Waking Up in Heartbreak

LiYana Silver
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  • Spirituality

Extraordinary conversations and tools for getting through (not getting over) heartbreak, reclaiming what you lost along the way, and emerging awake, alive, and lit-up.

Episodes

  1. Oct 6

    When Everything Burns with HeatherAsh Amara

    (Re-release) Healing doesn't begin when we "rise from the ashes," but when we stop trying to avoid the fire. Welcome to this intimate, incendiary conversation with HeatherAsh Amara, mentor, land steward, philanthropist, and author of nine best-selling books, including Warrior Goddess Training. Listen in, friend, as Ash and I talk about walking through fire, not around it, and how that remakes us into the person who emerges on the other side of the wreckage. As well as how our deepest losses can become invitations into a more intimate relationship with ourselves. In this episode, look and listen for: The simple choice that transformed Ash's divorce from devastation into initiation.How Ash’s home and land was destroyed by wildfire, and what it taught her about presence, surrender, and staying with what cannot be saved.The difference between learning from the past and punishing yourself with it.The hidden agreements that heartbreak brings to the surface — including the belief, "I can't do this without them."Why so many of us have been taught to make romantic partnership the center of our lives — and what becomes possible when we stop.How to become the kind of person who can sit beside devastation without rushing to make it okay.What it actually means to refuse to abandon yourself in the middle of heartbreak. Consider that this impossible time in your life isn't asking you to be stronger but is simply asking you to stay. About HeatherAsh Amara Best-selling author, mentor, land steward, and philanthropist, HeatherAsh Amara has spent the last three decades guiding her many loyal readers through the challenging contradictions of modern life. Seamlessly weaving spiritual wisdom with proven, practical tools for individual growth, HeatherAsh is a dedicated steward in creating a more just, compassionate, and creative global community. HeatherAsh has written nine books and created numerous audio projects, including the bestseller Warrior Goddess Training, The Seven Secrets to Healthy, Happy Relationships with don Miguel Ruiz Jr., and her newest book Wild, Willing, Wise: An Interactive Guide for When to Paddle, When to Rest, and When to Jump Naked into the River of Life. When she’s home, HeatherAsh plants her feet in New Mexico, but as a lifelong nomad, she spends much of her time traveling, teaching, and writing in cafés around the world. Connect with HeatherAsh: Website: warriorgoddess.com Foundation: ashrose.org Facebook: facebook.com/thewarriorgoddessrevolution Instagram: instagram.com/thewarriorgoddessrevolution/ Substack, Out of the Fire: heatherash.substack.com/ Podcast, Warrior Goddess Revolution: https://warriorgoddess.com/podcast/ Books by HeatherAsh Amara A Little Book on Big Freedom: Discover the Four Elements of Transformation Warrior Goddess Training: Become the Woman You are Meant to Be Warrior Heart Practice: A Simple Process to Transform Confusion into Clarity and Pain into Peace Wild, Willing, and Wise: An Interactive Guide for When to Paddle, When to Rest, and When to Jump Naked into the River of Life Books & resources mentioned in the episode: Elizabeth Kübler-Ross and her work on The Five Stages of Grief LiYana Silver’s forthcoming book, Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce When you pre-order, you’ll receive two beautiful book bonuses: 1) The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and 2) Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A. Order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce + book bonuses: liyanasilver.com/wakingup About LiYana Silver Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul. LiYana guides women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up. A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants. Connect with LiYana: Website ~ liyanasilver.com Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book ~ liyanasilver.com/wakingup Feminine Genius book ~ liyanasilver.com/femininegenius The Heartbreak Transformation Map ~ liyanasilver.com/map Fresh From The Fire newsletter ~ liyanasilver.com/newsletter Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce substack ~ liyanasilver.substack.com/

  2. Sep 30

    Rebuilding From What Is True with host LiYana Silver

    At some point in the Dark Night of Heartbreak, you come up for air. The intensity softens, even just a little, and a new set of questions begins to emerge: What do I actually want now? What will I no longer live with—or live without? What kind of life and love would truly fit me? Welcome to Reimagining, the fourth phase of the Dark Night of Heartbreak. This is where you begin rebuilding, not from the same old scripts, other people’s expectations, or who you used to be, but from what is true for you now. In this episode, we explore how to reconnect with that truth and to imagine a life that is better, brighter, and more fitting of who you’re becoming. In this episode, look and listen for:How to reconnect with your truth when heartbreak has made it difficult to know what you want, need, or trust.How to envision your next chapter of life and love, even if you don’t have a plan for it, haven’t seen it done before, and aren’t totally sure it’s even possible.How to listen to and follow your truth: the jolts of joy, curiosity, and aliveness pointing you toward what comes next. In this phase, your work is simple, although still radical: listen for what is true for you now and allow yourself to dream audaciously into what’s next. Resources mentioned in this episodeKnow Your Own Voice A free short class and worksheet to help you tune into your inner compass: hear your truth, distinguish your yes from your no, and get clearer about what is—and isn’t—right for you. liyanasilver.com/voice The Waking Up Workbook + ‘Yes, This!’ Practice Pre-order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce and receive the accompanying workbook, including the guided “Yes, This” exercise and all the practices from the book. liyanasilver.com/wakingup Earlier episodes in the Five Phases series Phase 1: Initiation — Let This Heartbreak Remake You [https://podcast.liyanasilver.com/let-this-heartbreak-remake-you/]Phase 2: Dissolution — What I Said When She Called Me Sobbing [https://podcast.liyanasilver.com/what-i-said-when-she-called-me-sobbing/]Phase 3: Excavation — Stop Fighting Yourself [https://podcast.liyanasilver.com/stop-fighting-yourself/]Phase 5: Emerging — coming soon, subscribe to Waking Up in Heartbreak and I’ll see you there! Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce by LiYana Silver Order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce + receive two book bonuses: 1) The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and 2) Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A. liyanasilver.com/wakingup About LiYana Silver Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul. LiYana guides women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up. A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants. Connect with LiYana: Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book ~ liyanasilver.com/wakingup Feminine Genius book ~ liyanasilver.com/femininegenius The Heartbreak Transformation Map ~ liyanasilver.com/map Fresh From The Fire newsletter ~ liyanasilver.com/newsletter

  3. Sep 22

    Reclaiming Your Aliveness After Heartbreak — with guest Dr. Saida Désilets and host LiYana Silver

    Reclaiming Your Aliveness After Heartbreak What if underneath heartbreak, betrayal, s3xual wounding, and all the ways you’ve learned to disconnect from your own body, there is something in you that has never been destroyed? My friend and colleague, Dr. Saida Désilets calls it our desire to thrive — the current of aliveness that remains even after experiences that knock the air out of us. Drawing from her work as a teacher of PsychoS3xual healing, and her own extraordinary life, including surviving s3xual violence and moving through three marriages and divorces, Saida and I explore what it means to come home to yourself after your sense of safety, love, or future has been shattered — and to reclaim your body, pleasure, self-trust, sovereignty, and capacity to feel fully alive. In this episode, look and listen for: The terrifying moment when Saida finally dared to look inside herself for the “monster” she feared was there — and what she found insteadFinding your way back to your body and your desire when heartbreak has disconnected you from bothWhat each of Saida’s three divorces taught her about betrayal, self-abandonment, and loveWhen the future you counted on disappears, how to stop grasping for solid ground and begin trusting yourself How to recognize the tiny “trickle of life” that is still there when you feel broken, shut down, or almost extinguishedDiscovering that the love you thought another person gave you, was actually generated from within you all along This conversation is an invitation to remember that even after experiences that have profoundly changed you, your aliveness is still yours. And still here. Pre-order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce by LiYana Silver And receive two beautiful book bonuses: 1) The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and 2) Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A. Order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce + book bonuses: liyanasilver.com/wakingup About Dr. Saida Dr. Saida Désilets wants to live in a world filled with audacious, sexually sovereign people, living life on their own terms. As a TEDx speaker, researcher, counter-culture creatrix, body-philosopher, and author, her work has touched the lives of millions globally. Dr. Saida has two published books, contributed to 4 best-selling books, and has over 20 online courses exploring issues such as healing and reclamation post-trauma, transforming shame, reclaiming pleasure, and embracing one’s s3xual sovereignty. Her pièce derésistance is her world-renowned,1000 hour accredited certification program for professionals supports and inspires practitioners from different modalities to lead their industry in the conversation about s3xuality & pleasure. The Embodied Love University, co-founded with Aaron Michael, is a comprehensive, s3xual education platform that provides s3xual fluency and free education for all. When not researching or creating transformational programs, Dr. Saida enjoys leading Wilderness Safaris in South Africa and swimming in the Aegean Sea. Connect with Dr. Saida Embodied Love University: an intimacy-education platform for individuals, couples, and professionals, created by Dr. Saida Désilets & Aaron Michael https://www.embodiedloveuniversity.com/ Embodied Love Lounge: Podcast of leading-edge insights on women's & men's health, sensuality, s#xuality, & relationships. Join Dr. Saida Désilets and Aaron Michael as they Make Intimacy Simple & Change The Way The World Makes Love. Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/76OUUm2Pbi36Vsb7X8hbaw YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EmbodiedLoveLounge Saida’s books Emergence of the Sensual Woman: Awakening Our Erotic Innocence by Dr. Saida DésiletsDesire: The Playbook by Dr. Saida Désilets Resources mentioned in the episode Dr. Saida Désilets’ Body Love Meditation: a short meditation for coming back into relationship with your body, especially the parts you may judge, criticize, or feel disconnected from. The Well-Lived Life: A 102-Year-Old Doctor’s Six Secrets to Health and Happiness at Every Age by Gladys McGarey, MD Chapter 12 “Look for the Trickle Around the Dam.” The Woman’s Encyclopedia of Myths and Secrets by Barbara G. Walker “One Woman: A Song for UN Women”Launched globally for International Women’s Day on March 8, 2013. Written by Beth Blatt, Graham Lyle, and Fahan Hassan. About LiYana Silver Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul. LiYana guides women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up. A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants. Connect with LiYana: Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book ~ liyanasilver.com/wakingup Feminine Genius book ~ liyanasilver.com/femininegenius The Heartbreak Transformation Map ~ liyanasilver.com/map Fresh From The Fire newsletter ~ liyanasilver.com/newsletter Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce substack ~ liyanasilver.substack.com/

  4. Sep 16

    When Holding It Together Means Losing Yourself — with guest Cris Greer and host LiYana Silver

    From the outside, Cris had the perfect life: she’d married her high school sweetheart, they had a son, two cars, two dogs — even the literal white picket fence. But honestly, Cris was faking it: her feelings, her conversations, even her orgasms. In this episode, my longtime client Cris Greer and I look back at the Dark Night of the Soul that followed the end of her 17-year marriage: her husband’s alcoholism, becoming a single mother, and realizing just how much of her life she had spent holding it together — which also meant losing touch with herself. In this episode, look and listen for: When “holding it together” blocks you from knowing what you really feel and wantReaching the point when staying is costing you — and your children — too muchWhat it takes to quit faking it — with friends, family, partnerships, s3x, and ourselvesWhy the tiny victories during divorce — paying for something yourself, getting through a hard day, making one brave choice — deserve to be celebrated like hellKnowing when letting your children see you struggle is too hard on them or when it can model something much healthier than pretending you’re fineLearning the difference between your yes, your no, and your hell no — and honoring all three If you’ve lost yourself inside a relationship, I’m excited for you to hear from Cris about what the Dark Night of Heartbreak asks of each of us: To reclaim the brave, spirited, authentic young women we used to be — and to realize that trusting ourselves is 100% non-negotiable as we rebuild new lives and partnerships. About Cris Greer Cris Greer is a midlife guide, podcast host, and co-founder of My Happy Life Box — a monthly subscription box created together with her husband, Matthew. Together, they’ve built a business rooted in intention, connection, and the belief that women deserve care too. Cris hosts the Grounding Journey Podcast, where she has honest, soulful conversations about growth, spirituality, and what it really means to move through midlife with grace and strength. Her work supports women navigating midlife, identity shifts, and the quiet (or not-so-quiet) question of “What’s next?” Through her programs, curated boxes, and community, Cris offers simple, doable ways for women to reconnect with themselves — without overwhelm, guilt, or pressure to become someone new. She believes midlife isn’t a crisis. It’s a recalibration. A remembering. A becoming. When she’s not recording, writing, or curating the next box, you’ll find her dreaming up new ideas with Matthew, walking her dogs outside to clear her head, or reminding women everywhere that they are not behind — they’re right on time. Connect with Cris Find more about Cris and My Happy Life Box: groundingjourney.com Listen to the Grounding Journey Podcast with Cris: Soulful conversations for midlife and beyond: https://groundingjourneypodcast.com/ Pre-order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce And receive two beautiful book bonuses: 1) The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and 2) Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A. Order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce + book bonuses: liyanasilver.com/wakingup About LiYana Silver Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul. LiYana guides women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up. A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants. Connect with LiYana Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book ~ liyanasilver.com/wakingup Feminine Genius book ~ liyanasilver.com/femininegenius The Heartbreak Transformation Map ~ liyanasilver.com/map Fresh From The Fire newsletter ~ liyanasilver.com/newsletter Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce substack ~ liyanasilver.substack.com/

  5. Sep 7

    The Power of Crying-On-The-Bathroom-Floor Moments with guest Kelly Diels and host LiYana Silver

    Kelly and I — LiYana Silver, host of Waking Up in Heartbreak — talk about heartbreak, shame, and power: an exploration of what happens when a woman stops conforming to the script she was given and begins rebuilding from what is actually true. In this episode, look and listen for: Why heartbreak often precedes our most meaningful transformations.How to stop asking "What's wrong with me?" and start seeing the bigger forces shaping our lives.The hidden relationship between your shame, your power, and women's conditioning. I love this hair-raising, heart-melting conversation about the power we can only retrieve from right smack in our crying-on-the-bathroom-floor moments. I know you will too. About Kelly Diels Kelly Diels is a teacher of marketing, messaging, and business-building with a feminist lens. For fifteen years, Kelly has been the strategist behind New York Times bestselling authors and the brands, books, and women you already follow. She is also Culture-Maker. Political theorist. Chief Marketing Officer. Kelly doesn’t just theorise about winning the game when the game's rigged — she did it broke, with two toddlers and no job. And she’s forensically devoted to building a better f-ing way: for you, me, and for all of us. I have been Kelly’s client. And years later, Kelly has been my client. To connect with Kelly: kellydiels.com Book a Breakthrough Session with LiYana: liyanasilver.com/breakthrough Kelly refers to doing transformational coaching with LiYana in this podcast episode, as instrumental in ‘unleashing’ her and the next phase of her work in the world. This is that work. Pre-order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce liyanasilver.com/wakingup And receive two beautiful book bonuses: 1) The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and 2) Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A. Order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce + book bonuses: About LiYana Silver Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul. LiYana guides women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up. A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants. Connect with LiYana: Website ~ liyanasilver.com Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book ~ liyanasilver.com/wakingup Feminine Genius book ~ liyanasilver.com/femininegenius The Heartbreak Transformation Map ~ liyanasilver.com/map Fresh From The Fire newsletter ~ liyanasilver.com/newsletter Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce substack ~ liyanasilver.substack.com/

  6. Aug 31

    Stop Fighting Yourself

    Being hard on yourself doesn’t make you stronger. It severs you from the very strength you need to make it through the Dark Night of Heartbreak. In this episode, I explore the inner war we wage with ourselves: criticizing, shaming, overriding, restricting, pushing, and trying to defeat the parts of ourselves we’ve decided are the problem. Heartbreak has a way of bringing us face to face with this relationship. As painful as this reckoning can be, it offers us an extraordinary opportunity: to stop turning against ourselves. To trade brute force for passionate conviction, intimidation for intimacy, overriding for understanding, and combat for kindness. In this episode, look and listen for: How you stop fighting yourself.Why your heartbreak brings you face to face with how you treat yourself and demands you reckon with it.How the Excavation phase of a Dark Night of Heartbreak asks us to examine the beliefs, patterns, abandoned parts, crossed boundaries, and old stories that brought us here.The most important relationship you’ll have in your entire life As one of my mentors asked me, I ask you: when you are at war with yourself and you win… who loses? Resources mentioned in the episode: Let This Heartbreak Remake You: episode that explores Initiation, phase one of the Dark Night of Heartbreak. What I Said When She Called Me Sobbing: episode that explores Dissolution, phase two of the Dark Night of Heartbreak. Pre-order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce liyanasilver.com/wakingup And receive two beautiful book bonuses: 1) The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and 2) Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A. Connect with LiYana: Website ~ liyanasilver.com Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book ~ liyanasilver.com/wakingup Feminine Genius book ~ liyanasilver.com/femininegenius Breakthrough Session with LiYana ~ liyanasilver.com/breakthrough The Heartbreak Transformation Map ~ liyanasilver.com/map Fresh From The Fire newsletter ~ liyanasilver.com/newsletter Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce substack ~ liyanasilver.substack.com/ About LiYana Silver Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul. LiYana guides women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up. A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants.

  7. Aug 27

    When Everything Burns with HeatherAsh Amara

    Healing doesn't begin when we "rise from the ashes," but when we stop trying to avoid the fire. Welcome to this intimate, incendiary conversation with HeatherAsh Amara, mentor, land steward, philanthropist, and author of nine best-selling books, including Warrior Goddess Training. Listen in, friend, as Ash and I talk about walking through fire, not around it, and how that remakes us into the person who emerges on the other side of the wreckage. As well as how our deepest losses can become invitations into a more intimate relationship with ourselves. In this episode, look and listen for: The simple choice that transformed Ash's divorce from devastation into initiation.How Ash’s home and land was destroyed by wildfire, and what it taught her about presence, surrender, and staying with what cannot be saved.The difference between learning from the past and punishing yourself with it.The hidden agreements that heartbreak brings to the surface — including the belief, "I can't do this without them."Why so many of us have been taught to make romantic partnership the center of our lives — and what becomes possible when we stop.How to become the kind of person who can sit beside devastation without rushing to make it okay.What it actually means to refuse to abandon yourself in the middle of heartbreak. Consider that this impossible time in your life isn't asking you to be stronger but is simply asking you to stay. About HeatherAsh Amara Best-selling author, mentor, land steward, and philanthropist, HeatherAsh Amara has spent the last three decades guiding her many loyal readers through the challenging contradictions of modern life. Seamlessly weaving spiritual wisdom with proven, practical tools for individual growth, HeatherAsh is a dedicated steward in creating a more just, compassionate, and creative global community. HeatherAsh has written nine books and created numerous audio projects, including the bestseller Warrior Goddess Training, The Seven Secrets to Healthy, Happy Relationships with don Miguel Ruiz Jr., and her newest book Wild, Willing, Wise: An Interactive Guide for When to Paddle, When to Rest, and When to Jump Naked into the River of Life. When she’s home, HeatherAsh plants her feet in New Mexico, but as a lifelong nomad, she spends much of her time traveling, teaching, and writing in cafés around the world. Connect with HeatherAsh: Website: warriorgoddess.com Foundation: ashrose.org Facebook: facebook.com/thewarriorgoddessrevolution Instagram: instagram.com/thewarriorgoddessrevolution/ Substack, Out of the Fire: heatherash.substack.com/ Podcast, Warrior Goddess Revolution: https://warriorgoddess.com/podcast/ Books by HeatherAsh Amara A Little Book on Big Freedom: Discover the Four Elements of Transformation Warrior Goddess Training: Become the Woman You are Meant to Be Warrior Heart Practice: A Simple Process to Transform Confusion into Clarity and Pain into Peace Wild, Willing, and Wise: An Interactive Guide for When to Paddle, When to Rest, and When to Jump Naked into the River of Life Books & resources mentioned in the episode: Elizabeth Kübler-Ross and her work on The Five Stages of Grief LiYana Silver’s forthcoming book, Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce When you pre-order, you’ll receive two beautiful book bonuses: 1) The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and 2) Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A. Order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce + book bonuses: liyanasilver.com/wakingup About LiYana Silver Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul. LiYana guides women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up. A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants. Connect with LiYana: Website ~ liyanasilver.com Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book ~ liyanasilver.com/wakingup Feminine Genius book ~ liyanasilver.com/femininegenius The Heartbreak Transformation Map ~ liyanasilver.com/map Fresh From The Fire newsletter ~ liyanasilver.com/newsletter Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce substack ~ liyanasilver.substack.com/

  8. Aug 24

    What I Said When She Called Me Sobbing

    A client called me recently at 1am, direct from a fiery, final breakup. Her message was soaked with inky, bottom-of-the-well despair. What did I say to her? To her heartbreak? In her profound moment of loss? To help her make sense of her devastation — as well as past pain from her abandoning father that her devastation had resurfaced? In this episode, look and listen for: Exactly what I told that despairing, grieving, heartbroken client.Why we all feel like our feelings might kill us.Why resistance makes things worse.How to resist the urge to fix, fight, or flee the most intense emotions that come up in heartbreak.The phase of Dissolution: the second phase of the dark night of heartbreak, when things really start to fall apart; the most intense, acute phase.How to know you’re in Dissolution, what to do when you are, and the 'medicine' this phase holds.Why the phase of Dissolution is key to who you are becoming (on the other side of the ordeal).What Now: resources and a practice, ‘Feel Without Fleeing’ to deepen and actualize this in your moment-to-moment life . Resources: Pre-order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce and receive two beautiful book bonuses:1) The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and 2) Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A. liyanasilver.com/wakingup Breakthrough Session ("Metamorphosis"): In just a few hours together, using my elegant breakthrough methodology, we’ll transform that long-standing, hard-to-look-at pattern that’s been warping your sense of yourself and your relationships. Expect more to transform in a single session than in months with other modalities. 2-hour Intensive + 45-min Integration. Three spaces open. Let’s dig in.liyanasilver.com/breakthrough For all episodes, including on the first phase of Initiation, “Let This Heartbreak Remake You”, head to: podcast.liyanasilver.com About LiYana Silver Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul. For over 24 years, LiYana has guided women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up. A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants. Connect with LiYana: Website ~ liyanasilver.com The Heartbreak Transformation Map ~ liyanasilver.com/map Fresh From The Fire newsletter ~ liyanasilver.com/newsletter Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce substack ~ liyanasilver.substack.com/ Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book ~ liyanasilver.com/wakingup Feminine Genius book ~ liyanasilver.com/femininegenius

  9. Aug 20

    The Sacred Work of Falling Apart with Mirabai Starr

    The Sacred Work of Falling Apart with host LiYana Silver & guest Mirabai Starr What if the worst season of your life wasn't evidence that you've lost your way but an ancient passage that countless mystics have walked before you? In this luminous and deeply personal conversation, Mirabai Starr, translator of Dark Night of the Soul and author of Ordinary Mysticism and I explore the Dark Night of the Soul: what it is, what it isn't, and why experiences like heartbreak, divorce, grief, and profound loss can become unexpected doorways into a more intimate relationship with ourselves, with love, and with what is sacred. This is a conversation about surrender, soul, and the mysterious grace that sometimes arrives only after everything we thought would save us has fallen away. In this episode, look and listen for: What the mystics knew about heartbreak.What the "Dark Night of the Soul" actually is and why it's far more than simply going through a hard time.Why divorce can become one of life's deepest spiritual initiations, whether you left or were left.The surprising difference between suffering that breaks us and suffering that transforms us.The moment when the spiritual practices, beliefs, and certainties that once sustained us sometimes stop working, and why that's not failure.Understanding grief not as weakness but as evidence of our capacity to love.Why authenticity, not positivity, is the most healing companion during heartbreak.Mirabai's own extraordinary story of love, loss, spiritual abuse, divorce, and the death of her daughter Jenny, and how those experiences reshaped her understanding of the sacred.What the mystics mean when they say that something in us must die before something truer can be born.Why there isn't just one dark night but many, and how each one invites us into a deeper intimacy with life. I hope this conversation meets you in your own dark night of heartbreak, reminding you that you are not lost, even if everything familiar has fallen away. Sometimes the deepest transformation begins precisely where certainty ends. About Mirabai Starr Mirabai Starr is an award-winning author, internationally acclaimed speaker, and interspiritual teacher. In 2020, she was honored on Watkins’ list of the 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People. Drawing from 20 years of teaching Philosophy and World Religions and a lifetime of practice, Mirabai shares her wisdom worldwide on contemplative living, writing as a spiritual practice, and the transformational power of grief and loss. Mirabai has authored over a dozen books including Wild Mercy, Caravan of No Despair, and renowned translations of sacred literature, including Dark Night of the Soul. Her most recent book, Ordinary Mysticism, has been praised by Anne Lamott as “a gorgeous, transformative, welcoming book is for anyone who longs to feel more present, more alive, more joyful and aware of the holiness of daily life”. She lives with her extended family in the mountains of northern New Mexico. For more, visit www.mirabaistarr.com. Connect with Mirabai: Website: mirabaistarr.com Mirabai’s books: mirabaistarr.com/books/ Instagram: instagram.com/mirabaistarr Substack: mirabaistarr.substack.com Books & resources mentioned in the episode: Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed Caravan of No Despair by Mirabai Starr Dark Night of the Soul (Mirabai Starr's translation of St. John of the Cross) About LiYana Silver Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul. LiYana guides women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up. A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants. Connect with LiYana: Website ~ liyanasilver.com Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book ~ liyanasilver.com/wakingup Feminine Genius book ~ liyanasilver.com/femininegenius The Heartbreak Transformation Map ~ liyanasilver.com/map Fresh From The Fire newsletter ~ liyanasilver.com/newsletter Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce substack ~ liyanasilver.substack.com/ Pre-order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce by LiYana Silver And receive two beautiful book bonuses: 1) The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and 2) Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A. Order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce + book bonuses: liyanasilver.com/wakingup

  10. Aug 17

    Let This Heartbreak Remake You

    Welcome, friend, to the radical idea that shapes this entire podcast: Heartbreak isn’t just a breaking. It’s also an awakening. And a remaking. When you're navigating divorce, separation, or the collapse of a dream you built your life around, you may feel completely lost. But, friend, you’re not lost. You are somewhere. You’re in one of life's most profound rites of passage: a dark night of heartbreak. In this episode, look and listen for: Why heartbreak is far more than the end of a relationship; how it can become a profound spiritual initiation.A Dark Night of Heartbreak and it’s five phases, each that carry you from falling apart to emerging more fully awake, aligned, and lit-up.The first phase, Initiation: how you know you’re in it, what to do when you are, and the ‘medicine’ hidden inside it.My own dark night of heartbreak, journeying through illness and divorce, guided by my own inner nightlight.Three simple practices to help you resist trying to “get over,” “move on,” or just endure your ordeal, but instead to let this heartbreak remake you. Resources: Pre-order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce and receive two beautiful book bonuses:1) The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and2) Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A.liyanasilver.com/wakingupThe Heartbreak Transformation Map: a free guide clarifying why relationship loss feels so hard — and the five phases that help you through it.This map guides you through:The five phases of a Dark Night of HeartbreakWhat each phase is helping you learn, unlearn, and transformHow to identify the phase you're in right nowThe medicine available in each phaseThe mindset, tool, or skill that will often help when you’re in that particular phase (but might not work in another phase!) liyanasilver.com/map For all episodes, head to: podcast.liyanasilver.com About LiYana Silver Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul. For over 24 years, LiYana has guided women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up. A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants. Connect with LiYana: Website ~ liyanasilver.com The Heartbreak Transformation Map ~ liyanasilver.com/map Fresh From The Fire newsletter ~ liyanasilver.com/newsletter Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce substack ~ liyanasilver.substack.com/ Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book ~ liyanasilver.com/wakingup Feminine Genius book ~ liyanasilver.com/femininegenius

  11. Jul 13

    In We Go: Podcast Trailer with host LiYana Silver

    Welcome to Waking Up in Heartbreak. I suspect three things about you, if you’re here at a podcast titled Waking Up in Heartbreak: Your heart is shredded. Your identity is dissolving. What you’re going through is so intense and complex it feels like a dark night of the soul.Yes, you want relief. You want to be on the other side, glowing and confident. And you will. But something in you says, stay here for a spell: there’s something here in the very parts you’re tempted to skip over, that’s key to who you’re becoming. Who you become as you do the work of not skipping over, IS who helps you emerge.There is an impulse, an indomitable strength or inner fire in you -- even if it feels faint at the moment -- that won’t let up until you are more fully awake, lit-up, fully yourself. I think it’s precisely what led you here. Welcome. I’m LiYana Silver, author of Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius. I’ve been a relationship coach for nearly 25 years, guiding women (and their partners) through deep transformation, all the way through heartbreak to rebuilding lives and loves that are unapologetically alive, beautiful, meaningful. Here’s what we need to talk about: How to get through (but not bypass) the hardest partsWhy losing yourself in relationships, especially for women, is not an accident but by design.The inner work of reclaiming yourself that has to happen before you rebuild your life.Trusting yourself (again), being good to yourself, and being as big and bright as you truly are I know, this divorce or breakup feels like a failure, but it’s an initiation. I know you might feel all is lost. Or you are lost. But you are somewhere: in one of life’s most potent rites of passage. So come in close. Grab a soft blanket and warm beverage. Let this heartbreak wake you and remake you. About LiYana Silver Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul. For over 24 years, LiYana had guided women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up. A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants. Connect with LiYana: Website: liyanasilver.com Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book: liyanasilver.com/wakingup Feminine Genius book: liyanasilver.com/femininegenius The Heartbreak Transformation Map: liyanasilver.com/map Breakthrough 1:1 Session: liyanasilver.com/breakthrough Fresh From The Fire newsletter: liyanasilver.com/newsletter Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce substack: liyanasilver.substack. com/

    In We Go: Podcast Trailer with host LiYana Silver
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Extraordinary conversations and tools for getting through (not getting over) heartbreak, reclaiming what you lost along the way, and emerging awake, alive, and lit-up.

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  • Creator
    LiYana Silver
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    11
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Copyright 2026 LiYana Silver
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    Waking Up in Heartbreak

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