The Lookback Rule: A Youth Softball Podcast

Jeff and Kelly Mirabella
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The Lookback Rule is a youth softball podcast for volunteer coaches and softball parents. Jeff and Kelly Mirabella are married rec fastpitch coaches raising two players, with head coaching experience, league board service, and a lot of hours in the dugout. Every week they talk coaching, player development, practice plans, parents, and real season stories. Rec ball is where most girls start and too many quit, so they’re here to grow it and raise the standard. No daddy ball. Come help grow the game.

Episodes

  1. 5d ago

    How Our 12U Girls Rec Softball Team Went Undefeated in the tournament (Season Recap)

    Our 12U girls rec softball team just won it all, and we're breaking down how it happened. In Episode 11, Coach Kelly and Coach Jeff recap the Volts' fall 2026 season: losing our star pitcher, playing under watered-down 12U rules, and going 5-0 through the IPGSA Gold bracket against the best youth softball teams in the Denver metro. We get real about the frustrations (opposing coaches, parents, and even umps who didn't know the rules) and share what every volunteer coach should do when a rule dispute comes up. Then the good stuff: team chemistry, a dugout full of leaders, families who trust their coaches, and the full tournament story, including a scoring dispute, a 10-8 nail-biter against our sister team, and finally beating the team that beat us twice. Chapters 0:00 Our 12U girls softball season recap 0:37 Watered-down fall 12U rules 2:25 Losing our star pitcher 4:23 Know thy rulebook: ball four is a live ball 6:42 How to handle a rule dispute 8:08 Winning the championship 10:08 Team chemistry and leadership 11:30 Why great softball families matter 12:50 The CCLL community at the tournament 15:10 How IPGSA and the Gold bracket work 20:43 Developing pitchers: let them struggle 24:08 Tournament Saturday: going undefeated 27:44 Sunday semifinal vs. our nemesis 32:30 The pep talk: play like there's no softball tomorrow 34:48 "You just won" 36:09 Free coaching resources 37:15 Coming up next Free resources for youth softball coaches: Practice Builder: https://www.thelookbackrule.com/practice-builder First Practice Pack and Lookback Rule Cheat Sheet: https://www.thelookbackrule.com Watch the full episode on YouTube with all the game graphics and photos: https://www.youtube.com/@thelookbackrule Coming up next: "My daughter wants to quit softball." It happened to us. Here's how we got through it.

  2. Oct 23

    Coach Burnout in Youth Softball: How Volunteer Coaches Keep Going

    Ever thought about quitting coaching? You're not alone. In Episode 10, Kelly and Jeff Mirabella get real about coaches' mental health in youth softball: the stress parents never see, the losing seasons that make you question yourself, and what keeps a volunteer coach coming back. This episode was inspired by a message from Coach Jeff of the Lady Knights in Pennsylvania, who was ready to walk away until he heard Jeff's story. If you're a head coach, assistant coach, team mom or any rec youth softball volunteer, we see you and we appreciate you. In this episode: 🥎 The hidden workload of a volunteer head coach 🥎 Inconsistent umpire calls and why knowing your rulebook matters 🥎 When a parent makes you want to quit 🥎 Losing seasons and asking "am I the problem?" 🥎 Learning to be flexible as a coach 🥎 Failure as a lesson, for players and coaches 🥎 Why it's OK not to have all the answers 🥎 Building a coaching network you can lean on Free resources for youth softball coaches: 🥎 Practice Builder (8U to 14U): https://www.thelookbackrule.com/practice-builder 🥎 Lookback Rule cheat sheet and monthly newsletter: https://www.thelookbackrule.com Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheLookbackRule Follow us on Facebook and TikTok: @thelookbackrule Going through a tough season? Send us a message. We read every one.

  3. Oct 16

    How Leagues Can Save Youth Rec Softball (Part 2)

    Why are girls leaving youth rec softball for travel ball, and what can leagues do about it? In Part 2 of our series, Jeff and Kelly Mirabella talk to the leagues and the whole softball community. We cover watered down rules at 8U, 10U and 12U, why coach development matters, competitive rec divisions and in-house tournament teams, why rosters shouldn't reset every season, why rec leagues should host tournaments, and why rec is real softball. For volunteer coaches, league board members and softball parents who want girls rec softball to be competitive again. Missed Part 1? Go back one episode for what parents and coaches can do. Free Practice Builder for coaches: https://www.thelookbackrule.com/practice-builder First Practice Pack and newsletter: https://www.thelookbackrule.com Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thelookbackrule Is rec ball thriving or shrinking where you live? Let us know.

  4. Oct 9

    How to Save Youth Rec Softball: What Parents and Coaches Can Do

    Is youth rec softball dying in your town? Here's what parents and coaches can do right now to save girls recreational softball and keep kids playing the game they love. Youth rec softball is shrinking in a lot of communities. Teams fold, girls leave for travel ball by 10U or 12U, and the families who stay start wondering if rec ball still matters. We think it matters more than ever. In this episode of The Lookback Rule, Jeff and Kelly Mirabella, two volunteer youth softball coaches and league board members, talk through what parents and coaches can actually do to bring girls rec softball back. We cover why girls are leaving, how to bring real competitiveness back to rec without the travel ball pressure, how parents can help fill rosters, and how coaches can build practices and team culture girls don't want to walk away from. This is Part 1 of 2. In Part 2, we cover what leagues and the wider softball community can do. This episode started with a question from one of you, so keep them coming. What's working in your league? 🧢 Free tools for youth rec coaches 🥎 Free Practice Builder (8U to 14U practice plans in seconds): https://www.thelookbackrule.com/practice-builder 🥎 Get our monthly newsletter for coaches and softball families: https://www.thelookbackrule.com The Lookback Rule is a youth softball podcast for volunteer rec coaches and softball families. Real talk from two parents still in the dugout every season.

  5. Oct 2

    Softball Tournament Tips for Coaches, Parents and Players

    Heading into a tournament weekend can feel like packing for a week-long expedition, especially if you aren't sure what to expect! In this episode, we're breaking down the full youth softball tournament experience for coaches, parents, and players. From navigating pool play vs. bracket seeding and handling umpire etiquette, to keeping athletes hydrated and surviving the sidelines with siblings in tow, we cover the real, unfiltered side of tournament weekends. Plus, we share our top 3 tournament must-haves and debate the eternal travel ball question: should you book the hotel? 🎒 Shop Our Tournament Must-Haves: Grab our favorite sideline gear, dugout essentials, and tournament weekend lifesavers on our curated Amazon list: https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellar247/list/19NE83ECPLS02?ref_=aipsflist Chapters: 00:00 Intro & Recap 01:20 Why Consider Tournaments? 02:40 Coach Prep & Setting Expectations 04:16 Pool Play & Seeding Explained 06:10 Umpire Etiquette & Coaching Boundaries 07:45 Rule Differences & Who Approaches Umps 12:15 Our Top 3 Tournament Must-Haves 16:55 When to Pull Your Pitcher 19:35 What Parents Need to Know: Hydration & Heat Prep 22:09 Why Your Player Might Be Sitting 24:18 Managing "Feral" Tournament Siblings 27:14 Types of Tournaments & Should You Get a Hotel? Follow The Lookback Rule on Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode, and leave a review if you enjoyed the show!

  6. Sep 25

    12U Softball Rules Explained: What Every Coach & Parent Needs to Know

    Making the jump to 12U fastpitch softball changes the game completely. Between dropped third strikes, live ball base running, and complex umpire calls, knowing the rulebook is essential for players, coaches, and parents transitioning out of 10U or rec ball. In this episode, we break down the most critical 12U softball rules, the key differences between rec and tournament play, and practical base running tactics like the lookback rule, delayed steals, and base paths. Chapters: 0:00 Intro 0:45 Every League Uses Different Rules 1:20 Why 12U Is "Big Girl Ball" 1:48 Rec Rules Are Not Select Rules 1:58 The Lookback Rule Explained 3:53 Dropped Third Strike 5:31 Get That Runner Off First 6:18 Stealing Bases in 12U 7:29 Stealing Considerations 8:08 Leading Off Every Time 9:59 The Delayed Steal 10:33 12U Base Running Tip 11:04 Infield Fly Rule 13:35 Leaving the Base Early 14:20 Tournament Rules Can Be Different 14:46 What Rule Questions Do You Have? 15:19 Obstruction vs Interference 17:30 Base Path Explained 18:42 Walk-Up Music Etiquette Got a rule question? Send it our way and we might answer it on the show. Follow The Lookback Rule so you never miss an episode.

  7. Sep 18

    How to Handle Softball Parents and Build a Winning Team Culture

    Managing a youth softball team is about so much more than what happens between the white lines. It starts with setting boundaries, managing parent expectations, and building a culture where kids truly fall in love with the game. In this episode of The Lookback Rule Podcast, we’re breaking down the exact blueprint we use to eliminate team drama before practice even starts, create an unforgettable team bond, and run high-yield fundraisers to spoil our players. Inside This Episode:🥎 The Pre-Season Parent Meeting: Why the first team meeting is non-negotiable, how to communicate player and parent codes of conduct, and establishing clear boundaries for game-day communication.🥎 Managing Expectations: Proactively handling common parent concerns around batting orders, position development, and playing time.🥎 Building a Tight-Knit Team Culture: Simple bonding traditions (from post-game ice cream runs to pre-game line dances) that turn individual players into teammates who support each other through wins and losses.🥎 The $5,000 Hit-a-Thon Fundraiser: How we funded custom gear, indoor batting cage practices, tournaments, and end-of-season parties without breaking the bank. Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode:Fundraising Platform (RallyUp): https://rallyup.com/Custom Name Plate Softball Necklaces (Temu): https://share.temu.com/3SFkxHGUsrC Chapters:00:00 Introduction00:56 The first thing we do02:35 Pre-Season Team Meeting06:11 Please get your kid to practice11:32 When to approach the coach14:40 Creating a strong team culture: I am not a crazy softball mom16:40 Girls can be catty at this age. We don’t allow that.22:00 Fundraising our way to $5,00028:00 Other fun things you can do for less money

  8. Sep 11

    Playing Up From 10U to 12U Softball: Our First Colorado Season

    From playing shorthanded in the championship game to navigating the “bro culture” of youth sports, welcome back to another unfiltered conversation on The Lookback Rule Podcast! In Episode 4, we break down our very first season coaching youth softball in Colorado. We dive into the big decision behind bumping our 10U daughter up to 12U to play with her sister, what draft day looked like as newcomers, and how we built a winning regular-season routine around smart practice strategies and clear communication. Then came the championship game against an undefeated powerhouse. With players out sick, an unexpected emergency room trip mid-game, and only 8 girls taking the field, everything that could go wrong did. Hear how the team rallied for an unforgettable win! We also take on a critical topic in youth athletics: why we desperately need more women stepping into coaching and board positions, how youth sports create future female leaders, and why investing in rec softball matters more than ever. Key Stats Mentioned:🥎 Fastpitch participation is up 19% in two years (SFIA)🥎 94% of women executives played sports, and 69% of women who played hold formal leadership roles (EY/espnW, Women’s Sports Foundation) Subscribe for more candid stories, coaching systems, and honest takes on youth sports culture!

  9. Sep 4

    Coaching 12U Softball: Tournament Drama and Rec vs Select

    Some seasons you play. Some seasons you say goodbye to. Jeff and Kelly look back at their final season coaching Texas softball: the year that ended with the first Twisters team ring, and the year that ended with a moving truck pointed toward Colorado. They talk about what that ring actually meant after everything it took to get there, what it's like to coach a season knowing it's your last one with that group, and what it takes to pack up a softball life and start over in a new state. Rings are great. The people you win them with are better. Chapters:00:00 Welcome back and recap00:50 It’s big girl softball now02:04 I love coaching 12U softball02:39 Coach Kelly starts actually coaching more as an assistant04:45 You can’t just talk at girls. You need to teach and demonstrate so they understand05:08 The candy trick11:00 Drama always at tournaments!16:01 Every time we do a tournament the girls level up16:43 She quit soccer and fell in love with softball20:47 We were known for our team culture27:30 We closed our chapter with Prosper Baseball and Softball Association (PBSA)

  10. Aug 28

    Coaching 10U Softball: Our First Season and That Parent

    10U is where you find out what you signed up for.Jeff and Kelly get into their first full season coaching 10U youth softball: the chaos, the learning curve, and their first real run-in with That Parent. (Every coach gets one. Theirs came early.)They also relive their daughter’s first all star championship, still one of their favorite memories in the game, and talk about how that whole season quietly set the tone for the kind of coaches they are today.Every coach has a season that shapes them. This was ours.

  11. Aug 21

    How We Started Coaching Youth Softball: First Team, First Mistakes

    Jeff and Kelly Mirabella kick off The Lookback Rule, a youth softball podcast for volunteer coaches and softball parents, by going back to the very beginning of their softball coaching journey. First team, first mistakes, first lessons the field taught them the hard way. If you coach, or you love someone who does, start here.

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The Lookback Rule is a youth softball podcast for volunteer coaches and softball parents. Jeff and Kelly Mirabella are married rec fastpitch coaches raising two players, with head coaching experience, league board service, and a lot of hours in the dugout. Every week they talk coaching, player development, practice plans, parents, and real season stories. Rec ball is where most girls start and too many quit, so they’re here to grow it and raise the standard. No daddy ball. Come help grow the game.

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