101 Mistakes Humans Make to Mess Up Their Dogs with Dina Zaphiris

Dina Zaphiris

Based on her new book, 101 Mistakes Humans Make to Mess Up Their Dogs, renowned dog trainer and author Dina Zaphiris reveals the everyday habits that weaken communication, motivation, trust, and reliability. Each episode challenges common dog-training advice, explains behavior from the dog’s point of view, and gives you practical ways to create a dog who wants to listen—not one who simply has to. Expect honest talk, real examples, and a completely different way to think about training.

Episodes

  1. Aug 9

    Mistake #1: Training Before Bonding

    Episode 2 — Mistake #1: Training Before Bonding — Be the Squirrel What if the biggest mistake you’re making with your dog happens before you ever say “sit,” “stay,” or “come”? In Episode 2 of 101 Mistakes Humans Make to Mess Up Their Dogs, I’m starting exactly where my book starts—with what I believe is the foundation of great dog training: Relationship before obedience. Bond before commands. Too many people bring home a dog and immediately start asking for things. Sit. Down. Stay. Come. Don’t jump. Stop barking. Leave it. Get off. Be good. But before asking what your dog can do for you, ask yourself a much more important question: Why should my dog want to be with me? I call this concept “Be the Squirrel.” Think about what happens when your dog sees a squirrel. Their ears go up. Their eyes lock on. Their body comes alive. Suddenly, everything about that squirrel matters. Now imagine your dog feeling that way about you. And yes—sometimes “Be the Squirrel” really does mean acting like one. Move. Run. Change direction. Get animated. Invite your dog to chase you. Become unpredictable, playful and exciting. But being the squirrel is bigger than that. It means learning what your individual dog values and becoming relevant to their world. Maybe it’s movement. Maybe it’s tug, food, a ball, sniffing, hiking, searching, swimming or simply being together. The goal is the same: Become someone your dog chooses. That is where extraordinary training begins. In this episode, I explain why a dog who won’t come when called, won’t pay attention, or seems more interested in everything around them may not have an “obedience problem” at all. We may have started demanding obedience before creating engagement. Without a relationship, commands are just words. Simply loving your dog doesn’t automatically mean you have the kind of bond that creates reliable behavior. Of course you love your dog. But does your dog seek engagement with you? Does your dog check in with you? When given freedom, does your dog still choose you? Are you part of the fun—or are you usually the person who ends it? That distinction matters. Your job is to learn your dog. Watch them. Play with them. Discover what makes their eyes light up. Listen to what they communicate without words. Stop assuming every dog should be motivated by the same thing. Training itself can become bonding—but only when it’s built on play, trust, clarity, motivation and joy. Great training creates a dog who works with you because they want to, not simply because they have to. Eventually, something remarkable happens: The relationship itself becomes rewarding. “Come” becomes an opportunity to race toward their favorite person. “Stay” becomes anticipation before exploding into a game. “Sit” becomes the doorway to freedom, adventure, food, toys, movement or play. Your dog discovers that listening to you doesn’t make good things disappear—you are the gateway to good things. And that changes everything. Before worrying about perfect obedience, become important to your dog. Run together. Play together. Explore together. Put down the phone. Get on the floor. Be ridiculous. Figure out what makes your dog come alive. Because I don’t want a dog who simply obeys me. I want a dog who chooses me. That is the difference between controlling a dog and building a partnership. Throughout this series, I’ll walk through all 101 mistakes from my book and show you not only what humans commonly get wrong, but what to do differently. But everything starts here. Before the leash.Before the commands.Before the corrections.Before perfect obedience. Build the relationship. Before you worry about getting your dog to listen to you, ask yourself whether you’ve given your dog a reason to choose you. Listen to Episode 2 and learn how to become your dog’s squirrel. 🐿️🐾 101 Mistakes Humans Make to Mess Up Their Dogsby Dina Zaphiris

  2. Jul 26

    The 'Why" Behind 101 Mistakes: My Philosophy, My Book, and a Better Way to Train Dogs

    Welcome to the first episode of 101 Mistakes Humans Make to Mess Up Their Dogs. This is not a podcast about perfect dogs—or perfect people. It is about the small, often well-intentioned things humans do every day that weaken communication, motivation, trust, and reliability without even realizing it. Based on my new book of the same name, this series is about much more than correcting a list of training mistakes. It is about changing the way we think about dogs, behavior, and the relationship we create with them. After more than three decades of training dogs, I know most people are not struggling because they do not love their dogs enough. Many of the biggest mistakes are made by devoted owners trying to do everything right. The problem is that we tend to view training from the human point of view. We focus on what we said, what we meant, and what the dog “should” understand. But dogs do not enter our homes knowing English, household rules, or the meaning of our commands. They only know what their history has taught them. Training is not simply making a dog obey. Training is communication. It is connection. It is the responsibility of one species to teach another how to live successfully in our world—without crushing the joy, confidence, drive, and personality that make dogs extraordinary. My goal is not to create a dog who listens only because he has to. I want a dog who wants to engage, wants to play the game, wants to find the answer, and wants to come running when called. A dog can be excited and still have impulse control. A dog can be enthusiastic and still be responsive and reliable. Calmness is not the only measure of good behavior, and control should never require us to extinguish what we love most. Throughout this podcast, we will examine the subtle habits that sabotage training: repeating commands, micromanaging, using a dog’s name as a correction, poisoning the recall by ending the fun, teaching from a tight leash, rewarding the wrong part of a behavior chain, and expecting reliability before we have built understanding and motivation. We will also talk about something I believe is missing from many conversations about training: your value in your dog’s eyes. Are you the most interesting thing in the environment, or are you competing with everything else? Are you building desire, or merely demanding compliance? Are you the source of fun, clarity, and reinforcement—or are you standing on the sidelines trying to call your dog away from the squirrel? Sometimes, you have to become the squirrel. That does not mean bribing your dog forever. It means understanding what drives behavior. It means becoming relevant. It means creating engagement before demanding attention and building a relationship in which listening to you means something worthwhile. This podcast is not about choosing a training camp or arguing over labels. Those debates often distract us from the more important question: What is the dog actually learning? Timing matters. Clarity matters. Motivation matters. Consequences matter. Your habits matter. The relationship matters. In each episode, I will take one of the 101 mistakes and break it down from the dog’s point of view. I will explain why it happens, what the dog may be learning instead, and how one small change can transform the result. Every episode is designed to help you see training differently. Your dog is always learning—even when you do not realize you are teaching. This first episode is my introduction, my philosophy, and my why. I wrote this book and created this podcast because I want people to stop thinking only about how to control dogs and start thinking about how to communicate with them. I want to help you create a dog who is not just obedient, but connected; not just calm, but confident; and not simply trained, but truly engaged with you. Welcome to 101 Mistakes Humans Make to Mess Up Their Dogs. Let’s change the way we think about training—one mistake at a time.

About

Based on her new book, 101 Mistakes Humans Make to Mess Up Their Dogs, renowned dog trainer and author Dina Zaphiris reveals the everyday habits that weaken communication, motivation, trust, and reliability. Each episode challenges common dog-training advice, explains behavior from the dog’s point of view, and gives you practical ways to create a dog who wants to listen—not one who simply has to. Expect honest talk, real examples, and a completely different way to think about training.