Fly and a Butterfly podcast with Vishnu Vaka and Mahitha Vaka

Vishnu Vaka and Mahitha Vaka

Butterfly glows and the fly buzzes, the Fly and Butterfly podcast, we dive into the complexities of marriage and family dynamics. Join us as we explore our lives weekly.

  1. 3d ago

    Food Divorce, Sleep Divorce… Is This How Marriages Survive Now? | Fly & Butterfly Ep 21

    Is a "food divorce" the secret to a happy marriage? Vishnu wants his potato curry, Mahitha wants him on salad, and somehow a fight over lunch turns into Draupadi's five husbands, Gandhi and Kasturba, and who gets to decide how a marriage should work. Fly & Butterfly Episode 21, a Halloween episode with Vishnu Vaka and Mahitha Vaka. Chapters0:00 My wife wasn't ready for the podcast3:18 Coke & Pepsi made me fat (and short)8:31 What is a 'food divorce'?15:51 Mom vs ChatGPT: the vankaya bajji recipe17:55 Siri can't understand my accent, but Grok speaks Telugu20:40 Sleep divorce, money divorce, vacation divorce29:29 Draupadi had five husbands32:05 Why women were told to just put up with it34:51 Rama, Sita and one wife for one life41:25 Camera divorce: my lenses vs the kitchen island45:55 Draupadi's questions in the Kuru court51:33 Gandhi, Kasturba and giving up on marriage54:03 Where child marriage came from1:01:55 Your freedom ends at the edge of my nose1:04:10 We actually agreed on something1:06:55 Sambar, potato curry and the kids Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/PjApA4j7sVE Upcoming shows• Sat Nov 7 — Riverhead Moose Lodge Comedy Night, Riverhead NY• Thu Nov 12 — Punch Line, Philadelphia• Nov 27–28 — Dallas Comedy Club, Dallas TXTickets & all dates: https://www.vishnuvaka.com Vishnu: https://www.vishnuvaka.com · @vishnuvakacomedy on Instagram, TikTok and YouTubeMahitha: https://www.mahithavaka.com

    Food Divorce, Sleep Divorce… Is This How Marriages Survive Now? | Fly & Butterfly Ep 21
  2. Oct 21

    I Smoked Cigars with Russell Peters and a Homeless Man on My Birthday | Fly & Butterfly Ep 20”

    Vishnu opened for Russell Peters, forgot his own birthday, and ended up smoking cigars on a New York street with Russell and a homeless man. In Episode 20, Vishnu and Mahitha talk about what real success looks like (thanks to Russell and Clayton Peters), the advice Russell gave Vishnu right before his first show in Tokyo, and why it's worth hearing the other side before you pick one. They get into the British-era famines our history books skipped, why Indians save everything and hoard gold, houses vs. apartments, and following the crowd. Plus: Tesla's flying car, the Chicago temple attack that ended with "not today, son," the Karmelo Anthony case and what we owe bullied kids, a crying stranger on NJ Transit, a Best Buy standoff over SD cards — and a very confused conversation about when exactly they met. Correction: At 46:58 Vishnu says "Nolan Wells" — he meant Karmelo Anthony. The sentence was 35 years, not 25. Chapters0:00 Welcome + our son's trumpet "background score"0:47 Tardy for study hall?3:32 Vishnu's "semi-black" belt5:04 Opening for Russell Peters & a forgotten birthday6:35 Cigars with Russell Peters and a homeless man13:33 Russell & Clayton Peters — real success16:23 Opening for Russell in Tokyo18:22 Always hear the other side22:29 The famines our history books skipped25:37 Scarcity trauma: why Indians save everything31:24 Houses vs. apartments35:15 Don't just follow the crowd40:38 Tesla's flying car43:36 Chicago temple: "Not today, son"46:58 The Karmelo Anthony case & bullying53:36 A safe haven for every kid58:44 Smile at strangers + the NJ Transit suitcase1:05:30 Standing your ground: Target & Best Buy1:11:31 New podcast + 20 years since we met1:15:49 Costco diamonds? Watch the full episode on YouTube: [YouTube link] New: Vishnu Talks — Vishnu's solo podcast, every Tuesday. See Vishnu live: Nov 12 – Punchline Philly. Tickets at https://www.vishnuvaka.com LinksVishnu: https://www.vishnuvaka.comMahitha: https://www.mahithavaka.comJovarta: https://www.jovarta.comFollow Vishnu: @vishnuvakacomedy on Instagram, TikTok & YouTube

    I Smoked Cigars with Russell Peters and a Homeless Man on My Birthday | Fly & Butterfly Ep 20”
  3. Sep 30

    My Wife Won't Let Me Reach Moksha | Fly & Butterfly Ep 19

    Mahitha has made it clear: Vishnu is not reaching moksha without her. Between seven lives of marriage, coming back as a chicken or a shrimp, and snoring through an entire Art of Living meditation class, his odds aren't great. Plus: Meta glasses so she can track him, the "rogue AI husband" who started thinking for himself, stolen "Diwali edition" bags, and 17 six-year-olds at one birthday party. Episode 19 of Fly & Butterfly — Vishnu Vaka and Mahitha on marriage, moksha, surveillance, and the dangers of a husband who starts thinking for himself. Hindus say you're married for seven lives, so what happens if one of you reaches moksha first? Mahitha isn't taking that chance. We get into who comes back as a cow, a chicken or a shrimp, the story of Valmiki, and why Vishnu will never reach moksha anyway (the Art of Living class is still recovering from his snoring). Plus Meta glasses so Mahitha can see exactly where Vishnu is looking, and his "Of course I talk to myself" T-shirt as Exhibit A that he's become a rogue AI husband. Chapters 0:00 Cold open: did someone raise the footrest? 1:20 Welcome to Episode 19 2:17 Colonization, the Gurukula system & Machu Picchu 4:38 "Diwali Edition" mirror bags & paying for craftsmanship 6:11 Respecting artists (and carving stone during a lunar eclipse) 7:41 AI as an artist's assistant 9:10 "Superior intelligence" & Trump's inner circle 16:26 Venezuela, Iran & the Strait of Hormuz 18:06 Why comedians need different perspectives 19:25 "Of course I talk to myself" 20:12 The rogue AI husband: stop thinking for yourself 22:31 Meta glasses so your wife can track you 24:52 Vitamin D deficiency 25:59 Flock cameras & Enemy of the State 27:17 Married for seven lives — cows, penguins & chickens 29:55 The story of Valmiki 32:05 Snoring through Art of Living meditation 36:04 "I don't like change" 39:11 Who should be changing? No one. 40:00 "I dare you to buy me Meta glasses" 43:07 Foldable iPhones & the future of phones 44:37 Magadheera 46:57 The 17-kid birthday party 50:07 The great hide-and-seek scare 51:48 Nor'easter update & staying safe from AI 56:13 Who's the fly and who's the butterfly? Watch the full episode on YouTube: [EPISODE 19 YOUTUBE LINK] See Vishnu live: Oct 3 – Yummy Dips, Astoria (NYC) Nov 12 – Punchline Philly Tickets: https://www.vishnuvaka.com Follow Vishnu: Instagram: @vishnuvakacomedy TikTok: @vishnuvakacomedy YouTube: @vishnuvakacomedy

    My Wife Won't Let Me Reach Moksha | Fly & Butterfly Ep 19
  4. Sep 17

    Ganesh Chaturthi: Everything We Miss About Growing Up in India | Episode 18 A

    What starts as a conversation about Ganesh Chaviti quickly turns into a trip through our childhoods in India — the festivals, family traditions, schools, religion, and beliefs that shaped the way we see the world today. Vishnu remembers growing up with stories of Ganesha, waking up early with the neighborhood kids to collect patri for the puja, visiting different Ganesh celebrations, and the excitement surrounding the festival and Nimajjanam. And, of course, he somehow manages to personally identify with Ganesha because of one childhood incident involving way too much sambar rice. 😂 From there, we go back to our school days. Both of us attended Christian/convent schools while growing up Hindu, leading to some funny — and surprisingly meaningful — memories about nuns, church, cricket, prayer, and learning about different religions while still practicing our own traditions. The conversation eventually becomes bigger than Ganesh Chaviti. We talk about why Hindu traditions use physical representations of God, what rituals meant to us as children versus what they mean to us now, and what it was like growing up in an India where Hindu, Christian and Muslim traditions could all be part of your everyday life. Later, we get into Jyotisha, astrology, faith and belief — including how our relationship with these ideas has changed over time and whether sometimes the power of belief itself can give people reassurance when life feels uncertain. And Mahitha shares a prediction she was once given about the person she would eventually marry… which becomes especially interesting considering she ended up marrying someone named Vishnu. In this episode: Celebrating Ganesh Chaviti growing up in IndiaVishnu's childhood connection to Ganesha — and sambar rice 😂Family pujas and childhood festival traditionsWaking up early to collect patri for GaneshaGanesh idols and the tradition of NimajjanamWhat religious rituals meant to us as childrenGrowing up Hindu while attending Christian/convent schoolsNuns, cricket and unforgettable school memoriesBeing exposed to different religions while growing up in IndiaHinduism, Christianity and the interfaith experiences we rememberWhy people use images and idols as part of prayerHow our understanding of religion changes as we get olderJyotisha, astrology and traditional beliefsThe psychology of faith and reassuranceThe surprising prediction Mahitha received about her future husbandThis episode is less about explaining religion and more about remembering what it actually felt like to grow up around these traditions — before we started questioning, analyzing and trying to understand them as adults. If you grew up in India, how much of this feels familiar to you? And if you're raising kids outside India, which traditions from your childhood are you trying to keep alive? Fly & Butterfly is a conversation between Vishnu and Mahitha about marriage, family, culture, comedy, growing up Indian and everything we somehow end up arguing about along the way.

    Ganesh Chaturthi: Everything We Miss About Growing Up in India | Episode 18 A
  5. Aug 31

    Back to School, Here We Go Again | Fly and Butterfly Ep 16

    Episode 16 of Fly & Butterfly! This one goes everywhere — from the sad state of American school lunches (turns out the same companies feeding your kids are feeding prisons) to why "women's empowerment" started as wartime marketing, a courtroom showdown over a $90 ticket with a cop in an unmarked Hyundai, predictions about drones replacing highways, and a genuinely emotional story about watching a rocket launch and what it means to have someone be "the fire" behind you. If you've ever wondered why your kid eats lunch at 10:45am, why nonprofits keep more of your donation than you think, or what the Mahabharata has to do with staying away from negative people — this episode has you covered. **In this episode:**00:00 Cold open — sweating & compliments01:38 School lunch in America09:34 Capitalism & working parents20:15 The traffic ticket story27:50 Back-to-school prep29:19 Drones & the future of commuting34:32 Gifts, Coach bags & ripped jeans39:15 The rocket launch & Mahabharata49:22 Plugs & outro **Links:**🎤 Book Vishnu for shows: vishnuvaka.com🎭 Mahita's shows & life coaching: mahitavaka.com | @mahitavaka🎟️ Jovarta (ticketing platform for artists & clubs): www.jovarta.com📍 Catch Vishnu live: Philly (Punchline, Philly Nov 12) · Stress Factory NJ, opening for Russell Peters (Oct 10–11),  Sep 24th Claude's Philly **Subscribe for new episodes** and let us know in the comments what you want us to talk about next!

    Back to School, Here We Go Again | Fly and Butterfly Ep 16
  6. Aug 19

    AI, Social Media & Parenting: Are We All Addicted? | Fly and Butterfly Ep. 15

    Fly and Butterfly Podcast Episode 15 This episode is a long, fast-moving debate between Vishnu and Maitha about AI, social media, parenting, and how technology is changing human behavior. They use ChatGPT as a jumping-off point, but the conversation expands into a bigger argument about moderation, responsibility, and whether older generations are equipped to guide kids through today’s information overload.Vishnu and Maitha both contribute heavily throughout, with Vishnu mostly arguing that AI and social media are useful tools when used in moderation, while Maitha pushes the idea that parents, not just platforms, need to take more responsibility for how kids consume information. Key topics In this episode: ChatGPT as a glorified search engineVishnu explains how he sees large language models as vector database powered tools that search and repackage information rather than true intelligence.Maitha pushes back, arguing that the tool feels smarter because it remembers context and gives answers tailored to the user.The future of personalized AI assistantsThe two joke about everyone eventually having their own bot with a personalized voice and style.They imagine a world where people rely on AI for everyday advice, emotional support, and even voice cloning for navigation and household use.Why convenience weakens human connectionMaitha argues that AI makes it too easy to ask questions without building the social bonds that used to come from asking a parent, friend, or relative.Vishnu agrees that people are asking more questions without processing the answers or reflecting on consequences.Technology as a tool, not the problemVishnu repeatedly says the issue is not AI itself but addiction, overuse, and letting the tool control behavior.He compares modern information access to earlier tools like manuals, libraries, and dictionaries, saying every generation had a version of this shift.Parents, kids, and the loss of guidanceMaitha argues that kids today are exposed to too much content without enough adult guidance, especially on phones and social platforms.Vishnu agrees parents need to be more present, but also points out that many parents are just as addicted and unprepared as their children.Social media, reels, and algorithmic addictionThey criticize autoplay reels, endless scrolling, and recommendation systems that push people deeper into passive consumption.Maitha says platforms make addiction easier by removing friction, while Vishnu says users need more conscious control over what they consume.How information changes politics and public opinionVishnu argues that access to alternative information has changed how younger generations see war, racism, and global politics.They discuss how news channels, governments, and platforms can shape narratives, and how Gen Z is more likely to question them.Immigrant family pressure and mental healthThey talk about immigrant parents who equate financial sacrifice with emotional support, often missing the depression or stress their kids are experiencing.The conversation touches on how kids from immigrant households may feel split between cultures and unsupported at home.Culture, identity, and assimilationVishnu talks about growing up between Indian and American worlds, and how some families either erase their culture entirely or reduce it to shallow traditions.They discuss how kids can feel inferior if they are not taught the deeper stories, history, and context of their background.Bad outcomes when kids are left alone with powerful toolsMaitha brings up extreme examples like kids accessing harmful content or using AI without enough supervision.They land on the idea that adults need to teach judgment, not just block access.Timestamps 00:00 - Recording setup and mistrust of ChatGPT 03:20 - Voice cloning, navigation prompts, and personalized assistants 07:11 - How vector databases and LLMs work 10:00 - Why AI reduces human connection 11:31 - Power, water, and how convenience changes behavior 15:40 - Technology helping lawyers and legal research 17:27 - Vishnu jokes about becoming a lawyer and politician 19:23 - Chris Christie, Trump, and political satire 22:02 - Generational values and fairness 23:36 - Meta, Instagram, and how platforms profile users 26:04 - Reels, autoplay,

    AI, Social Media & Parenting: Are We All Addicted? | Fly and Butterfly Ep. 15

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Butterfly glows and the fly buzzes, the Fly and Butterfly podcast, we dive into the complexities of marriage and family dynamics. Join us as we explore our lives weekly.

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