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Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo

Welcome to the SplitUp Podcast, your trusted guide through the challenges of divorce, separation, custody, and family law. Hosted by experienced family law attorney Launi Sheldon and forensic psychologist Dr. Robert DiCarlo, we’re here to provide compassionate, expert advice to help you navigate the legal and emotional complexities of family court. Each episode offers practical strategies, legal insights, and mental health tips to empower you during one of the most difficult times of your life. Whether you’re facing divorce, battling custody issues, or navigating high-conflict relationships, we’ve got your back. Join us as we break down the process step by step, tackle tough questions, and bring clarity to your unique situation. Let us hold your hand and help you move forward with confidence. Listen now and take the first step toward a better tomorrow! Keywords: Divorce, Custody, Family Court, Mental Health, Legal Guidance, Support, Co-Parenting, Separation, High Conflict.

  1. 3d ago ·  Video

    Thriving After Divorce

    Divorce can blow up your calendar, your finances, and your parenting plan, but the part that crushes people is often the ordinary silence: waking up and they’re not there, sitting down to dinner without your kids, realizing the future you pictured is gone. We wanted to talk about the emotional side that doesn’t get enough airtime and what it actually takes to thrive, not just survive. Launi Sheldon, an Arizona family law attorney, and Robert DiCarlo, an Arizona psychologist, unpack why separation creates layered grief all at once: loss of partnership, routine, identity, security, and even your connection to extended family and shared traditions. We make space for the messy truth that you can miss someone and still know the relationship needed to end, and we address a question so many people feel ashamed to say out loud: what if I still love my ex? Robert offers a powerful reframe that moves people forward without self-blame, plus practical ways to pause before sending the text you’ll regret. We also dig into co-parenting and kids, because you can’t simply “cut contact” when you share a child. We talk about transitions, tears, and how to be emotionally honest without accidentally making your child responsible for comforting you. If you’ve been triggered by your ex seeming happy, dating first, or building a new life faster than you, we explain why comparison keeps you stuck and how accountability can coexist with rebuilding. If you’re exhausted and just trying to get through tomorrow, we end with clear daily practices that build momentum: basics like sleep and meals, giving grief a place without living there, rebuilding identity in small steps, finding support without leaning on your kids, and doing one thing that belongs to your future. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs a steady voice right now, and leave a review so more people can find support when it matters most.

  2. 3d ago ·  Video

    Weighing In On Halle Berry's Custody Dispute.

    Headlines about celebrity custody battles make it feel like we’re watching a simple story with a hero and a villain. The truth is usually messier and the public rarely has the facts that matter most. We use the recent Halle Berry custody news as a case study to explain what court documents really mean, what they don’t prove, and why “court of public opinion” is a terrible substitute for family court evidence. From the forensic psychologist side, we talk through how a custody evaluation is supposed to work: start with the right questions, gather information from multiple sources, test competing narratives, and stay honest about uncertainty. We also dig into the realities of allegations and counterclaims, including how CPS or DCS investigations may get triggered, why false allegations can happen, and how parental alienation concerns show up when parents are entrenched in conflict. Then we get concrete with co-parenting communication. We read and analyze co-parent text messages, discuss why context is everything, and unpack a common flashpoint in parenting time disputes: when kids try to decide where they will be. We also explore child preference, loyalty binds, and how sports, routines, and “flexibility” can either support a child or quietly inflame a custody fight. And yes, we go there on courtroom presentation, impression management, and the halo effect, because bias is real even when everyone wants to be objective. If you’re navigating divorce, custody, or co-parenting conflict, subscribe for more grounded guidance, share this with someone who’s stuck in the headline vortex, and leave a review so more parents can find the show.

  3. Oct 29 ·  Video

    Smart Fixes That Help A Divorce Home Sell Faster

    Selling a house during divorce can feel like you’re trying to make huge financial choices while carrying a ton of emotional weight, and that’s exactly why the basics have to be tight. We’re joined by Matt Sheldon, a real estate broker with more than 20 years of experience (and plenty of house flipping reps), to talk through what actually moves the needle when you need to sell a marital home without wasting money or time. We dig into the highest ROI updates you can make on a limited budget, starting with fresh interior and exterior paint, then moving into why kitchens and bathrooms tend to drive buyer demand. We also break down the pricing mistakes that quietly kill showings, including pricing bands and the trap of listing too high and “chasing” the market with cuts. If you want a more confident plan, we explain how CMAs and broker price opinions can help you set a realistic list price that attracts the biggest pool of buyers. From there, we get tactical about sellability: decluttering, depersonalizing, deep cleaning, and even managing odors so buyers feel good the moment they walk in. Matt shares what your Realtor should handle, why professional photography is a must for online home searches, and how a well written listing description (yes, AI can help if used carefully) supports the story the photos start. We wrap with curb appeal, agent communication that keeps deals alive through inspection, and a calmer mindset for the three to four week sprint to closing. If this helped, subscribe, share it with a friend going through a divorce, and leave a review with your biggest home selling question so we can tackle it next.

  4. Oct 8 ·  Video

    Divorce In A Day - Talking with Kate Simonds to explain her “Divorce In A Day” mediation service .

    Can an Arizona divorce be settled in one day—and can parents create a workable custody and parenting plan without a prolonged court battle? On this episode of SplitUp, Launi Sheldon speaks with Arizona family law attorney Kate Simonds about her “Divorce In A Day” mediation service. They explore how Arizona couples can resolve divorce, legal decision-making, parenting time, child support, spousal maintenance, and property division through a focused, carefully prepared mediation process. “Divorce In A Day” begins before the mediation session. The mediators gather financial information, verify income and account balances, identify the issues that must be resolved, and prepare proposed dissolution documents in advance. The spouses then participate in one structured mediation day designed to help them reach informed agreements and sign the necessary paperwork. Kate explains why the process uses two neutral attorney mediators. One mediator works with each spouse simultaneously, allowing questions and proposals to move between the parties without leaving either person waiting and imagining the worst. The goal is to keep negotiations productive, fact-based, and focused on workable solutions. In this episode, Launi and Kate discuss: - How divorce mediation works in Arizona - What “Divorce In A Day” actually means - Arizona’s mandatory 60-day divorce waiting period - Maricopa County’s summary consent process - When a signed divorce settlement becomes binding - Child custody terminology in Arizona - Legal decision-making and parenting time - Creating a detailed, child-focused parenting plan - Calculating Arizona child support - Understanding spousal-maintenance calculations - Dividing assets, debts, businesses, and complex estates - Mediation for unmarried parents and paternity cases - Flat-fee divorce mediation and predictable costs - Safety protocols when domestic violence is a concern - When divorce or custody mediation is not appropriate Kate also explains how mediation can help parents build a strong parenting plan covering schedules, holidays, transportation, communication, decision-making, and other practical co-parenting issues. For some unmarried parents, resolving paternity, legal decision-making, parenting time, and child support may be the primary objective. The episode also addresses safety. Depending on the circumstances, mediation may use separate rooms, staggered arrivals and departures, and virtual participation. Cases involving safety risks, hidden assets, incomplete financial disclosure, coercion, or an unwillingness to negotiate may not be appropriate for this process. “Divorce In A Day” does not eliminate Arizona’s statutory waiting period, guarantee agreement, or mean that every divorce is legally finalized in one day. It means qualifying couples may be able to negotiate their settlement and sign prepared documents during one concentrated mediation session. If you are navigating divorce, child custody, co-parenting, or parenting-plan issues in Arizona, this episode of SplitUp offers a practical look at resolving family-law disputes with less time, expense, and conflict. Subscribe to SplitUp with Launi Sheldon for candid conversations about divorce, custody, co-parenting, parenting plans, mediation, and rebuilding life after separation. What is your biggest question about settling an Arizona divorce or custody matter without going to court? Leave it in the comments. Important: This episode provides general educational information and is not legal advice. Watching or listening does not create an attorney-client relationship. Family-law outcomes depend on the facts of each case. Consult a qualified attorney regarding your circumstances

  5. Sep 29 ·  Video

    Should You Visit School During The Other Parent's Parenting TIme

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  6. Sep 22 ·  Video

    Co-Parenting When You Hate Your Ex

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  7. Sep 8 ·  Video

    Inside Family Court Psychology

    You see a custody evaluator’s name on a court order and suddenly it feels like your entire future rides on one person’s opinion. We get that. So we pulled Dr. Robert DiCarlo, a licensed psychologist in Arizona and Split Up co-founder, into the hot seat to unpack who he is, how he’s trained, and what actually happens inside family court psychology when the facts are messy and emotions are louder than logic. Robert shares his winding path from psychology and criminology to sociology, community mental health, and a doctoral degree in counseling psychology with research and clinical depth. From there, he explains why family court forensics grabbed him: the complexity, the high stakes, and the painful reality that two parents can tell totally plausible stories that point in opposite directions. We talk about how evaluators manage bias, why a single “bad first impression” should not decide a case, and how a child’s voice can be both crucial and complicated when kids resist or refuse parenting time. We also break down the different roles psychologists play: custody evaluations and comprehensive family evaluations, co-parenting coaching, reunification therapy, and court-appointed interventions. You’ll hear why collaborative divorce can feel lighter than litigation, what it’s like to testify as an expert witness, and why evaluators often cannot defend themselves publicly when criticism turns into social media campaigns or board complaints. We close with a real-world warning about domestic violence, coercive control, and how “small” choices like physical contact, snooping, or social posts can become damaging evidence. If this helped you think more clearly about divorce, custody, co-parenting, or family court, subscribe, share the episode with someone who’s overwhelmed, and leave a review so more parents can find practical, grounded support.

  8. Aug 25 ·  Video

    Following up about telling about infidelity

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Welcome to the SplitUp Podcast, your trusted guide through the challenges of divorce, separation, custody, and family law. Hosted by experienced family law attorney Launi Sheldon and forensic psychologist Dr. Robert DiCarlo, we’re here to provide compassionate, expert advice to help you navigate the legal and emotional complexities of family court. Each episode offers practical strategies, legal insights, and mental health tips to empower you during one of the most difficult times of your life. Whether you’re facing divorce, battling custody issues, or navigating high-conflict relationships, we’ve got your back. Join us as we break down the process step by step, tackle tough questions, and bring clarity to your unique situation. Let us hold your hand and help you move forward with confidence. Listen now and take the first step toward a better tomorrow! Keywords: Divorce, Custody, Family Court, Mental Health, Legal Guidance, Support, Co-Parenting, Separation, High Conflict.

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  • Creator
    Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    23
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