Got Therapy?

Got Therapy?

What is self-esteem, really? In this episode of Got Therapy?, Dr. Michael Baltimore and Dr. Dan Rose reconsider self-esteem through a psychodynamic lens — not as a high score you defend, but as the acceptance of a complex, often conflicted self. The conversation moves through not-me states (the parts of ourselves we'd rather not own, from Sullivan and Bromberg), self-compassion, and why a rigid, always-positive self becomes brittle. Dan walks through normative narcissism after Kohut — why everyone feels a flash of "I don't measure up" driving past the neighbor's new car — the spectrum from healthy-level to disordered narcissism, and how mirroring and validation open the door to real change. Along the way: microtrauma and social comparison, holding a relationship with someone whose views you can't stand, and Fromm's question of having vs. being — the thread they carry into next week's "Cultivate Life." Chapters and timestamps are in the pinned comment. Got Therapy? makes complex psychological concepts accessible and practically applicable. New episodes weekly.

Episodes

  1. 12h ago

    Homecoming — Trauma, Therapy & The Odyssey EPISODE: 81

    What happens to the people who come home from the worst experiences of their lives — and never truly arrive? In Episode 81, Dr. Michael Baltimore and Dr. Dan Rose use Christopher Nolan's take on Homer's Odyssey as a lens on trauma, PTSD, shame, and the long road back home. It becomes an hour on containment, on why what we can't put into words we're doomed to put into action, on the risk of pushing healing too fast, and on what post-traumatic growth actually looks like when you refuse to romanticize the wound. Two clinicians thinking out loud about integrating the hardest things we carry. Chapters: 00:00 — Being heard vs. being fixed (containment) 04:30 — Nolan's Odyssey and the reveal that rewrites the story 08:18 — Coming home from war, but not arriving 14:11 — Calypso as the therapist on the island 25:33 — If you can't say it, you'll act it out 32:31 — PTSD: the event, the processing, the trigger 36:27 — Do no harm: the risk of moving too fast 37:58 — Post-traumatic growth 46:52 — Reaction vs. response 57:17 — What good therapy begins with Got Therapy? is a production of Midland Studios. Nothing in this episode is a substitute for individual therapy — if any of these themes land close to home, please reach out to a licensed clinician. Hosts: Dr. Michael Baltimore & Dr. Dan Rose Got Therapy? makes complex psychological concepts accessible and practically applicable. New episodes weekly. 00:00  Cold open (4th of July) 02:00  Self-esteem as accepting your complexity 03:30  Not-me states — Sullivan, Bromberg, and George Costanza 07:00  Self-compassion and giving yourself a break 09:00  Rigidity vs. flexibility — the stick that bends 10:00  Normative narcissism, Kohut, and the Porsche 911 15:00  Microtrauma and social comparison 18:00  Ethical codes and holding your neighbor 24:00  Ideology, the real, and conflict "all the way down" 27:00  Narcissism on a spectrum; the "phallic" type 30:00  Mirroring and validation in therapy 41:00  Countertransference and owning what's in you 45:00  Self-esteem, validation, and the classroom 49:00  Internalizing the therapeutic moment 51:00  Having vs. being — Fromm, and "cultivate life"

  2. Jul 16

    Got Therapy?: - What Self-Esteem Actually Is (It's Not Feeling Good)Ep80

    What is self-esteem, really? In this episode of Got Therapy?, Dr. Michael Baltimore and Dr. Dan Rose reconsider self-esteem through a psychodynamic lens — not as a high score you defend, but as the acceptance of a complex, often conflicted self. The conversation moves through not-me states (the parts of ourselves we'd rather not own, from Sullivan and Bromberg), self-compassion, and why a rigid, always-positive self becomes brittle. Dan walks through normative narcissism after Kohut — why everyone feels a flash of "I don't measure up" driving past the neighbor's new car — the spectrum from healthy-level to disordered narcissism, and how mirroring and validation open the door to real change. Along the way: microtrauma and social comparison, holding a relationship with someone whose views you can't stand, and Fromm's question of having vs. being — the thread they carry into next week's "Cultivate Life." Got Therapy? makes complex psychological concepts accessible and practically applicable. New episodes weekly. 00:00  Cold open (4th of July) 02:00  Self-esteem as accepting your complexity 03:30  Not-me states — Sullivan, Bromberg, and George Costanza 07:00  Self-compassion and giving yourself a break 09:00  Rigidity vs. flexibility — the stick that bends 10:00  Normative narcissism, Kohut, and the Porsche 911 15:00  Microtrauma and social comparison 18:00  Ethical codes and holding your neighbor 24:00  Ideology, the real, and conflict "all the way down" 27:00  Narcissism on a spectrum; the "phallic" type 30:00  Mirroring and validation in therapy 41:00  Countertransference and owning what's in you 45:00  Self-esteem, validation, and the classroom 49:00  Internalizing the therapeutic moment 51:00  Having vs. being — Fromm, and "cultivate life"

    Got Therapy?: - What Self-Esteem Actually Is (It's Not Feeling Good)Ep80

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What is self-esteem, really? In this episode of Got Therapy?, Dr. Michael Baltimore and Dr. Dan Rose reconsider self-esteem through a psychodynamic lens — not as a high score you defend, but as the acceptance of a complex, often conflicted self. The conversation moves through not-me states (the parts of ourselves we'd rather not own, from Sullivan and Bromberg), self-compassion, and why a rigid, always-positive self becomes brittle. Dan walks through normative narcissism after Kohut — why everyone feels a flash of "I don't measure up" driving past the neighbor's new car — the spectrum from healthy-level to disordered narcissism, and how mirroring and validation open the door to real change. Along the way: microtrauma and social comparison, holding a relationship with someone whose views you can't stand, and Fromm's question of having vs. being — the thread they carry into next week's "Cultivate Life." Chapters and timestamps are in the pinned comment. Got Therapy? makes complex psychological concepts accessible and practically applicable. New episodes weekly.