The Queering Committee

Jo M and Dominic D

No shame, No performing "palatable." Two queer friends, sometimes a guest, unpacking what it really means to exist queerly in the world today. Funny first, with a backbone; nothing's off-limits, but always delivered with care. Some weeks it's joy, some weeks it's the stuff that tests us. We remind you that queer joy is a right, not a privilege. New episodes every Friday.

  1. 5d ago

    Episode 16 - Getting older and owning it

    Queering Committee: Tove Lo, Bin Juice, birthdays, and getting older without giving a damn Two queer co-hosts, Dominic and Jo, kick off with playful chaos and turn it into a wide-ranging chat about nightlife, queer community, pop music, birthdays, ageing, and identity. The episode’s biggest thread is a love letter to Tove Lo and to spaces that feel inclusive, with a detour into a very sweaty Newcastle rave called Bin Juice and a lot of affectionate, messy life updates. Key topics Dominic and Jo introduce the show with their usual irreverent banter and set the tone: queer joy is the point.They talk about Tove Lo, including why they see her as a world-class artist who has stayed slightly under-recognized despite years of strong music.Jo explains the “Kia Asylum” as a joke for artists who grind for years before getting broader recognition.They discuss Tove Lo songs and projects, including Heat, “Habits,” “Grapefruit,” and If I Could, I Would, focusing on her openness about eating disorders and body image.They compare pop-star interview energy, referencing Madonna, Lady Gaga, and Katy Perry.They review Bin Juice, a queer rave in Newcastle, praising its inclusive crowd and welcoming atmosphere.They describe the rave’s wild outfits, including a hot dog costume, latex, gimp suits, and Dominic’s Ed Hardy pajama look.They discuss sobriety at nightlife events and how important it is for a rave to feel welcoming even when they are not drinking.The conversation turns to birthdays, age anxiety, and how getting older can mean caring less and feeling freer.Jo shares excitement about learning to DJ and skating as part of a queer self-discovery arc.They shout out friends and listeners, including Mia, James, Attunu, Sophie, Stacey Rect, Gretchen, and others.They hype up Halloween costume ideas, Primavera Sound plans, and the general chaos of being too busy, too gay, and too tired to be precious about anything.Notable quotes “Queer joy is a right and not a privilege.” “We’re all going to be dust soon. Might as well just scratch the f**k out of your phone screen.” Action items Send in Halloween costume ideas.Comment with suggestions for the final season one episode.Suggest future guests for season two.

  2. Oct 15

    Episode 15 - We answer your questions

    Two in-person hosts, Jo and Dominic, answer listener comments and questions in a fast, chaotic Q&A that moves between queer nightlife, sobriety, body confidence, and TV recommendations. They turn a casual fan-mail episode into a practical conversation about sober-friendly events, alongside honest takes on what makes going out feel fun. Key topics The hosts open by framing queer joy as a right, then set up the episode as a listener Q&A rather than a personal catch-up.They react to a listener compliment and joke that validation only counts when it comes from strangers or is “recorded.”They discuss American Horror Story, including how short the new season’s episodes feel and why that makes the show seem to move too fast.They compare reactions to The Beauty: one host calls it terrible but impossible to stop watching, and they joke about Ryan Murphy’s frequent casting choices.They answer a question about sober nightlife, explaining that they still go out but approach it differently—leaving earlier, prioritizing food, and avoiding the point when drunk energy turns leery.They make a case for more sober-aware queer events, including earlier start times, better non-alcoholic drink menus, and spaces for both dancing and sitting down.They share a positive example: Night of a Thousand Kylies, which had food, seating, performances, and room to support sober socializing without losing the party energy.They shout out drag performers and note that events with food and room to breathe can be easier to enjoy and less overstimulating.They answer a lighter question about queer siblings without picking a “cooler” sibling, instead giving a shoutout to Isabel and Mariam.They praise TK Syn’s dance music and joke that the dance floor has been revived.They discuss posting more confident, spicier selfies and not waiting for a “perfect” body before sharing content.They close with TV and film recommendations, including Girls and Teenage Sex and Death in Camp Miasma, and invite listeners to send in future questions.

  3. Oct 2

    Episode 13 - The Naked Episode

    Queer and Committee: Body image, body dysmorphia, and being visible onlineThis episode is a candid, funny, and vulnerable two-person conversation about body image, gender expression, and the emotional whiplash of posting personal content online. Dominic and Jo talk through what it means to be seen, misread, praised, criticized, and misunderstood, especially as non-binary and queer people. They also get into the practical side of body confidence, from fitness routines and food tracking to the ways dysmorphia distorts what you see in the mirror. In this episode, Jo reflects on going viral with short-form videos about being non-binary and mask-presenting, and how that opened up a larger conversation about visibility, self-expression, and criticism.Jo and Dominic discuss the gap in online conversations around non-binary transition, noting that there is often more content about trans men and trans women than about gender-fluid or gender-nonconforming experiences.They unpack how gendered language lands differently, including comments like “handsome,” and why well-meaning labels can still feel loaded or restrictive.The conversation turns to the reality of internet hate, including TERFs, trolls, bots, burner accounts, and the strange entitlement people feel when commenting on someone else’s page.Both speakers explore body dysmorphia in detail, describing how the mirror, photos, and compliments can all feel unreliable or distorted.Jo shares childhood experiences of being in a bigger body, being encouraged into unhealthy exercise habits, and not having the language to understand their gender identity at the time.Jo opens up about their own history with bulimia and anorexia, loose skin after weight loss, and the difference between healthy structure and obsessive control.Fitness is framed as both affirming and risky: running, gym routines, tracking food, and monitoring progress can be useful, but they can also slide into compulsion.The episode also touches on body confidence in queer spaces, including the vulnerability of taking a top off in a gay club and feeling seen alongside friends with different body types.The tone stays playful throughout, with quick-fire detours into pop culture, posturing, towels, and the chaos of recording while feeling exposed

  4. Sep 24

    Episode 12 - Jo is off their ADHD meds

    Queering Committee: Chainmaille, Car Bills, and American Horror Story Coven Dominic and Jo open with chaotic updates from their outfits, finances, and the sheer toll of a £606 car repair bill. From there, the conversation veers into queer language, ADHD meds, gay hairdressers, and a shared obsession with American Horror Story, especially Coven. In this episode, Dominic and Jo keep it loose, funny, and deeply personal. They talk about queer joy, being contrarian, budgeting under pressure, and why Coven still hits so hard. Key topics Dominic explains the chainmaille halter top from Holy Hell UK and how Sophie showed him the pieces like a celebrity fittingThey joke about appearance, outfits, and looking “medieval” from the waist upA surprise £606 car repair bill becomes a bigger discussion about mistrust, garages, and budgetingJo shares that they had to stop ADHD medication for now, and both hosts talk through stimulant and non-stimulant meds, side effects, and the fear mongering around themThey discuss queer language, including why “guys” feels gendered to some people and how they use it differentlyThe conversation turns to gay men, hairdressing, fashion, makeup, and why queer people often have a more objective eye for styleThey geek out over American Horror Story, especially Coven, Apocalypse, and Fiona Goode’s iconic linesThey riff on Jessica Lange, Angela Bassett, Papa Legba, and how absurdly quotable the show isThe hosts also touch on queer politics, revenge fantasy, and why so many characters in Coven are awful but satisfyingIn the final stretch, they plug queer events, a Pride 10K, Switchboard LGBT, and the World AIDS Day Red Run

  5. Sep 17

    Episode 11 - Grief, burnout, dinosaurs and Liza

    The Queering Committee — S1 , E11 - Grief, burnout, dinosaurs and LizaIn this episode, Dominic and Jo open up about burnout, friendship maintenance, and how hard it can be to tell the difference between rest and pushing through. They also veer into very specific but very funny territory, from the Great North Run to Jurassic Park, while keeping the conversation rooted in queer joy, creative work, and everyday survival. Key topicsDominic and Jo introduce the show, share their pronouns, and explore queer joy as a right, not a privilege.Jo talks about running the Great North Run, getting shouted out during the race, and finishing with a medal.The main discussion turns to burnout, including overload, schedule changes, messages, and everyday friction.They reflect on grind culture and the pressure to make every creative or social activity productive.Both hosts discuss self-care through running, the gym, creative work, and rest.Dominic shares a conversation about supporting friends when everyone is busy and plans keep falling through.They discuss grief and loss, including the death of a friend in recovery, the loss of a beloved dog named Bruno, and relationship loss without closure.The episode compares bereavement with breakup-style loss and the rumination each can create.The conversation shifts into a comedic discussion of Jurassic Park, Laura Dern, Jeff Goldblum, practical effects, and modern blockbusters.They also riff on gym behavior, fragile masculinity, energy drinks, ADHD medication, alcohol culture, and non-binary identity.

  6. Sep 10

    Episode 10 - We tried to shut Michael T Ogilvie up

    Michael T. Ogilvie on queer joy, dance pop, and building a pop identity Jo and Dominic sit down with Michael T. Ogilvie, the Northeast’s favourite gay pop star, for a wide-ranging chat about music, queer nightlife, and the realities of being an independent artist. The conversation moves from his earliest performances and first songs to the role of dance floors as queer safe spaces, with plenty of chaotic side quests along the way. In this episode, Michael shares how performance started young through ballet and musical theatre, how he shaped his sound through Kylie, Gaga, and 80s synth pop, and why his current releases are grounded in queer, camp, clubby energy. He also talks candidly about money, burnout, community, and why being yourself on stage matters just as much off it. Key topics Michael traces his love of performing back to age eight, when ballet and attention-seeking energy led him toward music and stage work.He explains that he started making his own music around 16 and burning tracks to CDs to play in his dad’s car.His first finished song was called Gravity, which he jokes should probably be leaked as a bootleg.He names Kylie, Gaga, and other big female pop icons as key influences, along with 80s synths and overproduced pop vocals.Michael says he is drawn to dance pop because the dance floor is a queer escape route, a place to be whoever you want for a few minutes and find community.He talks about the importance of queer venues and clubs as safe spaces, especially as nightlife keeps closing down.Shut Me Up is described as the dance floor side of his sound, while Flex is the darker, sluttier, more physical counterpart.Michael says his current creative rule is simple: if it is not queer, camp, or clubby, he is not posting it.He gets honest about being an independent artist, explaining that the work is huge, the returns are slow, and release day only shows about 10 percent of the effort.He reflects on taking breaks from music, then returning with a stronger sense of fulfillment, better boundaries, and a clearer idea of who he is.The discussion turns to nightlife, social confidence, and queer self-expression, including the value of being cringe, being visible, and not worrying so much about judgment.Michael shares his love for Newcastle’s queer scene, praising its drag, diversity, and community spirit while noting that support needs to extend beyond social media.He discusses drag talent he admires, including Danny Delonco and Gloria Love, and says he values kindness and backstage chemistry as much as stage skill.The episode wraps with talk of future projects, dream collaborations, and the continuing evolution of his pop sound.

  7. Sep 3

    Episode 9 - The Stacey Rhect Effect

    Stacey Rhect on drag, confidence, community, and staying sane in queer spaces In this episode, the Queering Committee is joined by drag artist Stacey Rhect for a chaotic, funny, and honest conversation about performance, identity, and the realities of queer life. Stacey talks about how drag changed her life, how she built confidence through the scene, and why community support matters when things get hard. We also discuss the etiquette of queer spaces, the pressures of drinking culture, and how working in drag can be both liberating and exhausting. Between the jokes, the episode lands on a clear message: queer joy matters, but so does looking after each other.   Key topics   •           Stacey Rhect shares how she got into drag after discovering it through YouTube and watching performers like Courtney Act and Willem. •           She explains how drag began as a creative outlet in Grimsby, then became a job when she started working in a gay bar and performing on the side. •           She talks about the evolution of her makeup, from three-hour drag faces to a faster 45-minute routine built through experience and lockdown practice. •           Stacey describes Stacey Rhect as both a persona and an extension of herself, used early on as a confidence crutch but now fully integrated into her identity. •           The conversation explores introversion, burnout, and why she values alone time even while working in highly social jobs. •           Stacey reflects on the importance of chosen family, naming her close circle and how they support each other through breakdowns, setbacks, and ridiculous holidays. •           We discuss the Newcastle queer scene, including its strengths, its concentration of venue ownership, and why that kind of monopoly can feel fragile. •           Stacey speaks candidly about harassment and inappropriate touching in both drag and non-drag settings, and how people often sexualize performance in ways that cross a line. •           She opens up about drinking culture in the queer community, how it nearly became overwhelming, and how sobriety and moderation helped her regain balance. •           The episode closes with a look at confidence, growth, and the need for queer people to stick together, especially as trans people and other minorities are increasingly targeted.

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No shame, No performing "palatable." Two queer friends, sometimes a guest, unpacking what it really means to exist queerly in the world today. Funny first, with a backbone; nothing's off-limits, but always delivered with care. Some weeks it's joy, some weeks it's the stuff that tests us. We remind you that queer joy is a right, not a privilege. New episodes every Friday.

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