Stories From The Lost and Found: The Journey Back to Self

Krishna Avalon
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Have you ever felt lost — like no matter how much work you've done, something is still holding you back? There’s nothing wrong with you. There are simply parts of you that need your attention: stories and patterns you need space to be with. This podcast is here to give you tools to finally move forward. I'm Krishna Avalon — subconscious therapist and breakthrough coach. I’ve spent 24 years cultivating a process that creates immediate change that lasts. My training includes PSYCH-K, Internal Family Systems (IFS), a master’s in psychology, and 24 years as an acupuncturist. Stories from the Lost and Found is where we go beneath the surface — into the subconscious programming, the wounded parts, and the real human experiences that shape who we are and how we live. Each week I bring you solo episodes and honest guest conversations about healing, self-sabotage, relationships, and what it actually takes to find your way back to yourself. Expect depth, tools you can use, and stories that remind you you're not alone. New episodes every Thursday. Come find the parts of yourself you thought were lost and the brilliance within you waiting to be found.

  1. 4d ago

    Chronic Pain

    Krishna explains how chronic pain may function as a protector within the Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework, especially when medical tests have not identified a structural cause. She introduces subconscious beliefs that can keep the body on guard and guides listeners through a gentle practice of slowing down, noticing pain with curiosity, and building a sense of connection, which is often what your body needs to heal. Takeaways What if your pain is a protector part of your system, not an enemy? Your body is trying to give you information. It needs your presence, curiosity, compassion, and witnessing. Chapters 00:00 When pain is real but tests offer no explanation 02:11 How unresolved overwhelm may leave the body on guard 03:52 Four subconscious beliefs behind bracing and disconnection 06:28 IFS: pain as protector, with a younger part underneath 08:57 Self energy and Psyche-K's approach to subconscious patterns 11:06 Why affirmations may not shift deeply held beliefs 12:38 Guided practice: meet pain with breath and curiosity 16:39 Making space for anger and other protective parts 18:37 Ask what the pain wants you to know 20:10 Repeat the practice and build trust with your body Website: http://www.krishnaavalon.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/krishnaavalon Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/krishnaavalon LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/krishnaavalon Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@krishnaavalon

  2. Oct 29

    Breaking the Patterns That Keep You From Love with Joel Monteleone

    In this episode of Stories From The Lost & Found, I sit down with Joel Monteleone to talk about why successful women struggle to find love and how to stop overthinking dating, shift limiting beliefs and create the relationship they desire. Joel is a relationship coach, host of Hotter Together and founder of Hot Takes Hot Dates, a live dating event in Austin. We talk about why trust matters more than control, how our subconscious beliefs sabotage connection and why finding love starts with how we show up for ourselves. Joel also opens up about his journey from partying and feeling unworthy to creating a life rooted in self-respect and intentional choices. In this episode, we explore: Why successful women can manifest everything except the relationship they desire.How beliefs like “all the good men are taken” keep you stuck in dating patterns.Why unanswered texts, icks and red flags can trigger old wounds and sabotage connection.How getting out of the house and building community opens up new possibilities for love.How Joel broke free from partying, drinking and the belief that he wasn't good enough.Why lasting change comes from choosing your future over your fear and meeting your wounded parts with compassion.Joel's story is such a powerful reminder that we don't have to keep living from the beliefs that once kept us safe. When we stop trying to control every outcome, meet our fears with compassion and start making choices aligned with who we want to become, everything can shift. Tune in for an honest and empowering conversation about dating, self-worth, subconscious beliefs, self-sabotage, relationships and what becomes possible when you learn to trust yourself and open up to love. Guest Links: Website: https://joelmonteleone.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joel_monteleone Work with Joel: https://stan.store/joel_monteleone Download my free workbook: https://www.krishnaavalon.com/ Website: http://www.krishnaavalon.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/krishnaavalon Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/krishnaavalon LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/krishnaavalon Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@krishnaavalon

    Breaking the Patterns That Keep You From Love with Joel Monteleone

  3. Oct 22

    Indecision

    This episode explores the subconscious programs that influence indecision, focusing on how trust in oneself can be built to improve decision-making.  The subconscious programs behind indecision How trust in oneself is built through reprogramming the subconscious mind The role of Internal Family Systems in decision-making Using PSYCH-K to expand feeling safe to make decisions in the subconscious The impact of early childhood experiences on current decision patterns The difference between failure and success in subconscious programming The importance of Self energy and self-trust in decision-making Practical exercises for connecting with and supporting indecisive parts Indecision is a protector part of your system, not a flaw in character. Building trust in yourself requires reprogramming subconscious beliefs. The inner manager part keeps you safe by avoiding failure and success. Expanding your safety in the subconscious allows for more confidence in decision-making. "Success has a hidden cost." "Wanting more can threaten connection." "Choosing becomes a step, not a cliff." Chapters 00:00 Understanding the safety of indecision 02:01 The middle ground: a holding pattern of safety 06:26 The young exile carrying original wounds 08:30 Expanding the safety band through reprogramming 11:02 From fear to step: transforming indecision into action 12:14 The power of self-energy and compassion 13:16 Building relationship with indecisive parts 14:00 Validation and witnessing of inner parts 15:23 Extending Self-energy to support inner parts 16:00 Invitation to continue the journey of trust Each solo episode explores a pattern that many of us carry, as both a subconscious program installed early in life and a protective part through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS). Because these patterns live beneath conscious awareness, understanding them intellectually is never quite enough. That’s why every episode ends with an integration practice, a gentle, guided experience designed to give your nervous system something new to work with. Not more information to carry, but an actual felt sense to shift the pattern. This is how neuroplasticity works, the brain’s ability to form new neural pathways, not through insight alone, but through new experience, repeated over time. Website: http://www.krishnaavalon.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/krishnaavalon Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/krishnaavalon LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/krishnaavalon Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@krishnaavalon

  4. Oct 15

    Marketing That Actually Converts with Jessica Krewson

    In this episode of Stories From The Lost & Found, I sit down with Jessica Krewson to talk about how to grow your email list and build funnels that convert. Jessica is the founder of Design Krew and has spent 15 years building the funnels behind six-figure launches, including a single webinar that closed $100,000 in sales for a client. We talk about why most businesses don’t need more marketing, they need marketing that actually converts to an offer, and how a small list of raving fans can create a six-figure launch without running ads. Jessica also opens up about untangling her identity from her business and her changing relationship with failure. In this episode, we explore: - Why growing your email list matters more than ever as Meta limits, shadow bans and shuts down accounts. - How to create a free offer, like a short video, that soothes your ideal client’s 2 a.m. problem in 15 minutes or less. - How a $27 webinar, a small but loyal email list and zero paid ads led to a six-figure launch. - Three simple ways to get your emails out of spam and promotions and into the primary inbox. - The three-email strategy: a value email, a promotional email and a quick “hand raiser.” - How Jessica separated her identity from her business and stopped believing in failure. Jessica’s story is such a powerful reminder that you don’t need a huge audience to have a giant impact, but you do need strategy and support. And when fear of being seen, fear of failing or that feeling of being alone in your business shows up, those are often parts of us trying to keep us safe. We don’t need to push them away. We can meet them with compassion, stay with them and keep going. Tune in for an honest and practical conversation about email marketing, conversion funnels, visibility, video, webinar launches, entrepreneurship and what becomes possible when your business is no longer who you are. Guest Links: Website: https://www.designkrew.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/designkrew/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/designkrew Download my free workbook: https://www.krishnaavalon.com/ Website: http://www.krishnaavalon.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/krishnaavalon Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/krishnaavalon LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/krishnaavalon Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@krishnaavalon

    Marketing That Actually Converts with Jessica Krewson

  5. Oct 8

    The Perfectionist

    Perfectionism Is a Protection System This solo episode breaks down perfectionism as a subconscious safety strategy, not a character flaw. Krishna Avalon explains how conditional worth gets encoded early, how internal family systems maps the perfectionist manager and the younger exile underneath, and how that pattern can be updated at the nervous system level. We discuss where perfectionism comes from, why it keeps moving the goalpost, and how self-energy creates enough safety for the system to soften. The episode ends with a guided practice to help you notice and meet the part of you that rushes, criticizes, or never lets you land. Key topics Perfectionism is framed as a protection system, not a standard of excellenceThe core subconscious programs behind it are named explicitly:My worth is conditional on my performanceGood enough is never actually enoughIf I relax my standards, everything will fall apartPerformance is broadened beyond work to include emotions, appearance, behavior, and how little trouble you causeThe developmental roots are traced to conditional praise, a perfectionistic household atmosphere, instability, or a formative humiliationIn Internal Family Systems terms, the perfectionist is a manager part trying to prevent exposure and lossThe manager’s strategies include constant monitoring, moving the bar, preemptive overexplaining, and deflecting complimentsThe exile underneath carries the wound of conditional worth and the longing to be loved for being, not producingSelf-energy is presented as calm, compassionate, playful presence that can help the manager step backThe episode explains why insight alone is not enough and introduces Psyche as a way to update subconscious programming in a whole brain stateThe closing practice invites listeners to slow down, notice sensations, and offer the protective part respect and permission Timestamps 00:00 - Why perfectionism is really about fear, not standards 02:45 - What this episode will cover and how the practice fits in 03:43 - The core subconscious programs driving perfectionism 04:13 - Worth becoming conditional on performance 05:39 - Why good enough never feels enough 06:41 - Why relaxing standards feels dangerous from the inside 07:47 - Where perfectionist programs come from in early development 10:25 - The perfectionist as a manager part in IFS 11:44 - Monitoring, revising, and mentally replaying everything 12:23 - How perfectionism shapes how you receive compliments 13:28 - The exile carrying the wound of conditional worth 15:06 - What Self-energy is and why it matters 16:25 - How the exile begins to feel enough without producing 17:18 - Why insight loosens the pattern but does not fully update it 18:24 - Using PSYCH-K to create a whole brain state for new beliefs 19:50 - What changes in the body as the old program shifts 20:27 - Perfectionism as a sophisticated protection system 21:10 - Why the manager can finally rest, not be exiled 22:08 - Beginning the guided practice 23:28 - Slowing down to help the system feel safe 24:00 - Noticing and befriending the part that wants to hurry 25:10 - Every part in the system has a role in survival 26:24 - The main IFS move: slow down and connect to Self-energy 27:33 - Letting the part know you see it and it is not alone 29:19 - Reflection on the framework and how it is used in session 30:14 - Closing encouragement and mention of Self and Self-like parts next Key frameworks Internal Family Systems: perfectionism is a manager protecting a younger exile carrying conditional-worth painSelf-energy: the calm, compassionate, present quality that can relate to parts without fearPSYCH-K whole-brain state: used here to update subconscious beliefs at the level where they were encoded Notable quotes “The perfectionism isn’t about the work. It never was.” “My worth is conditional on my performance.” “She needs the exile underneath the standard to finally feel safe enough that the standard becomes optional rather than mandatory.” Action items Notice where perfectionism shows up beyond work, especially in parenting, relationships, body image, and emotionsIdentify whether your internal bar keeps moving the moment you reach itPractice slowing down and naming sensations before trying to fix themAsk the hurried or distracted part for a little space so you can get to know itOffer the protective part simple self-energy cues: “I see you,” “You’re not alone,” and “I’m right here with you”Website: http://www.krishnaavalon.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/krishnaavalon Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/krishnaavalon LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/krishnaavalon Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@krishnaavalon

  6. Oct 1

    When the Dream You Built No Longer Fits with Danielle Lauren

    In this episode of Stories From The Lost & Found, I reconnect with my longtime friend Danielle Lauren, an experiential teacher, mentor and founder of the Elevated Experience Method. For the past two decades, Danielle has created transformative experiences, programs, masterminds and luxury retreats around the world. We talk about the evolution of her work, the identity she built around success, and what happened when the business and mission she thought she was meant to build no longer felt like hers. Danielle opens up about burnout, changing her mind, redefining success and learning to choose pleasure, rest and what she actually wants, without abandoning her ambition, power or purpose. In this episode, we explore: Why real transformation often begins with identity and self-concept, not another strategy.How Danielle built extraordinary success through relentless devotion and eventually recognized the cost of always pushing.What happens when the dream, business or identity you worked so hard to create no longer feels aligned.Why changing your mind doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it can be an invitation to evolve.How burnout, rest and even something as simple as taking a nap can completely change the way we relate to productivity.Why choosing pleasure isn’t selfish and how Danielle is rebuilding her life and work around what she genuinely desires.Danielle’s story is such a powerful reminder that we’re allowed to evolve beyond the identities, commitments and versions of success that once defined us. Sometimes the next chapter isn’t about pushing harder or proving that we can hold more. It’s about trusting ourselves enough to choose differently, to rest, experience more pleasure, follow what lights us up and create success without leaving ourselves until last. Tune in for an uplifting and deeply honest conversation about burnout, identity, self-trust, mentorship, pleasure, reinvention and what becomes possible when you give yourself permission to change your mind and build your next chapter around the life you actually want to live. Guest Links: Website: https://www.elevatedexperience.one/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/illumin8trix Website: http://www.krishnaavalon.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/krishnaavalon Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/krishnaavalon LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/krishnaavalon Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@krishnaavalon

    When the Dream You Built No Longer Fits with Danielle Lauren

  7. Sep 25

    The Fixer

    In this conversation, Krishna explores the concept of the 'Fixer' within individuals, discussing the subconscious programs that drive this behavior, the origins of these patterns, and their impact on relationships. The discussion emphasizes the importance of Self energy within the framework of IFS (Internal Family Systems): presence, care, compassion, and stillness to update the need to fix others as a survival strategy for creating safety. The Fixer often feels the need to solve problems for others to earn love and acceptance but also to create safety and protect the part that feels that stillness is not safe. Being present without fixing can feel uncomfortable. The subconscious programs of the fixer are rooted in survival. The fixer often equates their value with their usefulness. Helplessness is perceived by the fixer as a threat. The origins of the Fixer often stem from childhood experiences. Self-energy is crucial for the Fixer to feel safe and supported. Updating subconscious beliefs can change the urgency to fix. Practicing presence can deepen relationships and increase connection. Presence is more available when we are not trying to fix. Chapters 00:00 Understanding the Fixer Within 02:54 The Subconscious Programs of the Fixer 05:54 The Origins of the Fixer 09:06 The Impact of the Fixer on Relationships 12:11 The Role of Self Energy 14:57 Updating Subconscious Beliefs 17:49 Practicing Presence and Stillness 21:02 The Journey Towards Self-Acceptance Website: http://www.krishnaavalon.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/krishnaavalon Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/krishnaavalon LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/krishnaavalon Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@krishnaavalon

  8. Sep 17

    Building Unshakable Confidence with Morgan Barkus

    In this episode of Stories From The Lost & Found, I sit down with Morgan Barkus, confidence coach for women, author, speaker and exotic dance instructor with a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy. Morgan helps women stop people pleasing, stop settling and start showing up unapologetically confident in their bodies, relationships and lives. We talk about her unconventional path from stripping and graduate school to the corporate world and coaching, why confidence isn’t something you’re born with but a skill you build, and the powerful journey of learning to trust yourself enough to create a life and love that actually feels like yours. In this episode, we explore: Why confidence is a skill you build, not something you’re born with.How to rewrite old stories, self-criticism and limiting beliefs.Why knowing what you want helps you set boundaries and stop settling.How Morgan shifted from people pleasing to choosing herself in relationships.How getting clear on the love she wanted led to an unexpected meeting in Paris.Why self-trust matters more than following someone else’s rules for your life.Morgan’s story is such a powerful reminder that confidence isn’t about never feeling insecure, anxious or afraid. It’s about developing enough trust in yourself to meet those moments, support yourself through them and keep choosing what you truly want. Whether it’s your body, your career, your relationships or the way you show up in the world, you don’t have to keep living by an old script,  you get to decide what comes next. Tune in for an uplifting and empowering conversation about confidence, self-trust, relationships, manifestation, limiting beliefs and what becomes possible when you stop looking outside yourself for the rules and start trusting yourself enough to create a life that feels deeply, unapologetically yours. Guest Links: Website: https://www.morganbarkus.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/morganbarkus/?hl=en Download my free workbook: https://www.krishnaavalon.com/ Website: http://www.krishnaavalon.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/krishnaavalon Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/krishnaavalon LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/krishnaavalon Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@krishnaavalon

    Building Unshakable Confidence with Morgan Barkus
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Have you ever felt lost — like no matter how much work you've done, something is still holding you back? There’s nothing wrong with you. There are simply parts of you that need your attention: stories and patterns you need space to be with. This podcast is here to give you tools to finally move forward. I'm Krishna Avalon — subconscious therapist and breakthrough coach. I’ve spent 24 years cultivating a process that creates immediate change that lasts. My training includes PSYCH-K, Internal Family Systems (IFS), a master’s in psychology, and 24 years as an acupuncturist. Stories from the Lost and Found is where we go beneath the surface — into the subconscious programming, the wounded parts, and the real human experiences that shape who we are and how we live. Each week I bring you solo episodes and honest guest conversations about healing, self-sabotage, relationships, and what it actually takes to find your way back to yourself. Expect depth, tools you can use, and stories that remind you you're not alone. New episodes every Thursday. Come find the parts of yourself you thought were lost and the brilliance within you waiting to be found.

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