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Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo
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Welcome to the SplitUp Podcast, your trusted guide through the challenges of divorce, separation, custody, and family law. Hosted by experienced family law attorney Launi Sheldon and forensic psychologist Dr. Robert DiCarlo, we’re here to provide compassionate, expert advice to help you navigate the legal and emotional complexities of family court. Each episode offers practical strategies, legal insights, and mental health tips to empower you during one of the most difficult times of your life. Whether you’re facing divorce, battling custody issues, or navigating high-conflict relationships, we’ve got your back. Join us as we break down the process step by step, tackle tough questions, and bring clarity to your unique situation. Let us hold your hand and help you move forward with confidence. Listen now and take the first step toward a better tomorrow! Keywords: Divorce, Custody, Family Court, Mental Health, Legal Guidance, Support, Co-Parenting, Separation, High Conflict.

Episodes

  1. 4d ago

    Should you talk to the kids about infidelity

    We break down how to tell kids you’re getting divorced without dumping adult pain onto them, and why the first conversation matters less than the calm pattern you set afterward. We also dig into cheating disclosures, revenge impulses, and practical co-parenting rules that protect your kids and your case.  • planning the talk around safety, timing, and emotional regulation  • using a simple child-sized script that centers love and stability  • anticipating kids’ concrete worries about routines, school, and pets  • tailoring language for preschoolers versus teens while keeping boundaries  • why kids do not need cheating details and how loyalty binds form  • responding when teens push for “the truth” without oversharing  • how revenge shows up through kids, texts, and social media  • why courts scrutinize disparaging posts and alienating behavior  • showing sadness in a healthy way without making kids caretakers  • special-case guidance for domestic violence and substance abuse  • rebuilding co-parenting trust through consistency and predictability  • protecting kids from being messengers, spies, therapists, or judges  If you found today’s episode helpful in any way, we really appreciate you sharing our podcasts and signing up for our social media and of course downloading the split up app if it’s you know if it’s something that could be helpful to you for you or a friend

  2. 4d ago

    SplitUp App Launch Day

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  3. Jul 19

    Co-Parenting Plans That Actually Work - With Guest Annette Burns

    The fastest way to blow up co-parenting isn’t a major legal fight. It’s the daily grind: the missing sweatshirt, the “forgotten” school gear, the watch that tracks the other parent’s address, and the two-page email that ruins your nervous system for the rest of the day. We sit down with Arizona certified family law specialist and author Annette Burns to talk about how to design a parenting plan that actually works once real life hits. We get specific about kids’ possessions and how to stop the constant back-and-forth over clothing, shoes, lunchboxes, comfort items, and “it’s definitely at your house” arguments. Annette shares simple systems that reduce conflict, like using one calm inventory email on a schedule, staying neutral, and knowing when it’s cheaper and healthier to replace an item than to keep the fight alive. We also unpack parallel parenting and why being more disengaged can be a smart, healthy strategy rather than a failure. Then we tackle modern parenting-plan landmines: GPS watches, Apple Watches, phones, location tracking, cloud accounts, and password sharing that can accidentally expose way more than a kid’s device settings. We also discuss teen driving and why a written driver agreement covering readiness, cars, insurance, passengers, and sibling transport can prevent chaos when your child hits 15 and a half. If your co-parent’s communication goes off the rails, we close with BIFF-based tools, boundary lines, and when “received, disagree” is the only reply you need. If this helped, subscribe, share it with a co-parent or friend, and leave a review so more parents can find practical co-parenting and parenting plan guidance.

  4. 09/05/2025

    Beyond Divorce: Dating with Kids

    Moving on after divorce isn't just about you—it's about your kids and how they adapt to seeing their parents with new partners. • Children need time to adjust to the major life change of divorce before meeting new partners • Experts recommend waiting at least six months before introducing kids to a new romantic partner • Introducing partners too soon can trigger anxiety, attachment issues, and co-parenting conflicts • Courts don't prohibit dating but may question judgment if multiple partners are introduced quickly • Parents should be honest but age-appropriate when discussing dating with their children • Social media posts with new partners can inflame tensions and provide ammunition in court • When children reject new partners, patience is key—don't force relationships • Identify your emotions when jealous about an ex dating to manage reactions effectively • Consider background checks on potential partners for safety and peace of mind • Move forward romantically while prioritizing children's emotional needs and stability Split Up takes you through every stage from considering divorce to dating again and even remarriage, providing guidance for each step of your journey.

  5. 09/05/2025

    Beyond the Couch: When Parents Disagree on Child Counseling

    We explore the emotional and complex conflict that arises when one parent feels their child needs therapy after divorce while the other parent opposes it, examining both legal pathways and psychological perspectives to help families prioritize children's mental health needs. • The scenario of Emily – one parent wants counseling for anxiety, possible self-harm; other parent refuses • Legal decision-making requires joint agreement for counseling in most cases • Many counselors require both parents' consent even with sole legal decision-making • Steps to resolve disagreements: attempt mediation before court intervention • Building a court case with school reports, doctor recommendations, and behavior timelines • Consulting the child's pediatrician for professional recommendations carries weight • Addressing concerns about stigma – therapy typically provides relief, not labels • Children experiencing divorce may face grief, anxiety, guilt, depression requiring support • Crisis situations with self-harm or suicidal ideation require immediate emergency response • Forensic professionals consider multiple hypotheses when symptoms appear in one household • Finding common ground through time-limited counseling trials and reevaluation If you're having issues navigating co-parenting conflicts around counseling, download Split Up for more in-depth strategies to help you co-parent effectively.

  6. 09/05/2025

    Beyond the Recording: When Evidence Backfires

    Parents recording their children to gather evidence for family court cases can be problematic, potentially backfiring legally and causing psychological harm to children caught in the middle of custody battles. The hosts examine when documentation helps versus when it makes a parent look unreasonable to judges who regularly see severe cases of abuse and neglect. • Photos of minor injuries like bruises from normal childhood activities often appear trivial to judges • Children may sense parental reactions and say what they think parents want to hear • Recording without a child's knowledge can breach trust and damage your relationship • Courts may view recorded evidence as coaching or manipulation • Professional documentation through therapists or medical providers carries more weight • Communication with your co-parent before making accusations demonstrates good co-parenting • Forensically-informed therapists understand how to properly document concerns • Parents have a legal duty to report legitimate abuse concerns to proper authorities • Consider the emotional impact on your child before recording them for evidence • Focus on the child's best interests rather than winning your legal case Subscribe to Split Up, your app and resource for navigating family court and co-parenting and beyond.

  7. 09/05/2025

    Celebrity SplitUp: Jessica Simpson

    Jessica Simpson's recent divorce from Eric Johnson highlights crucial issues facing families with children of different ages, examining how kids from preschool to pre-teen process separation differently and what parents can do to support healthy adjustment. • Children at different developmental stages experience divorce distinctively – 4-year-olds may believe it's their fault while 10-11-year-olds often assign blame • Preschoolers show signs through regression, separation anxiety, and behavioral changes while older children may externalize with anger or internalize with anxiety • Parents should never tell children "they left us" as this incorrectly suggests abandonment rather than ending a marital relationship • Age-appropriate explanations about divorce avoid details about affairs or betrayal that damage parent-child relationships • Children should not be told why parents are divorcing as adult relationship complexities are beyond their comprehension • Books like "It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear" help reinforce important messages that divorce isn't the child's fault • Virtual parenting through video calls requires different approaches based on age – structured activities work better than simple conversations • Creative solutions include participating in daily routines via video, playing online games together, or synchronized movie watching • Collaborative custom parenting plans work better than standardized court orders for addressing unique family needs • Professional mediators, forensic psychologists and collaborative divorce attorneys can help create tailored arrangements that truly serve children's interests Download our Split Up app for guidance through family court issues, and contact us with questions or topic suggestions for future episodes.

  8. 09/05/2025

    Designing Smarter Parenting Plans

    Family law experts Annette Burns and Nicole Segueiro-Stoutner introduce SPARK—an innovative method for crafting parenting plans that work better for families during divorce or separation. They share practical advice for creating agreements that stand the test of time while remaining focused on children's best interests. • SPARK stands for Sustainable, Precise, Attainable, Reduces conflict, and Kid-focused • Sustainability means planning for how children's needs change over time, not just current circumstances • Precision requires specific language about times, dates, and responsibilities instead of vague terms like "reasonable" • Attainable provisions recognize real-world constraints like parents' work schedules and geographic distance • Reducing conflict includes respectful communication protocols and clearly defined decision-making processes • Kid-focused plans prioritize children's needs over exact equality in parenting time • Common pitfalls include first right of refusal clauses that create "stalking" behavior between parents • Parallel parenting may be necessary and appropriate for high-conflict situations • Consider specific provisions for international travel based on State Department safety ratings • Avoid provisions requiring identical household routines as they're rarely attainable Check out Annette and Nicole's book "Co-Parenting by Design: The Definitive Guide for Divorced or Separated Parents" for more in-depth guidance on creating effective parenting plans. - https://amzn.to/48GkJDa

  9. 09/05/2025

    Divorce in the Spotlight: Justin and Haley Bieber

    We dive into the rumors about Justin and Haley Bieber's divorce, examining what it might look like from legal and psychological perspectives when ultra-wealthy celebrities with a young child separate. • Justin and Haley have a postnuptial agreement (not a prenup) to handle their considerable wealth • Justin reportedly earns $5-10 million monthly while Haley earns $500K-1M monthly • California has no cap on child support, potentially resulting in payments of $40K-100K monthly • Touring schedules create unique custody challenges requiring creative parenting plans • Virtual parenting effectiveness varies dramatically based on child age and parent skills • Children experience different psychological impacts when moving between households with vast wealth disparities • Past controversial associations may affect custody only if they demonstrate current poor judgment • Co-parenting in the public eye adds significant stress to already challenging transitions Download the Split Up app for assistance with your family law case. This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or psychological advice.

  10. 09/05/2025

    Politics, Parents, and Protecting Children

    Political differences between divorced parents can create emotional battlegrounds where children feel caught in the middle and pressured to choose sides. • Children around age 12 are developing abstract thinking and exploring concepts like fairness and justice • Instead of forcing viewpoints, parents should teach critical thinking skills through open-ended questions • Cognitive dissonance from conflicting parental narratives can cause anxiety and stress for children • "Adultification" occurs when parents burden children with age-inappropriate political content • Parenting plans should include specific language about political discussions and activities • Documentation is crucial when addressing concerning behaviors from the co-parent • Focus on shared values like fairness, honesty and respect creates consistency across households • Modeling respectful disagreement teaches children valuable skills for navigating diverse viewpoints • Mediation offers effective alternatives to court battles when political conflicts arise • The goal isn't eliminating disagreement but managing conflict in ways that prioritize children's wellbeing Download our Split Up app for more resources and join our premium subscribers' Facebook group to ask questions about navigating political differences while co-parenting.

  11. 09/05/2025

    Splitup: Your Guide Through Family Court

    Launi and Robert, experts in family law and psychology, introduce Split Up—an innovative app designed to guide people through the legal and emotional aspects of divorce and family court proceedings. • 85% of people in family court are unrepresented, primarily due to the high cost of legal representation • Split Up provides structured guidance through videos and resources for all types of family court cases • The app addresses both legal procedures and emotional challenges of divorce and separation • Users receive step-by-step guidance on preparing documents, court appearances, and navigating the legal system • Psychological support is provided for managing stress, anxiety, and difficult emotions • Co-parenting strategies are emphasized as a crucial component beyond the initial divorce • Live sessions will be available for premium members to ask questions directly • Community support through Facebook and the app allows users to connect with others going through similar experiences Join us as we help you navigate the family court system with confidence and emotional resilience. Visit our website to learn more about Split Up and how it can support you through this challenging time.

  12. 09/05/2025

    When Sports Spark Conflict

    We tackle the thorny issue of extracurricular activities in high-conflict co-parenting situations, navigating the clashing perspectives of legal rights versus psychological wellbeing of children. This candid conversation reveals how activities meant to enrich children's lives often become battlegrounds between divorced parents. • Understanding that high-conflict dynamics don't require mental health issues—context and circumstances create conflict between any two people • Recognizing that children don't calculate parenting time—they just want to participate in activities they love • Extracurricular activities offer numerous benefits: physical health, improved self-esteem, reduced anxiety, enhanced social skills • The "parent-coach" dynamic creates unique challenges when coaching positions become mechanisms for control • Sometimes being the "bigger parent" means stepping back from conflict even when you're right • Children may tell different stories to each parent, creating triangulation that worsens co-parenting conflicts • Creating specific parenting plans that address extracurricular activities helps prevent ongoing disputes • Using neutral communication tools like co-parenting apps can reduce conflict and provide documentation Check out our app Split Up for resources and tips on effective co-parenting in all areas, not just during divorce and separation, but for the ongoing journey of co-parenting.

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Welcome to the SplitUp Podcast, your trusted guide through the challenges of divorce, separation, custody, and family law. Hosted by experienced family law attorney Launi Sheldon and forensic psychologist Dr. Robert DiCarlo, we’re here to provide compassionate, expert advice to help you navigate the legal and emotional complexities of family court. Each episode offers practical strategies, legal insights, and mental health tips to empower you during one of the most difficult times of your life. Whether you’re facing divorce, battling custody issues, or navigating high-conflict relationships, we’ve got your back. Join us as we break down the process step by step, tackle tough questions, and bring clarity to your unique situation. Let us hold your hand and help you move forward with confidence. Listen now and take the first step toward a better tomorrow! Keywords: Divorce, Custody, Family Court, Mental Health, Legal Guidance, Support, Co-Parenting, Separation, High Conflict.

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  • Creator
    Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    12
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 SPLITUP
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