area is off-limits, and the assumption that any of this is about humiliating someone. She'd rather call it torment, and she'd rather you knew the medical side before you tried it. This conversation is heavy on safety, because she leads with it: the fertility risk almost nobody mentions, why she won't reuse implements, why she caps scenes at 45 minutes, and the night a flogger tip landed somewhere it shouldn't have. Jaysin came in visibly uncomfortable and says so on mic. He does not stay that way.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ ⏱️ CHAPTERS 0:00:00 Intro 0:03:01 What CBT actually stands for 0:03:42 Why the word torture scares people 0:04:40 Put in a corner at her own class 0:07:27 Torment instead of torture 0:09:13 The fertility risk nobody mentions 0:10:54 What else can go wrong 0:14:37 What a tasting looks like 0:20:16 Wear gloves. Seriously. 0:23:11 Why she enjoys it 0:24:07 Building the scene 0:29:33 Technique that avoids the risk 0:33:08 Why her line is always longest 0:38:55 When you have to pause 0:40:50 A negotiation, walked through 0:44:13 The intense end of the toy bag 0:49:47 Using your voice as a tool 0:54:11 Why she calls herself a switch 0:56:55 The night it went wrong 1:05:23 Marks as art 1:09:13 Why she caps scenes at 45 minutes 1:13:21 What sounding actually is 1:24:52 Pain relief and chronic pain 1:26:57 The mistake beginners make 1:30:01 Where to find Heather   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🎙️ THIS WEEK'S GUEST 👤 _Heather_ — kink educator   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ ▶️ WATCH NEXT 🎬 https://youtu.be/pBTcHr3ctAw 📺 Full podcast playlist → https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjgZN1t8azcHTZESJbyAS8uheyA26X2Cs   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🖤 FOLLOW B.A.D. 🔗 Everything: https://linktr.ee/BoudoirAfterDark 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/boudoirafterdark_chicago/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BoudoirAfterDark   We're the team behind Boudoir After Dark — a bold, sex-positive, kink-friendly boudoir photo and video studio in Chicago, built for people who want to feel like rock gods. Consensually, artistically, and with zero cringe.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 📸 SHOOT WITH US Moody, cinematic boudoir photo and video. Couples, solo, and kink-friendly sessions with consent-forward direction — you never have to already know how to pose. Albums, prints, wall art, highlight films, full edits.   🔗 boudoirafterdark.com   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 💬 SUPPORT THE SHOW If this episode hit you in the feelings (or the courage), drop a comment with what stuck or what topic you want next. Likes, comments, and shares help more than people realize.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🎬 CREDITS 🎥 Produced by Jaysin Osterkamp, Hilda Burke and Donna Van 🎵 Music by Temple of Hunger 🎙️ Episode 18   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ ⚠️ CONTENT NOTE + LEGAL This episode is an explicit discussion of genital sensation play, including injury risk. Full content notes: boudoirafterdark.com/ep18 Nothing here is instruction, and nothing here replaces medical advice. Educational and entertainment purposes only — not medical, legal, or mental health advice. 18+. Guest views are their own. All audio, video, and photo content © Boudoir After Dark. #podcast #kink #sexpositive

  4. Sep 4

    Boudoir Art Dark 017 - The Most Advance Kink Nobody Talks About

    Mistress Autumn is back, this time on fear play   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🎧 THE EPISODE Mistress Autumn is back, this time on fear play — the kink that lives almost entirely in the mind. She walks through an interrogation scene she watched at Kinky College, built layer by layer: senses stripped one at a time, a hated song looped for fifteen seconds, a safe word written into the story instead of a color, and a surprise the bottom never negotiated for. She explains why fear play is advanced rather than beginner territory, where consensual non-consent fits and why it gets confused with wanting rougher sex, what a dungeon monitor is actually doing when they stand next to a scene, and how a simple hood can trigger someone in two seconds with no warning. Jaysin also finally explains where his lifelong love of scaring people came from.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🖤 FOLLOW B.A.D. 🔗 Everything: https://linktr.ee/BoudoirAfterDark 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/boudoirafterdark_chicago/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BoudoirAfterDark   We're the team behind Boudoir After Dark — a bold boudoir photo and video studio in Chicago, built for people who want to feel like rock gods. Consensually, artistically, and with zero cringe.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 📸 SHOOT WITH US Moody, cinematic boudoir photo and video. Couples, solo, and kink-friendly sessions with consent-forward direction — you never have to already know how to pose. Albums, prints, wall art, highlight films, full edits. 🔗 https://linktr.ee/BoudoirAfterDark   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 💬 SUPPORT THE SHOW If this episode hit you in the feelings (or the courage), drop a comment with what stuck or what topic you want next. Likes, comments, and shares help more than people realize.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🎬 CREDITS 🎥 Produced by Jaysin Osterkamp, Hilda Burke and Donna Van 🎵 Music by Temple of Hunger 🎙️ Episode 17   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ ⚠️ CONTENT NOTE + LEGAL This episode discusses fear play, consensual non-consent, and includes references to sexual assault and trauma responses. Full content notes: boudoirafterdark.com/ep17 Nothing here is instruction. Educational and entertainment purposes only — not medical, legal, or mental health advice. 18+. Guest views are their own. All audio, video, and photo content © Boudoir After Dark. Some stories are anonymized to protect privacy; anything shown is shared with explicit permission.

  5. Sep 3

    Boudoir After Dark 016 - The Most X-Rated and G-Rated Episode We've Done

    Donna invited her neighbor to his first dungeon night. He lasted about ten minutes. A few days later he told her he'd stick to bingo.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🎧 THE EPISODE Donna was our very first guest and the person who opened the door to all of this for us — she leads Kane County Kinksters, close to 4,000 members and coming up on three years. This one has no agenda. It's just stories: the five-question test that ended a relationship, the neighbor who noped out of a dungeon in ten minutes, a car crash that ended in laughter, and the scene she designed to take back power from something that happened decades ago. Along the way she explains subspace, drop, service subs, red versus yellow, who actually holds the power in a scene, and why she'd rather be honest about all of it than let people learn it the hard way. It's the most X-rated and G-rated episode we've made.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🖤 FOLLOW B.A.D. 🔗 Everything: https://linktr.ee/BoudoirAfterDark 📸 Instagram:   / boudoirafterdark_chicago   ▶️ YouTube:    / @boudoirafterdark     We're the team behind Boudoir After Dark — a bold boudoir photo and video studio in Chicago, built for people who want to feel like rock gods. Consensually, artistically, and with zero cringe.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 📸 SHOOT WITH US Moody, cinematic (or) light and airy boudoir photo and video. Couples, solo, and kink-friendly sessions with consent-forward direction — you never have to already know how to pose. Albums, prints, wall art, highlight films, full edits. 🔗 https://linktr.ee/BoudoirAfterDark   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 💬 SUPPORT THE SHOW If this episode hit you in the feelings (or the courage), drop a comment with what stuck or what topic you want next. Likes, comments, and shares help more than people realize.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🎬 CREDITS 🎥 Produced by Jaysin Osterkamp, Hilda Burke and Donna Van 🎵 Music by Temple of Hunger 🎙️ Episode 16   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ ⚠️ CONTENT NOTE + LEGAL This episode includes frank discussion of kink and sexuality, and references childhood sexual abuse, domestic violence, and grief. Full content notes: boudoirafterdark.com/ep16 Nothing here is instruction. Educational and entertainment purposes only — not medical, legal, or mental health advice. 18+. Guest views are their own. All audio, video, and photo content © Boudoir After Dark. Some stories are anonymized to protect privacy; anything shown is shared with explicit permission.

  6. Sep 3

    Boudoir After Dark 015 - The Truth About Bratting: It's Not What You Think

    Casey pushes her husband until he stops holding back. That's the entire point. A conversation about bratting, and why brats get such a bad name.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🎧 THE EPISODE Casey didn't know "brat" was a word for anything until she got into the lifestyle — she just knew she was snarky, sarcastic, and constitutionally incapable of falling in line. She spent twenty years of marriage not asking for what she wanted, then left a letter on the bed and changed everything. Now she and her husband lead a kink group in a farm town of 900 people, run a September camping event, and have survived being publicly outed at a village board meeting by a man holding a folder of printouts. This episode covers what bratting actually is, why the label carries so much baggage in old-school BDSM circles, the difference between playful defiance and just being inconsiderate, and how to vet the people and events you're trusting with your safety.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘ 🖤 FOLLOW B.A.D. 🔗 Everything: https://linktr.ee/BoudoirAfterDark 📸 Instagram:   / boudoirafterdark_chicago   ▶️ YouTube:    / @boudoirafterdark   We're the team behind Boudoir After Dark — a boudoir photo and video studio in Chicago, built for people who want to feel like rock gods. Consensually, artistically, and with zero cringe.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   💬 SUPPORT THE SHOW If this episode hit you in the feelings (or the courage), drop a comment with what stuck or what topic you want next. Likes, comments, and shares help more than people realize.   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   🎬 CREDITS 🎥 Produced by Jaysin Osterkamp, Hilda Burke and Donna Van 🎵 Music by Temple of Hunger   ⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘   ⚠️ CONTENT NOTE + LEGAL This episode includes frank discussion of kink and sexuality, and references childhood abuse and foster care. Full content notes: boudoirafterdark.com/ep15 Educational and entertainment purposes only — not medical, legal, or mental health advice. 18+. Guest views are their own. All audio, video, and photo content © Boudoir After Dark. Some stories are anonymized to protect privacy; anything shown is shared with explicit permission.

  7. Sep 3

    Boudoir After Dark 014 - We Were in Amateur Entertainment and Didn't Know It

    Alibi Ja ne has been a swinger since 19, accidentally appeared in early amateur adult content before the internet made that a thing, discovered erotic hypnosis through a dom who conditioned her to orgasm without being touched — and then she demonstrated a live induction on camera that left our host not wanting to come back. This is the episode about the most powerful kink of all: the one that lives entirely inside your mind.   ⫘⫘⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘⫘⫘ Topics: 🔥 She Hypnotized Us Live — 4 minutes into a live demonstration, HIlda's shoulders dropped, her head started tracking imaginary objects, her eyes glazed red under studio lights, and she reported her headache dissolving and feeling like she was floating. The meadow, the leaf, the door — all of it landed.   🔥 The Accidental Amateur Story — Before the internet existed, Alibi Jane was traveling to events with a group where "everyone had video cameras, so you didn't think twice." They found out later the group was producing early amateur adult content — and they were in it.   🔥 Orgasm on Command — Women can be hypnotically conditioned to orgasm without any physical stimulation. Alibi Jane experienced this herself with an "orgasm control dom" — and realized almost immediately that she had done most of it herself through the power of sustained anticipation and belief.   🔥 The Cicada Arousal Trigger, Doll Play & a Buried Alive Fantasy — A tour through some of the most creative hypnotic scenarios in the episode: a trigger set so that the sound of cicadas produced arousal (active all summer during the double cicada year), a doll play session where she felt her brain filling with hard plastic and her body becoming an object, and a "buried alive" scenario drawn from a Wes Craven film that remains on her bucket list to revisit.   🔥 Confidence Through Kink — born into a world where women couldn't own credit cards without a husband's signature. She talks about how moving from submissive to dominant didn't just change her kink life — it fundamentally rewrote her sense of self-worth, confidence, and power in a way that decades of cultural conditioning had stripped away. She sought rough, dangerous situations before she found kink because she didn't have language for what she needed. Finding the community gave her that language — and then some.   ⫘⫘⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘⫘⫘ 🖤 Follow B.A.D. Website: https://linktr.ee/BoudoirAfterDark FetLife (ORG): https://fetlife.com/BoudoirAfterDark Instagram:   / boudoirafterdark_chicago   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BoudoirAfterDark   The podcast where confidence gets loud and unapologetically erotic. We’re the team behind Boudoir After Dark (B.A.D.), a bold, sex-positive, kink-friendly boudoir photo + video studio built for people who want to feel like rock gods (consensually, artistically, and with zero cringe).   ⫘⫘⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘⫘⫘ 📣 Support the Show If this episode hit you in the feelings (or the courage), leave a comment with: What part stuck with you, or what topic you want next. Likes, comments, and shares help more than people realize.   🎥 This episode was produced by Jaysin Osterkamp, Hilda Burke and Donna Van. 🎶 Music provided by Temple of Hunger   ⫘⫘⫘⫘⋆⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊⋆⫘⫘⫘⫘  Legal + Consent Educational + entertainment purposes only. This podcast is not medical, legal, or mental health advice. If you need professional support, please talk with a qualified professional. Consent always. B.A.D. is a consent-forward business. 18+ only. This content is intended for adults. Do not engage if you are under 18. Guest views are their own. Opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect the views of Boudoir After Dark. Copyright notice. All audio/video/photo content is owned by Boudoir After Dark unless otherwise stated. Do not reproduce, repost, or distribute without written permission. Privacy note. Some client stories may be anonymized or combined to protect privacy. Any content shown is shared with explicit permission. Trigger/content note: This episode may include discussion of a sexual nature and or kink elements including but not limited to impact, CNC, knife play, fire play and more.

  8. Aug 7

    Boudoir After Dark 013 - She Found Her Soulmate, Built a Business & Survived Cancer

    In Episode 13 of Boudoir After Dark, we sit down with MissKyleigh — cancer survivor, grad student in clinical mental health, kink educator, top-leaning switch, aftercare and drop presenter, and co-founder of Smacks & Wax — the wildly popular handcrafted kink toy and wax play candle business she built with her wife in under two years. MissKyleigh came in as a vendor neighbor and left as someone who might genuinely change how you think about kink. This episode goes everywhere: how a stolen toy bag inspired a business, why she hand-selects exotic wood and hand-delivers candles in summer heat to protect quality, the full breakdown of wax play temperature science (and why beeswax at 180° will absolutely burn you), and how lightning fractal paddles are made — from three feet away, with a button, because electricity must be respected. But it's the personal stories that will stop you cold. MissKyleigh talks about falling for her wife across a munch table, waiting patiently through five years and a gender transition, proposing ten days after cancer surgery with a ring box hidden in a Christmas ornament and 37 written reasons she should say yes. She opens up about the fibromyalgia she only discovered after a car accident, the drop she experienced after a convention, the mental breakdown she nearly didn't come back from, and why she took over an aftercare class the week a beloved presenter suddenly passed away — and why she won't stop giving that class. This is the episode about what it looks like to love your community so hard you cross the country alone in an SUV, nearly pass out at 8,640 feet of elevation, and still set up your booth. 🛒 Find Smacks & Wax on Etsy: SmacksAndWax 📍 FetLife: MissKyleigh 🌐 More from us: boudoirafterdark.com ⚠️ This podcast is for adults 18+. For education and entertainment only. Not medical, legal, or mental health advice.

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Welcome to the B.A.D. Podcast! Where we (he photography team behind Boudoir After Dark) have one on one, intimate conversation, questioning and celebrate all legal and consenting sexual walks of life. Hearing stories, sharing in triumphs and pains, and most of all: learning.

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  • Creator
    afterdarkjaysin
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    20
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Copyright 2026 All rights reserved.
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    Boudoir After Dark Podcast

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