Start With What Hurts Podcast

craftyourwellness

Each week, Lisa Reidsema, a licensed mental health counselor, takes one pattern, the kind of thing you've felt but never quite had language for, and does what her Library of Care does: she names what's happening underneath, explains the mechanism instead of moralizing, and leaves you with one small practice you can try the same day. These are short, unhurried episodes, closer to a real conversation than a lecture. You'll hear why a feeling that makes no sense on paper can run so much of your life, the difference between the story you tell about a pattern and the mechanism actually driving it, and honest talk about what these tools can and can't do, from a clinician who won't oversell them. Nothing here is a sales pitch. The podcast is free, and it stays free. If it becomes your way in, every episode points to a resource built for exactly what it covers, a kit, a workbook, or an exercise from the same method. Start with what hurts, and let's understand it together.

Episodes

  1. Aug 18

    Anticipatory Anxiety: How to Stop Worrying About What Hasn't Happened

    How do you stop worrying about something that hasn't happened yet? If you rehearse the hard conversation for days, lie awake at three in the morning bracing for a meeting that's still on Thursday, and feel lighter for about an hour after someone reassures you before the loop starts again, this episode is about that exact pattern. It has a name, anticipatory anxiety, and it isn't overthinking or a character flaw.  Lisa Reidsema, LMHC, a licensed mental health counselor, explains the mechanism: your nervous system assembles the entire threat response ahead of the event, and what it can't tolerate isn't the bad outcome, it's the not knowing. That's why reassurance wears off so fast, because it answers the thought while the anxiety is living in the body. You'll learn why the worry isn't the thing keeping you safe, and the two part return that actually settles a braced system: name the specific unknown you're bracing for so it becomes finite instead of weather, then come back to your body and the room you're actually in.  Covered in this episode: anticipatory anxiety, how to stop worrying about the future, intolerance of uncertainty, reassurance seeking, waking at three in the morning, grounding when you can't think your way calm.  The Waiting Kit is a therapist designed framework for coming back to the present without needing the future to be certain first: craftyourwellness.com/kits/the-waiting-kit Every episode is written, reviewed, and clinically directed by Lisa Reidsema, LMHC, and narrated in her own approved voice.  All educational content is authored, reviewed, and clinically directed by Lisa. This podcast is educational and isn't therapy or a substitute for care from a licensed clinician.

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Each week, Lisa Reidsema, a licensed mental health counselor, takes one pattern, the kind of thing you've felt but never quite had language for, and does what her Library of Care does: she names what's happening underneath, explains the mechanism instead of moralizing, and leaves you with one small practice you can try the same day. These are short, unhurried episodes, closer to a real conversation than a lecture. You'll hear why a feeling that makes no sense on paper can run so much of your life, the difference between the story you tell about a pattern and the mechanism actually driving it, and honest talk about what these tools can and can't do, from a clinician who won't oversell them. Nothing here is a sales pitch. The podcast is free, and it stays free. If it becomes your way in, every episode points to a resource built for exactly what it covers, a kit, a workbook, or an exercise from the same method. Start with what hurts, and let's understand it together.